Sexless Marriages

[Mtnmike]

So my sweet thread family

Can I just declare in here...

I am vomit inducingly Happy with a certain gorgeous man north of the border

Never would have thought it was possible, in fact most of you wouldn’t have either considering the wreck I was for awhile there. But I’m beginning to realize the Ex did me one huge favor, even if his method stank. Because what I have now and what I had then are not even slightly comparable. It’s the difference between a very toxic cruel place, and an exuberantly happy, healthy, secure one!

Take hope from this turnaround in my life please...

Now I’ll pass the bucket for y’all

DD, glad to hear. Everyone deserves happiness in their lives

 

[Vitriolhack]

@DDBustyBrit,

Contrary to the U2 song, I am genuinely happy that you have found what you were looking for.

Nice bunch of guys these Canadians, especially the french ones!

I wish you happiness, even to your ex, may he too find his softer side.

 

[ccs29745]

So my sweet thread family

Can I just declare in here...

I am vomit inducingly Happy with a certain gorgeous man north of the border

Never would have thought it was possible, in fact most of you wouldn’t have either considering the wreck I was for awhile there. But I’m beginning to realize the Ex did me one huge favor, even if his method stank. Because what I have now and what I had then are not even slightly comparable. It’s the difference between a very toxic cruel place, and an exuberantly happy, healthy, secure one!

Take hope from this turnaround in my life please...

Now I’ll pass the bucket for y’all

Very happy for you and Canada. Hope your life is turning around princess.

 

[DDBustyBrit]

Thank you guys

 

[StrangeView]

So my sweet thread family

Can I just declare in here...

I am vomit inducingly Happy with a certain gorgeous man north of the border

Never would have thought it was possible, in fact most of you wouldn’t have either considering the wreck I was for awhile there. But I’m beginning to realize the Ex did me one huge favor, even if his method stank. Because what I have now and what I had then are not even slightly comparable. It’s the difference between a very toxic cruel place, and an exuberantly happy, healthy, secure one!

Take hope from this turnaround in my life please...

Now I’ll pass the bucket for y’all

Go girl!! Best news in ages

Things been rough here, but still lurking

 

[ccs29745]

Thank you guys

You know you never have to thank us, just don't leave us.

 

[DDBustyBrit]

You know you never have to thank us, just don't leave us.

Not planning on it, even if I eventually get myself into a sex filled marriage

 

[gentold]

So my sweet thread family

Can I just declare in here...

I am vomit inducingly Happy with a certain gorgeous man north of the border

Never would have thought it was possible, in fact most of you wouldn’t have either considering the wreck I was for awhile there. But I’m beginning to realize the Ex did me one huge favor, even if his method stank. Because what I have now and what I had then are not even slightly comparable. It’s the difference between a very toxic cruel place, and an exuberantly happy, healthy, secure one!

Take hope from this turnaround in my life please...

Now I’ll pass the bucket for y’all

That is s heart warming and cock stiffening in the same breath .
You rock

 

[DDBustyBrit]

So anyone had any sexual activity this weekend...

None here at home but plenty with for me!

 

[Polranny]

So anyone had any sexual activity this weekend...

None here at home but plenty with for me!

Home is where the heart is , DD !
Plenty of hands across the sea for me!

 

[VivianVixen]

The thing you’re referring to in relation to women in their 40s and 50s is termed the Sex Surge - you should google it. I was on another chat site frequented by women and there were a considerable number of women commenting about it. My own marriage has been sexless over 7 years and now I find it extremely difficult. I wouldn’t say my behaviour has been entirely exemplary for the last year but I’m finding it hard to feel bad about it.

Thank you so much for saying this. I did look it up and DAMN that explains a lot! Married to an older man whom I love dearly but god I'm as horny as a 20yr old again.

 

[philos]

For some stupid reason I got my hopes up last night. I really need to stop being so childish. We had a pretty good day together. Got lots done on the house. Were a team parenting. I even made dinner and took a late night shower. Tv was much more interesting for her. Like I said stupid of me. After all these years I still haven’t learned.

 

[DDBustyBrit]

Thank you so much for saying this. I did look it up and DAMN that explains a lot! Married to an older man whom I love dearly but god I'm as horny as a 20yr old again.

Yes this explains a lot doesn’t it! I was the same when I first read it

 

[Lost_Yonder]

The thing you’re referring to in relation to women in their 40s and 50s is termed the Sex Surge - you should google it. I was on another chat site frequented by women and there were a considerable number of women commenting about it. My own marriage has been sexless over 7 years and now I find it extremely difficult. I wouldn’t say my behaviour has been entirely exemplary for the last year but I’m finding it hard to feel bad about it.

Thank you so much for saying this. I did look it up and DAMN that explains a lot! Married to an older man whom I love dearly but god I'm as horny as a 20yr old again.

Yes this explains a lot doesn’t it! I was the same when I first read it

How come so many women have a sex surge in their 40s and 50s, except many of our wifes???

 

[Vitriolhack]

So anyone had any sexual activity this weekend...

None here at home but plenty with for me!

Yup twice over two days.

 

[Vitriolhack]

How come so many women have a sex surge in their 40s and 50s, except many of our wifes???

My wife had a surge in the last few years, my drive has slumped a little. I would not mind a visit at the local swinging club to spice things up and offer bigger dicks to her, alas, not her cup of tea!

 

[xxkimberlyv]

Could you imagine what it would be like if everyone had their sexual peak at the same time!!!!

 

[DDBustyBrit]

Yup twice over two days.

Awesome news, one of us in here is actually getting some in RL

How come so many women have a sex surge in their 40s and 50s, except many of our wifes???

How come those of us that do have the surge are married to men who don’t give a shit?!

Could you imagine what it would be like if everyone had their sexual peak at the same time!!!!

The world would probably be a lot happier place! Sexual frustration may be to blame for many issues

 

[BooksNBrawn]

When sex is available, it’s a small part of the relationship. When it’s missing or withheld, it’s a huge issue...

 

[ccs29745]

So anyone had any sexual activity this weekend...

None here at home but plenty with for me!

What's sex???

 

[Pelau1956]

Sexless marriage

I have the same issue as well. Although I am older than you, I still wish to have sex. I'm not talking about a lot of sex, maybe once a week would make me happy.
My wife has absolutely no interest in sex in any way at all. She won't even change in front of me anymore.
She in 57 and has gone through menopause, but even before that we were not hot sex machines.
I had prostate cancer when I turned 50 and as a result have ED. But I use to give her oral where she'd cum every time. But she seems not to care about that anymore!
Its a sad situation!!!!!!

 

[DDBustyBrit]

When sex is available, it’s a small part of the relationship. When it’s missing or withheld, it’s a huge issue...

I have the same issue as well. Although I am older than you, I still wish to have sex. I'm not talking about a lot of sex, maybe once a week would make me happy.
My wife has absolutely no interest in sex in any way at all. She won't even change in front of me anymore.
She in 57 and has gone through menopause, but even before that we were not hot sex machines.
I had prostate cancer when I turned 50 and as a result have ED. But I use to give her oral where she'd cum every time. But she seems not to care about that anymore!
Its a sad situation!!!!!!

Welcome both of you to our little sexless corner of Lit! We’re a friendly, supportive and open group of friends. Feel free to vent, share, crack a joke, pretty much anything goes in here, we all understand!

 

[BooksNBrawn]

Thanks Brit, I'd shared before in another sexless marriage thread... Here's what I wrote there:

"18 months sexless here, before that it was maybe once per year for a few years, before that 6 months...etc... She was divorced when we married, my first wife passed away (breast cancer). She finally admitted that he thinks sex is disgusting. After talking about this over and over and over and over...I'm sure others can relate, I decided to leave and had a plan for be ready to move out this past March. Well February comes and we find out she has late stage colon cancer, they did a biopsy and that showed that it's not affected by current chemo treatments, at least not enough to make it work the misery. Only the oldest would work at all, and that one won't do much. Also the largest tumor is at the intersection of three nerve bundles and three arteries, making it non-operable.

So now I'm staying, at least for the time being.

Doesn't make the relationship better, but I have to be able to live with myself."

It has been a few more months since I posted that, and the cancer is getting more severe. It's a difficult thing for the obvious reason that my partner is dying. Then there's the fact that she is not a very nice person to begin with and that gets amplified with the discomfort.

I feel bad complaining when I chose this and knew it wouldn't be easy.

 

[AnnieLit]

How come so many women have a sex surge in their 40s and 50s, except many of our wifes???

Darling, that's called self selection: women of any age with low libido don't come to Lit. Middle aged women with low to average libido most likely don't come to the sexless marriage thread because their partners are able to keep up. So ALL that you are seeing here are the women that need more sex that they can currently get.

Are there a lot of us? Nobody really knows because it's still a men's world and studies of male sexuality are funded much better than studies of females. Almost any article about menopose and few years before it talks about decrease in the libido and most don't even mentions a possible increase.

It is both great and scary, because it changes who you are, how you see yourself in the world. And because it is not permanent. Eventually the surge will end and then... Nobody can really predict what will happen then, because, yet again, it is so different from woman to woman.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

Thanks Brit, I'd shared before in another sexless marriage thread... Here's what I wrote there:

"18 months sexless here, before that it was maybe once per year for a few years, before that 6 months...etc... She was divorced when we married, my first wife passed away (breast cancer). She finally admitted that he thinks sex is disgusting. After talking about this over and over and over and over...I'm sure others can relate, I decided to leave and had a plan for be ready to move out this past March. Well February comes and we find out she has late stage colon cancer, they did a biopsy and that showed that it's not affected by current chemo treatments, at least not enough to make it work the misery. Only the oldest would work at all, and that one won't do much. Also the largest tumor is at the intersection of three nerve bundles and three arteries, making it non-operable.

So now I'm staying, at least for the time being.

Doesn't make the relationship better, but I have to be able to live with myself."

It has been a few more months since I posted that, and the cancer is getting more severe. It's a difficult thing for the obvious reason that my partner is dying. Then there's the fact that she is not a very nice person to begin with and that gets amplified with the discomfort.

I feel bad complaining when I chose this and knew it wouldn't be easy.

Sorry to hear about your situation - certainly a tough one, so many mixed emotions. hope you find some peace in your daily life, little escapes to fill and meet your needs...