The one thing you miss the most......

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What is the one sexual act or ritual that you and your wife, husband, lover, SO, or friend used to do that you don't anymore, and you miss it more than anything? Why did you stop?

For me it is the shaving parties we used to have. A bottle of wine, a large beach towel spread on the floor, a bowl of hot water, a can of shaving gel and a fresh double edge blade, mmmmm heaven!

Those trusting, intimate, revealing moments used to be a huge turn-on. I would shave her pussy, anus, and buttocks and she would return the favor by shaving my always hard cock, balls and anus.

Being all lathered up only to be smooth and hairless once the lather was whisked away. The transformation of going from hairy to smooth in itself is such a visual turn-on.

The pushing and the pulling of the skin creating a firm surface for the razor is so erotic. I can even remember cumming in her hand and face now and then just from the friction created from the drag of the razor. OMG.

Shaving her dark hairy pussy with her on her back and then flipping her over doggy style to do her buttocks and delicately harvesting those stray pubes from around her tightly puckered pink funnel.

And of course there was the "Tongue Test" once we were finished. It wasn't smooth until my I tongue said it was smooth and likewise. It used to be a weekend ritual, now it's just a fond memory.

Why did we quit? TBH, I guess we just grew comfortable with each other, which often leads to becoming lazy with some of the things we used to do for each other.

I would love to hear about things that have become extinct in your sexual world and maybe why? What did you once really enjoy that is no longer a part of your pleasure palate?

UBW
 
My wife used to always tell me to eat my cum from her pussy. She would tell me that it was another guys cum and to hurry so she wouldn't get pregnant. That always got me off. She has not done that in years. I miss being "forced" to eat my cum from her pussy or off her body.
 
Used to get my fetish for golden showers entertained. I loved everything about receiving one literally, but when it became metaphorical it, along with the marriage, had to end. I might get lucky and find a new lover into it.
 
What is the one sexual act or ritual that you and your wife, husband, lover, SO, or friend used to do that you don't anymore, and you miss it more than anything? Why did you stop?

For me it is the shaving parties we used to have. A bottle of wine, a large beach towel spread on the floor, a bowl of hot water, a can of shaving gel and a fresh double edge blade, mmmmm heaven!

Those trusting, intimate, revealing moments used to be a huge turn-on. I would shave her pussy, anus, and buttocks and she would return the favor by shaving my always hard cock, balls and anus.

Being all lathered up only to be smooth and hairless once the lather was whisked away. The transformation of going from hairy to smooth in itself is such a visual turn-on.

The pushing and the pulling of the skin creating a firm surface for the razor is so erotic. I can even remember cumming in her hand and face now and then just from the friction created from the drag of the razor. OMG.

Shaving her dark hairy pussy with her on her back and then flipping her over doggy style to do her buttocks and delicately harvesting those stray pubes from around her tightly puckered pink funnel.

And of course there was the "Tongue Test" once we were finished. It wasn't smooth until my I tongue said it was smooth and likewise. It used to be a weekend ritual, now it's just a fond memory.

Why did we quit? TBH, I guess we just grew comfortable with each other, which often leads to becoming lazy with some of the things we used to do for each other.

I would love to hear about things that have become extinct in your sexual world and maybe why? What did you once really enjoy that is no longer a part of your pleasure palate?

UBW

a couple times she asked or intitiated getting me to suck my big dildo while we fucked. It was super hot. I don't think it will never happen again but its been a little while.

We both have been very busy, especially her so I understand but do look forward to it hopefully happening soon.
 
For about the first year of our relationship, we were in a Long Distance Relationship (3 months together, 11 months apart with 2 times a 2 week visit). We used to always share pictures, mostly of food and ourselves. I still send him random body shots from different rooms or when he is at work, but I haven't gotten any back since, well, since we moved in together.
We also used to have some amazing phone/skype sex, which we obviously don't anymore. Biggest thing I miss from that, was that he was way more in charge then, than he is now.
I guess just like the thread starter, it comes down to getting a bit too comfortable with each other and becoming lazy. (Don't let it happen!)
I might have to take some more pictures and see if I can't ignite something soon! :)
 
Thank You all for sharing......

I am glad (so to speak), to see that I am not the only person who has things that he still longs to do. It's strange but, I don't think many men understand that women can be sexless too. My guess is they think a woman can get sex anytime they want it. I think that in many, but not all cases, whether we are willing to admit it or not, a sexless marriage or relationship is why we are all here. MascaraRuns, Jada59 and MistressOfAlaok, I share your angst. I hope others continue to share their experiences and observations.

UBW
 
hey...

I am glad (so to speak), to see that I am not the only person who has things that he still longs to do. It's strange but, I don't think many men understand that women can be sexless too. My guess is they think a woman can get sex anytime they want it. I think that in many, but not all cases, whether we are willing to admit it or not, a sexless marriage or relationship is why we are all here. MascaraRuns, Jada59 and MistressOfAlaok, I share your angst. I hope others continue to share their experiences and observations.

UBW


In many ways I am 'every' man or 'any' man except not as crude. And I dis agree with your contention that men don't "understand" that women can be sexless. We understand that anyone CAN be sexless, even women; the problem isn't in the understanding its in the "believing" that they CHOOSE to be that way. And even though it may not be as 'cut and dry' as all that, its hard for men to accept especially when they see and experience all the stuff they go thru to TRY and get sex and mostly fail.

In all my short 65 years, I've only known or SEEN with my own eyes; one man who could LITERALLY get sex when ever he wanted or needed it. He could go into any public place and within five minutes time be walking out with a woman whos going to have sex with him.
BUT WOMEN---,! I HAVE NEVER SEEN ANY WOMAN, REGARDLESS OR LOOKS OR MANNERISMS, FINANCIAL STATUS, FASHION--, WHATEVER---,
that couldn't do the same thing if they were so inclined to fuck that day.
 
What is the one sexual act or ritual that you and your wife, husband, lover, SO, or friend used to do that you don't anymore, and you miss it more than anything? Why did you stop?

For me it is the shaving parties we used to have. A bottle of wine, a large beach towel spread on the floor, a bowl of hot water, a can of shaving gel and a fresh double edge blade, mmmmm heaven!

Those trusting, intimate, revealing moments used to be a huge turn-on. I would shave her pussy, anus, and buttocks and she would return the favor by shaving my always hard cock, balls and anus.

Being all lathered up only to be smooth and hairless once the lather was whisked away. The transformation of going from hairy to smooth in itself is such a visual turn-on.

The pushing and the pulling of the skin creating a firm surface for the razor is so erotic. I can even remember cumming in her hand and face now and then just from the friction created from the drag of the razor. OMG.

Shaving her dark hairy pussy with her on her back and then flipping her over doggy style to do her buttocks and delicately harvesting those stray pubes from around her tightly puckered pink funnel.

And of course there was the "Tongue Test" once we were finished. It wasn't smooth until my I tongue said it was smooth and likewise. It used to be a weekend ritual, now it's just a fond memory.

Why did we quit? TBH, I guess we just grew comfortable with each other, which often leads to becoming lazy with some of the things we used to do for each other.

I would love to hear about things that have become extinct in your sexual world and maybe why? What did you once really enjoy that is no longer a part of your pleasure palate?

UBW

My wife used to wake me up every morning with one of her mind blowing hand jobs. I think she enjoyed it as much as I did.
This had zero impact on our sex lives as we made love almost every day and sometimes more than once. I also miss playing outside of the house, in lots of places.
 
Wow....

So many talking points. So let's summarize, You are not as crude as every or any other man? Isn't believing merely the first step to understanding? I won't get biblical here. I will take the high road from here on out oneblueye and only chuckle. Thank you for your posts and I wish you a wonderful Sunday...….

UBW

This was meant to be a fun, relaxing and reflective thread, that's all. I hope it stays that way.
 
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That's what I am talking about......

My wife used to wake me up every morning with one of her mind blowing hand jobs. I think she enjoyed it as much as I did.
This had zero impact on our sex lives as we made love almost every day and sometimes more than once.

Thanks for sharing!
 
????, I'm curious as to why a gorgeous woman would choose to go without sex?

Except for maybe spiritual or emotional break?

Can we cease with this idea that women just have to click their fingers and a string of hot studs are queuing up to bed them. There seems to be preconceived ideas about women going into bars and picking up men for example.... well let me tell you I don’t walk into many bars and see that many attractive men. And as it happens on the rare occasion I did ever have a one night stand the sex was shit. Mainly because I can’t cum in 10 minutes and they didn’t care about my enjoyment enough to find out what would work for me. Great sex doesn’t come from watching porn it comes from having a connection with someone and caring enough about their enjoyment to explore things with them. I’d rather have no sex than bad sex.
 
Bravo!

Can we cease with this idea that women just have to click their fingers and a string of hot studs are queuing up to bed them. There seems to be preconceived ideas about women going into bars and picking up men for example.... well let me tell you I don’t walk into many bars and see that many attractive men. And as it happens on the rare occasion I did ever have a one night stand the sex was shit. Mainly because I can’t cum in 10 minutes and they didn’t care about my enjoyment enough to find out what would work for me. Great sex doesn’t come from watching porn it comes from having a connection with someone and caring enough about their enjoyment to explore things with them. I’d rather have no sex than bad sex.

Well Spoken!
 
the two things i miss the most

When we were first together, my wife and I would spend hours in bed kissing and holding and touching each other. I really miss long minutes of kissing. Deep soulful kissing. Even lusty, rough kissing.

Particularly during her period, she would suck my cock to the point or orgasm and then finish me off with her hand(s). The few times a year she sucks my cock at all, it is for a minute or two until she decides it's time to fuck. She has never sucked me off. I think back to a couple of wonderfully patient, skilled ladies who enjoyed it start to finish and wish...I really miss getting a blowjob.
 
For all the new things we've done, some favorites have gone by the wayside. Of course as college kids we could fuck all night, I could get back up hard within 20-30 minutes. She used to last a lot longer with a blowjob than now; now she can deep throat me, but she stops after 5 minutes and says she wants to watch me finish myself. That's not all bad though because she'll bite my nipple and finger my ass while I do. We used to drink wine while watching porn, her in lingerie. We don't do ANY of those three things anymore, but now she'll shove a big dildo up my ass and tell me how I want a guy to fuck me, and I cum buckets when she does that. So it seems there are tradeoffs. But I still miss some of the old things.
 
Can we cease with this idea that women just have to click their fingers and a string of hot studs are queuing up to bed them. There seems to be preconceived ideas about women going into bars and picking up men for example.... well let me tell you I don’t walk into many bars and see that many attractive men. And as it happens on the rare occasion I did ever have a one night stand the sex was shit. Mainly because I can’t cum in 10 minutes and they didn’t care about my enjoyment enough to find out what would work for me. Great sex doesn’t come from watching porn it comes from having a connection with someone and caring enough about their enjoyment to explore things with them. I’d rather have no sex than bad sex.

I concur. Yes, even as the quintessential
butterball, I can fuck anytime I want to (shocking, I know, right?), but truthfully..I don't want to.

Why? For the same reason SpiritedLady has stated. Call it chromosomal wiring, call it being a woman, honestly,
call it whatever you'd like because I'm sure men have experienced it, as well, although perhaps not on the same level.

It takes TIME to warm up my oven and if your sexual prowess is the equivalent of using a can opener and a microwave..I'm simply not going to have fun.

Most "one night stand" situations are guys looking to pump-pump-cum, then wipe it off and leave..
Again.. not fun, nor satisfying.

I'm SINGLE and You won't find me CYBER FUCKING anyone, either. My most missed acts of intimacy involve being held, hugged, touched. Things you can not fake or pretend with an online partner.

The physical needs of sex can be more than adequately satisfied with a good vibrator and a dildo or two. But the emotional pieces? The connection? That is difficult to find.

The longer one tries to compensate for the one by overindulgence of the other, the emptier one becomes.

For me, it's not worth it. I'd rather be alone with my Hitachi and some good porn than to be getting my holes filled by a warm body only to still feel alone after.


 
Hi, I've been lurking for a few days now. Thank you to everyone who shares there content,
What I miss is the drunken sex where you get carried away and push those boundaries that would normally be hard to cross. My partner and I are best of mates with a healthy sex life. But it is a little too routine. She is very hesitant to step out of her comfort zone. With young children it is even harder than ever.
 
"...because I'm sure men have experienced it, as well,..."
Yes, Yes! Well said, Aphrodite. Thank you!
 
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