BDSM in Masturbation

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When you pleasure yourself, do you implement any kind of BDSM other than "in your mind?"

Anita made a good comment in another thread: men watch a lot more porn than women. I believe that men into BDSM also self-torment more. I see many, many more men doing self-BDSM online than I do women. Not only more often, but more intense. There is more self-inflicted CBT out there than there is self-inflicted pussy or tit torture, for example.

So I'm curious to know how things break here.

Let us know if you are male or female, sub or Dom, and whether you sometimes or often or never implement any self-BDSM when you play with yourself.
 
I'll play.
Occasionally I'll pinch/pull/twist a nipple while masturbating; it really doesn't hurt much, so is not very satisfying, and barely makes the cut.
In a similar vein, I've played with sounds, which don't hurt at all, unless you get crazy.
Lastly, needle play...I like this a lot, but for me, at least, there is no sexual component. I had a Canadian playmate, with whom I'd exchange pictures of needles adorning various body parts. It was good fun.
This all begs the question: Who's the sadist, and who's the masochist?
 
Who is Anita? :devil: LOL

For the count: female, switch.
I do some solo pain play, mostly nipples. How often? Hm... Once a month, probably, i.e.that would be about 5% of the time.

If your frequency assumption is based on the armature porn, I suspect it's not that men do it more often, but they are much more likely to show it to the world. Every female on Lit has a story (or two, or ten) about unsolicited dick picks sent to them in PMs. How many men ever received a pussy picture from a woman they never even talked to?
 
I’ll try to articulate myself as best I can... sometimes I fear I don’t do a very good job.

I identify female (and have the parts to prove it - but no, you won’t be seeing) and as a submissive (although I would like the record to reflect that I feel wonky about this either/or choice and label slapping).

I would say I often employ some sort of self-BDSM infliction while masturbating (feel free to correct me if you think I’m wrong here, Daddy). I was on the cusp of saying just sometimes, because I can never really make myself feel exactly what I need to the way He always does (biting my own shoulder or inner thigh isn’t something I’m flexible enough to do, and I’m not big on self-flagellation because it just doesn’t pack the same sting as when His hand or belt falls), but I can get close enough to simulate (self-tie bondage, hard twisting or clamping of nipples, A hard edge against soft skin, touching myself in a similar way to how He does, etc). Add a recorded voice message of Him telling me I may, and I’ll be a mess quickly.
 
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Who is Anita? :devil: LOL

For the count: female, switch.
I do some solo pain play, mostly nipples. How often? Hm... Once a month, probably, i.e.that would be about 5% of the time.

If your frequency assumption is based on the armature porn, I suspect it's not that men do it more often, but they are much more likely to show it to the world. Every female on Lit has a story (or two, or ten) about unsolicited dick picks sent to them in PMs. How many men ever received a pussy picture from a woman they never even talked to?

Anita is the woman who fixed the armature in my generator...

Ain't spell-correct just grand? Yeah, we get used to it...

As for frequency, well... that's the question here. I don't think we're going to see enough response to really make an informed guess.
 
Clothespins, butt plugs, nipple suckers, and I'm looking into other endless items.

And for the record, I like both videos and written porn. I find I react to other's sounds of pain or orgasms. Unfortunately, most of the dom's commands aren't picked up on microphone on most vids otherwise I would use that, too. So maybe I also need the aural stimulation for masturbation purposes.
 
Clothespins, butt plugs, nipple suckers, and I'm looking into other endless items.

And for the record, I like both videos and written porn. I find I react to other's sounds of pain or orgasms. Unfortunately, most of the dom's commands aren't picked up on microphone on most vids otherwise I would use that, too. So maybe I also need the aural stimulation for masturbation purposes.

Totally agree on the aural part. There's an old, but well known, video of a woman having her pussy intensely cropped. She is suspended from the ceiling, hands and feet spread. Initially in a swing, but her thrashing gets her out of it and ultimately she is just hanging.

Her shrieks, as the blows mount, are better than the video - which is grainy. Her sobs at the end, too, are unbelievably erotic.

It's a classic, and I'm betting that many here are very familiar with it.
 
nipple clamps, dildos, cock rings and my overactive imagination
 
I am a male sub and for awhile had a willing online domme who would often Skype in to watch and tell me what to do. It was so much more exciting to have her soft southern drawl talk me through inserting a large plug, or tell me to smack my ass.

Alone, it isn't nearly as exciting, but I can recreate some of the excitement by trying to redo the more memorable moments. I still can't eat my own cum without someone telling me I have to... the thrill is gone on that level. I think BDSM really does take two to be fulfilling.
 
When you pleasure yourself, do you implement any kind of BDSM other than "in your mind?"

Anita made a good comment in another thread: men watch a lot more porn than women. I believe that men into BDSM also self-torment more. I see many, many more men doing self-BDSM online than I do women. Not only more often, but more intense. There is more self-inflicted CBT out there than there is self-inflicted pussy or tit torture, for example.

So I'm curious to know how things break here.

Let us know if you are male or female, sub or Dom, and whether you sometimes or often or never implement any self-BDSM when you play with yourself.

Male sometimes some clock spanking lightly sometimes a bigger silos than I know I can take
 
When I pleasure myself

When you pleasure yourself, do you implement any kind of BDSM other than "in your mind?"

Anita made a good comment in another thread: men watch a lot more porn than women. I believe that men into BDSM also self-torment more. I see many, many more men doing self-BDSM online than I do women. Not only more often, but more intense. There is more self-inflicted CBT out there than there is self-inflicted pussy or tit torture, for example.

So I'm curious to know how things break here.

Let us know if you are male or female, sub or Dom, and whether you sometimes or often or never implement any self-BDSM when you play with yourself.

I don't do it often, but I sometimes masturbate with clothespins attached to my nipples. If it hurts, I find that really hot.

I am otherwise a vanilla gay male. I am, however, curious about BDSM. From the sub side of the tracks.
 
I will twist my nipples, spank my pussy and use a buttplug (my ass is very tight), if I want some more pain when I’m playing with myself. Usually watching a lesbian porn video at the same time..
 
Who is Anita? :devil: LOL

For the count: female, switch.
I do some solo pain play, mostly nipples. How often? Hm... Once a month, probably, i.e.that would be about 5% of the time.

If your frequency assumption is based on the armature porn, I suspect it's not that men do it more often, but they are much more likely to show it to the world. Every female on Lit has a story (or two, or ten) about unsolicited dick picks sent to them in PMs. How many men ever received a pussy picture from a woman they never even talked to?

My inbox is fully of unsolicited pussy pics. Doesn't that happen to everyone :D
 
I will twist my nipples, spank my pussy and use a buttplug (my ass is very tight), if I want some more pain when I’m playing with myself. Usually watching a lesbian porn video at the same time..

spanking pussy is so much fun. think being blindfold and not know when the next one will hit. do you like a hand or something else doing the spanking.
 
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