Are women over 50 invisible?

[bone251]

I try not to be...

 

[stu_gats_2000]

I have always had an attraction to women that are older than I....

 

[PearlyDewdrops]

Invisible? Not to me.

Since I've restarted dating and having lovers and so on, they have mostly been women over 50 or approaching 50. In fact, when I was on Tinder, I eventually set the age limit to five years older or younger, though I started with a 10 year age gap.

Many of these 50-year-old women told me of how they had stopped lusting as the excitement in their marriages died. Consequently, they were surprised to rediscover their libido and enjoyment of sex the same or even increased after divorce and despite going through menopause.

I prefer women my age because there is a shared history and culture, shared foibles even. If we can talk and there is honesty, patience and we build trust, the intimacy and communication is better and so is the sex.

There's also a greater tolerance and acceptance born of experience.

It doesn't work for everyone but it does work for me. I'm also very clear about not wanting to remarry or be "the one" of anyone. Women over 50, who have no plans to recreate a family home and ideal couple but prefer their independence, are often open to being adventurous and exploring what they didn't do in their youth when they feared prejudice, shame or stigma.

Being +/- 50 now can be great. We're maybe the first generation of 50-year-olds to be really fit, healthy and relatively secure, but independent and in mostly sex-positive societies at our age. Let's enjoy it.

 

[DawnODay]

 

[DDBustyBrit]

I eventually set the age limit to five years older or younger, though I started with a 10 year age gap.

Consequently, they were surprised to rediscover their libido and enjoyment of sex the same or even increased after divorce and despite going through menopause.

I prefer women my age because there is a shared history and culture, shared foibles even. If we can talk and there is honesty, patience and we build trust, the intimacy and communication is better and so is the sex.

There's also a greater tolerance and acceptance born of experience.

Being +/- 50 now can be great. We're maybe the first generation of 50-year-olds to be really fit, healthy and relatively secure, but independent and in mostly sex-positive societies at our age. Let's enjoy it.

All the above is the same for me as a woman in my early 50’s!

Recently I have also limited my activities to only men in their 50’s, and there are so many good ones to choose from I dismiss all outside that range. I have an over abundance of emotionally mature, smart, funny, sexy, professional men to talk to. At this age they are generally more settled in life, know what they want and also how to treat women well.

I have also been very happy to discover at this age they know their kinks or fetishes and are not afraid to share them. As I’m into the kinky stuff it just makes it so much easier and the sex is usually excellent. I think in part because we’re past the awkward stage where sex is concerned and just go for it.

So with one exception and he is a very sexy 33 yr old boy toy, I have only been with men in their fifties on Lit for over a year now! I love the cultural references we share, with one sad exception they all remain friends and it’s just fun.

And as for those in their fifties fixated on younger women, they’re missing out. As per the quote, I am find myself at my sexual peak, open to try new things, sexually very confident, not shy with pics/cam and a crazy high sex drive

Personally I appear to be far from invisible at 53 and my pms stay in the hundreds constantly. But then my racy Am Pics thread doesn’t hurt that

 

[Joe_Bob_Gautama]

I've known women from their 20's to their 80's who had something to teach me. I don't really believe in such things, but sometimes I get this eerie, almost visceral feeling that it's the age of their souls that matters.

 

[lady_jennaxx]

I try to make a point of not being invisible...

 

[PearlyDewdrops]

All the above is the same for me as a woman in my early 50’s!

Recently I have also limited my activities to only men in their 50’s, and there are so many good ones to choose from I dismiss all outside that range. I have an over abundance of emotionally mature, smart, funny, sexy, professional men to talk to. At this age they are generally more settled in life, know what they want and also how to treat women well.

I have also been very happy to discover at this age they know their kinks or fetishes and are not afraid to share them. As I’m into the kinky stuff it just makes it so much easier and the sex is usually excellent. I think in part because we’re past the awkward stage where sex is concerned and just go for it.

So with one exception and he is a very sexy 33 yr old boy toy, I have only been with men in their fifties on Lit for over a year now! I love the cultural references we share, with one sad exception they all remain friends and it’s just fun.

And as for those in their fifties fixated on younger women, they’re missing out. As per the quote, I am find myself at my sexual peak, open to try new things, sexually very confident, not shy with pics/cam and a crazy high sex drive

Personally I appear to be far from invisible at 53 and my pms stay in the hundreds constantly. But then my racy Am Pics thread doesn’t hurt that

This.

Your Am Pics thread is astonishingly good. I promise to write on it when I have time - currently t's one week with the children one week for indulgence.

 

[Joe_Bob_Gautama]

Invisible? Not to me.

Since I've restarted dating and having lovers and so on, they have mostly been women over 50 or approaching 50. In fact, when I was on Tinder, I eventually set the age limit to five years older or younger, though I started with a 10 year age gap.

Many of these 50-year-old women told me of how they had stopped lusting as the excitement in their marriages died. Consequently, they were surprised to rediscover their libido and enjoyment of sex the same or even increased after divorce and despite going through menopause.

I prefer women my age because there is a shared history and culture, shared foibles even. If we can talk and there is honesty, patience and we build trust, the intimacy and communication is better and so is the sex.

There's also a greater tolerance and acceptance born of experience.

It doesn't work for everyone but it does work for me. I'm also very clear about not wanting to remarry or be "the one" of anyone. Women over 50, who have no plans to recreate a family home and ideal couple but prefer their independence, are often open to being adventurous and exploring what they didn't do in their youth when they feared prejudice, shame or stigma.

Being +/- 50 now can be great. We're maybe the first generation of 50-year-olds to be really fit, healthy and relatively secure, but independent and in mostly sex-positive societies at our age. Let's enjoy it.

Excellent post!

 

[Veeweewee]

I think it's all a matter of presentation.

I'm not far off 60, but have always looked after myself, still 52-53kg, same as when I was younger (that's about 118lb). Oh yes I can be invisible if I want to be, and sometimes I do want to be.

The thing is nobody is every one’s cup of tea. Tits and ass fans won't be attracted to me at all, but those that like racy athletic types just might be.... that's the men. Women are a whole different game... age, looks, body type don't matter as much as the "je ne sais quoi", that special something that make one woman love another.

FWIW

 

[MutualMatureMike]

I think it's all a matter of presentation.

I'm not far off 60, but have always looked after myself, still 52-53kg, same as when I was younger (that's about 118lb). Oh yes I can be invisible if I want to be, and sometimes I do want to be.

The thing is nobody is every one’s cup of tea. Tits and ass fans won't be attracted to me at all, but those that like racy athletic types just might be.... that's the men. Women are a whole different game... age, looks, body type don't matter as much as the "je ne sais quoi", that special something that make one woman love another.

FWIW

I find that "je ne sais quoi" applies to anyone, sometimes something just clicks, curiosity is aroused, deeper explorations are mutually inspired.

 

[Crownvic]

I try to make a point of not being invisible...

Please don’t...we want to see you...

 

[Joe_Bob_Gautama]

I’ve become acquainted recently with a theory from evolutionary psychology that proposes that after women pass their child bearing years, they continue to be valuable for passing on their DNA by being wise and caring and protective. I’ve seen it in action. I cherish older women. Older men, though, I haven’t yet figured out what they’re worth. They just seem cranky. But I’ll look into it.

 

[junk_yard]

Never under estimate an older woman... my last two lovers were 70 and then 58. Both were thin, attractive and very much into lovemaking.

 

[OneAuthor]

Women in their fifties are far from invisible to me. As a man who has recently entered his fifties, I can honestly say that I find most women in that age group (and beyond) to be beautiful both inside and outside.

 

[Crownvic]

Women in their fifties are far from invisible to me. As a man who has recently entered his fifties, I can honestly say that I find most women in that age group (and beyond) to be beautiful both inside and outside.

Hot fifties woman...love them....

 

[Tnt69]

Truthfully, I have more visibility now in my 60s than any other decade in my life!

 

[KinkyQuester1]

Truthfully, I have more visibility now in my 60s than any other decade in my life!

I can see why! I am in my early 40's and women in there 50's and 60's are so incredibly beautiful and sexy, as are all women but something about that age range draws me in!

 

[Spiritedlady]

Im not yet 50 but getting there - 49. I definitely went through the invisible phase when my kiddo was a bit younger. I would walk down the street and it was like I was wearing a cloak of invisibility. I felt like a drab person and I think that’s the image I was projecting a lot of the time. When my libido came rocking back about 18 months ago it all changed. I’m not a great beauty, I’m not skinny but I’m not unattractive either but it’s like I’m finally seen. I haven’t changed much about my outward appearance- I’m not wearing the sheer blouses and mini skirts beloved of Penthouse Letters but I have a certain speculative look in my eye which gets noticed. I now get attention from men in their 30s which I’m very happy about. I’m
still trying to work out how to maximise the interest without throwing a hand grenade into my life.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Im not yet 50 but getting there - 49. I definitely went through the invisible phase when my kiddo was a bit younger. I would walk down the street and it was like I was wearing a cloak of invisibility. I felt like a drab person and I think that’s the image I was projecting a lot of the time. When my libido came rocking back about 18 months ago it all changed. I’m not a great beauty, I’m not skinny but I’m not unattractive either but it’s like I’m finally seen. I haven’t changed much about my outward appearance- I’m not wearing the sheer blouses and mini skirts beloved of Penthouse Letters but I have a certain speculative look in my eye which gets noticed. I now get attention from men in their 30s which I’m very happy about. I’m
still trying to work out how to maximise the interest without throwing a hand grenade into my life.

I think you are gorgeous!!!!

 

[OneAuthor]

Truthfully, I have more visibility now in my 60s than any other decade in my life!

Looking great! Thank you for sharing that lovely pic.

 

[curl4ever]

I’ve become acquainted recently with a theory from evolutionary psychology that proposes that after women pass their child bearing years, they continue to be valuable for passing on their DNA by being wise and caring and protective. I’ve seen it in action. I cherish older women. Older men, though, I haven’t yet figured out what they’re worth. They just seem cranky. But I’ll look into it.

Cranky? Cranky! Who do you think you’re calling cranky? Well, let me tell you a thing or two...

<snerk>

 

[Joe_Bob_Gautama]

Cranky? Cranky! Who do you think you’re calling cranky? Well, let me tell you a thing or two...

<snerk>

Get the fuck off my lawn!

 

[quietlylooking]

Get the fuck off my lawn!

I love this.

Perhaps a more positive take on the invisibility that come with aging in women?
https://www.theatlantic.com/enterta...tent=20190927&silverid-ref=MzEwMTU3NTc1MzI2S0

 

[MutualMatureMike]

I love this.

Perhaps a more positive take on the invisibility that come with aging in women?
https://www.theatlantic.com/enterta...tent=20190927&silverid-ref=MzEwMTU3NTc1MzI2S0

That's really interesting, I like the phrase "disappearing one wrinkle at a time"
I wonder if it's the arrogance of us men that brushes over our own wrinkling maturity, confident in the self delusion of entitlement? All of us, male or female, is so much more than skin deep.