Advice on Sex with Older Man

[redheadfantasy]

Hello all, I am a long-time user of the site but first time poster. I will make this quick.

I have only had one partner before, him and I split after 3 years together. I gained lots of experiences with him, and I am a very adventurous young lady, but I am still very shy outside of bed (and in it initially).

I am now moving back to my hometown post break-up, and I have been in contact with a former professor turned friend. He and I were very interested in each other after I finished taking classes with him a few years ago, but at that time I was with my now-ex partner, so my former professor and I had only developed a friendship.

Talking to him since my break up, we have both realized that we had a lot of chemistry together and we were very attracted to each other. I am so excited to see him in a couple of weeks, but very nervous too! Borderline terrified at the idea of being intimate with him. It’s nothing he has done wrong, he has never been aggressive or disrespectful. On the contrary, he is very kind and easy-going.

We will not be sleeping together the first time we see each other to catch up, but I know that is where it is heading. Does anyone have any advice on how I can be less nervous when we do have sex? For what it is worth, I am 24, and he is 52.

If any older men here have experience having sex with women in my age range, I would love to know what went through your head when you were having sex with your partner.

Thank you in advance, be well,

Red

 

[FL30]

Hello all, I am a long-time user of the site but first time poster. I will make this quick.

I have only had one partner before, him and I split after 3 years together. I gained lots of experiences with him, and I am a very adventurous young lady, but I am still very shy outside of bed (and in it initially).

I am now moving back to my hometown post break-up, and I have been in contact with a former professor turned friend. He and I were very interested in each other after I finished taking classes with him a few years ago, but at that time I was with my now-ex partner, so my former professor and I had only developed a friendship.

Talking to him since my break up, we have both realized that we had a lot of chemistry together and we were very attracted to each other. I am so excited to see him in a couple of weeks, but very nervous too! Borderline terrified at the idea of being intimate with him. It’s nothing he has done wrong, he has never been aggressive or disrespectful. On the contrary, he is very kind and easy-going.

We will not be sleeping together the first time we see each other to catch up, but I know that is where it is heading. Does anyone have any advice on how I can be less nervous when we do have sex? For what it is worth, I am 24, and he is 52.

If any older men here have experience having sex with women in my age range, I would love to know what went through your head when you were having sex with your partner.

Thank you in advance, be well,

Red

It's no different than being with someone else - forget the age difference. However, he will probably want to make sure that you're pleasured as much as you pleasure him and he probably won't be doing the _ "wham, bam, thank you mam", thing.

Usually older guys know what they're doing and are NOT in as much of a hurry as the younger guys are.

Just relax and do what feels good and stop thinking about it too much - don't over analyze it.

 

[Polranny]

It's no different than being with someone else - forget the age difference. However, he will probably want to make sure that you're pleasured as much as you pleasure him and he probably won't be doing the _ "wham, bam, thank you mam", thing.

Usually older guys know what they're doing and are NOT in as much of a hurry as the younger guys are.

Just relax and do what feels good and stop thinking about it too much - don't over analyze it.

Excellent advice, I couldn't agree more

 

[dolf]

Sometimes their lips turn blue, but they get all huffy if you stop.

 

[thespiceoflife]

this was me with a long term lover with the same age difference to you. We were work colleagues so no obvious power imbalance. It was an amazing experience and Although it is over I have no regrets whatsoever.
I had reservations about it becoming a permanent relationship because of the effect of the age difference in the future. However for a few years it was truly life enhancing

 

[Saint Peter]

28 years difference.

Have fun. Don't fall in love.

 

[Debbie]

You've probably heard it before but you are still quite young at 24.


If the break up is fresh I'd suggest you take some me time and just enjoy being happy and carefree.

Then maybe consider a few dinner dates etc with the prof.

There is 14 years between my husband and I and to me it isn't a big deal but I have had few occasions when he was sick that a dr or nurse thought I was his daughter lol otherwise it's the same as most relationships.

Communication, respect, honesty.

 

[Hal9000_]

Your prose is improving, Prof. Gav.

 

[girlsmiley]

28 years difference.

Have fun. Don't fall in love.

That is a lot. Tap and gap?

 

[luckyseven]

It's no different than being with someone else - forget the age difference. However, he will probably want to make sure that you're pleasured as much as you pleasure him and he probably won't be doing the _ "wham, bam, thank you mam", thing.

Usually, older guys know what they're doing and are NOT in as much of a hurry as the younger guys are.

Just relax and do what feels good and stop thinking about it too much - don't over analyze it.

Nothing more to add. Summarised excellently.

 

[LesDesirable]

https://files.osgnetworks.tv/15/files/2014/04/Catfish-Cutbait-Hook-Underwater-In-Fisherman.jpeg

 

[IrezumiKiss]

28 years difference.

Have fun. Don't fall in love.

I'm 66,091 posts in and I can already see what kind of forum this is.

Great.

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[RoryN]

I'm 66,091 posts in and I can already see what kind of forum this is.

Great.

https://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lxpj6grFIe1qcaomb.gif

^^^^
Cracked me up.

 

[dolf]

However, he will probably want to make sure that you're pleasured as much as you pleasure him and he probably won't be doing the _ "wham, bam, thank you mam", thing.

Usually older guys know what they're doing and are NOT in as much of a hurry as the younger guys are.

I disagree.

I've found older men are often very set in their ways and inflexible in bed. Their previous lover never complained so you should like it!

In my experience, younger guys tend to have more stamina, be more open to suggestions, and are a lot less likely to be patronising hits.

 

[Wings]

I disagree.

I've found older men are often very set in their ways and inflexible in bed. Their previous lover never complained so you should like it!

In my experience, younger guys tend to have more stamina, be more open to suggestions, and are a lot less likely to be patronising hits.

There is truthiness here.

 

[CandiCame]

My man's got more than a decade on me. I've not noticed a difference. Like... yours is bigger than that but I think it's fine.

Sometimes you gotta set up the AI on their phone and they'll make you watch old movies that are actually pretty good.

 

[CandiCame]

I disagree.

I've found older men are often very set in their ways and inflexible in bed. Their previous lover never complained so you should like it!

In my experience, younger guys tend to have more stamina, be more open to suggestions, and are a lot less likely to be patronising hits.

Yeah but the older dudes know how to fix cars, or at least pretend until they get it working.

Idk how to do that.

 

[heathergives]

Your prose is improving, Prof. Gav.

*gigglesnorts*

 

[RobDownSouth]

I disagree.

I've found older men are often very set in their ways and inflexible in bed. Their previous lover never complained so you should like it!

In my experience, younger guys tend to have more stamina, be more open to suggestions, and are a lot less likely to be patronising hits.

There is truthiness here.

Wheeeee! This so true! I've had a number of women complain to me that guys my age are so staid and inflexible, they neither know nor care about a woman's needs. "It's amazing how guys get to be that age and cannot find a clit!".

This helps explain why I date more than most guys my age. "You're not like other men your age!" (well...that and my third testicle....)

 

[Wings]

Wheeeee! This so true! I've had a number of women complain to me that guys my age are so staid and inflexible, they neither know nor care about a woman's needs. "It's amazing how guys get to be that age and cannot find a clit!".

This helps explain why I date more than most guys my age. "You're not like other men your age!" (well...that and my third testicle....)

A little different for me because I never fault anyone for not finding my clit perfectly, that and my ear holes are the only tiny thing on me. And both are hella sensitive so I’d rather be the guide.

But I have always loved older men, and the spouse with our almost decade difference is the only younger guy I’ve REALLY enjoyed sex with instantly. I’m mean and stubborn so stubborn older men with their sex preferences were always just a challenge. I love challenges.

 

[lovetoread]

I disagree.

I've found older men are often very set in their ways and inflexible in bed. Their previous lover never complained so you should like it!

In my experience, younger guys tend to have more stamina, be more open to suggestions, and are a lot less likely to be patronising hits.

oh yes, i agree wholeheartedly

older gents do tend to be set in their ways, good or bad

younger ones tend to take instructions a bit better

 

[stickygirl]

oh yes, i agree wholeheartedly

older gents do tend to be set in their ways, good or bad

younger ones tend to take instructions a bit better

#notalloldermen

If you got one that grunts to pick up their shirt, or thinks gun laws are fine just as they are, drop them. If you've got one who has a zest for life and has an enquiring mind, that goes a long way: they could be worth your time

 

[RocketLauncher]

Be patient or blue pill him. A lot of men that age have "difficulties" in the rigidity and maintenance department.

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

Every time he tries to do something ask him, "Will this be on the test?"

 

[RocketLauncher]

Oh, and when he makes a reference and you have no fucking clue what he's talking about, smile and laugh knowingly, he'll need his ego stroked often to maintain his sense of relevancy.