In search of a quality connection

[Chris_KBHR]

In my limited experience, the main problem with searching for someone online is the fly-by-night, transitory nature of chat hookups. They often seem to be nothing more than a two day whirlwind of mutual usury disguised as fantasy sharing and then "poof," you go your separate ways.

That's what I am not looking for. And perhaps there's a woman out there who is NOT looking for that either. This post is an appeal to that sort of woman.

So enough about the negative. What is it that I am seeking? I guess I'd best describe it as an intimate friendship with a real bond. Somebody I can open up to and have deep, penetrative conversation with, both sexual and otherwise. Ideally you'll be intelligent, sweet natured, and extremely open minded with a willingness to explore.

A thumbnail sketch of me....39, blond, skinny, fairly active and outdoorsy. I am an office dweller who spends all day gazing at spreadsheets and fantasizes about becoming an author. I'm a movie nut, a purveyor of useless trivia, and a giver of epic back massages.

I'm the guy who can look into the night sky and tell you how to find the north star, or point out Jupiter. I'll laugh at all your most inappropriate jokes. I'm always inventing stupid games, most of which have an aspect of sexual impropriety to them. I loathe hipsters and evangelicals in equal measure. I've been contemplating getting a tattoo for six years but can't decide on the right design. Maybe you can help me reach an epiphany.

I've got a few secrets, and I hope you do too.

Write to me.

 

[MMM_wms]

lots of luck!

Chris, I wish you lasting success on your quest to find the right woman for you.

My thoughts on "her" are like yours, except I take more words to describe her. And - I must admit - words not quite as readable as yours.

LOts of Luck to you again!

 

[dp4shelly]

You sound like a great guy but...

Hi,

Your description of yourself is very positive. You are right about the nature of relationships on a website like this. I hope you find what you are looking for. However, I noticed that you said: "'Im the guy who can look into the night sky and tell you how to find the north star," … well, I am the kind of girl that can tell you how to find the soulmate that you are looking for. And the odds of finding what you are looking for here are like finding a mega win lottery ticket on the floor of a public restroom. It could happen but the internet is not likely to produce what you need and want.

There are lots of motives for being here. I like to learn about what makes people tick. I like to do stimulus response experiments by posting things and noting the reactions. I also like to get off with someone that enjoys some sex chat. But I am happily married and not looking for the things you describe. I have those things in real life. This is more of a play ground. I hope you find the woman you are looking for in the warm light of the sun and not the cold light of a computer screen.

Shelly

 

[Bjerget]

If you're as genuinely as you are well written, you will absolutely find that which you seek. There are plenty of women here who want a deep connection as well. I'm sure you will find someone nice to talk to, though it might take some time to find.

 

[Bjerget]

Hi,

Your description of yourself is very positive. You are right about the nature of relationships on a website like this. I hope you find what you are looking for. However, I noticed that you said: "'Im the guy who can look into the night sky and tell you how to find the north star," … well, I am the kind of girl that can tell you how to find the soulmate that you are looking for. And the odds of finding what you are looking for here are like finding a mega win lottery ticket on the floor of a public restroom. It could happen but the internet is not likely to produce what you need and want.

There are lots of motives for being here. I like to learn about what makes people tick. I like to do stimulus response experiments by posting things and noting the reactions. I also like to get off with someone that enjoys some sex chat. But I am happily married and not looking for the things you describe. I have those things in real life. This is more of a play ground. I hope you find the woman you are looking for in the warm light of the sun and not the cold light of a computer screen.

Shelly

The problem of this website Is what you just posted. So many "happily" married folks on here willing to use, abuse and subsequently dump whomever they fancy with little to no concern for the person behind the screen. If you're so happy, why not just find out what makes your husband tick? Why not invite him to play here? I can tell you from experience, that this is not a place for people who are "happily married" to play individually. That's a cover story for something missing in your real relationship. It was in my own marriage and it was in every other married guys relationship that I talked to. So try not to dissuade genuine people from making connections on here that aren't just looking to fill an empty hole in their otherwise engaged lives.

 

[Chris_KBHR]

This is a lovely personal ad. I've found a deep connection on Lit when I wasn't looking for one so I believe it is possible, even over cyberspace. It just takes time to evolve and if you start with no expectations, then what develops can surprise you both.

Thank you

 

[Chris_KBHR]

Just thought I'd toss one more cast into the river and resurrect this thread. If there is anyone out there who this resonates with, please drop me a line. With life on lockdown, a distraction has never been more welcome.

Hope everyone is healthy and well.

 

[lady_jennaxx]

The problem of this website Is what you just posted. So many "happily" married folks on here willing to use, abuse and subsequently dump whomever they fancy with little to no concern for the person behind the screen. If you're so happy, why not just find out what makes your husband tick? Why not invite him to play here? I can tell you from experience, that this is not a place for people who are "happily married" to play individually. That's a cover story for something missing in your real relationship. It was in my own marriage and it was in every other married guys relationship that I talked to. So try not to dissuade genuine people from making connections on here that aren't just looking to fill an empty hole in their otherwise engaged lives.

Very much in agreement.

 

[Hotcajoles]

Hey

Hi,
I feel the same way! I sent you a private message, hope to chat more!

 

[DirtyLittleDiva85]

Not everyone vanishes after a couple of days. And, if they do, they were of poor quality to begin with. I just learned this lesson the hard way! Sometimes the trash just takes itself out.

Oh, and not all of us are like that.

 

[skirt_chaser]

Looking for a quility connection with any ladies. Sharing and expressing everything together. Thoughts, interests, feelings and perhaps sexual topics. Good discussions, while getting to know one another. Anyone else wanting the same?

 

[Chris_KBHR]

Anyone else happen to be up and restless at this late hour? If so, please drop me a line.

 

[MMM_wms]

don’t mean to hijack your thread, Chris, but …

… what Bjerget had posted a while back here deserves a closer look, IMHO, and it pertains very much to YOUR thread Chris.

Bjerget over here in Denmark had made a very pertinent observation. The woman who posted #3 here is one of those obnoxious braggards, who cannot keep her mouth shut, when she reads a great personal ad like ours.

She claims that you cannot find what you are looking for, simply because she herself does not need it. What an audacious statement; as if dp4shelly knows anything about people finding each other on Lit. I say bullshit to that, because anything that comes from women, who are “happily married” supposedly, and post on the Personals, is subject to suspicion. Like Bjerget stated already

I am sure you will find your connection, because what you aim to give a woman is the best she can get from a fellow here. Something dp4shelly never had in her life, most likely. But what gets to me is bickering of the kind that lady feels compelled to do. With a mindset like “I don’t need it, so you should not need it either”.

Chris, I wish you luck as much as several other people here did already, people who possess something dp4shelly probably never heard of, empathy for another person. You deserve what you are loking for, so it will only a matter of time until you find it.
.

 

[curvynsweet]

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[Chris_KBHR]

Bumping my old thread. Anyone around today?

 

[Chris_KBHR]

Deleted

 

[GabrielDP]

Sent you a PM

 

[Chris_KBHR]

Thank you all for the kind words and encouragement you have sent. They mean a great deal.

 

[BBWSeekingSugarDaddy]

In my limited experience, the main problem with searching for someone online is the fly-by-night, transitory nature of chat hookups. They often seem to be nothing more than a two day whirlwind of mutual usury disguised as fantasy sharing and then "poof," you go your separate ways.

That's what I am not looking for. And perhaps there's a woman out there who is NOT looking for that either. This post is an appeal to that sort of woman.

So enough about the negative. What is it that I am seeking? I guess I'd best describe it as an intimate friendship with a real bond. Somebody I can open up to and have deep, penetrative conversation with, both sexual and otherwise. Ideally you'll be intelligent, sweet natured, and extremely open minded with a willingness to explore.

A thumbnail sketch of me....39, blond, skinny, fairly active and outdoorsy. I am an office dweller who spends all day gazing at spreadsheets and fantasizes about becoming an author. I'm a movie nut, a purveyor of useless trivia, and a giver of epic back massages.

I'm the guy who can look into the night sky and tell you how to find the north star, or point out Jupiter. I'll laugh at all your most inappropriate jokes. I'm always inventing stupid games, most of which have an aspect of sexual impropriety to them. I loathe hipsters and evangelicals in equal measure. I've been contemplating getting a tattoo for six years but can't decide on the right design. Maybe you can help me reach an epiphany.

I've got a few secrets, and I hope you do too.

Write to me.

Reading this made me go... "ohhh, he does exist!"

Maybe we can chat sometime?

 

[dumbeg4]

Very much in agreement.

Condemned now to the sidelines and wrapped in my tartan blanket, with my Thai carer kneading my neck, I sit up straighter whenever you enter the fray.
I know there will be some verbal pyrotechnics, some whoresplay.
You raise the standard, carry the flag.
Don’t go away dear Lady J.

 

[sally_sparrow]

The problem of this website Is what you just posted. So many "happily" married folks on here willing to use, abuse and subsequently dump whomever they fancy with little to no concern for the person behind the screen. If you're so happy, why not just find out what makes your husband tick? Why not invite him to play here? I can tell you from experience, that this is not a place for people who are "happily married" to play individually. That's a cover story for something missing in your real relationship. It was in my own marriage and it was in every other married guys relationship that I talked to. So try not to dissuade genuine people from making connections on here that aren't just looking to fill an empty hole in their otherwise engaged lives.

I cannot agree enough with this post. "Happily married" folks here I've found are some of the sketchiest on Lit. It isn't always just a playground for people. Unless they are on here together, they are still hiding something. I hate seeing genuine ads like this torn down by someone who claims to have everything they want/need. Just because it is an erotic site does not mean genuine connections aren't possible. Good luck on your search, I really hope you find someone you connect with.

 

[Chris_KBHR]

Nothing more embarrassing than a shameless self bump. Here's to swallowing one's pride.

 

[Chris_KBHR]

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[Chris_KBHR]

Anyone still awake this evening?