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[Subbalubbadubdub]

Just wanted to start a discussion about paying for companionship. Not about paying for IT (thats not right or legal folks). Just paying for someone to spend time with.

Haven't done it, but it does seem like there are a lot of ways to get in touch (pun intended) with women who will trade their time for a little compensation. Just wondering how Lit folks felt about the practice, in general.

All the same? All good? Always / never OK?

In a place where there are a lot of discussions about all things taboo, i don't see a ton of talk about cash, and what it does to us as perverts

 

[Jada59]

I'm a woman. I wouldn't do it from either end. Don't even think I could realistically be a professional cuddler. I like sex too much.

Keep in mind that the term "escort" usually is a prostitute. Usually but not always.

I had a male friend who bragged about using prostitutes. He didn't use them for sex but he did have them do things to themselves.

I don't get it. You can get this stuff for free. The type of person I see using this sort of services is not a person I'd want to be around. That's why I said I "had" a friend...

 

[littlebirdjoy]

I'll bite...

Just wondering how Lit folks felt about the practice, in general.

Ok... so if I understand the question you are asking how people feel about giving or receiving companionship for compensation regardless of the title used.

I actually considered this at one point *shocking* It was very much outside of my ethical norm so I should explain. I rarely make it to the US, and one year I was there my husband and I were separated and I was in no relationship. I really wanted to get out for the short amount of time I was going to be there. I didn't want major strings, just to have some fun no sex involved. I didn't really feel the Tinder vibe as I havent heard great things about it, so I actually found an app that the whole premise was you were paid to go on a first date with the gentleman's agreement that both people were looking for a real relationship not a quickie. The money aspect was to make sure that both people were actually freaking coming, not just fucking around with people's time. I put up a profile and was requested 5 times in 1 day. 4 of them I had no intention of doing.... one dude I seriously seriously considered. He looked reasonable, included references, write quite a lot about himself, appeared intelligent and like he could hold up a conversation rather well. I ended up canceling before as I chickened out. i had wanted to meet in my small little town, and he wanted to meet me in the larger city. If he had done dinner at the small town I'd have gone. BTW the rate you set yourself, so I set it at $100 for dinner no going to anywhere private or anything like that. I kinda felt pretty damn good that 5 people were actually willing within 24 hours to pay to go out with me what an ego boost!

On the same trip my ethics were severely severely tested. The very next day I went out for a walk and was feeling pretty good. I love puppydogs and ended up finding a really adorable one to pet. The owner struck up a conversation with me and we walked and talked for HOURS. Ended up he was into pharmaceuticals and was in town taking care of his ailing father. He had just broken up with his long time girlfriend. It was dark before we knew it and he asked me to dinner. I accepted and we had a lovely dinner in town. He asked me back to his place... but I declined. In the process of everything lifestyle interests had come up and I found out that he was on the caps side of the slash. Soooooo when he went in to kiss me on the cheek and I hugged him he grabbed me by the back of the neck and whispered a rather serious proposition in my ear. .... one of the things he came to know is that I was trying to solve some financial issues for my mom on the fly.
I stopped for a few seconds weighed my honor and morality and whether I could live with myself and decided that I could not. so I thanked him kindly and we parted ways (yeah he had a Jaguar so I'm HIGHLY sure he was serious). He called me and asked me out later in the week but it didnt work out. So.... I know for myself, I will turn down a relatively insane sum of money even when it is needed for my honor. However, if we are talking about time and conversation... I enjoy both for free so if someone is going to pay me for it... why the heck not!

PS... you better bet when I got home I flipped open my computer to look dude up 99% expecting he was a scammer.... nope... oh no he was most certainly not. Tons of journal articles with his name and picture on them. No regrets though. Still a hell of an ego boost!

Great question.

 

[Conager]

Regarding the OP, I rather like the idea of my (probably inaccurate) understanding of Japanese hostess bars. You go in, hire girl to pour your drinks, tiitter at your jokes, smile a lot and sit affectionately with you.

I just came to show laughing approval of the OP’s Name...

Needs to firm a band and sing Rama Lama Ding Dong.

 

[DWW]

I'm a woman. I wouldn't do it from either end. Don't even think I could realistically be a professional cuddler. I like sex too much.

Keep in mind that the term "escort" usually is a prostitute. Usually but not always.

I had a male friend who bragged about using prostitutes. He didn't use them for sex but he did have them do things to themselves.

I don't get it. You can get this stuff for free. The type of person I see using this sort of services is not a person I'd want to be around. That's why I said I "had" a friend...

Women get this stuff for free - men, even nice ones, not so much. Ask just about any man.

 

[LWulf]

I'm an unabashed 'dabbler' in porn, camgirls and strippers. However, I haven't ever paid for companionship. That subtle difference seems admittedly unsubstantiated.

 

[Jada59]

Women get this stuff for free - men, even nice ones, not so much. Ask just about any man.

That's not true. I'm a woman. I don't charge. And it's men I'm doing it with so...

That being said, I am picky. I won't have sex with just anyone although the opportunities are very much there for me.

 

[twister947]

If I knew of a woman half my age who knew how to fit in, I'd hire her as an escort for social events in an instant. It would be fun to outrage the locals.

 

[PapaDan]

Just wanted to start a discussion about paying for companionship. Not about paying for IT (thats not right or legal folks). Just paying for someone to spend time with.

Haven't done it, but it does seem like there are a lot of ways to get in touch (pun intended) with women who will trade their time for a little compensation. Just wondering how Lit folks felt about the practice, in general.

All the same? All good? Always / never OK?

In a place where there are a lot of discussions about all things taboo, i don't see a ton of talk about cash, and what it does to us as perverts

I think if you had to pay for it, it wouldn't be real.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Haven't done it, but it does seem like there are a lot of ways to get in touch (pun intended) with women who will trade their time for a little compensation. Just wondering how Lit folks felt about the practice, in general.

I used to have a regular arrangement with a woman who'd come to my house and trade her time for compensation. Because I hate cleaning, and I was paying enough to make it worth her while.

I have time-for-money arrangements with my doctor, my lawyer, my masseur, and with the people who make and deliver my dinner on nights when I don't feel like cooking. And in the other direction, some folk are willing to pay me for my time, in stuff I'm good at, which is how I afford all those services in the first place.

If "companionship" is a skill that somebody values enough to pay for, and somebody else is willing to provide, then I don't see that as any different, regardless of whether there's a sexual element. It's not an arrangement that would be likely to work for me unless I had the budget to make it a regular thing, but that's just my personal preferences, not a moral judgement.

Perhaps the question should be, why do people view paid escorting/companionship so differently to all the other situations where "pay people for their time" is considered acceptable and unremarkable?

 

[Bramblethorn]

I think if you had to pay for it, it wouldn't be real.

I've paid for pizza, legal advice, and medical advice, and it didn't make them any less real.

 

[yukonnights]

I've paid for pizza, legal advice, and medical advice, and it didn't make them any less real.

But, part of the 'reality' in companionship is sincerity. I'd question the person's sincerity, doubt every laugh at my jokes. Plus, it's very likely they are just a stranger and would be someone I don't connect with.

Like others, I don't see anything unethical or bad about paying for company — it does seem pretty sad though. I'm thankful I've never needed to go there.

All the lonely people, where do they all come from ... where do they all belong

 

[PapaDan]

But, part of the 'reality' in companionship is sincerity. I'd question the person's sincerity, doubt every laugh at my jokes. Plus, it's very likely they are just a stranger and would be someone I don't connect with.

Like others, I don't see anything unethical or bad about paying for company — it does seem pretty sad though. I'm thankful I've never needed to go there.

All the lonely people, where do they all come from ... where do they all belong

Ah, Lyrics from Eleanor Rigby. Somebody is showing their age. Don't worry, I love the Beatles too.

 

[yukonnights]

Ah, Lyrics from Eleanor Rigby. Somebody is showing their age. Don't worry, I love the Beatles too.

I thought the Beatles were timeless My how time does slip away

 

[PapaDan]

I thought the Beatles were timeless My how time does slip away

It's nice to know that I'm not the only one who remembers the good times.

 

[Bramblethorn]

But, part of the 'reality' in companionship is sincerity. I'd question the person's sincerity, doubt every laugh at my jokes.

Point taken, but I think it's a bit more complex than that. Many friendships and relationships also have that kind of insincerity - when somebody tells a feeble joke, their buddies are more likely to smile and laugh than to say how much it sucked. And yet people still find those relationships valuable.

Plus, it's very likely they are just a stranger and would be someone I don't connect with.

That would certainly be a consideration for me - I rarely even date somebody until I've known them for years. But some people find it easy to talk with complete strangers. It's weird and I can't understand it at all, but they do!

 

[bone251]

I've paid for pizza, legal advice, and medical advice, and it didn't make them any less real.

This is so true.

In a previous life my only chance of sex was an escort. Most of visits were great. Some were not bad. I would find it difficult so say getting a BJ or laid was ever bad.

I learned from researching on forums like this for escorting how to choose the girls I wished to see. In general mature was better then hot and young.

A good measure of how good a date or visit was is when the girl made large discounts to see you again. When the rate is basically just covering the hotel room, you know it is pretty good sex for both.

Safe sex, discretion and references make all the difference.

 

[bone251]

The big difference between sex for money and sex for free is that sex for money usually costs a lot less.

 

[A_E_G]

I used to have a regular arrangement with a woman who'd come to my house and trade her time for compensation. Because I hate cleaning, and I was paying enough to make it worth her while.

I have time-for-money arrangements with my doctor, my lawyer, my masseur, and with the people who make and deliver my dinner on nights when I don't feel like cooking. And in the other direction, some folk are willing to pay me for my time, in stuff I'm good at, which is how I afford all those services in the first place.

If "companionship" is a skill that somebody values enough to pay for, and somebody else is willing to provide, then I don't see that as any different, regardless of whether there's a sexual element. It's not an arrangement that would be likely to work for me unless I had the budget to make it a regular thing, but that's just my personal preferences, not a moral judgement.

Perhaps the question should be, why do people view paid escorting/companionship so differently to all the other situations where "pay people for their time" is considered acceptable and unremarkable?

But you aren't actually paying them for their time. You are paying them for their skill and willingness to do xyz task. If you want a pro-domme, look at a local dungeon. Many of them would probably be willing to negotiate companionship.

 

[FGB]

I know an Escort. Although she loves sex and picks out guys she is attracted to she does it for the money. Her clients are almost always well off, married for a long time and doesn't get sex from their wives for one reason or another.

Mostly hired for sex and /or companionship and travel to business functions out of city. ( DO NOT say have Pussy Will Travel unless you like getting slapped up side the head!)

Actually thinking about it I have known several.

One was simply to lazy to work a regular job...(sounds crackers to me.) She had several rich and powerful men around town as her clients. She was happy with her lifestyle.

If you have to money...go for it! I do think you might find a better connection by making friends with a woman and helping her out from time to time if she needs it.

Legal too!

 

[Bramblethorn]

But you aren't actually paying them for their time. You are paying them for their skill and willingness to do xyz task.

If we're going to get into economics, I'm paying for all of those things - I did already acknowledge that skill's part of the equation, but that doesn't mean time isn't.

When I'm working for hire, in rather less exciting occupations, I charge by the hour or some proxy for that, because every hour I spend working for somebody else is an hour I'm not doing my own thing.

 

[GuessImJamie]

Just wanted to start a discussion about paying for companionship. Not about paying for IT (thats not right or legal folks). Just paying for someone to spend time with.

Depends on where you get your morality and where you get your legal code. If you get your morality from the Bible, concubinage, paying a woman for companionship and sexual access is regulated, not forbidden (it IS morally acceptable). PS there are EIGHT forms of Biblically acceptable marriage. One man, one woman, she chooses is not EXACTLY in there - that daddy chooses is and that she holds sway over daddy's opinions is.

In many jurisdictions prostitution is not illegal, in others it is not prosecuted or not criminal (IE it is a civil code violation).

Biblically prostitution differs from concubinage and marriage in levels of permanence and responsibility.

IF YOU READ THE BIBLE, YOU WILL FIND THAT IT IS NOT ANTI SEX. IT IS PRO-RESPONSIBILITY.

In biblical days many religions had Temole Prostitutes where followers of Pagan Divinities could pay to "have a religious experience." In modern terms the Priests were the pimps (or management) supporting themselves by taking a cut.

Judaism replaced this with animal sacrifice (or as we call it in TEXAS barbecue). The people fed and clothed the Temple Priests.

Being responsible if you could afford to a man could have multiple wives, those were permanent arrangements. He could also have multiple concubines, those were contracts of a set duration. Think of scripture as a blueprint for the UCC. It said what each party had to do. It could be altered a bit by mutual consent. But the Priests and Rabinnic Courts upheld the Scriptual (UCC) provisions in breach.

Haven't done it, but it does seem like there are a lot of ways to get in touch (pun intended) with women who will trade their time for a little compensation. Just wondering how Lit folks felt about the practice, in general.

You are buying thier time. Professionally I am a pilot. If want to fly that CRJ-900 parked at gate 12, I'll reply to your PM. But my text will be akin to having a cardboard cutout of Meryl Streep and having dinner with it.

All the same? All good? Always / never OK?

In a place where there are a lot of discussions about all things taboo, i don't see a ton of talk about cash, and what it does to us as perverts

I don't understand the term pervert used in this context. Desiring companionship and physical intimacy is intrinsically human. Denying that biological and psychological FACT is what is perverted.

I'm a woman. I wouldn't do it from either end. Don't even think I could realistically be a professional cuddler. I like sex too much.

For myself and my lovers sexual intimacy is amazing and deeply personal. In 50 years I have had that intimacy with six people, the same ones today as 20, 30, and 40 years ago.

But I don't apply my standards to others. (AND I AM NOT IMPLYING THAT YOU ARE- the Ops question WAS what are your thoughts. Your thoughts are valid and valuable to the discussion.)

Out HS XC coach told us "you make your own luck." Well, not completely, but a big part of it. I KNOW HOW LUCKY I HAVE BEEN.

Keep in mind that the term "escort" usually is a prostitute. Usually but not always.

I had a male friend who bragged about using prostitutes. He didn't use them for sex but he did have them do things to themselves.

It's a legalism, many, many places solicitation is illegal, or a civil code violation. Like blocking a street as a form of protest. But the sale of "personal services" (and I don't mean that as a euphamism, your second example doesnt seem different to me than watching a porno.

I don't get it. You can get this stuff for free. The type of person I see using this sort of services is not a person I'd want to be around. That's why I said I "had" a friend...

I can, and i know that i am lucky, my lovers will make love with me anytime anywhere that it is practical and safe to do so (yeah, that is redundant). But everyone isnt so lucky. My brother's wife is a marvelous cook (and tastes really good herself as well) but some folks burn cold cereal. Should they never enjoy a good meal? (Just my $0.02.)

Regarding the OP, I rather like the idea of my (probably inaccurate) understanding of Japanese hostess bars. You go in, hire girl to pour your drinks, tiitter at your jokes, smile a lot and sit affectionately with you.

In corporate circles those people wear business attire and are called Executive Vice Presidents.

Women get this stuff for free - men, even nice ones, not so much. Ask just about any man.

Nobody gets anything "for free," some people (IE an heiress) may have a hugely disproportional amount paid for by someone else, but everything is exchanged.

When we decided to be polyamorous we decided to follow the scriptual command to NEVER DENY OUR LOVERS ANYTHING WE COULD GIVE, that isn't free. But the labor is like building a cabin on the military crest of a mountain in the most beautiful place on earth. Your muscles may be sore but you look out and know that YOU DID THIS WONDERFUL THING.

 

[GuessImJamie]

I have time-for-money arrangements with my doctor, my lawyer, my masseur, and with the people who make and deliver my dinner on nights when I don't feel like cooking. And in the other direction, some folk are willing to pay me for my time, in stuff I'm good at, which is how I afford all those services in the first place.

If "companionship" is a skill that somebody values enough to pay for, and somebody else is willing to provide, then I don't see that as any different, regardless of whether there's a sexual element. It's not an arrangement that would be likely to work for me unless I had the budget to make it a regular thing, but that's just my personal preferences, not a moral judgement.

I couldn't agree more, but I add that not only is my statement not a moral judgement, I can cite widley held moral systems that agree with my assessment (and acknowledge there are those who hold opposite views.)

Perhaps the question should be, why do people view paid escorting/companionship so differently to all the other situations where "pay people for their time" is considered acceptable and unremarkable?

Oooh, oooh, oooh! Call on me, call on me! I KNOW THIS ONE. "What is our perverted societal insecurity and illogically retained rejection of sex?"

Rome conquered Judea, and brutally subjugated its inhabitants. A fatalistic philosophy emerged. That life on earth was so bad that salvation had to wait until death. Joy, raising a family, loving others and enjoying sex as believers were Biblically told to do was not seen as possible. Aestheticism became commonplace.

The Essene appealed to the poorest people in Judea. Yeshua bin Miriam, Jesus son of Mary, was in mortal life an Essene Rabbi. The Essene lived communally, called one another "Brother," and "Sister," and did not abstain from physically loving each other as scripture told them to. The 'Book of Essene' includes instructions on using lemon pulp as a contraceptive.

Procreation was Holy and a duty, but practice was desirable. The Apostle Paul in his 'Letters to the Galatians' said that married people should only abstain from sex with one another for short periods such as festivals lest they potentially look astray.

Asceticism became dominant after the State co-opted Christianity at Nicea in 325. Asceticis devoted to a hierarchical political order fared much better in the internecine blood baths that followed. Those who disagreed were put to the sword.

Point taken, but I think it's a bit more complex than that. Many friendships and relationships also have that kind of insincerity - when somebody tells a feeble joke, their buddies are more likely to smile and laugh than to say how much it sucked. And yet people still find those relationships valuable.

It's simply a matter of putting the interpersonal connection first. Wearing the dress your aunt sewed herself to school and telling anyone who made fun of it to go "Fuck Off." And then defiantly pointing out to the school's assistant principal that you were following the schools teachings to be assertive and not be swayed by peer pressure when called to the carpet.

It's listening to your cousins and older siblings who told you that if someone outside the family, who doesnt care about you and wanted to make fun of you. Someone who wanted you to change, not to improve at being you, well, then, you just didn't need them.

That would certainly be a consideration for me - I rarely even date somebody until I've known them for years. But some people find it easy to talk with complete strangers. It's weird and I can't understand it at all, but they do!

It makes perfect sense, the more connections required to achieve the desired bond the longer the process requires. I have known (not had sex with) my lovers since I was three ( three of them) five (four of them) and six years of age. It simply would not be possible for any of them to surprise me. We know, value and understand one another. I truly wish everyone were so happy. But I know that so many are not.

Actually that is the reason for this post.

This is so true.

In a previous life my only chance of sex was an escort. Most of visits were great. Some were not bad. I would find it difficult to say getting a BJ or laid was ever bad.

I learned from researching on forums like this for escorting how to choose the girls I wished to see. In general mature was better than hot and young.

JMO Girls mature like fine wines.The ones I love have.

A good measure of how good a date or visit was is when the girl made large discounts to see you again. When the rate is basically just covering the hotel room, you know it is pretty good sex for both.

Every business that I have been associated with where you deal with a "decision maker," that business had offered incentives and discounts for repeat business. Because it is easier to keep a good customer than to go find a replacement customer that will be equally as good.

Safe sex, discretion and references make all the difference.

Always practice safe sex. We like to tie our partners to the bed so they don't fall off. Don't laugh, I know someone who has (fallen off the bed).

The big difference between sex for money and sex for free is that sex for money usually costs a lot less.

Just as three "enchiladas verde" are cheaper off the a le carte menu than the dinner. But you dont get rice and beans and ensalate. Is it a fair trade off. That is a personal question. I love rice and beans and ensalate, but that is MY choice.

But you aren't actually paying them for their time. You are paying them for their skill and willingness to do xyz task. If you want a pro-domme, look at a local dungeon. Many of them would probably be willing to negotiate companionship.

It's a continuum. At the lower price end all you are paying for is thier time and willingness to perform. As the experience level rises the base line for time increases because it is more valuable. There is also an additional cost for expertise. The cost of having an expert on a particular computer system talk you through the solution is less expensive than having them come out and fix it. At the top you are only paying for experience as thier time is too valuble to waste traveling to you.

I know an Escort. Although she loves sex and picks out guys she is attracted to she does it for the money. Her clients are almost always well off, married for a long time and doesn't get sex from their wives for one reason or another.

I am a pilot, I love airplanes and flying. I am here typing this waiting for a return flight because I am getting paid to be here. The people who I flew here earlier, the ones who will get into my airplane and return later have money. They could all afford to fly here to this beautiful Island for a vacation. I do not believe that any of the wives have airplanes or pilots licences, so thier poor hubby's "have to pay for it."

Mostly hired for sex and /or companionship and travel to business functions out of city. DO NOT say have Pussy Will Travel unless you like getting slapped up side the head!

Many people have jobs that suck, where they are exposed to physical violence either by bosses, co-workers or clients. When I was sixteen years old the Federal US Government "hired" my brothers for eighteen months. Thier bosses yelled at them, hit them, and threatened to kill them. Then they were put on an airplane and flown to Da Nang, put on helicopters and flown to Khe Sahn.
Then they tromped around Laos while folks took shots at them and they shot back. They said the food pretty much sucked too.

All while that lying sack if shit in the White House. Sorry, the Second Lying Sack of Shit in the Oval Office, went on TV and said we didn't have ground troops in Laos. I guess someone gave the whole Regiment faulty maps. Fellow soldiers had to lie about thier service history to get treatment at the VA for years.

Actually thinking about it I have known several. (Escorts) One was simply to lazy to work a regular job...(sounds crackers to me.) She had several rich and powerful men around town as her clients. She was happy with her lifestyle.

There are so many jobs that are more dangerous, disgusting and degrading than sex-work. Making lead-acid batteries, slaughtering chickens, shoveling pig excrement, making fire works, being a legislative intern... The qualities of a job, the working conditions and the pay are a separate equally valid issue.

If you have to money...go for it! I do think you might find a better connection by making friends with a woman and helping her out from time to time if she needs it.

Legal too!

Laws vary by jurisdiction Where I live you can drive any vehicle without insurance or registration with an open container of domestically produced rum in the car. Well, if you are eighteen. Seventeen year-olds can't drive cars or trucks at all. And you can't import rum from elsewhere, although imported beer and whiskey are fine.

I grew up in West Texas. Every community there (including the Mission towns of San Angelo and San Antonio) had brothels before they had churches or schools.

 

[Subbalubbadubdub]

I'm a woman. I wouldn't do it from either end. Don't even think I could realistically be a professional cuddler. I like sex too much.

Keep in mind that the term "escort" usually is a prostitute. Usually but not always.

I had a male friend who bragged about using prostitutes. He didn't use them for sex but he did have them do things to themselves.

I don't get it. You can get this stuff for free. The type of person I see using this sort of services is not a person I'd want to be around. That's why I said I "had" a friend...

OK, i'm new here (virgin) and i've never really used a message board before, so i'm probably doing this wrong. I wasn't even following my own thread, so i didn't know i had replies!

I'm not sure i'd put cuddling in the same category as prostitution, but the stigma still intrigues me. I'm going to read through the rest of these, but thanks Jada for my first reply!

Also, i should mention that i've since met a Domme who calls Herself a "sex worker" and feels that this empowers Her. We've had some interesting discussions that i'd love to share when there's time.

 

[Subbalubbadubdub]

I'll bite...

Just wondering how Lit folks felt about the practice, in general.

Ok... so if I understand the question you are asking how people feel about giving or receiving companionship for compensation regardless of the title used.

I actually considered this at one point *shocking* It was very much outside of my ethical norm so I should explain. I rarely make it to the US, and one year I was there my husband and I were separated and I was in no relationship. I really wanted to get out for the short amount of time I was going to be there. I didn't want major strings, just to have some fun no sex involved. I didn't really feel the Tinder vibe as I havent heard great things about it, so I actually found an app that the whole premise was you were paid to go on a first date with the gentleman's agreement that both people were looking for a real relationship not a quickie. The money aspect was to make sure that both people were actually freaking coming, not just fucking around with people's time. I put up a profile and was requested 5 times in 1 day. 4 of them I had no intention of doing.... one dude I seriously seriously considered. He looked reasonable, included references, write quite a lot about himself, appeared intelligent and like he could hold up a conversation rather well. I ended up canceling before as I chickened out. i had wanted to meet in my small little town, and he wanted to meet me in the larger city. If he had done dinner at the small town I'd have gone. BTW the rate you set yourself, so I set it at $100 for dinner no going to anywhere private or anything like that. I kinda felt pretty damn good that 5 people were actually willing within 24 hours to pay to go out with me what an ego boost!

On the same trip my ethics were severely severely tested. The very next day I went out for a walk and was feeling pretty good. I love puppydogs and ended up finding a really adorable one to pet. The owner struck up a conversation with me and we walked and talked for HOURS. Ended up he was into pharmaceuticals and was in town taking care of his ailing father. He had just broken up with his long time girlfriend. It was dark before we knew it and he asked me to dinner. I accepted and we had a lovely dinner in town. He asked me back to his place... but I declined. In the process of everything lifestyle interests had come up and I found out that he was on the caps side of the slash. Soooooo when he went in to kiss me on the cheek and I hugged him he grabbed me by the back of the neck and whispered a rather serious proposition in my ear. .... one of the things he came to know is that I was trying to solve some financial issues for my mom on the fly.
I stopped for a few seconds weighed my honor and morality and whether I could live with myself and decided that I could not. so I thanked him kindly and we parted ways (yeah he had a Jaguar so I'm HIGHLY sure he was serious). He called me and asked me out later in the week but it didnt work out. So.... I know for myself, I will turn down a relatively insane sum of money even when it is needed for my honor. However, if we are talking about time and conversation... I enjoy both for free so if someone is going to pay me for it... why the heck not!

PS... you better bet when I got home I flipped open my computer to look dude up 99% expecting he was a scammer.... nope... oh no he was most certainly not. Tons of journal articles with his name and picture on them. No regrets though. Still a hell of an ego boost!

Great question.

littlebirdjoy - That was an amazing story! Thank You for sharing!

I once dated a woman who admitted (after a few dinks) that she had been an escort during college. She said that when she stopped, it was the ego boost she missed the most

I still can't wrap my head around the morality and taboo surrounding the exchange of money for companionship or even sex. It feels wrong on some level, but why is it treated like the one taboo/ kink that its actually OK to shame, even here in kink central? Why am I happy for you that you turned down an offer for a huge sum of money for a sexual encounter you probably would've really enjoyed (were it not for the guilt and shame)?

Again...great story!