So what do Lit women want?

[DennisB]

I have read many threads on here and even added to quite a few. Many have been associated with how women are treated on Lit by others. I have read about too many PMs. Comments right out of the gate that are rude and uncalled for. Feeling like a thing and not a person. So ladies, you have the floor. When you come online at Literotica, what are you searching for? What brings you here? How do you want to be treated? Your comments and insights will probably help a lot of guys write and behave differently. So now is the time.

 

[ilovetoeat42]

Every woman will answer this differently. I'd say majority are her for chat with like minded individuals, but they want to be treated with respect. Don't PM out of the blue or call them sluts and whores....the ones who do like that are in the minority.

 

[Mystories189]

I like talking about my encounters, and the attention. I do like when guts get off to me and my stories. I don't like to feel pressured to chat outside of here or to meet up. Those things are not going to happen.

 

[DennisB]

Good responses, I was thinking there would be more but perhaps after a while there will be. Mysteries says what I think most girls want. Just the freedom to be sexual online and not to be steered somewhere else. Ilovetoeat hits it on the head, women want to be respected, period. They want to come here like everyone else and chat sexually without being called names.

I agree with both statements.

Anyone else?

 

[Dirty_LilBitch]

I’m sure it’s very confusing for men. I like to be messaged something direct and dirty. I get so many polite boring messages or messages from guys that have tried to talk to me in the past and haven’t gotten the hint that I’m not interested or were just not into the same things.

 

[oneblueye]

hey ...

women the world over are basically the same,
they want 'it'
they want 'it' all
they want 'it' NOW
they want 'it' their way
And they want 'it' for free

 

[LibraStud]

I think the majority of women coming to Lit come for erotic sexual purposes. However, most want to "get to know" the man they are flirting with online. Most do not want to immediately get into sex (unless they specifically ask for that). Most want a bit of romantic foreplay first. Once that happens, who knows what surprises are next. I find most women to be very sensuous and to want and need sexual attention daily, many times much more than a man.

I always fantasize about what it would be like if I would meet them in real life.

 

[mikendel]

I like to read about what others have experienced sexually. Compare like situations with sex. Also to read about fantasies others have. I don’t like receiving dick pics on PMs.

 

[Bamamama1990]

I like to have an ongoing conversation about sexual exploits. Albeit With men and women. A well worded PM that is more than a sentence and a proper introduction, add in a little dirty kinky fun and I’m game to chat for hours.

 

[UK_Jill45]

I'm on here to chat to other people and share some of my experiences, I do enjoy a chat on PM but I don't answer all the messages I get as some are just one sentence nonsense.

 

[anniebaby10]

I like to read about what others have experienced sexually. Compare like situations with sex. Also to read about fantasies others have. I don’t like receiving dick pics on PMs.

agree totally. I have had some great people PM me and shared sexual adventures, tips on new sex toys, great places to have sex, and some new experiences to try with my hubby. Then others have been just wanting to hook up, have me send boob or pussy pictures. Some may like that but this is a great way to hear what others like sexually with no tension or pretense. And not "wanting anything" from the other party.

 

[Singleboy2]

To be forever mercurial

 

[Asian_Flower]

Judging by some of the mens comments it's those same assumptions that make things difficult for Lit guys. Some Lit Ladies, myself included, have no interest in sex chat or RP and cyber stuff. Some of us just enjoy the erotica on Lit, the stories and reading about the experiences of others, the lovely pics posted by some members and just chatting.

I do feel for the genuine, sweet guys out there who are looking for something extra and are polite and well mannered. It is the disgusting, horrible men who get off on sending dick pics, racist slurs or outright rude messages that spoil it for the rest.

Tip from me. If you have a sexually explicit AV or a username like bigcock69 or some rubbish then it to me says you have no class. If you send messages like "hey girl, your hawt, I always wanted to try and asian" then it tells me you not only struggled at school but have a poor attitude towards women.

 

[chame1eon]

Judging by some of the mens comments it's those same assumptions that make things difficult for Lit guys. Some Lit Ladies, myself included, have no interest in sex chat or RP and cyber stuff. Some of us just enjoy the erotica on Lit, the stories and reading about the experiences of others, the lovely pics posted by some members and just chatting.

I do feel for the genuine, sweet guys out there who are looking for something extra and are polite and well mannered. It is the disgusting, horrible men who get off on sending dick pics, racist slurs or outright rude messages that spoil it for the rest.

Tip from me. If you have a sexually explicit AV or a username like bigcock69 or some rubbish then it to me says you have no class. If you send messages like "hey girl, your hawt, I always wanted to try and asian" then it tells me you not only struggled at school but have a poor attitude towards


I agree the bickcock69 guy sending you a message like "hi sexy" is boring, but so is causual conversation about the weather too lol. PM's about what some rando wants to do with my body are kind of invasive.

It would be better to hear something sexy and interesting about something I have an interest in, but not invasive.

 

[DennisB]

Judging by some of the mens comments it's those same assumptions that make things difficult for Lit guys. Some Lit Ladies, myself included, have no interest in sex chat or RP and cyber stuff. Some of us just enjoy the erotica on Lit, the stories and reading about the experiences of others, the lovely pics posted by some members and just chatting.

I do feel for the genuine, sweet guys out there who are looking for something extra and are polite and well mannered. It is the disgusting, horrible men who get off on sending dick pics, racist slurs or outright rude messages that spoil it for the rest.

Tip from me. If you have a sexually explicit AV or a username like bigcock69 or some rubbish then it to me says you have no class. If you send messages like "hey girl, your hawt, I always wanted to try and asian" then it tells me you not only struggled at school but have a poor attitude towards women.

Hey girl youre hawt????? I want to do an Asian??? Guys can be pretty dumb but not that stupid! Well all I can say is not all men are the same. Guys like the one you described should be easy to spot, they are probably dragging their knuckles and carrying a club. Sorry to anyone who has been subjected to that.

 

[oneblueye]

hey ...

Judging by some of the mens comments it's those same assumptions that make things difficult for Lit guys. Some Lit Ladies, myself included, have no interest in sex chat or RP and cyber stuff. Some of us just enjoy the erotica on Lit, the stories and reading about the experiences of others, the lovely pics posted by some members and just chatting.

I do feel for the genuine, sweet guys out there who are looking for something extra and are polite and well mannered. It is the disgusting, horrible men who get off on sending dick pics, racist slurs or outright rude messages that spoil it for the rest.

Tip from me. If you have a sexually explicit AV or a username like bigcock69 or some rubbish then it to me says you have no class. If you send messages like "hey girl, your hawt, I always wanted to try and asian" then it tells me you not only struggled at school but have a poor attitude towards


I agree the bickcock69 guy sending you a message like "hi sexy" is boring, but so is causual conversation about the weather too lol. PM's about what some rando wants to do with my body are kind of invasive.

It would be better to hear something sexy and interesting about something I have an interest in, but not invasive.

And just like some of the women on here, I do feel empathy toward those gentle, well mannered souls who find themselves here and are looking for something special in a potential partner ...
And then I slap myself in the face ... this is a fucking porn site.
If Mister Wonderful is looking for something special, he might as well try driving up and down Cass Corridor or head over to John R and Brush.

 

[Twitche]

And then I slap myself in the face ... this is a fucking porn site.
If Mister Wonderful is looking for something special, he might as well try driving up and down Cass Corridor or head over to John R and Brush.

LOL you are so right! I remind myself of that when I get shitty DMs, then I just hit delete. Those don’t even annoy me as much as when our male counterparts get angry and defensive (sometimes misdirected aggression) when us gals don’t respond the way they thought we should. For 50 years of my life I’ve had behavioral expectations put on me.. some stranger isn’t going to guilt me into throwing him a bone because he is upset.

 

[littlecordelera]

I've been interacting with these forums for seven years now. I've received thousands of PM's, but I don't ever remember receiving one that was rude or impolite. My experience has been quite the opposite of inconsiderate. Pretty much all the guys who have contacted me have been very respectful and pleasant.

(Exception: I used to have a story in Loving Wives. During the time that story was posted, I received hundreds of impolite, mean, derogatory, even threatening, PM's and emails. However, it should be noted that none of those messages were the result of my presence in these forums.)

Like others have said, I am here to read about other's sexual experiences and to share some of my own. I never mind receiving PM's, and I always respond, but I am not interested in on-going chat. I think what guys don't understand is that as a woman on a sex site, I receive many requests for chat. If I accepted every one, I would have no time left in my day for anything other than chat. But those requests never bother me. I don't blame a guy for trying.

 

[dontneedone]

Nothing to add, other than to confirm that Haley is awesome.

 

[Twitche]

I've been interacting with these forums for seven years now. I've received thousands of PM's, but I don't ever remember receiving one that was rude or impolite. My experience has been quite the opposite of inconsiderate. Pretty much all the guys who have contacted me have been very respectful and pleasant.

(Exception: I used to have a story in Loving Wives. During the time that story was posted, I received hundreds of impolite, mean, derogatory, even threatening, PM's and emails. However, it should be noted that none of those messages were the result of my presence in these forums.)

Like others have said, I am here to read about other's sexual experiences and to share some of my own. I never mind receiving PM's, and I always respond, but I am not interested in on-going chat. I think what guys don't understand is that as a woman on a sex site, I receive many requests for chat. If I accepted every one, I would have no time left in my day for anything other than chat. But those requests never bother me. I don't blame a guy for trying.

Yep, a majority are not at all bad... and yeah, can’t blame a guy for trying.

 

[oneblueye]

hey ...

LOL you are so right! I remind myself of that when I get shitty DMs, then I just hit delete. Those don’t even annoy me as much as when our male counterparts get angry and defensive (sometimes misdirected aggression) when us gals don’t respond the way they thought we should. For 50 years of my life I’ve had behavioral expectations put on me.. some stranger isn’t going to guilt me into throwing him a bone because he is upset.

There you go --, take the freakn bone shove down his throat for disrespecting you.

 

[Islander55]

I am new here so my desires my change over time but for the present, I am interested in exploring new ideas and concepts. Reading about other peoples adventures, perhaps sharing some of my own. I understand that this is an erotic site so not looking to exchange recipes or sewing tips. Not offended by colorful language but no interest in rude people.

 

[MinxDark]

I'm here for mostly transgressive fantasy roleplay. If you PM me please have something interesting and reasonably polite to say as an ice breaker. Tell me what you're into. Ask if I'd like to explore that. Tell me if something I wrote prompted you to contact me. It's pretty easy really.

 

[sweetheart97]

Quality, well written, sexy pms instead of the one line of where the dude is, how old he is, and if I want to bang. As for my specific likes, any person would get a good idea of what I like from my posts.

I'd also really like more posts from dominant ladies.

 

[TashaManville]

Since it is impossible to see who is PMing or really know anything about them for sure, the man writing the PM only has his own words to rely on in order to attract. So I would say that PMs need to be intelligent, interesting, intriguing and possibly even a little bit exciting without being too forward or dirty, so it's a tall order... If that fails, funny also works.