should you date a co worker ?

[panty_aussie]

im wondering should i date a co worker

i have had this bad situation of a chick i dated once and she turned into a complete pyhsco. She has been fired from her job

I work in the building with another chick who has shown intrest but not sure whether to risk it or not. I dont think this new chick is the same as the other chick.

I dont know whether to actually risk it or not

 

[Carnevil9]

I've done it twice, although calling it "dating" would be a euphemism. More like just fucking. The first one, we hooked up at a company picnic, went to her place, and screwed like bunnies. It wasn't until morning that she told me she was married. Separated, but not divorced yet. That set off alarm bells in my head. Of course my dick wasn't smart enough to listen to those alarm bells and I saw her a few more times. But I left the company soon after that, and nothing bad every happened.

The second time, it was with a co-worker on a business trip. She started getting clingy. Then I got promoted and was her boss! We still kept it up, although it was very stupid by then. Eventually I found the willpower to tell her it had to stop. She still kept stalking me for years, but fortunately it never got too ugly.

To the OP or anyone else considering it, I highly recommend checking with your HR department on their "fraternization" policy. If it is forbidden, don't do it, if you value your job. If it is allowed subject to various rules, follow those rules to the letter.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

im wondering should i date a co worker

i have had this bad situation of a chick i dated once and she turned into a complete pyhsco. She has been fired from her job

I work in the building with another chick who has shown intrest but not sure whether to risk it or not. I dont think this new chick is the same as the other chick.

I dont know whether to actually risk it or not

If you are the sort who doesn't mind gambling and it would seem that you do like to gamble, since the situation you're asking about is a second encounter.
I'm wondering why even pose the question.

 

[seeshelly]

How could there be a one-size-fits all answer

There have been many successful relationships that began at places of employment and many fails. Where you meet someone is not the key factor in whether or not they are dating material. Should you date someone that you meet at a bus stop? Same answer.

 

[StrawberryNight]

im wondering should i date a co worker

i have had this bad situation of a chick i dated once and she turned into a complete pyhsco. She has been fired from her job

I work in the building with another chick who has shown intrest but not sure whether to risk it or not. I dont think this new chick is the same as the other chick.

I dont know whether to actually risk it or not

I would say no to dating and yes to sex as long as you clearly agree together that it's fun and it doesn't cross over. It is a slippery slope that can go sour anyway really.

 

[Paul_Chance]

To me - it starts with a simple equation. How important is your job to you? If it's "just a job" then take the risk if there is chemistry or interest (don't mistake friendly/flirtatious co-worker for interested in me, but ask).

If a lot rides on your specific job, then I would take the risk, but make sure I have the discussion around "what happens if it goes bad" straight up and early on in the relations to settle each others intentions.

There is a lot at risk in a work place affair, encounter, or romance and you want to be very clear on what could go wrong. It could cost you not only your job, but your career (depending on the career environment - if you work in the "only shop in town", the risk is high. If you've got portable skills and well developed job market for those skills, that pushes the risk down - lose a job, get another job.

The very first step if you decide to pursue it is make sure the interest is actually mutual.

 

[MadameSarcasm]

Office romance breakups are excruciating. I would not advise it unless you're in a job you're not likely to stick with, like a summer job.
My two cents.
Good luck!

 

[pplwatching]

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[HoldYouDown]

It became a personal prison for me. Glad to be free.

 

[HoldYouDown]

Should you date someone that you meet at a bus stop? Same answer.

I disagree. A person you met at a bus stop, you can dump and not worry about seeing again. Your career is your livelihood...think twice before turning it into a dating pool.

 

[ericandshannon]

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[mjolnir_1]

Got me fired, so can't recommend.