Friends with benefits

[GentlemanJedi63]

I once had a "friends with benefits" relationship that I ended when she made the comment "We're going to be so good together." We were both married, and I had no intention for either of us to change our domestic scenarios. When I told her that maybe we should should just cool it down for a little while, she became angry, and told me that she had been in love with me since before she married. At that point, I decided to just get out all together, which I did.

Anybody else have a similar experience with a FWB?

 

[Shi_One81]

I once had a "friends with benefits" relationship that I ended when she made the comment "We're going to be so good together." We were both married, and I had no intention for either of us to change our domestic scenarios. When I told her that maybe we should should just cool it down for a little while, she became angry, and told me that she had been in love with me since before she married. At that point, I decided to just get out all together, which I did.

Anybody else have a similar experience with a FWB?

I currently have an FWB, we’re both married and our spouses are both aware and okay with it. Sometimes my hubby joins us. I have had partners in the past who wanted more than sex and that’s not what I wanted or what was agreed upon, so I’d end it.

 

[GentlemanJedi63]

What surprised me the most was the fact that she didn't care that I was married, and that it all got started when she admitted that although she was married, she was unhappy, and was actively looking for someone on the side.

 

[Samsacks]

I had a mistress, for awhile, but she got jealous of my time with my wife. That's why I stick to guys for side adventures (plus, I love cock!)

 

[Sey71man4u]

With you

I love guys. No drama. Just get off together and go on with the day

 

[screwher]

Everything is obviously on hold right now. But my wife has two FWB. One guy she has her sex with in our bedroom. The other exclusively at his place. I’ve no fear of anything getting romantically sticky between them. The guys are just in it for the pussy. Which I’m just thrilled with that!

 

[Mtnmike]

What surprised me the most was the fact that she didn't care that I was married, and that it all got started when she admitted that although she was married, she was unhappy, and was actively looking for someone on the side.

I'd say you're a very lucky man, that's all I'm looking for. I've only met up with a couple ladies and even though it started out causal they both wanted more and that's was not the agreement. I'm always up front and honest with them but I guess feelings change a long the way. I've always seen the people I know, that the man always wanted more but guess it goes both ways.

 

[OldFred65]

We have had a lot of other bi couples who were "friends with benefits". Sadly that is all on hold for the time being due to the virus. Right now all of our sex is within the family.

 

[Dreamer110]

She had a FWB for awhile and it was enjoyed by all.

 

[UKMind]

I'd say you're a very lucky man, that's all I'm looking for. I've only met up with a couple ladies and even though it started out causal they both wanted more and that's was not the agreement. I'm always up front and honest with them but I guess feelings change a long the way. I've always seen the people I know, that the man always wanted more but guess it goes both ways.

Thing is, sex by it’s definition is an emotional thing and some people are far better at compartmentalising situations than others.

Personally, life has tainted me so feelings don’t really come too readily but for other people, over a period of time bonds will develop.

I think it’s rare that you find two parties that manage to keep a FWB arrangement completely and wholly sexual.

Not saying it’s impossible, far from it.

 

[HampshireBoy]

Thing is, sex by it’s definition is an emotional thing and some people are far better at compartmentalising situations than others.

Personally, life has tainted me so feelings don’t really come too readily but for other people, over a period of time bonds will develop.

I think it’s rare that you find two parties that manage to keep a FWB arrangement completely and wholly sexual.

Not saying it’s impossible, far from it.

I have to agree that most people form emotional attachments as part of a FWB relationship, but that doesn't necessarily mean that they want to form a more permanent couple.

For me there is a definite emotional attachment and I find it hard to have sex with someone that I don't feel at least that I will get on with. I've had two long term FWB arrangements and in both cases we were very close friends. One has bipolar as well as other emotional issues, I would say that we have very close emotional ties still even though there is no sex I still am there to give her emotional support.

On the other hand I know one lady in her seventies who absolutely loves sex and even now often has a couple of concurrent FWB relationships, she assures my wife and I that she never gets attached to any of them emotionally.

 

[BongoGal]

About ten years ago I had a fwb who I'd hook up with every few weeks, but we'd rarely be in contact otherwise. One night I saw him at a party. I sidled up to him and whispered that if he could get me alone, I'd be more than eager to fuck. He was, like, "Um, no..." That's when he introduced me to his new girlfriend that I hadn't heard about. I wasn't jealous (and she was cool), but it was embarrassing in a way to so suddenly go from fwb to a just plain f. Part of the embarrassment came from knowing that a now-platonic friend was fully aware that I was horny as hell.

 

[king04]

About ten years ago I had a fwb who I'd hook up with every few weeks, but we'd rarely be in contact otherwise. One night I saw him at a party. I sidled up to him and whispered that if he could get me alone, I'd be more than eager to fuck. He was, like, "Um, no..." That's when he introduced me to his new girlfriend that I hadn't heard about. I wasn't jealous (and she was cool), but it was embarrassing in a way to so suddenly go from fwb to a just plain f. Part of the embarrassment came from knowing that a now-platonic friend was fully aware that I was horny as hell.

i have thought about getting a fwb before

 

[HampshireBoy]

About ten years ago I had a fwb who I'd hook up with every few weeks, but we'd rarely be in contact otherwise. One night I saw him at a party. I sidled up to him and whispered that if he could get me alone, I'd be more than eager to fuck. He was, like, "Um, no..." That's when he introduced me to his new girlfriend that I hadn't heard about. I wasn't jealous (and she was cool), but it was embarrassing in a way to so suddenly go from fwb to a just plain f. Part of the embarrassment came from knowing that a now-platonic friend was fully aware that I was horny as hell.

I did find it a difficult conversation, telling both my FWBs that I was dating the lady that eventually became my wife. One of them had already become an emotional support and mutual masturbation relationship rather than fucking but both were a bit put out. One actually asked "what makes her more special than me?", hard to put in to words that I already thought that I could spend a lot of time with my new GF but the ladies I had a FWB relationship with could never be fulltime. How do you tell someone that you are friends with that you enjoy their company for a limited amount of time?

Thereagain I did tell them privately rather than letting them find out. The one which had become a masturbation friend was feeling horny and was expecting a fun evening, I have to admit that I weakened that one last time.

 

[Mtnmike]

Thing is, sex by it’s definition is an emotional thing and some people are far better at compartmentalising situations than others.

Personally, life has tainted me so feelings don’t really come too readily but for other people, over a period of time bonds will develop.

I think it’s rare that you find two parties that manage to keep a FWB arrangement completely and wholly sexual.

Not saying it’s impossible, far from it.

I understand and feel it's more enjoyable if there is like a friendship thing to it. The one couple I've played with off & on past 7 years are my best friends but we all are able to keep things separate and still enjoy doing time together without any sex involved. I've been lucky in that respect I guess.

 

[Carnevil9]

Friends With Benefits is a great concept, in theory. And sometimes it even works in practice. But not always.

Human nature tends to kick in. No matter how much we swear that we are just here for the sex, there is always a strong tendency to feel some sort of ownership toward our sex partners. Which makes it extremely difficult to separate the sex from the relationship. Sure, it's possible, and it sometimes works, but I think it fails more often that it works. Just MHO based on my experiences.

ETA: Of course, like fools, we all keep trying!!

 

[SquidProQuo]

I feel very lonely and crave sexual intimacy. I'm tempted to just initiate a Friends with Benefits dynamic with a guy I went on dates with on and off with for the past couple of years. He's hot and I'm attracted to him, as he was towards me. I doubt he ever wants a committed relationship with me. I'm realistic that he's probably not long term material anyway. Plus he's just been awkwardly inconsiderate and weird in the past. I keep toying with the idea of just asking for an ongoing booty call from him. I miss skin on skin contact and being able to hold a cock in my hand. It's really hard to find anyone in the dating world period. I figure if I just hooked up with him, I can at least get some of my needs met.

 

[Bigaug]

I had a female co-worker friend. A group of us would go out Friday nights after work and get intoxicated. My wife, not yet at the time but we were engaged, was part of this group, bowled in a league with another group of her friends, so she would leave our Friday night get together, take our car and this female friend of ours would drive me home. Well, she was really cute and well put together, one night she asked me to drive her car as she had way too much, we switch seats, she suddenly pulls her skirt up, no panties and begs me to give her an orgasm, without hesitation I start making out with her and rub her clit, she has orgasm after orgasm, then says take out your cock, which I gladly do and she proceeds to give me the best blow job I ever had and SWALLOWS. I finally get her home. She was a little embarrassed when I got her car back to her, but I said no issue we were both drunk. The next Friday, same thing, we did this each week until the end of my wife/fiancee's bowling league was over. I have never ever received a blow job like she gave me. Then I screwed up and tried a few things, as she did, taking it too far, but those are stories for another day.

 

[beatingoff]

I had a female co-worker friend. A group of us would go out Friday nights after work and get intoxicated. My wife, not yet at the time but we were engaged, was part of this group, bowled in a league with another group of her friends, so she would leave our Friday night get together, take our car and this female friend of ours would drive me home. Well, she was really cute and well put together, one night she asked me to drive her car as she had way too much, we switch seats, she suddenly pulls her skirt up, no panties and begs me to give her an orgasm, without hesitation I start making out with her and rub her clit, she has orgasm after orgasm, then says take out your cock, which I gladly do and she proceeds to give me the best blow job I ever had and SWALLOWS. I finally get her home. She was a little embarrassed when I got her car back to her, but I said no issue we were both drunk. The next Friday, same thing, we did this each week until the end of my wife/fiancee's bowling league was over. I have never ever received a blow job like she gave me. Then I screwed up and tried a few things, as she did, taking it too far, but those are stories for another day.

Do,you ever see her? Awkward or embarrassing? I see an old flame now and then, I wonder if we could start again, then I remember why we stopped. Still good friends

 

[hogjack]

Friends With Benefits is a great concept, in theory. And sometimes it even works in practice. But not always.

Human nature tends to kick in. .... but I think it fails more often that it works. Just MHO based on my experiences.!

But when it works, it works REALLY well.

When it fails it is...really BAD.

 

[Bigaug]

We tried to go a little further, she wanted intercourse, she rented a motel room and I met her there, we both got naked, wow, she had an incredible body, we got into bed and it was great, played with her pussy, she played with my cock but then wouldn't open her legs and said she couldn't go through with it.

 

[newhere2learn]

I once had a "friends with benefits" relationship that I ended when she made the comment "We're going to be so good together." We were both married, and I had no intention for either of us to change our domestic scenarios. When I told her that maybe we should should just cool it down for a little while, she became angry, and told me that she had been in love with me since before she married. At that point, I decided to just get out all together, which I did.

Anybody else have a similar experience with a FWB?

Yes. I've distanced from my current fwb. Both fresh out of broken relationships, both complicated lives. Sex was great and she was lovely. However, a week into lockdown she falls apart and starts telling me we should get a house together.

After that, went off the deep end..many calls and texts a day.. emotional blackmail and so on.


Red flags galore.

 

[BongoGal]

We tried to go a little further, she wanted intercourse, she rented a motel room and I met her there, we both got naked, wow, she had an incredible body, we got into bed and it was great, played with her pussy, she played with my cock but then wouldn't open her legs and said she couldn't go through with it.

Did orgasms happen by other means or did the festivities just end?

 

[Bigaug]

we did our usual, I used my finger on her clit and she sucked me off and swallowed it all, but it was the next to last time. A few weird things started happening and eventually it all stopped.

 

[Bigaug]

I made the mistake of trying to share the benefits with my wife, I schemed with our co-worker friend. She and my wife were going to a training class for a week, I worked it out with her that she would stay close to my wife and when they went out for fun at night she would seduce her. Well, I have never been told what happened, other then my wife pissed off at me because of my plan, my wife would not tell me everything that happened, neither would my friend, almost 40years later I still don't know. The woman died about 10 years ago and my wife refuses to tell me. I still get some benefits because I have been fantasying all these years to different things I think that happened and masturbating!