Jada59
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He has been living here for about two years now. They are not married. She's just a GF.
I initially let him stay here to get away from her. The story is convoluted and I don't think I need to give all the details but he seems to be in a pattern.
Him asking her to leave then taking her back. She was gone for about three weeks this last time and he started his own business as well as did other things to cut ties when her so I thought it over between them. Until it wasn't. She came back a few days ago.
She and I do not get along. She pushed me into the fridge once. I try to be polite to her but mainly we avoid each other. *I* don't want her here.
When she was gone most recently, he fell into mental decline and it's only getting worse. He spent two days drinking. I think he has stopped that. Clearly he needs more help than I can give him but in the state he is in, I don't believe he's receptive to getting outside help.
He and I had a falling out not this last winter but the one before. I saw clear signs of abuse. Mental, emotional, physical and her controlling everything, What he ate, if he ate, when he could sleep, what he could wear/have/do, etc. She also took all his money and managed to get money for herself through his relatives. And she will take his phone so he can't call for help.
My mistake? He told me he wanted her gone, so I told him I would tell her to leave. I did not realize she was holding him hostage in her car, and was listening to my every word. He begged me not to kick her out. In the end, I didn't kick her out but he lost trust in me and it took me a few months to regain it.
Having come from an abusive relationship myself, I know how awful it is when you just want to vent to someone and have them tell you that they don't want to hear it. Most likely because they feel helpless. I did tell him that he could always confide in me and I would not judge or do anything that he did not want me to do.
I am very observant and I know at least some of what happened to him in the past although he didn't confide these things to me until today. He told me that she sees me as stupid. Ha!
At any rate, just prior to what I said above, he came flying through the house, telling me he needed help.
I ran outside. She was in her vehicle and he was screaming that she had hit him. I was not fast enough, didn't see her hit him but I have no doubt that she did. She is trying to get him to hit her back so she can call the police to get him arrested, She has gotten him arrested by faking injuries. This last time he kicked her out it was because she threatened to have him arrested for bathing a puppy. She claimed that the puppy had just had an operation and the bath would kill her. She had no stitches though, so... Dunno about that.
So that about sums it up. I know he needs help. He knows he needs help. But I don't know what *I* can do to help him other than to listen to him when he feels ready to talk. Right now he just wants to be alone. I did ask him if he wanted her here or not. He gave me some babbling then said he just wanted us all to love each other. And no, this isn't a sexual thing between me and either of them. I do love him. He loves me. We both know this. But I would be hard pressed to love her in any way, shape or form because of how she treats people. Especially him!
Is there anything else I can do? I feel so bad for him. It seemed that his life was going to get better but it just kind of tanked.
Feel free to PM me if you don't want to speak publicly about this. Thanks!
I initially let him stay here to get away from her. The story is convoluted and I don't think I need to give all the details but he seems to be in a pattern.
Him asking her to leave then taking her back. She was gone for about three weeks this last time and he started his own business as well as did other things to cut ties when her so I thought it over between them. Until it wasn't. She came back a few days ago.
She and I do not get along. She pushed me into the fridge once. I try to be polite to her but mainly we avoid each other. *I* don't want her here.
When she was gone most recently, he fell into mental decline and it's only getting worse. He spent two days drinking. I think he has stopped that. Clearly he needs more help than I can give him but in the state he is in, I don't believe he's receptive to getting outside help.
He and I had a falling out not this last winter but the one before. I saw clear signs of abuse. Mental, emotional, physical and her controlling everything, What he ate, if he ate, when he could sleep, what he could wear/have/do, etc. She also took all his money and managed to get money for herself through his relatives. And she will take his phone so he can't call for help.
My mistake? He told me he wanted her gone, so I told him I would tell her to leave. I did not realize she was holding him hostage in her car, and was listening to my every word. He begged me not to kick her out. In the end, I didn't kick her out but he lost trust in me and it took me a few months to regain it.
Having come from an abusive relationship myself, I know how awful it is when you just want to vent to someone and have them tell you that they don't want to hear it. Most likely because they feel helpless. I did tell him that he could always confide in me and I would not judge or do anything that he did not want me to do.
I am very observant and I know at least some of what happened to him in the past although he didn't confide these things to me until today. He told me that she sees me as stupid. Ha!
At any rate, just prior to what I said above, he came flying through the house, telling me he needed help.
I ran outside. She was in her vehicle and he was screaming that she had hit him. I was not fast enough, didn't see her hit him but I have no doubt that she did. She is trying to get him to hit her back so she can call the police to get him arrested, She has gotten him arrested by faking injuries. This last time he kicked her out it was because she threatened to have him arrested for bathing a puppy. She claimed that the puppy had just had an operation and the bath would kill her. She had no stitches though, so... Dunno about that.
So that about sums it up. I know he needs help. He knows he needs help. But I don't know what *I* can do to help him other than to listen to him when he feels ready to talk. Right now he just wants to be alone. I did ask him if he wanted her here or not. He gave me some babbling then said he just wanted us all to love each other. And no, this isn't a sexual thing between me and either of them. I do love him. He loves me. We both know this. But I would be hard pressed to love her in any way, shape or form because of how she treats people. Especially him!
Is there anything else I can do? I feel so bad for him. It seemed that his life was going to get better but it just kind of tanked.
Feel free to PM me if you don't want to speak publicly about this. Thanks!
