Kink Community Etiquette

[trevorness]

I am not in the "kink community".

But I was chatting (not on this site) with a female friend and we realized we have a friend in common. I asked how she knew him and she said through the kink community.

Now I am super curious what her kinks are, and his!
Is it rude to ask?

 

[haventdonethat]

I am not in the "kink community".

But I was chatting with a female friend and we realized we have a friend in common. I asked how she knew him and she said through the kink community.

Now I am super curious what her kinks are, and his!
Is it rude to ask?

Not sure what the kink community is either, maybe she means this site?
I think if you read some of their old posts you will get an idea of what some kinks are.
Other than that, just ask!

Remember, as someone here has said . . .

"It's only kinky the first time"

 

[Uneklensane]

Up front

The fact the other person brought up the kink community means they are open enough to menton it. But remember...knowing a persons kinks can be a shock to your relationship with them....and kink isn't just about sex.

 

[trevorness]

The fact the other person brought up the kink community means they are open enough to menton it. But remember...knowing a persons kinks can be a shock to your relationship with them....and kink isn't just about sex.

This is true. Do I really want to know? But I am super curious! Dilemma!

 

[SquidProQuo]

....and kink isn't just about sex.

True. I have a lot of sexual kinks but sex isn't everything. I'm into BDSM and my sexual submissive side is very psychologically driven, based on desire and honest-to-goodness yearning.

 

[supercollider00]

This is true. Do I really want to know? But I am super curious! Dilemma!

A lot of kink communities explicitely do not allow anyone to out anyone else within the community and you can be kicked out for doing so. I do not recommend you asking as it can be quite private and s/he might not want that information to be out for different obvious reasons.

 

[SquidProQuo]

A lot of kink communities explicitely do not allow anyone to out anyone else within the community and you can be kicked out for doing so. I do not recommend you asking as it can be quite private and s/he might not want that information to be out for different obvious reasons.

I agree. I'm not in any kink communities officially but would want to respect someone else's confidentiality. I'm against outing people without their consent or invading someone's privacy wrongfully.

 

[MasterM1312]

I too vice my concern over your friend outing a member of their particular kink community. Your friend has every right to reveal what he/she wants everyone to know about them. To reveal that a third party is a member is simple unacceptable.

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