Fuck Dating Sites

[Liide12]

What, you mean to tell me my favorite thing should be forcing conversation with a series of increasingly taciturn women in their 20's, only to be left on read for the next month and a half, assuming the miracle of an occasional conversation actually briefly starts up?

Fuck off with that bullshit.

 

[Kupkake98]

Agreed dating sites suck. Ironically Im having that same problem but with men.

 

[HayleyLuvsSex]

eh, from a woman's perspective, we are swamped with messages, so it's easy to ignore messages that don't pique your interest.

 

[MissAshleyToYou]

dating in 2020 is ridiculous

 

[sj47]

it's even more difficult if you're over 50.

 

[WillJ8787]

dating in 2020 is ridiculous

Amen!!!! These sites remind me why I don't like people! I've had better luck at the grocery store. Lol.

 

[Jada59]

eh, from a woman's perspective, we are swamped with messages, so it's easy to ignore messages that don't pique your interest.

That's true.

 

[Jada59]

it's even more difficult if you're over 50.

Probably. I'm 60. The guys around my age are usually of no interest to me. The younger ones want a one time hook up.

And there are sooo many scammers! Had a guy pretending to be a Polish guy in North Seattle. I finally did a check on him after a few weeks. Seems he didn't exist.

My current guy had a horrible allergic reaction at my house. He thinks it was my cat. So add that to my list of things to ask.

Were you born a male?

Are you married?

Do you really live where you say you do?

Any medical conditions?

I'm sure I'm missing some things. Gets tiresome.

Or they string you along and you never really meet them.

 

[EroticRomanticMan]

Ten years ago I predicted that the numbers of women and men on Lit and thus the number of pms each received would balance out! Sadly, for men, I was wrong!

 

[lovetporoleplay1]

OMG. If you only knew the horrible scary stories I could share about my online dating experiences, you'd be shocked. You'd think it was a lifetime movie.......Too lengthy and scary to post........and I'm a straight Guy looking for a straight woman.....it got frustrating and tiresome so I gave up years ago......

Most women on lit are beautiful truthful souls. I've met a few keepers......true, there are mean, hurtful, trolls of both sexes here, but most are more honest on this site..... Even if it's NOT a dating site.

Thank You ladies. I appreciate your kindness and honesty. If you only knew how much joy and hope you've brought to my lonely life.....

 

[ohiokink1979]

There all full with women who want money from them or want the site wants alot of money to send a message

 

[RudyGardet]

At many points in the last year of so that I've been single and getting back into the dating world after almost 20 years I would have heartily agreed with the OP and others in this thread about how shitty online dating can be. But in the grand scheme I have to say that I'm very thankful that it exists. If I had to rely on bars and friends (most of which I lost in my divorce) I would have been screwed (and not in the good way) for meeting single women in my area.

Yes sometimes it's a nightmare of silence (for the guys, I know opposite for women) and half-assed connections that often fizzle for one reason or another. But fuck people, that's what dating is! Powerful and meaningful connections are rare and precious, and unfortunately hard to come by. Dating apps are just like the real world where we see interesting seeming people, reach out hoping to connect, and - if we're lucky - get far enough in that initial process to actually start to get to know someone. Sadly much of the time we find that it doesn't work for one reason or another, but that's what makes it so fucking awesome when it finally does. At least with dating apps I can slog through a huge chunk of that process while on my couch!

Don't get me wrong, it's a fucking hassle for sure. Between scam profiles, hot pics that are 5 years out of date and filtered, and (understandably) jaded bitter women who got that way by having to put up with (un-understandably) too much shit from callous, coarse, asshole men, it can be more than a little disheartening.

But maybe it's worth it. You learn pretty quickly how to spot the fake profiles (I'm talking to all you 25 year old IG model looking girl who's looking for a serious man she can dedicate herself to making happy and is ready to meet up after exchange 2 messages. I'm glad you're so into me, but I think I'll keep my Gmail and phone number to myself for now). Every connection or date that doesn't pan out is good experience and practice for the one that eventually might. Be yourself in your profile, pics, and chat, and maybe if you can be patient enough, you'll bump into that person on the other end who has had the same courage, fortitude, and patience that you have.

I was just about to give up (or at least take a break, which I think is a very good idea once in a while) when I made a great connection. I don't know if it will last (I'm sure I'll fuck it up sooner or later) but if it doesn't I'll be back at in and trying hard to let the ten thousand rejections roll off my back while I wait and work for that one real match.

And don't get too cynical people! I was a hair's breadth away from not meeting the woman I'm seeing now because I was almost positive that she was a too-good-to-be-true fake. It wasn't till we were halfway through our first date that I started to believe it was legit (she's quite a bit younger and hot as hell). That was two months ago and I still wonder if it's a long con sometimes, but the way she giggles makes me pretty sure is real.

Good luck out there singles. Stay strong.

 

[StarGazer58]

eh, from a woman's perspective, we are swamped with messages, so it's easy to ignore messages that don't pique your interest.

In the US I believe the general population is split pretty evenly split between men and women so I wonder why is that women get swamped with messages but men don't? So is it that women don't send out messages to men? Is the male to female ratio skewed on the dating sites similar to how it is on Lit? Are there a lot of women not interested in dating? I have never used any of the dating sites so have no experience in what it is like.

 

[RudyGardet]

I suspect it is a combination of things. I think not only are the numbers skewed like here, but it might be that there are more men than women that are using dating sites to cheat. That's a theory based on anecdotal evidence of the sometimes ridiculous stuff that many women put on their profiles to keep those guys away. Things like "Don't contact me if you're in a relationship, live in your mother's basement, don't have most of your original teeth." Apparently there are enough guys like that out there that women learn to actively try to head them off.
But maybe even more is that I think women looking to date might be more discerning. Maybe they actually take the time to read profiles and consider whether there might be a good match, where I suspect lots of guys see tits and swipe right hoping for any kind of response. I'll bet a shitload of those messages are "hey what's up" or "ur hot" which is probably a waste of time to any women who is looking for a guy who actually has something to say.
To be fair there is plenty on the flipside too. I've had a number of connections that fall flat because the women seem to put very little effort in to the chat. Then again usually it seems like those are the younger women who probably think my use of proper grammar, punctuation, and spelling says more about my age than the white in my beard!

 

[Bjerget]

I suspect it is a combination of things. I think not only are the numbers skewed like here, but it might be that there are more men than women that are using dating sites to cheat. That's a theory based on anecdotal evidence of the sometimes ridiculous stuff that many women put on their profiles to keep those guys away. Things like "Don't contact me if you're in a relationship, live in your mother's basement, don't have most of your original teeth." Apparently there are enough guys like that out there that women learn to actively try to head them off.
But maybe even more is that I think women looking to date might be more discerning. Maybe they actually take the time to read profiles and consider whether there might be a good match, where I suspect lots of guys see tits and swipe right hoping for any kind of response. I'll bet a shitload of those messages are "hey what's up" or "ur hot" which is probably a waste of time to any women who is looking for a guy who actually has something to say.
To be fair there is plenty on the flipside too. I've had a number of connections that fall flat because the women seem to put very little effort in to the chat. Then again usually it seems like those are the younger women who probably think my use of proper grammar, punctuation, and spelling says more about my age than the white in my beard!

You make valid and well written points! Here is a cookie for you!

 

[RudyGardet]

You make valid and well written points! Here is a cookie for you!

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[HayleyLuvsSex]

In the US I believe the general population is split pretty evenly split between men and women so I wonder why is that women get swamped with messages but men don't? So is it that women don't send out messages to men? Is the male to female ratio skewed on the dating sites similar to how it is on Lit? Are there a lot of women not interested in dating? I have never used any of the dating sites so have no experience in what it is like.

i've heard that men outnumber women on dating sites 60-40 or so but idk if it's true or not. i've also heard that men and women have different "strategies" on sites like tinder. women are more picky about who they'll swipe right on, whereas men will swipe right on every woman, see who they match with, then decide from there. So basically women are going to get way more matches on average than men, and it can make it hard for men to stand out amongst the rest unless they're extremely good looking or super suave or something.

 

[KareemWong]

OMG, It's so hot place...

 

[KareemWong]

i've heard that men outnumber women on dating sites 60-40 or so but idk if it's true or not. i've also heard that men and women have different "strategies" on sites like tinder. women are more picky about who they'll swipe right on, whereas men will swipe right on every woman, see who they match with, then decide from there. So basically women are going to get way more matches on average than men, and it can make it hard for men to stand out amongst the rest unless they're extremely good looking or super suave or something.

This is important for me, so I always look at the gender ratio, I do not want to spend time on options where there are more men. I also read reviews and all the pros and cons of each of the sites and found a suitable option. Uberhorny has 80 percent of girls and only 20 men, for me it is important! They are very hot and beautiful and ready to have fun anytime.

 

[StarGazer58]

i've heard that men outnumber women on dating sites 60-40 or so but idk if it's true or not. i've also heard that men and women have different "strategies" on sites like tinder. women are more picky about who they'll swipe right on, whereas men will swipe right on every woman, see who they match with, then decide from there. So basically women are going to get way more matches on average than men, and it can make it hard for men to stand out amongst the rest unless they're extremely good looking or super suave or something.

You are probably correct on all counts but then who is the more superficial. The men who will swipe on any woman and sees what falls out or the women that will only swipe on the very best looking guys? Interested in hearing some viewpoints on this.

 

[StuartV]

There are so many dating sites now. I was on Tinder for a long time, but I got only a few dates in a year and all of those dates were not successful. Honestly I was really horny and I did not want to be jerking off anymore... Somehow I found a special dating site that was meant for dating and always having sex with people that you're dating. It was great honestly and the girls that came on dates with me were actually good-looking which I really did not expect. Shag Book is the biggest revelation of my life, now I am much more confident, and I am ready for something real.

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shagbook.com

 

[MidnightRyder007]

Online dating sites are the flypaper for the emotionally damaged!
The grocery store's during this pandemic are the hot spot!

 

[Scareltt]

Two weeks ago..

Agreed dating sites suck. Ironically Im having that same problem but with men.

About two weeks ago, I would have totally agreed with you. However last week I met a very nice young lady and yesterday we met for coffee. Friday we have a date at the Art Museum...

Keep trying...

Pre Covid I was ghosted a bunch of times. Don’t give up..

 

[emperor0379]

I actually got lucky with a much, much younger big, beautiful black girl who was on the same fuck site I was. But that was after months of frustration.

I frequent a fuck site for seniors and once in a great while get a sexting session in.

 

[MidnightRyder007]

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