Long Distance Relationships - the good, the bad, the ugly

[AveryElle]

In my quest to find a phone-based game to play (you know, like words with friends but not that) with a certain someone, I realized that I don’t think there’s a thread about LDRs - How to navigate them, technologies to help bridge the divide, strategies to help your partner know you’re thinking of them. I know a lot of litsters are (or were) in such relationships.

So in my attempt to find some phone-based games I can play with that random phancy phace, share with me the names of such phone games! But also your tips, tricks, disappointments and tools for surviving the LDR life.


My first tip is to have something that’s yours that no one else knows why. When I see one of the things that’s just ours out and about, I do my best to snap a pic and send it to him. I have earrings that are of that random thing so he knows that when I wear them, it’s kind of a ‘tell’ that he’s on my mind.

(If only we had a game!!!)

 

[LostGirlTink]

Great thread! I don’t have much time right this second but I’m subscribing. Tolyk and I have a number of things we do but I’d love to hear more ideas and share!

 

[Lord Pmann]

I’ll solve your woes

Dick pics. (Not mine, but your guy’s)

 

[LostGirlTink]

Dick pics. (Not mine, but your guy’s)

You’re sending her guy dick pics?!?!?

 

[AveryElle]

Dick pics. (Not mine, but your guy’s)

I may be alone, but with a few exceptions, I really only want to see his dick in person. Feel free to send him a pic of yours!

 

[Lord Pmann]

You’re sending her guy dick pics?!?!?

I’m willing to do whatever it takes to help make a relationship work. If that means getting out the wide angle lens to send a pic of my dick to her man, I’ll do it.

To actually answer the question...

Being able to share in something normal and mundane- that is one of the most lovely things, in my opinion. Eating a meal or something lame like that.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I may be alone, but with a few exceptions, I really only want to see his dick in person. Feel free to send him a pic of yours!

Done and done.

Perhaps you would like him to draw a sketch, then?

 

[TheWorldBuilder]

I may be alone, but with a few exceptions, I really only want to see his dick in person. Feel free to send him a pic of yours!

My LDR and I would call three or four times a day and text up to fifty each way. Pictures were rare, so I was very surprised - and very pleased - the day I received her beautiful breasts in a message.

 

[LostGirlTink]

We talk on the phone daily, we visit as often as we can, we Skype, we try to have a date night where we do something every week.... often we end up just talking but we watch movies, tv, listen to music, read together. We’ve tried to play some games together.
We just include each other in the details. If I’m working on a commission I text him the working files, he shows me pics he snapped while picking up the kids, we talk about our goals, our plans for our lives.. the parts that do and don’t include one another.
And we daydream together too about our next adventures.

 

[AveryElle]

If only I could get it to work again since it’s changes hands, but Phancy Pheast and j used a program called Rabbit to watch tv together. I could load Netflix and include him in what we were watching. It was absolutely amazing. But it’s a new program now (got sold) and I can’t figure out how to use the new version.

 

[LostGirlTink]

If only I could get it to work again since it’s changes hands, but Phancy Pheast and j used a program called Rabbit to watch tv together. I could load Netflix and include him in what we were watching. It was absolutely amazing. But it’s a new program now (got sold) and I can’t figure out how to use the new version.

We used it too. There is a new app, it’s called Kast and we did get it to work, it’s just not as intuitive unfortunately.

 

[UgliestSon]

Sorry, I got no time for long distance relationships. To much trim to slay in my own backyard.

 

[AveryElle]

We used it too. There is a new app, it’s called Kast and we did get it to work, it’s just not as intuitive unfortunately.

I may need to get your help. We totally miss it. Largely because it’s the only way he’ll get Netflix shows

 

[AveryElle]

Sorry, I got no time for long distance relationships. To much trim to slay in my own backyard.

Some people can handle both. Just a thought!

 

[Fermina_Daza]

K and I were both big readers so we would try and read the same book together. There were stretches of time though we didn't really HAVE to find things to do "together." We lost a lot of sleep talking through the night several times.

A different relationship, I would get pictures throughout the day...just of where they were, what they were doing.

 

[LostGirlTink]

I may need to get your help. We totally miss it. Largely because it’s the only way he’ll get Netflix shows

Yeah, I’ll help however I can! You have that different country thing too don’t you? It’s immensely frustrating to not have access to the same shows.

 

[PNWKitten]

We watch TV together as well. But he just turns the screen around and I watch the tv through the monitor. We just finished The Great British Bakeoff and we also watch Strickley Come Dancing. It's really a mundane activity but we enjoy doing small things like that. Also I take him driving. I'll prop my phone up on the dash and drive around pretty roads. Especially now with the changes fall brings.

I dont know of any games. I wish I did. That would be a fun way to spend time together as well.

 

[LostGirlTink]

I’m curious if any one in LDR has tried this?

https://www.amazon.com/Clone-Willy-Silicone-Penis-Casting/dp/B000NBS2RE

We’ve talked about it. Haven’t yet. I can highly recommend Lovense’s Max and Nora couples toys though. While they aren’t the “best” toys out there there’s something about knowing that my toy is reacting to what he’s doing that makes it that much better

 

[AveryElle]

We’ve talked about it. Haven’t yet. I can highly recommend Lovense’s Max and Nora couples toys though. While they aren’t the “best” toys out there there’s something about knowing that my toy is reacting to what he’s doing that makes it that much better

<perks up>

 

[tolyk]

<perks up>

We reviewed them in Tinks toy review thread

Kast works. We watched a couple movies so far that way, but rabbit was better. I thought of hosting a movie night for out with Rabbit, but noone seemed interested when I posted the thought.

There are lots of video games if both are into them. And video game versions of board games. Settlers of Catan and Carcassonne are personal favourites.

 

[tolyk]

One of my favorites was reading a book together. He'd record an audio of him reading a chapter and I'd record the next and send it back.

We're doing that too. Though we haven't recorded any yet, just live. We meant to record.

 

[Fermina_Daza]

One of my favorites was reading a book together. He'd record an audio of him reading a chapter and I'd record the next and send it back.

That is a fantastic idea!!!

I read to my partner now, but he's right next to me. I always feel like I need to add he CAN read, but he enjoys listening to me read and I love reading so it works.

I wish I had thought of this though.

 

[AveryElle]

Sending book segments, you say...? Hmmmmm never considered that

 

[DDBustyBrit]

One of my favorites was reading a book together. He'd record an audio of him reading a chapter and I'd record the next and send it back.

Ok I absolutely love this idea and it’s new to me in an LDR (and I’m an old hand!) so thank you for sharing.

We are both avid readers and like similar non fiction books. I’m going to suggest this...

 

[DDBustyBrit]

I’m curious if any one in LDR has tried this?

https://www.amazon.com/Clone-Willy-Silicone-Penis-Casting/dp/B000NBS2RE

Yes many years ago, when the spouse and I were separated by The Pond, it works but is messy!