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[Inkhorn]

Anyone else have trouble writing when there's someone else in the room? Not just in regards to erotica, but at all?

 

[Voboy]

Nope. Not even a little bit.

In fact, depending on what kind of stuff I’m typing, it’s sort of a thrill.

 

[Privates1stClass]

Anyone else have trouble writing when there's someone else in the room? Not just in regards to erotica, but at all?

Depends on the circumstances. I wouldn't work on a Literotica story while in the public library, but sometimes my wife would read over my shoulder while I was typing. She'd make comments/corrections. Sometimes, she'd read what I was writing, then say something like, "Remember when we were on our honeymoon...," and she'd relate a few facts I'd forgotten about. It's good to have a second set of eyes on your writing.

 

[flytime]

Oh Hell Yes!
I try to go deep into what other people call their subconscious mind, the places we hide our inner most thoughts, even from our selves. If a loved one or even a trusted friend is hovering around in the background, it generates blockages in me to deeper and sometimes darker erotic expressions of me.
For example, if my girlfriend knew that I fantized about how my mother loved fucking me, while I was fucking her at the time, it would defiantly create problems for both of us, for real. It would inhibit my writing. However, having the TV on in the background helps a lot. Certain movies, not porn, help push me forward. They are mostly Si Fi’s, the monsters devouring the beautiful woman, or Steven King’s work, ya, holy shit. But people moving around in the backround is a bit creepy for me.
Tell me what it’s like for you.

 

[ElectricBlue]

Anyone else have trouble writing when there's someone else in the room? Not just in regards to erotica, but at all?

I don't write erotica when there's someone else in the room, because there's usually a conversation going on, or some other distraction. I need to be in the zone for my stream of subconsciousness to work.

 

[vanmyers86]

I can write in a public space like a library or coffee shop all day long. If I am intent on what I'm writing, you can send a parade past me and I won't look up.
Totally different story at home, with family trying to engage me or even just existing around me. That throws off my concentration big time. I'm not proud of that, but there it is.

 

[ElectricBlue]

Totally different story at home, with family trying to engage me or even just existing around me. That throws off my concentration big time. I'm not proud of that, but there it is.

But that's what families do, how they work, why they work. Why would you want to be proud of ignoring your family? It's when they move out, you get to enjoy the quiet, not before .

 

[Blind_Justice]

I need a certain amount of quiet around me when writing initial drafts but I love my lady love's company when reviewing the previous day's results. She's my sounding board and worst critic, muse and prosecutor. I work best with a cat purring next to me on the desk. Thankfully, I have two volunteers for that.

 

[Inkhorn]

Oh Hell Yes!
I try to go deep into what other people call their subconscious mind, the places we hide our inner most thoughts, even from our selves. If a loved one or even a trusted friend is hovering around in the background, it generates blockages in me to deeper and sometimes darker erotic expressions of me.
For example, if my girlfriend knew that I fantized about how my mother loved fucking me, while I was fucking her at the time, it would defiantly create problems for both of us, for real. It would inhibit my writing. However, having the TV on in the background helps a lot. Certain movies, not porn, help push me forward. They are mostly Si Fi’s, the monsters devouring the beautiful woman, or Steven King’s work, ya, holy shit. But people moving around in the backround is a bit creepy for me.
Tell me what it’s like for you.

I don't write erotica when there's someone else in the room, because there's usually a conversation going on, or some other distraction. I need to be in the zone for my stream of subconsciousness to work.

Pretty much this. I’ve got three teenage kids buzzing around me in a very small house, making it hard to concentrate. Then there’s my wife; she knows that I write erotica but she doesn’t want to *know* what I’m writing, if you get my drift. It’s a compromise we’ve quietly worked out between us. I don’t usually have the time to get to the library or the money to spare for a coffee shop with WiFi. So I end up having to steal what moments I can and pray that I can get a good run in before the house erupts around me again.

 

[Hypoxia]

I write in solitary stillness. I may jot notes elsewhen, but my concentration is easily disrupted. I may dictate ideas and lyrics into a voice recorder whilst strolling, biking, hiking, busing etc, but authoring requires DON'T BOTHER ME.

 

[Polyacrylate]

Most of my fiction writing, whether erotic or other, happens at work on my lunch break. I often devote brain time to it while I'm going to/from work, but that's not the same as writing it down.

My lunch breaks don't usually qualify as a break, either. It's not like work stops for me to eat, so often I'm trying to do so and write smut, while fielding calls about equipment breaking down, programs not working, fabricators doing things incorrectly, etc.

Usually I just roll with the punches. There have been a few times where I've gotten into some details in a story that I found to be really good and erotic. I had a meeting immediately after lunch, and was glad I didn't have to stand in front of the group and talk...

At home, my focus is my family. Mrs Acrylate is aware I write, although has said that if it's not about her, then it's not her business. My kids are on the younger side, and I don't want to miss anything important because of a hobby (I mean, I know people who seem to barely know/be around their kids because they golf literally every day they can. Some of them are even proud of that fact. All I will say is that is not a life I would choose. Good for them, I guess?).

TL;DR: I don't really experience solitude, so I write without it..

 

[ThisNameIsntTakenYet]

I need to be alone to write because I am very easily distracted by anything. I can't even have music on or something like that in the background. Editing though, I've done that in the living room downstairs at times while there was a conversation happening. Somehow it bothers me much less then when compared to writing, as long as I don't need to actively pay attention to what is being said or happening. I still prefer to edit in the same peace and quiet that I like to write in though. Luckily for me, that is very easy to find in our house. People don't generally bother me in my room.

 

[SolarRay]

I have zero problems with activity around me in general -- I can write in a busy cafe just as well as when I'm completely alone. Perhaps better. However, if someone is literally hovering over me or looking at the screen, forget it. Doesn't matter what I'm writing but I get way too anxious and self-conscious to concentrate if anyone is paying attention to what I'm doing. They can read it when I'm done.

 

[SimonDoom]

I only write in private, at my desktop computer at home.

 

[KeithD]

Both write and research alone, and I couldn't work on erotica in a coffee house.

 

[ElectricBlue]

I only write in private, at my desktop computer at home.

With Suzie over your shoulder pointing out errors (but wearing a gorgeous floral perfume, so she's worth the distraction), and your mom bringing in tea. It's no wonder you never get anything finished .

 

[OneAuthor]

I write best when there's nobody else around, although I have managed a bit of successful writing at a coffeehouse with a few strangers close by.

 

[flytime]

Most of my fiction writing, whether erotic or other, happens at work on my lunch break. I often devote brain time to it while I'm going to/from work, but that's not the same as writing it down.

My lunch breaks don't usually qualify as a break, either. It's not like work stops for me to eat, so often I'm trying to do so and write smut, while fielding calls about equipment breaking down, programs not working, fabricators doing things incorrectly, etc.

Usually I just roll with the punches. There have been a few times where I've gotten into some details in a story that I found to be really good and erotic. I had a meeting immediately after lunch, and was glad I didn't have to stand in front of the group and talk...

At home, my focus is my family. Mrs Acrylate is aware I write, although has said that if it's not about her, then it's not her business. My kids are on the younger side, and I don't want to miss anything important because of a hobby (I mean, I know people who seem to barely know/be around their kids because they golf literally every day they can. Some of them are even proud of that fact. All I will say is that is not a life I would choose. Good for them, I guess?).

TL;DR: I don't really experience solitude, so I write without it..

Thanks for posting; I was interested in commenting on it. When I was working, many years ago, it would have been grounds for firing, if caught. But having said that, I too got some of my most powerful sexual imagery ideas for erotica, at work. I even started writing one on the company computer, big mistake, the network is always patrolled and anything produced on the company’s computers is the property of the company. I didn’t get fired but I got a first warning from the network administrator. The company uploads regularly, all information from everyone’s workstation. The admin came by my office and warned me of this fact. So there is now an erotic story in my personnel file.

 

[flytime]

Thanks for commenting, very cool. I could probably “read erotica” sitting next to a person on a train or a plane, but my anxiety would be through the roof. I definitely couldn’t write with someone sitting next me or across from me.

 

[flytime]

Pretty much this. I’ve got three teenage kids buzzing around me in a very small house, making it hard to concentrate. Then there’s my wife; she knows that I write erotica but she doesn’t want to *know* what I’m writing, if you get my drift. It’s a compromise we’ve quietly worked out between us. I don’t usually have the time to get to the library or the money to spare for a coffee shop with WiFi. So I end up having to steal what moments I can and pray that I can get a good run in before the house erupts around me again.

If the coffee shops are too much money too often, the libraries are good, or parks, if you don’t need a WiFi. Can spend time with an eye on the kids off playing at a distance. You get two birds with one stone, your time and their time together. I use MSWord so I’m not always connected or don’t need to be.
Thanks

 

[flytime]

I absolutely love doing research in coffee shops, especially with open floor plans. I try hard to make it a once a week thing, typically on a Friday morning or before noon, as people are coming in. People watching, is very stimulating, then, posing some searches to the web can be very inspiring to me. If people aren’t sitting too close, I could probably even take a few notes.
But I’m like you mostly I like to keep it on the down low.

 

[flytime]

I have zero problems with activity around me in general -- I can write in a busy cafe just as well as when I'm completely alone. Perhaps better. However, if someone is literally hovering over me or looking at the screen, forget it. Doesn't matter what I'm writing but I get way too anxious and self-conscious to concentrate if anyone is paying attention to what I'm doing. They can read it when I'm done.

I absolutely love doing research in coffee shops, especially with open floor plans. I try hard to make it a once a week thing, typically on a Friday morning or before noon, as people are coming in. People watching, is very stimulating. Doing some searches on the web, it can be very inspiring and the idea of a chance encounter is pretty arousing too. I’d like to run into a woman who likes to write and likes erotica, erotic art as well.

 

[flytime]

Both write and research alone, and I couldn't work on erotica in a coffee house.

Thanks for your comment. If I may ask. What kind of writing research do you do? The reason I ask, is I’m curious about the writing styles of female writers of erotica, vs. male writers of erotica. For example, when I was 15 or so, I discovered Xaviera Hollander. Holy Shit doesn’t begin to describe the way this woman burned sexual blisters on my brain. I love her to this day, a powerful woman writer in deed. I’d like to meet a few women writers here through Literotica.
Are there writers generally i.e. the Donatien Alphonse François, Marquis de Sade, who have inspired you?
Thanks

 

[KeithD]

Thanks for your comment. If I may ask. What kind of writing research do you do? The reason I ask, is I’m curious about the writing styles of female writers of erotica, vs. male writers of erotica. For example, when I was 15 or so, I discovered Xaviera Hollander. Holy Shit doesn’t begin to describe the way this woman burned sexual blisters on my brain. I love her to this day, a powerful woman writer in deed. I’d like to meet a few women writers here through Literotica.
Are there writers generally i.e. the Donatien Alphonse François, Marquis de Sade, who have inspired you?
Thanks

I write a lot of historical themes and with locales all over the world (I've lived all over the world). I research times and places. I've been to a lot of the places I write about, but to ground a story in a locale, as, for instance, the last story I wrote with a remote Madagascar Indian Ocean beach town as the setting, I pull up an aerial map and set the story in what's down there--or might plausibly have been down there in the time period I'm using.

For a competition piece written this last weekend of a mainstream contest run by an art gallery, using examples from its collection, I picked a early twentieth-century Japanese block print. In writing a 1,000-word entry, I researched Japanese art and culture and costume of that time period; the artist; and other dimension-expanding elements I wanted to include in the story, including tsunamis (picking up an ancient Japanese myth on that) and a location on the Tokaido (the ancient road down the east coast of Honshu that features in Japanese block print art). My story put all of these together in an encounter between the actual artist and the subject of his work. So, this is the sort of research I put into most of my stories. (I've won this contest three times in the last decade and a half by putting this sort of research into my story).

When I write in my home office, I have two computers open. I am writing in the one in front of me and researching in the one on a desk top to my right.

Re Lit. stories, one of my most amusing experiences here is in having a reader occasionally challenge something I've put in one of my stories as being implausible when it, in fact, was carefully and knowledgably researched and the element most true in the story (e.g., the story I wrote about a young Amish couple completely changing during their honeymoon cruise and then changing back at the end. A reader challenged that, saying the Amish don't go on cruises, when the whole inspiration of the story was an Amish honeymoon couple I observed on a cruise who went full party on the cruise and turned back to Amish at the end of the cruise. Similarly, some of my spy story scenarios are questioned even though they are from direct experience and actual events.)

Influences on my writing are pretty eclectic. Graham Greene, as I've noted before, and, in the same vein, leCarre, Lawrence Durrell, and C.P. Snow. But beyond that such writers as Thomas Costain, Mary Renault, Anne Tyler, Nguib Mahfouz, Yasunari Kawabata, Gore Vidal, Gordon Merrick, and even Frank Yerby (who else has ever heard of him?).