Date night... what excuses have u heard or made...
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Noor
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If fresh sheets is your idea of an invite, I can see you didn't get acceptance.
Your statement sounds more like you didn't usually have fresh sheets on your bed and while it maybe enticing to you to have sex with someone because you fresh sheets, most women don't respond that way.
Your statement sounds more like you didn't usually have fresh sheets on your bed and while it maybe enticing to you to have sex with someone because you fresh sheets, most women don't respond that way.
Thank you for pointing out I didn’t communicate my idea very well.
If I planned to invite a date home the apartment would be super clean... so my example was a fail!
One side of my bed is piled with laundry...
He actually said that to me! Throw that shit on the floor!
And you did? So the night was a successful date night.
Wild_Honey_66
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Do grown ass people really make excuses? But whyyy? 
I've never given or gotten an excuse. One or the other of us has just said we weren't feeling the love and thank you for the nice evening and that was it.
I've never given or gotten an excuse. One or the other of us has just said we weren't feeling the love and thank you for the nice evening and that was it.
Do grown ass people really make excuses? But whyyy?
I've never given or gotten an excuse. One or the other of us has just said we weren't feeling the love and thank you for the nice evening and that was it.
Thats clear... the guy that started this thread is a fool.
Some women won't give out until there have been many dates... I give up on them after 2... life can be difficult enough without having to work really hard after hours.
Wild_Honey_66
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By 'give out' do you mean 'put out'? The advice i was given the last time i started dating someone new was to not 'give up the cookie' for at least three months, which i think is reasonable.
Are you saying that having to wait more than two dates for sex constitutes having to 'work hard'?
Yes that's spot on... guess it doesn't say much about my character. I'm tall with olive skin and get plenty of attention from women, even if I'm out on a date with a nice looking woman.
I have had 2 X 15yr relationships so I do understand commitment... but I also value freedom and living life to the fullest.
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In other words, you're not really interested in most women as PEOPLE who are worth the time to get to know, only as sex providers. Got it.
In other words, you're not really interested in most women as PEOPLE who are worth the time to get to know, only as sex providers. Got it.
Interesting, haven't thought of that view point... have many women friends and they are real people and treated with respect... but maybe they just see me as a Dick.
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If someone invited me home on a second date, I would ask them to be very clear about their intentions. If it’s to relax, talk somewhere quieter, check out their new puppy/kitten/games console - I would consider it. Otherwise, I feel that is moving too fast. If it’s someone who was new in my life, that would be way too soon. That seems like a “one and done” situation. If it was a close friend that had evolved into something more, it may be slightly different, but there would be more communication in that case. I don’t feel like two dates is long enough to really know someone, and though sex is fun, I don’t see it as a sport, such as tennis or football. For me, it’s about taking something that’s already special to another level of intimacy.
I once worked with a guy for a year, and he kept trying to get me to go home with him. We didn’t hang out socially, so I was uncomfortable and kept saying no. I had two jobs at the time, so he kept turning up to my other job and trying to get me to leave with him. Eventually he tricked me “I just want to talk - let’s go to McDonald’s”. Then we get to McDonald’s and it’s “actually I fancy pizza, it’s just a little further” so we walk for ten minutes, and suddenly he says “oh, this is where I live! You might as well come inside!” I seriously hesitated, made him promise no advances, and spent the whole time playing on his games console. And I never went back. Someone who has to involve trickery to get what he wants, isn’t someone I need around.
I once worked with a guy for a year, and he kept trying to get me to go home with him. We didn’t hang out socially, so I was uncomfortable and kept saying no. I had two jobs at the time, so he kept turning up to my other job and trying to get me to leave with him. Eventually he tricked me “I just want to talk - let’s go to McDonald’s”. Then we get to McDonald’s and it’s “actually I fancy pizza, it’s just a little further” so we walk for ten minutes, and suddenly he says “oh, this is where I live! You might as well come inside!” I seriously hesitated, made him promise no advances, and spent the whole time playing on his games console. And I never went back. Someone who has to involve trickery to get what he wants, isn’t someone I need around.
Thanks for sharing LikeableMe.
I don't know if I like the sound of the trick guy.
I guess I've had way more good dates than bad as I don't send mixed messages nor it my goal just to get a women out of her clothes... by putting her needs in front of my own and being a relaxed guy to be around sex often happens.
I don't know if I like the sound of the trick guy.
I guess I've had way more good dates than bad as I don't send mixed messages nor it my goal just to get a women out of her clothes... by putting her needs in front of my own and being a relaxed guy to be around sex often happens.
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In other words, you're not really interested in most women as PEOPLE who are worth the time to get to know, only as sex providers. Got it.
I look at it differently. I'm an adult. I know myself and I've been around long enough to know what I want. I'm not in a dating situation but I can say that if I was and I felt like I was clicking with someone, I would expect intimacy well before 3 months (unless we were seeing each other once a month).
I just feel like I'm experienced enough to know what interests me and I think I can figure that out fairly quickly. I think putting it off and building up sex for that long puts too much pressure/emphasis on sex. Everyone has different views. I can respect yours. Why can't you respect others? Why do you have to label it and make it a negative?
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My view is it is and should be organic. Treat each situation as it comes. If I'm unsure how I feel, I'm not going to jump in and sleep with someone because that says something about how I feel.
For me, the conquest days are long in my rear view. I'm in my early 50s and I don't want to invest months courting someone only to find out we aren't compatible in the bedroom. That's kinda high on my relationship priority list.
For me, the conquest days are long in my rear view. I'm in my early 50s and I don't want to invest months courting someone only to find out we aren't compatible in the bedroom. That's kinda high on my relationship priority list.
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Sounds to me like you say you respect her views right before you criticize them as wrongheaded because they differ from yours.
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I know. All these "no means no" bitches.
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My dates dont give me excuses they just say peace out because we’ve run up their husband’s credit card.
Mr_bogey
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Sorry if it came off that way. I was presenting a different view and merely saying that wouldn't work for me.
Mr bogey, you are young like me... I was born in 68. I know what I want in life, and usually similar thinking women cross my path.
Some people are in our lives for a week, others it maybe 6 months or 15 yrs.
Noor
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I’m one of those people who doesn’t kiss on the first date unless I know the person very very well. It’s nothing personal. I need time to get used to being physically around the other person, I need to be used to their smell and I need to know that they get my constraints enough not to put my life in danger.
I love sex, but I need to be careful, I have no choice.
I’m allergic and I react to a lot of things, if a person ingested an allergen ( food or medicine) , I can go into shock. So I’m fairly slow to Become sexual with someone and even more slow to do things where I share Bodily fluids. I have had some long-term lovers that I never kissed or had oral with because it just wasn’t safe for me. We were both fine with that.
I also can have reactions from getting too hot, too cold, coming to hard, the soap residue on my lover’s skin, the lube on a condom... because it’s Tuesday or whatever my mast cells decide is a threat and attack. I premedicate before sex and I always have an EpiPen within reach.
What’s always amazed me is the guys don’t care, they’ll wait, They’ll change their laundry detergent, their soap And so on. I’m probably self-selecting, But it’s been my experience the guys will do pretty much anything if that is what’s needed.
The thing is that I am not alone in this, it’s possible that up-to 15% of the population has what I have to varying degrees.
I love sex, but I need to be careful, I have no choice.
I’m allergic and I react to a lot of things, if a person ingested an allergen ( food or medicine) , I can go into shock. So I’m fairly slow to Become sexual with someone and even more slow to do things where I share Bodily fluids. I have had some long-term lovers that I never kissed or had oral with because it just wasn’t safe for me. We were both fine with that.
I also can have reactions from getting too hot, too cold, coming to hard, the soap residue on my lover’s skin, the lube on a condom... because it’s Tuesday or whatever my mast cells decide is a threat and attack. I premedicate before sex and I always have an EpiPen within reach.
What’s always amazed me is the guys don’t care, they’ll wait, They’ll change their laundry detergent, their soap And so on. I’m probably self-selecting, But it’s been my experience the guys will do pretty much anything if that is what’s needed.
The thing is that I am not alone in this, it’s possible that up-to 15% of the population has what I have to varying degrees.
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Now you've made me want popcorn!
