Sexless Marriages

[Mtnmike]

It's been a very, very long time now... not my choice. But he's a wonderful husband in every other way, including showing non-sexual affection, and I love him very much. As I grow older, I am very appreciative of what I have.

If you're happy that's all one could ask for.

 

[Polranny]

Off on hols, first in 12 years but no likelihood of a leg over , sadly, but I live in hope..

 

[Elite_Goblin]

Things have been scarce on my side of the world.

After refusing an oral sex request over 3 weeks ago, then having the ‚normal‘ sex interuppted and not finished...i just stopped initiating sex and wanted to see where it would lead.

So, over 3 weeks later, nothing. I don‘t care about it right now. The rejections are not worth the effort.
So, I just look forward to going to sleep at the end of another unfullfilled day.
(Yawn) is it bedtime yet?

 

[Mtnmike]

Things have been scarce on my side of the world.

After refusing an oral sex request over 3 weeks ago, then having the ‚normal‘ sex interuppted and not finished...i just stopped initiating sex and wanted to see where it would lead.

So, over 3 weeks later, nothing. I don‘t care about it right now. The rejections are not worth the effort.
So, I just look forward to going to sleep at the end of another unfullfilled day.
(Yawn) is it bedtime yet?

A similar thing happened to me, over 10 years ago. Like you I quit initiating, quit caring and nothing ever happened again. Honestly if she offered now I would not touch her, just quit caring.

 

[ccs29745]

We had a talk a few weekends ago and she basically said she doesn't want to spend time with me anymore and her feelings are less and less. Still in shock over it to say the least...

Sorry to hear. Hope there's someway to recover.

 

[Elite_Goblin]

A similar thing happened to me, over 10 years ago. Like you I quit initiating, quit caring and nothing ever happened again. Honestly if she offered now I would not touch her, just quit caring.

I am pretty sure she would go for it (normal, missionary sex) if I initiated it, but never 100% sure. Then there is always the question, can I touch her breasts or not this time? Can we have at least some foreplay or not? (likely not)
She will sometimes say how we just need some time. But, when I try to get our son to bed, she is the one that lets him stay up an hour later. Then she has some cleaning to do or something like that. Those chores could have been done while I was playing with our son in the evening. Not long ago, we actually had some evening time. But she brought her phone to bed with her, so she could watch youtube videos for a few minutes. Well, I fell asleep before those 'few' minutes were up.

I am just rolling my own way for now and not worrying about it. I had been wanting my nipples pierced, so I got that done over 3 weeks ago. (yay!) Of course, she has yet to notice. (...and will not like it) I am also letting my hair grow out some. I have been wanting it longer for some time now, but she heckles me if she thinks it is too long.

It is finally workout season for me now and I just got over bronchitis, so my mind and body will have enough things to occupy myself without having to bother her and her sainthood.

 

[Mtnmike]

I am pretty sure she would go for it (normal, missionary sex) if I initiated it, but never 100% sure. Then there is always the question, can I touch her breasts or not this time? Can we have at least some foreplay or not? (likely not)
She will sometimes say how we just need some time. But, when I try to get our son to bed, she is the one that lets him stay up an hour later. Then she has some cleaning to do or something like that. Those chores could have been done while I was playing with our son in the evening. Not long ago, we actually had some evening time. But she brought her phone to bed with her, so she could watch youtube videos for a few minutes. Well, I fell asleep before those 'few' minutes were up.

I am just rolling my own way for now and not worrying about it. I had been wanting my nipples pierced, so I got that done over 3 weeks ago. (yay!) Of course, she has yet to notice. (...and will not like it) I am also letting my hair grow out some. I have been wanting it longer for some time now, but she heckles me if she thinks it is too long.

It is finally workout season for me now and I just got over bronchitis, so my mind and body will have enough things to occupy myself without having to bother her and her sainthood.

Yeah, your situation and mine sound almost identical lol. Didn't pierce my nipples lol but last year I started keeping my pubic area closely trimmed, which she hates and like you she hasn't even notice.

 

[professor28036]

Where is that?

Whistle Britches is right near the Willow Bend Mall. Their slogan is “chicken, biscuits, and beer.”

 

[ccs29745]

Whistle Britches is right near the Willow Bend Mall. Their slogan is “chicken, biscuits,

Chicken, biscuits, and beer sound pretty good.

 

[Polranny]

On hols and life remains uneventful.

 

[Elite_Goblin]

Yeah, your situation and mine sound almost identical lol. Didn't pierce my nipples lol but last year I started keeping my pubic area closely trimmed, which she hates and like you she hasn't even notice.

Yea. I bought an IPL (laser hair remover). Been using it since before Christmas. Works very well. I am very neat and trim (and smooth). But she has not noticed that either. I also wear string bikini underwear often. That too she has not noticed.

That is OK, as all those things make me feel good. Can't wait for it to get warmer! Ready to tan!

 

[WatchedBeth]

poor guys

while the cats away the mice will play...couples need to have regular sex to keep it interesting.

 

[Mtnmike]

while the cats away the mice will play...couples need to have regular sex to keep it interesting.

I whole heartedly agree but when the other has no interest, you're just screwed, pun intended

 

[Lust4CurvyGirl]

I'm new here to the Forum but have been reading the stories for about 2 years now, I've been with my wife for 17 years and been married for 13 but I'm in the same position as these other guys constantly getting no!!! when I suggest sex not being able to even bring up our sex life to talk without causing a huge argument, and if I try to touch her between her legs or on her chest my hand immediately gets pushed away. I don't want to cheat but I fear that's where its headed. So since I'm extremely turned on by curvy or Big beautiful women I figure if I can find a curvy girl willing to sext or erotic chat maybe I can fill the need that way. If your a curvy girl who wants to help me out PM. Me Or find a curvy girl into watching guys pleasure themselves or mutually masturbating with someone, and she happens to live in my area Spokane, Wa. And is willing to discreetly meet up when I can. Who wanna give it a shot p.m. me. Hopefully we can help each other out cause my wife isn't interested anymore and porn and erotic Story's are barely working

 

[Elite_Goblin]

Well, I don't have to worry about keeping my nipple piercings secret anymore...

This morning, it finally happened. She got out of the shower while I was having coffee, and with a towel draped around her, asked if I wanted to come upstairs. I asked if that is what she also wanted, but did not get an enthusiastic answer. It was awkward having no sex for 4 weeks, so I went upstairs.

Without asking, I just went down on her. She was very sensitive, but I took my time, and followed her body's lead. Once she was satisfied, it was my turn. She went down on me and was down for awhile too. All good. Asked if she wanted the cum in her mouth or body (I already knew that answer, but I just wanted to ask it aloud.) She said body, so we switched positions and got busy.

Then she noticed my nipple piercings. She made a small comment, 'you just had to get them done'. But that was it. Not so bad. Then I saw it was like turning off a light switch. She just shutdown. I asked if she had enough and she said she did not care. That was enough for me. No more. Stopped and got dressed. An expected arguement.

In the end, we had coffee together, and made small talk. Exchanged hugs before she went to work. I am sure it isn't over. She will be turning it over and over in her mind today. But that is just how it is.

So I wonder if I need to wait another 4 weeks? Have no clue. At least she knows what is under my shirt now!

 

[Vitriolhack]

Well, I don't have to worry about keeping my nipple piercings secret anymore...

This morning, it finally happened. She got out of the shower while I was having coffee, and with a towel draped around her, asked if I wanted to come upstairs. I asked if that is what she also wanted, but did not get an enthusiastic answer. It was awkward having no sex for 4 weeks, so I went upstairs.

Without asking, I just went down on her. She was very sensitive, but I took my time, and followed her body's lead. Once she was satisfied, it was my turn. She went down on me and was down for awhile too. All good. Asked if she wanted the cum in her mouth or body (I already knew that answer, but I just wanted to ask it aloud.) She said body, so we switched positions and got busy.

Then she noticed my nipple piercings. She made a small comment, 'you just had to get them done'. But that was it. Not so bad. Then I saw it was like turning off a light switch. She just shutdown. I asked if she had enough and she said she did not care. That was enough for me. No more. Stopped and got dressed. An expected arguement.

In the end, we had coffee together, and made small talk. Exchanged hugs before she went to work. I am sure it isn't over. She will be turning it over and over in her mind today. But that is just how it is.

So I wonder if I need to wait another 4 weeks? Have no clue. At least she knows what is under my shirt now!

I am assuming you got the nipple piercings because you enjoy it; and that is fine. Is a part of you disappointed that she does not approve?

What would you have wished her response to be?

Your description of love making sound very mechanical. Is that always the case? Have you talked to her about it? It is absolutely normal to have different expectations. Perhaps there is something she likes that you don’t and vice versa.

Hope you feel better,
V.

 

[KeenVoyeur]

while the cats away the mice will play...couples need to have regular sex to keep it interesting.

My wife imposed the sex ban - although it was my fault … but if given the opportunity, all that she would achieve by it would be to drive me into the arms (and other more interesting places) of another woman!

I travel a lot on business and spend many a lonely night in a soul-less hotel room and if there was a chance I could hook up with a lady for some no-strings fun then I'd be quite happy no to worry about my wife!

 

[Mtnmike]

My wife imposed the sex ban - although it was my fault … but if given the opportunity, all that she would achieve by it would be to drive me into the arms (and other more interesting places) of another woman!

I travel a lot on business and spend many a lonely night in a soul-less hotel room and if there was a chance I could hook up with a lady for some no-strings fun then I'd be quite happy no to worry about my wife!

Wait, What. She's not putting out then puts a ban on sex? This doesn't compute

 

[ccs29745]

Well, I don't have to worry about keeping my nipple piercings secret anymore...

This morning, it finally happened. She got out of the shower while I was having coffee, and with a towel draped around her, asked if I wanted to come upstairs. I asked if that is what she also wanted, but did not get an enthusiastic answer. It was awkward having no sex for 4 weeks, so I went upstairs.

Without asking, I just went down on her. She was very sensitive, but I took my time, and followed her body's lead. Once she was satisfied, it was my turn. She went down on me and was down for awhile too. All good. Asked if she wanted the cum in her mouth or body (I already knew that answer, but I just wanted to ask it aloud.) She said body, so we switched positions and got busy.

Then she noticed my nipple piercings. She made a small comment, 'you just had to get them done'. But that was it. Not so bad. Then I saw it was like turning off a light switch. She just shutdown. I asked if she had enough and she said she did not care. That was enough for me. No more. Stopped and got dressed. An expected arguement.

In the end, we had coffee together, and made small talk. Exchanged hugs before she went to work. I am sure it isn't over. She will be turning it over and over in her mind today. But that is just how it is.

So I wonder if I need to wait another 4 weeks? Have no clue. At least she knows what is under my shirt now!

Not sure I could get up ther stairs fast enough. If she wad downstairs, think I'd just take her where she stood.

Hopefully you won't have to wait another 4 weeks.

 

[10169kek]

Yay!

Happy to inform all that a drought lasting years ended last week.

A most satisfying session. To my surprise, she initiated.

Happy also that she complimented me on my, uh, performance.

We're planning a few more getaway short vacations this year. I can already feel my spirits, uh, rising....

So I guess it's time for me to say goodbye to this thread.

If you're a woman - and only if you're a woman- I'll be happy to discuss more with you over PMs.

Glad someone finally got some, still on my dry spell going on 9 years.

 

[IASFPWTF]

Whistle Britches is right near the Willow Bend Mall. Their slogan is “chicken, biscuits, and beer.”

Nice slogan...be better if it was breasts, thighs, and beer

 

[ccs29745]

Well, I don't have to worry about keeping my nipple piercings secret anymore...

This morning, it finally happened. She got out of the shower while I was having coffee, and with a towel draped around her, asked if I wanted to come upstairs. I asked if that is what she also wanted, but did not get an enthusiastic answer. It was awkward having no sex for 4 weeks, so I went upstairs.

Without asking, I just went down on her. She was very sensitive, but I took my time, and followed her body's lead. Once she was satisfied, it was my turn. She went down on me and was down for awhile too. All good. Asked if she wanted the cum in her mouth or body (I already knew that answer, but I just wanted to ask it aloud.) She said body, so we switched positions and got busy.

Then she noticed my nipple piercings. She made a small comment, 'you just had to get them done'. But that was it. Not so bad. Then I saw it was like turning off a light switch. She just shutdown. I asked if she had enough and she said she did not care. That was enough for me. No more. Stopped and got dressed. An expected arguement.

In the end, we had coffee together, and made small talk. Exchanged hugs before she went to work. I am sure it isn't over. She will be turning it over and over in her mind today. But that is just how it is.

So I wonder if I need to wait another 4 weeks? Have no clue. At least she knows what is under my shirt now!

Nice slogan...be better if it was breasts, thighs, and beer

Breasts, thighs, and cream pies

 

[DDBustyBrit]

Hello sexless family

I missed y’all but I’m now happy to be back after an extended vacation...

Nothing has changed at home for me, but Canada & I go from strength to strength and are into our 6th month

Time flies when you’re having fun & we do

 

[Polranny]

Hello sexless family

I missed y’all but I’m now happy to be back after an extended vacation...

Nothing has changed at home for me, but Canada & I go from strength to strength and are into our 6th month

Time flies when you’re having fun & we do

Good to see you back, DD - You know we've missed you but don't rush things just for our sakes

 

[DDBustyBrit]

Good to see you back, DD - You know we've missed you but don't rush things just for our sakes

Thanks but don’t worry I’m here for me nobody else