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Midagewfe

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Hi I’m thinking of giving my hubby a surprise . For years hubby has had the fantasy of watching me with a much younger guy, it’s his favorite fantasy. For years when we talk dirty that has been the subject lol. After 30 years of marriage I finally feel secure enough to make it a reality without worrying about it harming our relationship. But I’m uncertain on how much of the details that we talk about I should make a reality for example how young of a guy I should consider in reality. What we talk about in fantasy may be too taboo for reality lol . Have any other ladies done anything like this ? Was it a success or something you regretted ?
 
I'll be fascinated to see what kind of responses you get to this and any feedback you'd care to share afterwards, since this has also been a very long-standing fantasy between my wife and I :) Good luck!!
 
Hi I’m thinking of giving my hubby a surprise . For years hubby has had the fantasy of watching me with a much younger guy, it’s his favorite fantasy. For years when we talk dirty that has been the subject lol. After 30 years of marriage I finally feel secure enough to make it a reality without worrying about it harming our relationship. But I’m uncertain on how much of the details that we talk about I should make a reality for example how young of a guy I should consider in reality. What we talk about in fantasy may be too taboo for reality lol . Have any other ladies done anything like this ? Was it a success or something you regretted ?

Welcome to Lit.
I see that this is your first post. So far, no young men volunteers. That may change.

I would counsel against making it a surprise. It is one thing to use it as a fantasy that turns both of you on. He may even have talked convincingly about doing it, because he was sure you would not go along. But before doing this in real life, I think you should tell him that you are willing to do it for his entertainment, but only if he really wants you to. No matter how secure you are, this may be a shock to him.
 
I would say, after 30 years of marriage you know him and his desires.
But instead of going for a surprise, discuss and take a consent from him. Rdo let us know your experience.
 
You know your man better, but take into consideration that the distance between fantasies and reality is sometimes a thin line, while some other times an abbyss. There is always a risk factor in this kind of initiatives. My opinion is that you 'd better ask and, if he really wants it, plan it together.
 
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You know your man better, but take into consideration that the distance between fantasies and reality is sometimes a thin line, while some other times an abbyss. There is always a risk factor in this kind of initiatives. My opinion is that you 'd better ask and, if he really wants it, plan it together.


Very good advice. I would also add, the younger the guy, the less discrete he may be.
 
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There is some very sage advice above, and it all seems to add up to the idea you should discuss this with him in advance.
 
I would recommend ‘surprising him’ by telling him that you are open to making the fantasy a reality, and finding the right person together, if he would legitimately like to see it happen.

I would not recommend ‘surprising him’ by having him walk in on you getting busy with the stock boy from the Piggly Wiggly in your marital bed. There’s a whole lot of potential for that to go badly.

I’ve not been in your exact situation, but I might be able to offer some related insight if you’d like to pm me.
 
I would recommend ‘surprising him’ by telling him that you are open to making the fantasy a reality, and finding the right person together, if he would legitimately like to see it happen.

I would not recommend ‘surprising him’ by having him walk in on you getting busy with the stock boy from the Piggly Wiggly in your marital bed. There’s a whole lot of potential for that to go badly.

I’ve not been in your exact situation, but I might be able to offer some related insight if you’d like to pm me.

What she said. Do it together if you’re going to do this!
 
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