Your fantasy, my partner!

[Vitriolhack]

Does anyone else here find it particularly exciting to have someone else lust or talk sexy about your partner?

I know I do. I am curious to know who else it turns on.

Why do you think that is so?

 

[screwher]

Does anyone else here find it particularly exciting to have someone else lust or talk sexy about your partner?

I know I do. I am curious to know who else it turns on.

Why do you think that is so?

I certainly do. Now more than ever that our hotwife lifestyle is on hold. It’s so exciting chatting on here with other men about how they fuck her! How badly they want to!

 

[Vitriolhack]

I certainly do. Now more than ever that our hotwife lifestyle is on hold. It’s so exciting chatting on here with other men about how they fuck her! How badly they want to!

It really is. I often wonder when did the “switch” turned on in my mind. The thing is I think this must have been brewing for a long time because, even as a teenager, I would find it exciting when my girlfriend would flirt with my buddies.

 

[screwher]

It really is. I often wonder when did the “switch” turned on in my mind. The thing is I think this must have been brewing for a long time because, even as a teenager, I would find it exciting when my girlfriend would flirt with my buddies.

What flipped the switch for me was when Mrs. Screwher cheated the first time. At first I was pissed but it soon started to arouse me. To be a fly on that hotel wall!

 

[nkycatsfan]

Does anyone else here find it particularly exciting to have someone else lust or talk sexy about your partner?

I know I do. I am curious to know who else it turns on.

Why do you think that is so?

I do. It’s a huge turn on to know someone else is turned on by her.

 

[BimboMaker]

I know that on places like Lit there seems to be a higher than average amount of people into things like this, given the nature of the site. But I’m actually not into this, despite being into a good many things including the reverse; having my partner turned on by others wanting me.

 

[HoldYouDown]

It seems as though this is a predominantly male fetish, or at least expressed predominantly by males. I haven't met too many women who say they are turned on by this type of thing. I wonder why?

 

[MikeXIrons]

It really is. I often wonder when did the “switch” turned on in my mind. The thing is I think this must have been brewing for a long time because, even as a teenager, I would find it exciting when my girlfriend would flirt with my buddies.

I THINK I understand the origin for me (or maybe I'm just reverse-engineering a rationalization after the fact... but either way I believe it). When I was a kid I learned about sex the old fashioned way... whispered rumors on the playground from equally ignorant kids. One "fact" came across very clearly: boys liked sex and girls did not. They thought it was icky.

So, later in life when I got a little more first hand information, I was delighted to discover that girls DID enjoy sex... and THAT became the biggest turn on for me.

But, things learned that young are not easy to unlearn... so there's always doubt in the back of my mind. So, a woman liking sex is a turn on, but irrefutable PROOF that she likes it is a HUGE turn on. And what's better proof than a woman admitting to being turned on by something she "SHOULDN'T" be turned on by... so I love hearing about a woman's kinks that she's shy about fessing up to... because she'd only fess up to it if she wanted it enough.

And what's a bigger "shouldn't" than wanting another man? And wanting to be wanted by another man? (not just an other man, but another additional man?)

A woman might fake it while with you even if she's only partially into it... because that's the easy thing to do. But, if she asks you to indulge her kink that she hasn't even admitted to her friends... or if she swoons when some stranger starts to seduce her... you KNOW she's turned on.

 

[Phil1971]

So yes I think about other guys with my wife and fantasize about it.. For me it was or has been brewing for years but, came to a defining switch about 10 years ago. My best friend was over and the three of us ended up on the couch together. He is single and has always had a crush on my wife. My wife had just taken a shower and came down to join us wearing just a pink night shirt and cute little white socks. She looked and smelled great. So we have a few glasses of wine and she slips back against me and puts her feet up and rests them against him at the other end of the couch. Soon she slips down a bit and slides her feet right in his lap.. Her shirt has slid up and we can see she has on thin little white panties.. They are still talking and and laughing but, I started getting very excited watching her feet.. He starts slowly rubbing her feet and slipping his fingers up her legs and down into her socks.. I was almost in shock watching them.. More excited than I had ever been in life.. They talked but, I have no idea what they were saying.. I kept tugging at her shirt and had it up past her hips showing her panties.. She got up soon and headed to bed but, damn that was a night that changed my sexual ideas forever! Fun, exciting, scary all at the same time..

 

[Usemylittlewife]

Does anyone else here find it particularly exciting to have someone else lust or talk sexy about your partner?

I know I do. I am curious to know who else it turns on.

Why do you think that is so?

That definitely describes me! lol

 

[Vitriolhack]

So yes I think about other guys with my wife and fantasize about it.. For me it was or has been brewing for years but, came to a defining switch about 10 years ago. My best friend was over and the three of us ended up on the couch together. He is single and has always had a crush on my wife. My wife had just taken a shower and came down to join us wearing just a pink night shirt and cute little white socks. She looked and smelled great. So we have a few glasses of wine and she slips back against me and puts her feet up and rests them against him at the other end of the couch. Soon she slips down a bit and slides her feet right in his lap.. Her shirt has slid up and we can see she has on thin little white panties.. They are still talking and and laughing but, I started getting very excited watching her feet.. He starts slowly rubbing her feet and slipping his fingers up her legs and down into her socks.. I was almost in shock watching them.. More excited than I had ever been in life.. They talked but, I have no idea what they were saying.. I kept tugging at her shirt and had it up past her hips showing her panties.. She got up soon and headed to bed but, damn that was a night that changed my sexual ideas forever! Fun, exciting, scary all at the same time..

Out of curiosity, have talked to her about it?

How about your buddy, after that night, has he mentioned anything to you? Did he want more from her?

 

[Vitriolhack]

I THINK I understand the origin for me (or maybe I'm just reverse-engineering a rationalization after the fact... but either way I believe it). When I was a kid I learned about sex the old fashioned way... whispered rumors on the playground from equally ignorant kids. One "fact" came across very clearly: boys liked sex and girls did not. They thought it was icky.

So, later in life when I got a little more first hand information, I was delighted to discover that girls DID enjoy sex... and THAT became the biggest turn on for me.

But, things learned that young are not easy to unlearn... so there's always doubt in the back of my mind. So, a woman liking sex is a turn on, but irrefutable PROOF that she likes it is a HUGE turn on. And what's better proof than a woman admitting to being turned on by something she "SHOULDN'T" be turned on by... so I love hearing about a woman's kinks that she's shy about fessing up to... because she'd only fess up to it if she wanted it enough.

And what's a bigger "shouldn't" than wanting another man? And wanting to be wanted by another man? (not just an other man, but another additional man?)

A woman might fake it while with you even if she's only partially into it... because that's the easy thing to do. But, if she asks you to indulge her kink that she hasn't even admitted to her friends... or if she swoons when some stranger starts to seduce her... you KNOW she's turned on.

Women like to feel special, appreciated and know that they still “got it.” It’s a very mental thing, I think more than men who are, more visual.

I love it when a confident woman expresses what she like and is not ashamed of it.

If her kink matches yours, sparks!!

 

[Vitriolhack]

That definitely describes me! lol

@usemylittlewife, when did you start feeling that way?

 

[Vitriolhack]

I do. It’s a huge turn on to know someone else is turned on by her.

Has this happen to you often?

 

[Lost_Yonder]

I certainly don't mind guys appreciating my wife. Now that she is in her mid-50s it happens less than some years ago, but she does have some noticeable features that guys can't help but notice, even if she does dress quite conservatively.

For me, the greater pleasure is talking to a husband about his wife. There is something about appreciating a married woman that I find most enticing and when the husband enjoys it then it is a win-win situation!

What I don't like though are guys who try to talk up their wives to other men, at least when using very objectifying and demeaning language or intentionally talking about her private sexual interests and activities, behind her back. Almost like they are trying to sell her. If she is beautiful and sensual and sexy, she speaks for herself, I don't need a husband trying to convince me she has a great ass, amazing tits, is a great fuck, etc.

 

[mab2017]

As a woman of a particular age, I would have no problem allowing my partner to watch me with another man if it would turn him on. But no way am I ok with him fucking another woman. I could tolerate nipple sucking, pussy rubbing, pussy licking, but he is not sticking my cock into another woman. It may not be rational but it's how I feel. Before anything like that happened, the rules would be crystal fucking clear. But that's just me.

 

[Vitriolhack]

As a woman of a particular age, I would have no problem allowing my partner to watch me with another man if it would turn him on. But no way am I ok with him fucking another woman. I could tolerate nipple sucking, pussy rubbing, pussy licking, but he is not sticking my cock into another woman. It may not be rational but it's how I feel. Before anything like that happened, the rules would be crystal fucking clear. But that's just me.

I am not sure I understand the logic, but, I appreciate your honesty.

 

[mab2017]

I am not sure I understand the logic, but, I appreciate your honesty.

I didn't say it was logical. I get that it's not logical but I'm possessive of my man.

 

[Vitriolhack]

I didn't say it was logical. I get that it's not logical but I'm possessive of my man.

Why do you think that is so?

You do not need to answer if you do not want to. All good.

 

[FGB]

Maybe it's the partners I pick but I have always been use to guys and a woman or two lusting after them.

If people didn't I would worry that my taste was slipping!

 

[guns4444]

Such a huge fantasy of mine! I'd love to share her one day

 

[ShesInsatiable]

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[FGB]

If a married woman, engaged or has a boyfriend that has their permission I will hit it with a clear conscience. The other half can hear about, watch or help out as in Double team her. I'm not into guys, but in situations like that close proximity does not bother me. It's all about her cumming and lots of it!

You are just not asking the right questions of the right people.!

 

[Vitriolhack]

Just an observation; Of the 23 posts 22 are husbands who fantasize about their wife with another guy. Only 1 response talks at all of the fantasy of being with a married woman.

Why? ...I’d think it would be the opposite. Yet few guys seem interested responding regarding doing married women.

What’s more appealing; the chance to fuck someone’s parter, no responsibilities or strings attached or the risks of your partner tempting emotional fate buy tasting carnal lust with another?

If you’re a guy looking to fuck, wouldn’t this be sort of an opportunity? Maybe cultivate some friendships with an eye down the road to bedding the wives?

Seems like the chances of this are better than most; eager husband, amorous wife, few responsibilities.

Maybe the taboo of hitting it with a married woman isn’t as appealing as we think?
Maybe it’s kind of boring? IDK.

...having said this I agree with the 22. ...and that’s after my wife’s cheating.

Interesting observation. I don’t think we can conclude anything, since this is by no means a real Scientific experiment/observation.

Some of us want the opportunity to see our wives with another man simply because they want to see her fulfilled. Or perhaps they want to share her with another buddy because she is so good in bed? Maybe it’s our intrinsic voyeuristic Tendencies?

Maybe a bit of it all?

At the end of the day, it’s, in my humble opinion, a selfless act. If you “let” your wife or encourage her to find another lover, for her pleasure and your viewing experience then, you are both getting some kind of a sexual gratification from it. Sometimes, this evolves in a full blown trio friendship with some serious benefits.

Personally, I get excited at the thought of my partner with another man. Our conversation on the subject, sadly, have not lead to anything. However, I do know that she loves it when other man look at her with lust in their eyes. So, in her own way I think she likes the attention, even open flirting. But, has never, to my knowledge, gone further.

Can you tell us a bit more of your particular situation. Only if you feel like it.

V.

 

[Jacques_Corbin]

I love it when men and women check out my wife. I often encourage her to flirt with the women and see where it goes. I have no issue with her having a girlfriend. She has no issue with me having no strings sex with married women, especially if they enjoy anal sex, which my wife does not. Married women, because they understand and respect boundaries and discretion.