Advice on open marriages

[Jaxom65]

Second attempt at posting. My wife asked me about having an open relationship. I’m surprised it took her this long to ask really. Due to mainly health issues we have not been intimate in a rather long time. Instead of typing out the long post I did before. In a nutshell this is the advice I could use.

How do I tell her it’s okay, yet let her also know I don’t want out relationship to end. How do you go about setting ground rules? I’m suffering from a few different issues that cause constant excruciating pain in my body. The main reason it has become an issue leading to the lack of physical contact, yet I have needs too.

I think back to when we lived in Chicago. Before I met my wife, I belonged to a swingers club. Many of us believed, and I still believe that I’m will to do what it takes so my wife is satisfied even if that means with other men and or women.

We transplanted to Cape Girardeau Missouri two years ago. We know basically nobody here. My best friend passed away from cancer last year, and my wife’s best friend lives 500 miles away. I wish there was a swingers club here in Cape where we could meet and make friends with or without benefits. Of course with would be more fun though! Suggestions? Comments?


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[Lotusflower2010]

Open relationship

I'm so sorry to hear of your ill health.

Your wife honestly reached out to speak to you about seeing other men and did not just do it. Deep down, you have the answers to your questions.
Just be honest. Let her know that you understand her physical needs but don't want to lose the relationship you have together. Speak to your doctor who may have advise on how to share intimacy with minimal pain.

Only you and your wife will know what rules to put in place that will work for each of you. Treat each other with respect and kindness and it will work out.

Best to you!

 

[sub2femdom]

Second attempt at posting. My wife asked me about having an open relationship. I’m surprised it took her this long to ask really. Due to mainly health issues we have not been intimate in a rather long time. Instead of typing out the long post I did before. In a nutshell this is the advice I could use.

How do I tell her it’s okay, yet let her also know I don’t want out relationship to end. How do you go about setting ground rules? I’m suffering from a few different issues that cause constant excruciating pain in my body. The main reason it has become an issue leading to the lack of physical contact, yet I have needs too.

I think back to when we lived in Chicago. Before I met my wife, I belonged to a swingers club. Many of us believed, and I still believe that I’m will to do what it takes so my wife is satisfied even if that means with other men and or women.

We transplanted to Cape Girardeau Missouri two years ago. We know basically nobody here. My best friend passed away from cancer last year, and my wife’s best friend lives 500 miles away. I wish there was a swingers club here in Cape where we could meet and make friends with or without benefits. Of course with would be more fun though! Suggestions? Comments?


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There's a website that can connect you to local swingers. Some couples on there still follow traditional swinger rules (swapping), but there's plenty of other people into all kinds of kinks, or just looking for NSA sex. It IS a community though- and people are mostly respectful. I started with a free membership and after a couple of great successes, I joined as a member. Like any site, some free membership subscribers can be intolerable, and as a member you can exclude them to the point that they can't even see you/your profile. It's not super flashy, just a plain swinger site with a few good features.

PM me and I'm happy to tell you the site

 

[Yerkiddin]

You need to figure out what you can be comfortable with before you two make ground rules. If you say "yes" to things you aren't comfortable with, it can lead to trouble. Start with what you're sure you can say "yes" to before opening up more.

With every change comes some risk of losing a relationship, but same with every "no" when change is asked for.