Sexless Marriages

[TTawhere]

==> He's not happy though...

He will have to choose. That's a decision he will need to make and be able to live with.

==> Perhaps finding someone else in an exact situation might help, otherwise, I'd say an affair would end up hurting one or all parties involved. Even if its just sex, is it fair to the other woman?

That's the general idea - finding someone in the same situation where a relationship will make both of our lives better. For sex, I need some connection and some love between us, it wouldn't just sex. Is that fair?

 

[maxlow999]

With all of this discussion regarding taking on another sex partner, I have begun to wonder if this could actually work and yet keep the one that you love.

I have been considering finding another woman who shares my sexual ambitions, as my wife does not. However, I love my wife. She just doesn't get aroused any more .

In the past, we had discussed our fantasies, basically to arouse each other. A common theme in our favorite fantasies was threesomes and exhibition.

So, now I am thinking of the possibility of including a cuckcake in our bedroom. My wife had enjoyed threesome fantasies, but no longer gets aroused. If I were to introduce another woman into the equation, then maybe my wife would become a hot horny lustful woman again.

I figure it this way. I get to enjoy sex frequently again, with a hot young vixen. My wife would become aroused by the thoughts, or sight of watching us have sex and she might decide to join in.

I know that this may sound absurd and very risky, but also maybe worth it. My cock is bulging.

What are your thoughts? I would love to hear them before I jump into the fire.

 

[Vitriolhack]

With all of this discussion regarding taking on another sex partner, I have begun to wonder if this could actually work and yet keep the one that you love.

I have been considering finding another woman who shares my sexual ambitions, as my wife does not. However, I love my wife. She just doesn't get aroused any more .

In the past, we had discussed our fantasies, basically to arouse each other. A common theme in our favorite fantasies was threesomes and exhibition.

So, now I am thinking of the possibility of including a cuckcake in our bedroom. My wife had enjoyed threesome fantasies, but no longer gets aroused. If I were to introduce another woman into the equation, then maybe my wife would become a hot horny lustful woman again.

I figure it this way. I get to enjoy sex frequently again, with a hot young vixen. My wife would become aroused by the thoughts, or sight of watching us have sex and she might decide to join in.

I know that this may sound absurd and very risky, but also maybe worth it. My cock is bulging.

What are your thoughts? I would love to hear them before I jump into the fire.

I think your imagination may have gotten the best of you.

First thing, has your wife all of sudden lost her drive? A drop is ok, but frigidity is not the same thing.

Have you tried talking to her about how you feel without blaming her for the lack of sex. She may not be aware of how you feel about it.

 

[ccs29745]

He will have to choose. That's a decision he will need to make and be able to live with.



That's the general idea - finding someone in the same situation where a relationship will make both of our lives better. For sex, I need some connection and some love between us, it wouldn't just sex. Is that fair?

Same boat, would it be fair to the others spouse. Only if it's am open relationship on that end, but how does it effect one's own spouse. If kids involved, makes it even worse.

 

[philos]

Today I just hate feeling alone

 

[DDBustyBrit]

Today I just hate feeling alone

I get it and I’m so sorry, sending a hug your way. You are in the right place here, we all get it, understand and are very supportive.

 

[ccs29745]

Today I just hate feeling alone

Hugs too, manly hug of course. Lol. Ever want to talk, just say it in here, you'll have more than enough support in here.

 

[TTawhere]

Same boat, would it be fair to the others spouse. Only if it's am open relationship on that end, but how does it effect one's own spouse. If kids involved, makes it even worse.

No matter how you slice it, it is all messy, isn't it? Whether you divorce and leave or whether you try to figure out how to make things work - whatever that means.

Still, I'll take the good over the perfect.

 

[ccs29745]

No matter how you slice it, it is all messy, isn't it? Whether you divorce and leave or whether you try to figure out how to make things work - whatever that means.

Still, I'll take the good over the perfect.

I don't want perfection either. Want good, healthy, fun marriage. 2 out of 3 ok at moment. Wife might kill me for what I did earlier, but financial strain just got lightened alot

 

[TTawhere]

I don't want perfection either. Want good, healthy, fun marriage. 2 out of 3 ok at moment. Wife might kill me for what I did earlier, but financial strain just got lightened alot

Well, that's what I'd like too, but that part of our marriage isn't happening again.

What did you do earlier? I think there's something that I missed.

 

[carcollector]

I am in the same boat as all of you. I am an older happily married (except for sex obviously) white male looking for a married female in the same predicament somewhere near Reno, NV.

Thanks

 

[ccs29745]

Well, that's what I'd like too, but that part of our marriage isn't happening again.

What did you do earlier? I think there's something that I missed.

Help eliminate a lot of financial strain. Maybe get lucky, or im getting dead. Lol

 

[ajh101]

Straight Male 49

I love my wife, but she has no interest in sex at all. I am not ready to forget that I have a sex drive however. For the moment it just me and porn, but I would love to find a woman for sexy chats when we are both feeling alone. Does that make me a bad person?

 

[Mtnmike]

I love my wife, but she has no interest in sex at all. I am not ready to forget that I have a sex drive however. For the moment it just me and porn, but I would love to find a woman for sexy chats when we are both feeling alone. Does that make me a bad person?

No that makes you a normal man going through a tough time. There are a lot of use here, you're in good company.

 

[DDBustyBrit]

No that makes you a normal man going through a tough time. There are a lot of use here, you're in good company.

And that also goes for some of us women too!

 

[Mtnmike]

And that also goes for some of us women too!

Sorry DD, meant to type women in there

 

[DDBustyBrit]

Sorry DD, meant to type women in there

You’re forgiven MM

 

[Polranny]

You’re forgiven MM

In our situation there has to be a lot of forgiving, hard though it seems at times

 

[ccs29745]

What I've done

To answer a couple people's question, I set my retirement back about 8 years. I cashed out an IRA certificate to get rid of some debt.
Wife was a bit mad at me.
Told her it was going to hurt on taxes and she threatened to have me file separately.
Told her then I will keep the extra 4k I wad going to give her for taxes next year.
She lightened her mood a bit.

 

[asian2015]

To answer a couple people's question, I set my retirement back about 8 years. I cashed out an IRA certificate to get rid of some debt.
Wife was a bit mad at me.
Told her it was going to hurt on taxes and she threatened to have me file separately.
Told her then I will keep the extra 4k I wad going to give her for taxes next year.
She lightened her mood a bit.

Reducing debt by "a lot" is a good thing.
I dont want to get ambushed for saying this but sometimes, it seems like the other person is not very savvy and yet still get mad...kinda unreasonable.

The same way they dont give sex, yet they still throw their weight around.

Haha... not going to apologize, I do think sex is an important element in a relationship, especially a marriage. dont shoot me for commenting about the other person who is not giving you the sex you so rightly deserve.

 

[DBom]

.....

 

[Lost_Yonder]

Women's sexual arousal is in large measure driven by observation of men's uncontrolled arousal with themselves as object. What turns them on more than anything is observing how a man finds them so attractive that he loses control of himself. If the man is too familiar in my eyes, and he takes me for granted, I lose interest. So, the secret is CHANGE. Be unpredictable. Become a stranger and your wife will start desiring you again.

the gross generalizations are complete and total bs, but the suggestion of changing things up is one strategy. But as just about every guy on this thread has admitted - we've been there, tried that, and it doesn't work...

 

[wifewatcher1997]

What used to happen...

Miss the days when the wife would inform me that she is going shopping today and won't be back until late...I knew that was code for date with a friend at some hotel. Boy the pics were great on my phone and the sex that night was even better getting a replay! Miss that!
Or
She would just attack me and be a complete nympho...and it was that way for a good 20+ years.

Now, female changes with her body and the desire is basically gone. Me, I am as horny as ever. The love and romance is still there without the sexual play...makes it difficult at times.

 

[AsinBehold]

Wow, interesting thread - I feel that I am quite the opposite. Me and my wife have been married for around 6 years and we are still pretty young! I'm 29 and she is 28, we have two kids and she still has a crazy high sex drive, me on the other hand. I just don't feel like having sex with her -- don't get me wrong, I still play around with myself but I think it's my mindset, I really want to see her get fucked by a more dominant and hot blooded man. That is my ultimate fantasy, I'm naturally a very submissive male and I like being out in my place, my I'm rather on the small side in terms of manhood too so that also helps me with my submissiveness. My wife is quite dominant and wears the shoes in our relationship. We are having issues because of the lack of sex and we do love eachother but it's something I would love for to happen.

 

[DDBustyBrit]

Women's sexual arousal is in large measure driven by observation of men's uncontrolled arousal with themselves as object. What turns them on more than anything is observing how a man finds them so attractive that he loses control of himself. If the man is too familiar in my eyes, and he takes me for granted, I lose interest. So, the secret is CHANGE. Be unpredictable. Become a stranger and your wife will start desiring you again.

Ok as a woman I will concur on one thing here... change is a magical element. I got so bored with my SO, no surprises, same time of day, same position, just yawn!

I need the unpredictable sex sessions, slam me up against a wall, grab me in the kitchen and put me on the counter or bend me over, make out with me in front of the TV, nail me in the yard.

I think you get the picture guys....

So yes I do agree totally with this one thing, the rest is too generalized.

And the good news for me is Canada gets this need completely