Doms: humiliation tasks or rules?

[intouchwith]

Hey, all --

I'm very into humiliation (not so much the name-calling, more violent kinds, though, but to each their own!) and I was wondering if anyone on here would be interested in sharing their favorite ways to either be humiliated or humiliate a (specifically a female identifying) sub. Rules, tasks, everything...

I'd love to hear what you all have to say <3

 

[DVS]

Hey, all --

I'm very into humiliation (not so much the name-calling, more violent kinds, though, but to each their own!) and I was wondering if anyone on here would be interested in sharing their favorite ways to either be humiliated or humiliate a (specifically a female identifying) sub. Rules, tasks, everything...

I'd love to hear what you all have to say <3

Just like everything else, the submissive decides on what will and what won't happen. You don't decide to humiliate someone just because you like it. You do it because you both like it. And there are various ways to humiliate someone, so it's always important to talk these things out before hand and make sure it's all clear how to proceed.

I know it doesn't sound that sexual to plan things out, but it's not like you are planning things out word for word, but you are planning things out in a way that the submissive is allowing.

If bondage is involved, you adhere to all rules relating to bondage, and you adhere to all rules involving safe words. If you are both newbies, I'd advise using hand cuffs that have a safety release, so either of you can use it, or the bondage is loose enough that the submissive can free herself on her own.

Trust is the largest part of any BDSM situation and if you fail as a dom in that, you can pretty much kiss your desires goodbye to that submissive and most likely all of her friends, relatives, group members, and anybody she happens to meet on the street to point you out.

I'm kidding a little here, but I don't kid about trust. Sticking to the plan you both decided on, always asking if she's OK with what's going on, following her limits and performing after care for her, if necessary.

No, nothing to say on humiliation. But, it can be pretty humiliating for you, if you aren't a good dom and follow all of the rules of the game. Have fun, play safe and abide by all of the rules the two of you set in place.

 

[cookiecat]

rules, tasks, everything???

I'm not really sure what you're after here. Masturbation fodder? Actual exchange of ideas? Do you need help finding inspiration??

Here's a thread all about humiliation here in Talk. Could help you??

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1083303

 

[Knoturnal]

when i first say the post the thing that came to my mind was that the OP wanted ideas that he could use in his travels. i was thinking of telling him of any of the Doms here had their own ideas they certainly wouldn't want to disclose them to someone they did not know.

And I agree with DVS on his first paragraph but we also know where some ideas come from even though they need to be negotiated with the submissive before they come to pass.

 

[intouchwith]

My post was definitely confusing-- and for that, I apologize!

Wrote it too quickly and wasn't paying enough mind. I'm actually a submissive girl, and was posting to get some ideas of suggestions that I could use or bring up to a dom-- I know certain things that I am interested in, but I'm relatively new to the d/s relationship dynamic, so it was more of a general question or request.

Completely understand if no one is interested in sharing! I just like seeing others' ideas-- things subs have been tasked with that they particularly enjoyed or things that doms have brought to the table that they either found very successful or things they'd like to try ~~

thanks, everyone

 

[sub2femdom]

My post was definitely confusing-- and for that, I apologize!

Wrote it too quickly and wasn't paying enough mind. I'm actually a submissive girl, and was posting to get some ideas of suggestions that I could use or bring up to a dom-- I know certain things that I am interested in, but I'm relatively new to the d/s relationship dynamic, so it was more of a general question or request.

Completely understand if no one is interested in sharing! I just like seeing others' ideas-- things subs have been tasked with that they particularly enjoyed or things that doms have brought to the table that they either found very successful or things they'd like to try ~~

thanks, everyone

I enjoy several types of humiliation, some of which are unavailable to you simply because of gender, but others you might find useful-

- Being made to crawl from spot to spot to follow your master.
- Being told that you are a slut, whore, or other demeaning sexual reference
- Your master sharing you with others
- Orgasm denial and/or being made fun of that you aren't allowed to orgasm while master freely can and does
- Being made, told, or forced to lick up your own orgasm
- Being dressed up in a way you normally wouldn't in the bedroom
- Being made into a servant
- Unwanted spankings
- Anal and/or vaginal plugs
- Chastity

 

[Maeven_quinn]

I enjoy several types of humiliation, some of which are unavailable to you simply because of gender, but others you might find useful-

- Being made to crawl from spot to spot to follow your master.
- Being told that you are a slut, whore, or other demeaning sexual reference
- Your master sharing you with others
- Orgasm denial and/or being made fun of that you aren't allowed to orgasm while master freely can and does
- Being made, told, or forced to lick up your own orgasm
- Being dressed up in a way you normally wouldn't in the bedroom
- Being made into a servant
- Unwanted spankings
- Anal and/or vaginal plugs
- Chastity

Forced crawling, especially at play parties, is incredibly humiliating. Getting called all kinds of nasty names like, “muttering fuck toy” while gagged is equally humiliating.

Barefoot in the house and forced to do chores does it too.

 

[Knoturnal]

Myself I don’t think of similar things as humiliation. Calling my little one a slut my cock sucker, or my fucking whore is more of an endearment if I wanted to be humiliating her I would be calling her fat, stupid, ugly, or something similar. Spankings she likes as much as I like giving them to her. In fact most of the things I might want her to do such as wearing clamps or other things plugging her ass up with a plug, crawling naked to me, she likes too and just makes her more endearing to me.
To me it should be something that’s somewhat humiliating, or embarrassing but calling her my cockslut , my whore are just some of the things I appreciate about her.

 

[submio]

Since I don’t see an option to delete this I’ll just edit it. Post moved to more appropriate thread: https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?p=91452822#post91452822

 

[Lascivity]

Names. A general tone. Small gestures in public can be wonderfully humiliating. Taking something off them when they're using it, drinking it, playing with it - as though they're an errant child. Telling them to sit down and behave themselves. I enjoy subtle humiliations like that.

In general, though, any answer to the original question depends a lot on what you personally find humiliating.

 

[Master_Doctor]

Hey, all --

I'm very into humiliation (not so much the name-calling, more violent kinds, though, but to each their own!) and I was wondering if anyone on here would be interested in sharing their favorite ways to either be humiliated or humiliate a (specifically a female identifying) sub. Rules, tasks, everything...

I'd love to hear what you all have to say <3

The issue I have with such requests (and I see the this sort of thing all the time) is that humiliation as with many kinks are very subjective. What is humiliating to one person means absolutely nothing to another. To Some having to walk about town in a skirt and no panties... may make them sweat tears... while another going commando in the same outfit brings no real surface feelings at all. For instance I had a young slave 21-25 age in Colorado years ago. When I made her go out (fully covered and clothed) without wearing a bra (she was 36 DDD)... she would break down in tears within 20 mins. Most women, even vanilla, wouldnt have near the reaction she did.

So asking what is humiliating / objectifying is very subjective and personal. Add to the fact that Psychologically speaking, we often step up activities that excite us. So you enjoy a kink... and you do it a lot... and before very long its not as exciting as it once was (say like being made to go w/o panties) and so you want MORE, want to feel that same level of excitement. So you step up to an activity or kink that makes us feel as excited as we were with the previous one. Like perhaps you want to be made to be exposed in public instead of being made to go w/o panties.

Every month, I see questions asked by Subs and Doms alike... wanting to know what others do... many times its to get new ideas they havent thought of... But its very short sighted... because what Ive done to humiliate and excite my girl... may very well have no effect on yours... or worse... seriously upset her.. I think these things are better explored with you and your partner... who who trust has been established.

Master Doctor