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I may be wrong but was he not perpetually a little tipsy, or give that impression? I suspect he was a lovely guy but possibly a bit tricky to work with.

Although this has got me thinking of the buttery base song from Masterchef. I always have grand delusions of cooking something scrumptious but as it is only me it normally degenerates into pasta and an ice cream mars bar.

I hasten to add not at the same time.

Our beautiful Allia posted Nigella's rude bites... Wait a mo
 
Curious

So, I’m interested to know if anyone has any “ Catfish “ experiences from Lit that they can share?

( just to say at this point that any actual fishing gag would be way too obvious..... and quite frankly embarrassing) :D

I have to make a decision about someone.
 
So, I’m interested to know if anyone has any “ Catfish “ experiences from Lit that they can share?

( just to say at this point that any actual fishing gag would be way too obvious..... and quite frankly embarrassing) :D

I have to make a decision about someone.

Aren't catfish like dogfish... Bottom feeders.

(I can never remember what these titles are, God bless you Google)
How did you twig they were fake?
 
Aren't catfish like dogfish... Bottom feeders.

(I can never remember what these titles are, God bless you Google)
How did you twig they were fake?

I haven’t, I just have a bad feeling ( with another reason I don’t want to air) and he is bloody indignant about it. And the whole thing is slightly irrelevant because I’ve spoken to him and I like him ( plus he has a great voice) it’s just I can’t shake the feeling I’m being had over. I have uncovered 2 others on Instagram who contacted me and I don’t know if it’s making me paranoid or I should trust my gut instinct.

( unrelated but the term Mud Shark ( bottom feeders) is a derogatory term for women who like black men. Just in case you were venturing any further along those lines)
 
I haven’t, I just have a bad feeling ( with another reason I don’t want to air) and he is bloody indignant about it. And the whole thing is slightly irrelevant because I’ve spoken to him and I like him ( plus he has a great voice) it’s just I can’t shake the feeling I’m being had over. I have uncovered 2 others on Instagram who contacted me and I don’t know if it’s making me paranoid or I should trust my gut instinct.

( unrelated but the term Mud Shark ( bottom feeders) is a derogatory term for women who like black men. Just in case you were venturing any further along those lines)

No catfish experiences but then I am ultra weary of people - I’ve had a few women that barely know me send me face pics and that always makes me ultra cautious, like they expect one back in return...

They always give up really quickly once they get a polite ‘nice pic’ in return... always make’s me suspicious it’s some bloke sharing a random woman and hoping I’ll be stupid enough to do the same...
 
No catfish experiences but then I am ultra weary of people - I’ve had a few women that barely know me send me face pics and that always makes me ultra cautious, like they expect one back in return...

They always give up really quickly once they get a polite ‘nice pic’ in return... always make’s me suspicious it’s some bloke sharing a random woman and hoping I’ll be stupid enough to do the same...

Send them a pic of your cock... Works for me, they tell me to fuck off¿

Hey, I've just found a Spanish question mark¿?!¡


Philosophical question
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/blogs-trending-49298720

If most people disagree with these guys (ie most people do end up having kids) why doesn't this philosophy die out?
 
Send them a pic of your cock... Works for me, they tell me to fuck off¿

Hey, I've just found a Spanish question mark¿?!¡


Philosophical question
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/blogs-trending-49298720

If most people disagree with these guys (ie most people do end up having kids) why doesn't this philosophy die out?

Is that what I have to do to get a dic pic? :D

Joke! None of you fuckers sent me your cocks... not unless you have one as nice as Justa’s...

I would guess it hasn’t died out because the argument isn’t a genetic trait... and if rises and fails depending on what else is going on. An over populated planet is amongst the reasons I choose to not reproduce... but it is the weakest of a number of reasons...

I will confess to being a tiny bit apprehensive about a future where the only people having excessive numbers of children are the ultra religious... I don’t see that changing any time soon...
 
I haven’t, I just have a bad feeling ( with another reason I don’t want to air) and he is bloody indignant about it. And the whole thing is slightly irrelevant because I’ve spoken to him and I like him ( plus he has a great voice) it’s just I can’t shake the feeling I’m being had over. I have uncovered 2 others on Instagram who contacted me and I don’t know if it’s making me paranoid or I should trust my gut instinct.

( unrelated but the term Mud Shark ( bottom feeders) is a derogatory term for women who like black men. Just in case you were venturing any further along those lines)

All I can say from my side is that I have met people from here before and it has been very good and helped in them becoming firm friends that I talk to on a very regular basis.

So I have never been catfished, but I also appreciate that I am male so It is not the same scenario in that regard and I do not want to try and suggest the two are equal, especially as the circumstances around any meeting are different.

Sorry, honestly not too sure if that is helpful or not but whatever you do decide to do I hope you are both safe and happy with how it goes. That’s the most important thing after all. I know it is tough, and I can say that I felt completely comfortable with the people I met.

Good luck whatever you choose, will keep the fingers crossed for you!
 
I will confess to being a tiny bit apprehensive about a future where the only people having excessive numbers of children are the ultra religious... I don’t see that changing any time soon...

Its idiocracy all over again. That film affects me too frequently these days
 
All I can say from my side is that I have met people from here before and it has been very good and helped in them becoming firm friends that I talk to on a very regular basis.

So I have never been catfished, but I also appreciate that I am male so It is not the same scenario in that regard and I do not want to try and suggest the two are equal, especially as the circumstances around any meeting are different.

Sorry, honestly not too sure if that is helpful or not but whatever you do decide to do I hope you are both safe and happy with how it goes. That’s the most important thing after all. I know it is tough, and I can say that I felt completely comfortable with the people I met.

Good luck whatever you choose, will keep the fingers crossed for you!

Ohh he’s Stateside so it’s not someone I’m about to go off and meet which is one the reasons why I raised it. I suppose there’s a debate about whether it matters if you get on? I suppose my issue is that I choose to present myself pretty accurately- I don’t lie about my age, my size, my job etc. I’m not particularly looking for someone with a particular professional status and a super-hot body - I’m looking for good company and a fun time. If someone’s lied to me I would find the friendship
Unsustainable

Surprisingly this is the first time I’ve ever had these concerns on here and I was talking for a while with a proper hot NYFW model which you’d imagine would result in the same concerns. Altogether I’ve met three people from Lit - four of you count the guy I gifted to my friend ;)
 
I haven’t, I just have a bad feeling ( with another reason I don’t want to air) and he is bloody indignant about it. And the whole thing is slightly irrelevant because I’ve spoken to him and I like him ( plus he has a great voice) it’s just I can’t shake the feeling I’m being had over. I have uncovered 2 others on Instagram who contacted me and I don’t know if it’s making me paranoid or I should trust my gut instinct.

I say trust your instinct and your thoughts about the "another reason". I really don't like the fact that he is "bloody indignant" about you being hesitant. However, I have read your "ten characteristics" list and suspect that his pushiness may play into the arrogance that you mention. I guess it really depends on what you are looking for and what your expectations for the relationship are.

Ohh he’s Stateside so it’s not someone I’m about to go off and meet which is one the reasons why I raised it. I suppose there’s a debate about whether it matters if you get on? I suppose my issue is that I choose to present myself pretty accurately- I don’t lie about my age, my size, my job etc. I’m not particularly looking for someone with a particular professional status and a super-hot body - I’m looking for good company and a fun time. If someone’s lied to me I would find the friendship unsustainable

Ah, this is what I get for not reading all the way through. If you are looking for good company and a fun time, probably matters less. If good company includes developing a friendship, then it is riskier because it involves trust. But there are never any guarantees. People change and, although I find it to be a rare occurrence, your gut can be unreliable. I have had really great experiences here, as well as a particularly wretched one.
 
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Ohh he’s Stateside so it’s not someone I’m about to go off and meet which is one the reasons why I raised it. I suppose there’s a debate about whether it matters if you get on? I suppose my issue is that I choose to present myself pretty accurately- I don’t lie about my age, my size, my job etc. I’m not particularly looking for someone with a particular professional status and a super-hot body - I’m looking for good company and a fun time. If someone’s lied to me I would find the friendship
Unsustainable

Surprisingly this is the first time I’ve ever had these concerns on here and I was talking for a while with a proper hot NYFW model which you’d imagine would result in the same concerns. Altogether I’ve met three people from Lit - four of you count the guy I gifted to my friend ;)

Wait! You’re gifting men? How does one get on your Santa list? :D

Is he someone we know?
 
I say trust your instinct and your thoughts about the "another reason". I really don't like the fact that he is "bloody indignant" about you being hesitant. However, I have read your "ten characteristics" list and suspect that his pushiness may play into the arrogance that you mention. I guess it really depends on what you are looking for and what your expectations for the relationship are.



Ah, this is what I get for not reading all the way through. If you are looking for good company and a fun time, probably matters less. If good company includes developing a friendship, then it is riskier because it involves trust. But there are never any guarantees. People change and, although I find it to be a rare occurrence, your gut can be unreliable. I have had really great experiences here, as well as a particularly wretched one.

Wait! You’re gifting men? How does one get on your Santa list? :D

Is he someone we know?

He isn’t from this thread no..... he was just a spare I had knocking about. One of the three I met though had been on this thread but not recently. We’re not in touch anymore ( sadly.... I miss him)
 
Ohh he’s Stateside so it’s not someone I’m about to go off and meet which is one the reasons why I raised it. I suppose there’s a debate about whether it matters if you get on? I suppose my issue is that I choose to present myself pretty accurately- I don’t lie about my age, my size, my job etc. I’m not particularly looking for someone with a particular professional status and a super-hot body - I’m looking for good company and a fun time. If someone’s lied to me I would find the friendship
Unsustainable

Surprisingly this is the first time I’ve ever had these concerns on here and I was talking for a while with a proper hot NYFW model which you’d imagine would result in the same concerns. Altogether I’ve met three people from Lit - four of you count the guy I gifted to my friend ;)

I say trust your instinct and your thoughts about the "another reason". I really don't like the fact that he is "bloody indignant" about you being hesitant. However, I have read your "ten characteristics" list and suspect that his pushiness may play into the arrogance that you mention. I guess it really depends on what you are looking for and what your expectations for the relationship are.

Ah, this is what I get for not reading all the way through. If you are looking for good company and a fun time, probably matters less. If good company includes developing a friendship, then it is riskier because it involves trust. But there are never any guarantees. People change and, although I find it to be a rare occurrence, your gut can be unreliable. I have had really great experiences here, as well as a particularly wretched one.

I have always valued the friendship part more than anything else to be honest, so I take it seriously and try to be genuine as much as possible. How I am in writing is how I am in real life, for better or for worse. I am me, I have no idea how to be anyone else.

So I know what you mean by the feeling of being lied to being a deal breaker so I guess it comes down to if you feel this could be a meaningful friendship or the person that you can have a laugh and a giggle with but you let it sit at a slightly shallower level going forward. Nothing wrong with either of them at all, it’s just how you want to make sure you protect yourself. Hopefully he is genuine, as AngelicaS says though there are no guarantees unfortunately.

Also is it just men that are gifted??? We need gifting equality 😝
 
Its idiocracy all over again. That film affects me too frequently these days

Having not heard of this film, and now having looked it up, the temptation to find a streaming service that has this is very very high. The film blurb sounds almost prophetic.
 
how is this post still active. I mean i'm happy for yall, but I thought it was to be closed?

No idea..... someone must like it. We have a bit of house party vibe going on - drink, snacks and a lot of weird music at yours and a ton of philosophical debate and random factoids over here. Sadly, I’m the irritating chick that gets gobby and ends up crying on the stairs.
 
No idea..... someone must like it. We have a bit of house party vibe going on - drink, snacks and a lot of weird music at yours and a ton of philosophical debate and random factoids over here. Sadly, I’m the irritating chick that gets gobby and ends up crying on the stairs.

drink yes... i'[m sorry I as destracted by your avatar... aahhhhhh ummmm yes, what? where was I? I like Japanese whiskey's, toodles…. (seriously did I just fucking say toodles,,... i'm not as cool as I think I am)
 
No idea..... someone must like it. We have a bit of house party vibe going on - drink, snacks and a lot of weird music at yours and a ton of philosophical debate and random factoids over here. Sadly, I’m the irritating chick that gets gobby and ends up crying on the stairs.

My kind of party. I'm usually the guy asleep in the armchair.
 
Phew, that at least makes up for the slack. Thing is we produce so much of we probably have too much really, it is only polite to share.

well as a southerner I'm all about politeness. thank you. even if my spelling and syntax is a bit off we stand and salute.
 
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