Black woman White man interracial group

[Deleted member 3041612]

Have you noticed most interracial shelved novels have very limited varieties of people who are chosen to be photographed together in loving poses?

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

Isn't sex based on race a form of racism? Why should race be a factor one way or the other?

Well, there are preferences. People are allowed to have them, but to choose to sex someone up only because of a color seems suspect...but up to the two parties involved. So, what is a one night stand no matter the race?

 

[Beachaged]

Isn't sex based on race a form of racism? Why should race be a factor one way or the other?

Is sex based on race really just a personal preference. Why is race any different than hair color or height or body type? If I prefer short curvy blondes am I discriminating against tall thin brunettes?

 

[Lost_Yonder]

Isn't sex based on race a form of racism? Why should race be a factor one way or the other?

It certainly can be, but if I prefer petite women compared to bbws, is that also discrimination? desire is not always explainable. If our desire is driven by social factors of race and racism - then yes, it is racist. But if they are driven by our own interests and desires, it is just that, a desire, an orientation.

Sometimes we may desire something/someone just to disrupt normative ideas. While interracial dating and sex is more acceptable today, a few decades ago, some might have pursued it intentionally just to counter the racist expectations. But is that also then not a form of racism???

It seems like a lose-lose situation...

 

[Lost_Yonder]

Have you noticed most interracial shelved novels have very limited varieties of people who are chosen to be photographed together in loving poses?

Do you find that black women are categorized into three types - the ghetto, the native African who dresses exotically, or the middle class woman next door, just like any white woman, only with dark skin??? Maybe there are others too, but certainly it seems the prevailing tendency is to box black women into particular types that plays out in the erotic images and pornography one finds online. but then porn/erotica does that to all people it seems - it plays off stereotypes (dumb blonde, trailer trash, hijabi Arab, sensual Latina, etc.)...

 

[Joe_Bob_Gautama]

To all those in search of their chocolate or vanilla flavor, I wish you well. I hope you find that which tickles your heart and encourages it to sing. Remember to have an open mind and an open heart. No one wants to be used (unless those who choose to be) as a fantasy. Real hearts, minds and feelings exists within both. Treat them with care

Wonderfully said. Thank you, my dear.

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

Do you find that black women are categorized into three types - the ghetto, the native African who dresses exotically, or the middle class woman next door, just like any white woman, only with dark skin??? Maybe there are others too, but certainly it seems the prevailing tendency is to box black women into particular types that plays out in the erotic images and pornography one finds online. but then porn/erotica does that to all people it seems - it plays off stereotypes (dumb blonde, trailer trash, hijabi Arab, sensual Latina, etc.)...

Yes or they categorize us as angry or with attitudes with our necks rolling. I'm quiet, caramel complexioned, using correct grammar, friendly, caring about others (not selfish, gold digging nor catty towards other females no matter the race, especially my own), willing to make a difference in my community and to a certain extent, smart. Willing to share what I know to help someone out as well. I'm open minded and choose to be even tempered. The media and negative thoughts from others controls thought processes of others by filling the public with negative images of what stereotype has been passed down throughout the years.

We all have been culturally dumbfounded or "programmed" with these images to put us (me and those like me) in a primitive state of mind, lowering the Black female into no more than a fetish for some. I'm not militant, but speaking on how I see from my perspective on how we are categorized and thought of. We range in hues from passing for white to blackberry. I'm somewhere in between.

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

Wonderfully said. Thank you, my dear.

Huggggs to you

 

[georgerb]

Yes or they categorize us as angry or with attitudes with our necks rolling. I'm quiet, caramel complexioned, using correct grammar, friendly, caring about others (not selfish, gold digging nor catty towards other females no matter the race, especially my own), willing to make a difference in my community and to a certain extent, smart. Willing to share what I know to help someone out as well. I'm open minded and choose to be even tempered. The media and negative thoughts from others controls thought processes of others by filling the public with negative images of what stereotype has been passed down throughout the years.

We all have been culturally dumbfounded or "programmed" with these images to put us (me and those like me) in a primitive state of mind, lowering the Black female into no more than a fetish for some. I'm not militant, but speaking on how I see from my perspective on how we are categorized and thought of. We range in hues from passing for white to the darkest cherry. I'm somewhere in between.

Great post!

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

*Curtseying*

 

[MidnightRyder007]

Yes or they categorize us as angry or with attitudes with our necks rolling. I'm quiet, caramel complexioned, using correct grammar, friendly, caring about others (not selfish, gold digging nor catty towards other females no matter the race, especially my own), willing to make a difference in my community and to a certain extent, smart. Willing to share what I know to help someone out as well. I'm open minded and choose to be even tempered. The media and negative thoughts from others controls thought processes of others by filling the public with negative images of what stereotype has been passed down throughout the years.

We all have been culturally dumbfounded or "programmed" with these images to put us (me and those like me) in a primitive state of mind, lowering the Black female into no more than a fetish for some. I'm not militant, but speaking on how I see from my perspective on how we are categorized and thought of. We range in hues from passing for white to blackberry. I'm somewhere in between.

Well spoken!

 

[TANSTAAFL58]

Just passing by and I saw this post by my friend BCC.

To all those in search of their chocolate or vanilla flavor, I wish you well. I hope you find that which tickles your heart and encourages it to sing. Remember to have an open mind and an open heart. No one wants to be used (unless those who choose to be) as a fantasy. Real hearts, minds and feelings exists within both. Treat them with care

Words to live by.

Do you find that black women are categorized into three types - the ghetto, the native African who dresses exotically, or the middle class woman next door, just like any white woman, only with dark skin??? Maybe there are others too, but certainly it seems the prevailing tendency is to box black women into particular types that plays out in the erotic images and pornography one finds online. but then porn/erotica does that to all people it seems - it plays off stereotypes (dumb blonde, trailer trash, hijabi Arab, sensual Latina, etc.)...

Yes or they categorize us as angry or with attitudes with our necks rolling. I'm quiet, caramel complexioned, using correct grammar, friendly, caring about others (not selfish, gold digging nor catty towards other females no matter the race, especially my own), willing to make a difference in my community and to a certain extent, smart. Willing to share what I know to help someone out as well. I'm open minded and choose to be even tempered. The media and negative thoughts from others controls thought processes of others by filling the public with negative images of what stereotype has been passed down throughout the years.

We all have been culturally dumbfounded or "programmed" with these images to put us (me and those like me) in a primitive state of mind, lowering the Black female into no more than a fetish for some. I'm not militant, but speaking on how I see from my perspective on how we are categorized and thought of. We range in hues from passing for white to blackberry. I'm somewhere in between.

Nobody wants to be just another fetish based on the way they were born. Do tall women want to be loved only because they are tall? Being attracted to a beautiful woman is natural, as is having a preference for certain physical aspects, which might be summarized as a "race", or perhaps just a collection of traits. Or, perhaps a man and woman are attracted to each other without a second thought to trivial matters like skin colour.

Having an expanded mind, being open to new experiences: that's what makes life interesting.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

Yes or they categorize us as angry or with attitudes with our necks rolling. I'm quiet, caramel complexioned, using correct grammar, friendly, caring about others (not selfish, gold digging nor catty towards other females no matter the race, especially my own), willing to make a difference in my community and to a certain extent, smart. Willing to share what I know to help someone out as well. I'm open minded and choose to be even tempered. The media and negative thoughts from others controls thought processes of others by filling the public with negative images of what stereotype has been passed down throughout the years.

We all have been culturally dumbfounded or "programmed" with these images to put us (me and those like me) in a primitive state of mind, lowering the Black female into no more than a fetish for some. I'm not militant, but speaking on how I see from my perspective on how we are categorized and thought of. We range in hues from passing for white to blackberry. I'm somewhere in between.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! They are beautiful, thoughtful, and engaging - coming from a beautiful, thoughtful, and engaging woman!

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

*Curtseying*Thank you

 

[Lost_Yonder]

*Curtseying*Thank you

And here I thought Queens were to be curtsied to, not doing the curtsying! A mere bow of the head, a subtle acknowledgment of your elevated status would be welcomed enough.

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

And here I thought Queens were to be curtsied to, not doing the curtsying! A mere bow of the head, a subtle acknowledgment of your elevated status would be welcomed enough.

A queen, I may be in how I carry myself, yet I'm conscious enough to value humility as well. There are those that may turn up their noses at a compliment, EXPECTING it. I value the chance and opportunity to communicate with others and be friendly.

 

[MidnightRyder007]

A queen, I may be in how I carry myself, yet I'm conscious enough to value humility as well. There are those that may turn up their noses at a compliment, EXPECTING it. I value the chance and opportunity to communicate with others and be friendly.

Now you have my attention......

 

[Lost_Yonder]

A queen, I may be in how I carry myself, yet I'm conscious enough to value humility as well. There are those that may turn up their noses at a compliment, EXPECTING it. I value the chance and opportunity to communicate with others and be friendly.

Words of a true Queen! And words they be of an elevated spirit, spoken with poise and poetic flair...

 

[Uberti73]

I’ve enjoyed several women of color and would not mind chatting with and/or meeting more now! However, in the Albuquerque area, they’re few and far between!

 

[xtra_special_12]

this thread has been dormant for too long...perhaps some new litsters of color will come through and say hello?

 

[Lost_Yonder]

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[Lost_Yonder]

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[madark]

I've had the distinct pleasure to have some wonderful trysts with women of color. One of my favorites was an older AA BBW who was one of the best lovers I've ever had. What a woman!

 

[madark]

I had another AA lover at one point. She was an Iraq war veteran and was drop dead gorgeous and an amazing lover. She got hit by an IED and her back was all scarred from shrapnel. She had gotten an entire back tattoo to cover them up, but I thought both the tattoo and the scars were beautiful.

 

[Mtnmike]

I don't necessarily see the color of a woman, it's her beauty both inside and out. The problem that I see all the time is there are very few of these women that are interested in white men.