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catastrophe
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I'm not very good at paying attention to people. It's almost guaranteed.
If you aren't my partner, my child or a family member you are pretty much invisible to me.
My missus and my child get most of my attention. So much so, that I am learning to step away, and let them come to me instead of the other way around.
Other people, however.
I don't like to get involved too much. In other people's lives because, well...who the fuck am I? I'm not good at life or advice. People say otherwise but I don't feel like I am. I'm not the best listener and half the time I don't even know what the hell people are on about.
For example.
There's a woman at work in her late 20s. I've known of her for maybe 3 years. She has twins, I know that. Bit of a gross reputation for sleeping with men at work. I'm the last to find out about these things and I don't really care. Do your job. It's work.
Anyway, after a few years of work we chat and she tells me a bit about herself and her kids. We're kinda friendly, but not friends, if that makes sense. Sometimes I wonder why she's so friendly with me but then I'm too busy.
This is not going to be some lesbian fodder if that's what you're thinking.
Anyway, one afternoon we finish at the same time and both had a free afternoon so we have coffee at my house. We sit we talk, the missus comes home before heading out again, a brief introduction.
And this woman. She starts spilling all this stuff to me about her life. Her financial situation, her stance on immunisation blah blah. She doesn't have many friends, she's not doing anything for new years etc etc.
Sometimes she texts and sends pictures of what she's doing but I'm kinda avoiding her. I'm not sure what she wants from me. Like, I'm not really friends with anyone at work. Maybe one or two I'm friends with and that's it.
A few months later the messages have stopped, I rarely see her at work because I've decided to cut down to 3 days a week and I'm kinda relieved.
Am I a cunt? I dunno man I just don't want to be involved.
If you aren't my partner, my child or a family member you are pretty much invisible to me.
My missus and my child get most of my attention. So much so, that I am learning to step away, and let them come to me instead of the other way around.
Other people, however.
I don't like to get involved too much. In other people's lives because, well...who the fuck am I? I'm not good at life or advice. People say otherwise but I don't feel like I am. I'm not the best listener and half the time I don't even know what the hell people are on about.
For example.
There's a woman at work in her late 20s. I've known of her for maybe 3 years. She has twins, I know that. Bit of a gross reputation for sleeping with men at work. I'm the last to find out about these things and I don't really care. Do your job. It's work.
Anyway, after a few years of work we chat and she tells me a bit about herself and her kids. We're kinda friendly, but not friends, if that makes sense. Sometimes I wonder why she's so friendly with me but then I'm too busy.
This is not going to be some lesbian fodder if that's what you're thinking.
Anyway, one afternoon we finish at the same time and both had a free afternoon so we have coffee at my house. We sit we talk, the missus comes home before heading out again, a brief introduction.
And this woman. She starts spilling all this stuff to me about her life. Her financial situation, her stance on immunisation blah blah. She doesn't have many friends, she's not doing anything for new years etc etc.
Sometimes she texts and sends pictures of what she's doing but I'm kinda avoiding her. I'm not sure what she wants from me. Like, I'm not really friends with anyone at work. Maybe one or two I'm friends with and that's it.
A few months later the messages have stopped, I rarely see her at work because I've decided to cut down to 3 days a week and I'm kinda relieved.
Am I a cunt? I dunno man I just don't want to be involved.
