I'm just a soul whose intentions are good O Lord, please dont let me be misunderstood

[Anesthetist50]

This lyric from the 60's band The Animals speaks to the questions which have been raised here by Rosa, Jada, Mrs Gray, and others. To wit: What are people looking for, why do they act like they do, why is PM better or worse than open forum, and so on.

My answer is this: I am on here to meet others and interact. I want to understand what is important to you, and not just sexual proclivities. Certainly the nature of this site and the anonymity of the internet aims members towards sexual topics, but not everyone obsesses with that. I want to share my experiences and expertise with others and gain insight from their lives. I understand that people are not comfortable asking some things in public, so my PM mailbox is open. I respect that sense of privacy. If they are comfortable asking in a public forum, I will answer in kind.

Inasmuch as you don't have to have a license to sign on to Lit, there are going to be some weirdos and some who just can't carry on a meaningful conversation. Such is life, and for those types there is an "ignore" feature. I do think that there are more good people than bad on here, and it would be a shame to miss out on some humor or information which someone offers due to blocking everyone. Baby with the bathwater and all...

As my screen name suggests, I was an anesthetist for many years. I was also a paramedic and a member of the Air Force Reserve. If anyone wants to ask about that, or anything else I have done, or am interested in, please feel free to ask, either in this thread, or by PM. I have no boundaries, but will always respect yours. I've met some delightful people so far, and hope to meet many more. Please feel free to let me hear from you!

 

[Rosa2019]

Good post. Better than most. As a new member you already sound very comfortable being in a new community. Open heart and open mind. Articulate and friendly. I trust you are not a robot. Very human.

I am glad that you are going to share your experiences and expertise.
Wil be looking forward.

I might add more tomorrow. It's getting late into the night here.
Rosa

 

[lonely_hubby60]

appreciating your recent threads, Rosa and Anesthetist!

I want to thank both of you for your recent efforts. IMHO you are reminding a lot of people here of civilized communication approaches, plain and simple.

I have been on Lit longer than you, Anesthetist, hence my optimism is not as high as yours. Particularly many personal ads I read here – not all, fortunately – convey two messages to me: a lack of diligence + care, which to me appear on the increase, and a belief that one can get by nowadays without them.

I am also older than you, and I was taught – in more ways than one – that you don't get something for nothing generally. On a forum where people aim to meet other people, you can either try to understand others and respond to them, or you can entertain the belief of being so irresistible that others will flock to your PM box and keep coming back there, even if you ignore basic rules of civility.

It starts with simple matters like spelling. A man referring to himself as a "MAKE" instead of spelling his gender correctly, comes across as sloppy, and when a woman's ad merely reads: "45f, 34C, apply for me within" only the most desperate men will respond.

I posted an ad the other day, in which I explained what I was looking for and why, and one woman actually believed she had sent me a response, when she addressed me as "u" together with seven words expressing her expectation. Instead of reacting to my offer with a counter offer of hers.

It seems to me that modern-day comms tools, like phones without a real keyboard, drive much of what I see as carelessness. But I fear that the attitudes of posters and PM writers are the true root cause of today's malaise. And if attitudes are to change, someone has to set a counter-example or make an appeal.

So I find your efforts, Rosa and Anesthetist, all the more praise-worthy; I appreciate them a lot.

 

[Chris_Michael]

You're all the same person. I'm 100% sure of it.

 

[lonely_hubby60]

You're all the same person. I'm 100% sure of it.

never heard about soulmates, Chris?

 

[Chris_Michael]

never heard about soulmates, Chris?

glBock, I know it's you. I'm not an idiot.

You and all of your alts have the same writing patterns.

 

[Anesthetist50]

and you would be 100% wrong. A closed mouth gathers no foot.

 

[Chris_Michael]

and you would be 100% wrong. A closed mouth gathers no foot.

glBock *would* say that.

 

[seeshelly]

The nice thing about group think

The nice thing about group think is that you don't have to be the same person to be the same person. If everyone's mind is cloned into the collective Borg hive then we are all one big happy family of mindless drones. We are the Borg.

 

[Deleted member 3041612]

This lyric from the 60's band The Animals speaks to the questions which have been raised here by Rosa, Jada, Mrs Gray, and others. To wit: What are people looking for, why do they act like they do, why is PM better or worse than open forum, and so on.

My answer is this: I am on here to meet others and interact. I want to understand what is important to you, and not just sexual proclivities. Certainly the nature of this site and the anonymity of the internet aims members towards sexual topics, but not everyone obsesses with that. I want to share my experiences and expertise with others and gain insight from their lives. I understand that people are not comfortable asking some things in public, so my PM mailbox is open. I respect that sense of privacy. If they are comfortable asking in a public forum, I will answer in kind.

Inasmuch as you don't have to have a license to sign on to Lit, there are going to be some weirdos and some who just can't carry on a meaningful conversation. Such is life, and for those types there is an "ignore" feature. I do think that there are more good people than bad on here, and it would be a shame to miss out on some humor or information which someone offers due to blocking everyone. Baby with the bathwater and all...

As my screen name suggests, I was an anesthetist for many years. I was also a paramedic and a member of the Air Force Reserve. If anyone wants to ask about that, or anything else I have done, or am interested in, please feel free to ask, either in this thread, or by PM. I have no boundaries, but will always respect yours. I've met some delightful people so far, and hope to meet many more. Please feel free to let me hear from you!

I wish you well Anesthestist50. I do hope for you to have plenty of visitors to your thread and PMs in your inbox

 

[JustChattingOnLit]

This lyric from the 60's band The Animals speaks to the questions which have been raised here by Rosa, Jada, Mrs Gray, and others. To wit: What are people looking for, why do they act like they do, why is PM better or worse than open forum, and so on.

My answer is this: I am on here to meet others and interact. I want to understand what is important to you, and not just sexual proclivities. Certainly the nature of this site and the anonymity of the internet aims members towards sexual topics, but not everyone obsesses with that. I want to share my experiences and expertise with others and gain insight from their lives. I understand that people are not comfortable asking some things in public, so my PM mailbox is open. I respect that sense of privacy. If they are comfortable asking in a public forum, I will answer in kind.

Inasmuch as you don't have to have a license to sign on to Lit, there are going to be some weirdos and some who just can't carry on a meaningful conversation. Such is life, and for those types there is an "ignore" feature. I do think that there are more good people than bad on here, and it would be a shame to miss out on some humor or information which someone offers due to blocking everyone. Baby with the bathwater and all...

As my screen name suggests, I was an anesthetist for many years. I was also a paramedic and a member of the Air Force Reserve. If anyone wants to ask about that, or anything else I have done, or am interested in, please feel free to ask, either in this thread, or by PM. I have no boundaries, but will always respect yours. I've met some delightful people so far, and hope to meet many more. Please feel free to let me hear from you!

In this lonely world of social media, where everyone thinks everyone is connected, it's actually very difficult establishing meaningful dialogue. Dialogue where someone has complete thoughts and can articulate in full sentences. That being said,

What brings you onto a primarily sex discussion site versus any other site?

 

[Rosa2019]

In this lonely world of social media, where everyone thinks everyone is connected, it's actually very difficult establishing meaningful dialogue. Dialogue where someone has complete thoughts and can articulate in full sentences. ...

Enjoy the bits and pieces in the kaleidoscope. Enjoy what you can find.
It could be even a greater fun in trying to weave them together.

 

[Anesthetist50]

In this lonely world of social media, where everyone thinks everyone is connected, it's actually very difficult establishing meaningful dialogue. Dialogue where someone has complete thoughts and can articulate in full sentences. That being said,

What brings you onto a primarily sex discussion site versus any other site?

I enjoy sexual discussion, but I would like to find women to talk with who write in complete sentences. Obviously, I agree with your assessment regarding connections, but until you put yourself out there, you have 0% chance of connecting with someone. Ironically, it seems like the most thoughtful, well written posts (and stories) on here come from the distaff side.

 

[HavingHerFinalSay]

You're all the same person. I'm 100% sure of it.

I detect some cynicism towards the OP? Perhaps well founded, time will ultimately tell.

 

[lonely_hubby60]

when I try to tie together the posts on this thread ….

…. or aim to discover commonalities, the only thing I really can see here is an enormous divergence. Is that something good or bad?

If it were diversity I see, that would be positive. Because diverse thinking can lead to pollination or cross-fertilization. But divergence in my eyes indicates a regrettable lack of common values.

At first I interpreted your remarks, seeshelly, on the dangers of group think as a positive contribution, but then it occurred to me, that you might perhaps accuse the wrong people here of "group thinking", Rosa, Anesthetist and me. Considering that you as a Trump supporter, actually see a positive message in that horrible Clinton film of 2016.

And then posts #10 and 11 sounded encouraging to me, only to be followed by that woman, who always wants to have the final say, taking up that silly contention of Chris, with which he had broken up the positive line of thinking in the beginning of the thread.

So I am afraid, my own personal impression – when I read 14 posts on this thread – says we have people here with values I agree with and find positive. But also three who oppose this consensus of values. OK, one can argue, a ratio of 5 to 3 ain't bad, but when I think of possibly 40% Trump supporters in 2020? A horrible vison to me. …. Seems to me a society without shared values is doomed, especially when its constitution is based on a fundamental consensus, which just does not exist any longer.

 

[Chris_Michael]

This is 100% glBock. I could recognize that bullshit word salad from a mile away.

 

[lonely_hubby60]

This is 100% glBock. I could recognize that bullshit word salad from a mile away.

So what if it is: what's that got to do with the price of beans, I ask you?

Have you got nothing else to do all day than break into other people conversations? If you are unable to say anything constructive, have you ever considered keeping your mouth shut?

 

[Chris_Michael]

So what if it is: what's that got to do with the price of beans, I ask you?

Have you got nothing else to do all day than break into other people conversations? If you are unable to say anything constructive, have you ever considered keeping your mouth shut?

Let me explain something to you, and I want you to really pay attention because this is very important.

I would NEVER consider keeping my mouth shut, EVER.

 

[lonely_hubby60]

Let me explain something to you, and I want you to really pay attention because this is very important.

I would NEVER consider keeping my mouth shut, EVER.

I know that of course, Chris. My suggestion to you earlier requires an open mind, on the part of its recipient. And for some people it takes ages until their mind opens up. I can only wish you that kind of luck in the future.