Sexless Marriages
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Today on the way to family celebrations, I made a really good beginning with my wife. She reached over while I was driving to rub my penis, and that got us talking about sex. I asked her about her favorite xmas sexual fantasy (which doesn't really have anything to do with xmas obviously) and she mentioned having sex before a lit fire. She asked me and I mentioned that I would love to be over-stimulated by lying on a table and having multiple hands and mouths touch me sexually. She then said that it was important to her that I was happy and that it would be ok if we had different ways of reaching that happiness. Basically that she didn't want to hold me back with regrets. We talked more about what we could do together and how we could better communicate about sex. Fingers crossed, but I am hoping it leads to more (or a first in a really long time) sex between us and more sexual exploration. Merry Xmas, everyone.
Vitriolhack
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Talking is a two way process. You also need to find out what her fantasies are and hopefully help her reach them.
Merry Xmas to the both of you and have a banging new year.
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Sounds like a meaningful opening - hope the communication is sustained and leads to some enticing times!
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Rumi! Rumi! Rumi!, hope the action heats up soon for you two.
Was in the vows
I hear ya, bud. But it was in the vows, right. I’d consider that ‘or for worse’, right? LOL. Am I right or am I right?
I hear ya, bud. But it was in the vows, right. I’d consider that ‘or for worse’, right? LOL. Am I right or am I right?
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Personally, I'd say you are totally wrong. Nothing in the vows say anything about being monogamous!
cherish, yes; for better or worse, yes; but sexual enslavement - I've never heard that in anyone's vows. Of course, in my tradition there are no such vows to begin with, but that's another story...
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Personally, I'd say you are totally wrong. Nothing in the vows say anything about being monogamous!
Vows= sorry of guide lines for marriage, but flexible if all 3 parties agree?? Sound good tip me. Lol
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So, I see I'm not the only one experiencing this. Good to know.
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Join the crowd, many of us around.
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Wife reached for my cock, it would be by accident
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I’m considering writing a story where I wife tells her frustrated husband he is free to try and go have sex with other women because - in her mind- no one their age is still having regular sex.
Please post or PM the age you were when the sex stopped. If you would like to help. Oh also how long you had been married.
Thanks!
Please post or PM the age you were when the sex stopped. If you would like to help. Oh also how long you had been married.
Thanks!
Me-50, her-47. We've been married 32 years.
Funny you bring this up at this time. Earlier this year the wife finally gave me a free pass.
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Ddbustybrit says hi
With the following message:
" please can you say Hi for me on the sexless thread and tell them I think of them. Tell them I couldn’t be any happier and content with Canada, it just gets better "
So we now know that happy ever after is a distinct possibility, I'm sure you will all join me in wishing her and Canada well.
With the following message:
" please can you say Hi for me on the sexless thread and tell them I think of them. Tell them I couldn’t be any happier and content with Canada, it just gets better "
So we now know that happy ever after is a distinct possibility, I'm sure you will all join me in wishing her and Canada well.
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Im wishing, I'm wishing!!! Miss brits!
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Please share either here or in a PM- how is that going?
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Well, I applaud your approach to market research, but, I am assuming that you will get answers that are all over the map.
I would stick to a good Idea, I think you have one, perhaps he Or she thinks that No one is still having sex at their age and an even older person shows them that that ain’t so! In a very funny and sarcastic way!
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she was 15 when you married her????…..
I am guessing that 50 and 47 was when all sex stopped and 32 years of marriage is now, which is probably ten years later.
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I am very ready!I hope so! I'm willing.
My marriage was sexless throughout it's 12 year existence for several reasons. I've been divorced for 7 years and it's been difficult finding a partner. I'm up for a fun partner, if anyone is game.
Thanks Annie, yes that's what I was trying to say.
Married 32 years and sex totally stopped when I was 50 and her 47.
We are now 60 and 57.
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slowandeasy103a
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My New year resolution.
Thanks Ccs. Bach atcha' and to everyone else
Well, this is my 1st post and I'm in a sexless marriage myself. My wife is 9 years my senior and ever since menopause she's lost her libido and to make matters worse, intercourse is no longer possible for her due to extreme discomfort.
I'm a highly sexual individual. I fantasize and masturbate almost daily. My poor wife feels completely inadequate and appologizes way too often for this problem.
At first, i tried everything that I could think of to get her interested in sex but after more than 10 years of being shot down ive kinda' given up.
We love each other dearly and we take good care of each other in virtually every other way that a couple should.
She's given me the green light to get a girlfriend with the stipulation that she not know about it. I simply cannot allow myself to be so selfish as to take her up on her offer. I know that once I cross that line, I'd feel unworthy of her trust, her love and her respect. I need to feel deserving of the love that she feels for me. For me, if I had a sexual relationship with another woman I'd quickly develop feelings which would really interfere with my marriage.
On the other hand, I'm very bi curious and Ive come close to having sex with other men but I always stop myself. I don't see myself having romantic feelings for a man. Its a lust for cock and cum. As a matter of fact , the glory hole scene is very appealing to me because I don't have to put a face on the cock.
So my resolution is to keep jerking off and to stay faithful to my marriage unless something falls into my lap so to speak. I wish I could say that I was gonna suck some cock but it's probably never gonna' happen.
Sucks.....or should I say, doesn't suck....
Thanks Ccs. Bach atcha' and to everyone else
Well, this is my 1st post and I'm in a sexless marriage myself. My wife is 9 years my senior and ever since menopause she's lost her libido and to make matters worse, intercourse is no longer possible for her due to extreme discomfort.
I'm a highly sexual individual. I fantasize and masturbate almost daily. My poor wife feels completely inadequate and appologizes way too often for this problem.
At first, i tried everything that I could think of to get her interested in sex but after more than 10 years of being shot down ive kinda' given up.
We love each other dearly and we take good care of each other in virtually every other way that a couple should.
She's given me the green light to get a girlfriend with the stipulation that she not know about it. I simply cannot allow myself to be so selfish as to take her up on her offer. I know that once I cross that line, I'd feel unworthy of her trust, her love and her respect. I need to feel deserving of the love that she feels for me. For me, if I had a sexual relationship with another woman I'd quickly develop feelings which would really interfere with my marriage.
On the other hand, I'm very bi curious and Ive come close to having sex with other men but I always stop myself. I don't see myself having romantic feelings for a man. Its a lust for cock and cum. As a matter of fact , the glory hole scene is very appealing to me because I don't have to put a face on the cock.
So my resolution is to keep jerking off and to stay faithful to my marriage unless something falls into my lap so to speak. I wish I could say that I was gonna suck some cock but it's probably never gonna' happen.
Sucks.....or should I say, doesn't suck....
