Sexless Marriages

[ccs29745]

Yes and they just gave me an HRT implant 2 weeks ago and omg the testosterone has hit and let’s just say my Lit man has his hands full but he’s not complaining either!

No wonder I keep hearing someone yelling O CANADA on here.

 

[DDBustyBrit]

No wonder I keep hearing someone yelling O CANADA on here.

you win Lit comment of the day!

 

[professor28036]

Sexlessness is a 2 way street. Sometimes it's the woman sometimes the guy whether it be by choice, health, or unforeseen reasons.

Damn I sound like I know what I'm talking about.

Careful, you might even appear to know what you’re talking about. Damm...too late.

 

[SouthRidingHornyHusband]

Em.... You did notice that there are few women on this thread, right? There are few very sexually active married women on Lit as well. Active at home, not on the side.
I don't know who your friends are, but your generalization is waaay off.


Well, if you move to Northern Virginia, you WILL be the ONLY woman here who likes/wants sex.

 

[AnnieLit]

Well, if you move to Northern Virginia, you WILL be the ONLY woman here who likes/wants sex.

Northern Virginia that's by DC? I actually used to live there a looong time ago

Go to Ashley Madison site, open an account (it is free) and run search in your area for women over, say, 40. I am sure you will find quite a few there. Free account will not let you contact them, but at least you will see that they exist. Some of them (many? most?) will even be married and there is a chance that their husbands also think that they don't want any sex.

 

[barebunsbeachbum]

Yeah! Many women experience the girl abandonment for younger chicks after you loose your sex appeal, usually after having kids

For the man, he marries a woman who doesn't really enjoy sex, and does it as her duty, as the wife.After the children are born, she cuts him off; my mom was like that with my dad. they lasted 50 yrs.He died then w/heart attack; she lived to be 100! Never remarried.

For me, after she fired me, after 16 years, I have managed to write a few stories, still enjoying life, with many beautiful women after that up into my 80s, meeting some 25, 50, & 75, all having great times together. PM me to read

 

[Lost_Yonder]

Em.... You did notice that there are few women on this thread, right? There are few very sexually active married women on Lit as well. Active at home, not on the side.
I don't know who your friends are, but your generalization is waaay off.


Well, if you move to Northern Virginia, you WILL be the ONLY woman here who likes/wants sex.

Northern Virginia that's by DC? I actually used to live there a looong time ago

Go to Ashley Madison site, open an account (it is free) and run search in your area for women over, say, 40. I am sure you will find quite a few there. Free account will not let you contact them, but at least you will see that they exist. Some of them (many? most?) will even be married and there is a chance that their husbands also think that they don't want any sex.

Having used to live there and visit regularly NOVA and DC I can guarantee you there are plenty of women in the area interested in sex - married, single, young, old. Such sweeping broad statements, generalizations, and stereotypes are quite ridiculous, at best.

What is intriguing in many cases is that there are many husbands and wives who have no interest in sex with their spouse, but more than willing to have sex with others, though not everyone acts on it of course...

 

[DDBustyBrit]

I had the hardest time buying a valentine’s card for the SO today. All I’m doing at this point is keeping the status quo for awhile longer. None of the sentiments felt right... it was just a confirmation of what I already know... there is no future

Anyone else had the same struggle this week?

 

[Mr_BadExample]

I had the hardest time buying a valentine’s card for the SO today. All I’m doing at this point is keeping the status quo for awhile longer. None of the sentiments felt right... it was just a confirmation of what I already know... there is no future

Anyone else had the same struggle this week?

I know what you mean. Seems all the cards are written for the perfect relationship, and lord knows there's plenty of less-than-perfect ones out here. It's tough to find the card that says "I tolerate you and thanks for not killing me".

 

[Polranny]

I know what you mean. Seems all the cards are written for the perfect relationship, and lord knows there's plenty of less-than-perfect ones out here. It's tough to find the card that says "I tolerate you and thanks for not killing me".

I gave up,looking for meaningful Valentine years ago. To be honest I'd rather ignore it completely and buy a decent bunch of flowers at s reasonable price next week. Its not as though im on a promise.
I just remember my Dad's gesture when he bought mom a lorry load of gravel for the drive. A true romantic!

 

[DDBustyBrit]

I know what you mean. Seems all the cards are written for the perfect relationship, and lord knows there's plenty of less-than-perfect ones out here. It's tough to find the card that says "I tolerate you and thanks for not killing me".

Precisely

I don’t wake up to his face as separate bedrooms, I know I’m not going to be here forever, he doesn’t hold my hand anymore, about the only things I could go with that I could live with were best friend (a stretch) and love you (I do but not in that way)... I did however see plenty of cards I could have given to Canada!

I got home tonight and we barely spoke for 90 mins

 

[Polranny]

Precisely

I don’t wake up to his face as separate bedrooms, I know I’m not going to be here forever, he doesn’t hold my hand anymore, about the only things I could go with that I could live with were best friend (a stretch) and love you (I do but not in that way)... I did however see plenty of cards I could have given to Canada!

I got home tonight and we barely spoke for 90 mins

******** duplicated

 

[Polranny]

Precisely

I don’t wake up to his face as separate bedrooms, I know I’m not going to be here forever, he doesn’t hold my hand anymore, about the only things I could go with that I could live with were best friend (a stretch) and love you (I do but not in that way)... I did however see plenty of cards I could have given to Canada!

I got home tonight and we barely spoke for 90 mins

Separate rooms when possible ( worst thing about family or friends coming to stay) I'm probably as much at fault as she is. She has spent last couple of days in bed and I've kept myself busy downstairs. Yes I make sure shes fed and watered but we're in the usual cleft stick as far as separation is concerned.

 

[IASFPWTF]

I had the hardest time buying a valentine’s card for the SO today. All I’m doing at this point is keeping the status quo for awhile longer. None of the sentiments felt right... it was just a confirmation of what I already know... there is no future

Anyone else had the same struggle this week?

I know what you mean. I couldn't find one that said I sure wish you would turn loose and fuck my brains out please? lol

 

[Hockeydude1985]

I had the hardest time buying a valentine’s card for the SO today. All I’m doing at this point is keeping the status quo for awhile longer. None of the sentiments felt right... it was just a confirmation of what I already know... there is no future

Anyone else had the same struggle this week?

Yeah, definitely having this struggle now. We had a discussion a few weeks ago where she said she has no desire to spend time with me anymore. She said that we would only be doing something on Valentine's day as friends so I said don't bother then.

The desire is no longer there, she doesn't want it at all so I'm supposed to be happy if I get any.....

 

[borock44]

Happy Valentine anyway

I'm new here and certainly feel for everyone who's suffering in these very difficult twisted relationship.i somehow wish i could fine enough positive words or solutions .I've truly felt all the things this blog has covered,from the emptiness,feeling trapped ,feeling confused as to why are things this way when the started out so different.the unbearable loneliness with the person you love sharing the same atmosphere with you.At the age of 43 and after 20 yrs of marriage and the last of those several yrs being almost sexless we managed 6 kids.which was another road block within it self.At 43 a divorce was the last thing i wanted despite my misery,hell my youngest daughter was a newborn and my other youngest 2 sons were 3 and 5 .i would have suffered trough it for them .but she wanted the divorce,her reason was she was tired of being married at least that's what i was told to work with...

After begging for months i surrendered but i vowed to myself after that relationship i refused to ever be treated that way again.I was 43 and was able to find someone that we're equally yolked about life,sex,and the importance of balance in every aspect of our partnership,with that being said ,we place very few limits to what we're willing to do for the happiness even if that means sharing our sexuality with other people.we are so brutally honest with each other and we refused to live in a fairy tale type lifestyle that suggest 1 pair of shoes work in every situation .rather we practice those options all the time is less important to knowing we have that option in the event for any reason we can't or refuse to take our part of our responsibilities to our partners sexuality.In my mind no one has the right to deny under any circumstance. and for any men having problems performing message i have possible solutions.i can go on and on.but all im saying no matter how small the window of opportunity seems .there is always hope.so i hope everyone here has a great weekend.
kirk

 

[ccs29745]

I had the hardest time buying a valentine’s card for the SO today. All I’m doing at this point is keeping the status quo for awhile longer. None of the sentiments felt right... it was just a confirmation of what I already know... there is no future

Anyone else had the same struggle this week?

Yep. Thought about a card, but it gets thrown away in couple weeks. Thought about chocolate, but she fuss about weight gain. Sp I spent 250 bucks on flowers. No thank you or I liked them or they're lovely. Just got " unusual color selection" I went with stargazer lilies, roses and some other flowers instead of all red. Least I got to have lunch with jet and daughter.

Happy valentine's day everyone!

 

[Vitriolhack]

Yep. Thought about a card, but it gets thrown away in couple weeks. Thought about chocolate, but she fuss about weight gain. Sp I spent 250 bucks on flowers. No thank you or I liked them or they're lovely. Just got " unusual color selection" I went with stargazer lilies, roses and some other flowers instead of all red. Least I got to have lunch with jet and daughter.

Happy valentine's day everyone!

I opted for chocolates!

 

[DDBustyBrit]

I was 43 and was able to find someone that we're equally yolked about life,sex,and the importance of balance in every aspect of our partnership,with that being said ,we place very few limits to what we're willing to do for the happiness even if that means sharing our sexuality with other people.we are so brutally honest with each other and we refused to live in a fairy tale type lifestyle that suggest 1 pair of shoes work in every situation .rather we practice those options all the time is less important to knowing we have that option in the event for any reason we can't or refuse to take our part of our responsibilities to our partners sexuality.In my mind no one has the right to deny under any circumstance. and for any men having problems performing message i have possible solutions.i can go on and on.but all im saying no matter how small the window of opportunity seems .there is always hope.so i hope everyone here has a great weekend.
kirk

First of all so sorry for what you went through but it’s great you have found a new healthier relationship.

What you describe above is literally exactly what brought Canada & I together. We are planning for a life just like this together in a few years from now. I think we all learn from our experiences & we both have a very clear, congruent vision of our relationship, it’s why we both think it’s likely we will make it...

Thanks for joining us and giving hope

 

[LaidBackInToronto]

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[sally_sparrow]

I had the hardest time buying a valentine’s card for the SO today. All I’m doing at this point is keeping the status quo for awhile longer. None of the sentiments felt right... it was just a confirmation of what I already know... there is no future

Anyone else had the same struggle this week?

Yes. Today has been an extremely rough day.

 

[borock44]

Thank you DDBustyBrit for your kind words despite the cost i paid it was definitely the right decision for me.I'm sure with the outlook you have on life and lessons learned and as the shawshank redemption quote says crawled through shit only to come out on the other side clean,you will make Brit You will make it.

 

[ccs29745]

Yes. Today has been an extremely rough day.

Sorry you had rough day. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you and everyone else in here.

 

[Polranny]

Sorry you had rough day. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you and everyone else in here.

We get by, folks, we get by

 

[AnnieLit]

There are some excellent brothels in Nevada.

I am sure there are excellent escorts all over the country. How does this help anybody with feeling wanted? With feeling that you bring great joy to your partner?