Ladies, would dating a glamour photographer be confronting?

[waratah]

Just ask because I am one of those, and I find a conversations going well, second meetup or whatever, when I find that ladies seem to close up and withdraw a bit if i mention that past time.

Older chic buddies and school friends etc too.

Could well be other factors at play, just want to hear the thoughts here.

 

[Saint Peter]

If the glamour photographer angle does not work out you could always get a lab coat and call yourself a gynecologist.

 

[waratah]

If the glamour photographer angle does not work out you could always get a lab coat and call yourself a gynecologist.

its not something thats working out, its something i'm starting to conceal.

Thanks for input though.

 

[Shelly2inme]

Must be some other problem

From my viewpoint the fact that a guy is a glamour photographer would not be a plus or a minus. Girls like having quality pictures of themselves so to me it would be fun having a guy that was good with a quality camera. But my concern would be, and I am sure other women too, if the guy kept secret copies of nude pics or pics with sexual action and then posted them online. But other than that concern I don't see why it would bother anyone that you are a glamour photographer. So, are you sure there is not some other factor that is turning girls off? Also, I strongly recommend that you don't 'hide' your profession from girls. If I found out that one of my boyfriends was lying to me about his profession I would not be able to trust him after that and I certainly would stop having sex with him.

 

[waratah]

From my viewpoint the fact that a guy is a glamour photographer would not be a plus or a minus. Girls like having quality pictures of themselves so to me it would be fun having a guy that was good with a quality camera. But my concern would be, and I am sure other women too, if the guy kept secret copies of nude pics or pics with sexual action and then posted them online. But other than that concern I don't see why it would bother anyone that you are a glamour photographer. So, are you sure there is not some other factor that is turning girls off? Also, I strongly recommend that you don't 'hide' your profession from girls. If I found out that one of my boyfriends was lying to me about his profession I would not be able to trust him after that and I certainly would stop having sex with him.

thanks for your thoughts.

Its not my profession, i'm an enthusiast.

I'm just sensing conversations, rapport, if you will,stop going north, and start going south when I mention it. I'm not asking them to model for me. Just talking hobbies and interests.

 

[CleanScrota]

Glamour photogs have a well-documented tendency towards model abuse.

Maybe take up nude portrait painting? Less stigma.

 

[stickygirl]

We're always on guard for creeps and glamour-anything is a flashing light. Fourth or fifth meet up or supper at your place might be more like it, once you have a relationship going properly and she notices some of you pics on the wall. It's nothing to be ashamed of, so why 'confess' it on a second meeting like it was?

 

[CleanScrota]

Photogs sometimes rent my studio; nowadays, many unrepresented models (of legal age) arrive with their mom as chaperone.

I usually go after the mom and leave the model to the photog.

 

[Noor]

Most professional photographers I know would just say they were a photographer without specifying what kind. If questioned further they might say what kind. Portrait, sports, nature, fashion, product, archival, wildlife...

Nothing personal, but glamour photographers are like baby photographers at Penneys, the barrier to entry is low and good photographers move onto other areas.

If someone says glamour, it's kind of a red flag unless it's your first job.
If you own a glamour photographer studio, then you own a business which is a whole different thing.

 

[waratah]

Most professional photographers I know would just say they were a photographer without specifying what kind. If questioned further they might say what kind. Portrait, sports, nature, fashion, product, archival, wildlife...

Nothing personal, but glamour photographers are like baby photographers at Penneys, the barrier to entry is low and good photographers move onto other areas.

If someone says glamour, it's kind of a red flag unless it's your first job.
If you own a glamour photographer studio, then you own a business which is a whole different thing.

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So if you were a girl, you'd find it confronting?

 

[Jada59]

Most professional photographers I know would just say they were a photographer without specifying what kind. If questioned further they might say what kind. Portrait, sports, nature, fashion, product, archival, wildlife...

Nothing personal, but glamour photographers are like baby photographers at Penneys, the barrier to entry is low and good photographers move onto other areas.

If someone says glamour, it's kind of a red flag unless it's your first job.
If you own a glamour photographer studio, then you own a business which is a whole different thing.

I very much agree with you.

In addition, I tend to cringe when someone tells me they are a photographer. I used to babysit for one and had no issues with him but... I myself am a lousy photographer. I'm not really into pics. I don't take many of them. I have some that were given to me I think I've looked at them once since I've gotten them.

The issue I have is that when I *do* take a pic, some photographers that I know begin to attack and tell me what I could have done better. Such as lighting, lenses, filters, poses, etc. I know I'm not a good photographer but don't really care either. But complaints about my photo make me even less inclined to take photos/

Also, I am not at all photogenic. My best pics come when I don't know someone is taking it. If I am aware, I will wind up striking a stupid pose.

 

[lovetoread]

"ladies" - would yall let me get to the sexy part if'n i mention imma photog that does glamour shots???

 

[Saint Peter]

This shot needs a prop. Hmmm. Whatever could that be?


Yes! That is it!! This shot needs my dick in your mouth.



*click*

 

[stickygirl]

This shot needs a prop. Hmmm. Whatever could that be?


Yes! That is it!! This shot needs my dick in your mouth.



*click*

That 'click' is a mini-guillotine

https://www.ebay.co.uk/i/311179501402?chn=ps&norover=1&mkevt=1&mkrid=710-134428-41853-0&mkcid=2&itemid=311179501402&targetid=594652104640&device=c&adtype=pla&googleloc=1006741&poi=&campaignid=1700604133&adgroupid=68042089162&rlsatarget=pla-594652104640&abcId=1140496&merchantid=7201484&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIqrn29ea04wIVBp3VCh0kEQUrEAQYBSABEgJFYfD_BwE

 

[IrezumiKiss]

If you're going for something more than a night or two of fun times, I wouldn't recommend hiding what you're about, what you like doing and what you love getting into. It all comes out in the eventual wash.

No point in hiding what you love. You're doing adult joys, so everyone concerned should be an adult. Explain or show others what you do in a considerate way that doesn't express disrespect, deceit or vulgarity. The steamy stuff comes later, if they're down with it.

 

[Noor]

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So if you were a girl, you'd find it confronting?

Not confronting, just interest killing.

 

[waratah]

Not confronting, just interest killing.

Thanks for your thoughts. Pretty much agrees with my exoeriences.

Looks like I'll be giving up photography.

 

[where_is_RUTH]

The fact to have to ask is maybe why you're struggling for 2nd dates...

 

[waratah]

The fact to have to ask is maybe why you're struggling for 2nd dates...

its not a hard n fast link, but over the years i've not struggled for second dates if don't mention the hobbie, and tend to have struggled if i do.

which is why i asked the question here.

 

[CandiCame]

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So if you were a girl, you'd find it confronting?

How did you get that from what she said?

She said it meant you had a kind of shitty job, not that it was intimidating or anything.

Your issue might be with your active listening skills, not with your employment. Like you might be looking at this problem from the wrong angle.

 

[CandiCame]

Thanks for your thoughts. Pretty much agrees with my exoeriences.

Looks like I'll be giving up photography.

Wait, you're giving up a hobby because chicks don't dig it? Quick question: What the fuck?

You don't pursue itnerests because women might like it, you pursue interests because you're passionate about it. The fucking light set up alone has set you back hundred of dollars! Not to mention the camera, lenses, editing equipment, etc. You're really going to give up because random women don't find it interesting?

Dude no. Don't do that! Like... don't live your life like that. Pursue your hobbies. If you don't like glamour photography that's no reason to completely give up on photography, and if you do like it, people you've gone on ONE date with telling you they don't like it means literally nothing. This is a terrible mindset!

Live for yourself and find partners that complete you, don't change who you are unless YOU want to change. Eventually you'll find someone who likes you, and if you don't you can just be single. There's no law saying you have to have a girlfriend.

Like I get what the other posters are saying about it being a hobby that society percieves as "lame", like literally featered in Napoleon Dynamite level lame, but fuck um. I do tons of lame shit and if people don't like it they can fuck right off. I'm literally knitting a blanket, right now, well not right now but as soon as I go back inside. I just finished making a knitted plastic bag out of plastic bags I cut up. My boyfriend does historic reinactments- which is LARPing. Like let's not pretend that's not larping. Me and my friends do cosplay. The secret is owning it. It's saying, "My hobbies are lame, I'm a dork, suck it."

You're building skills, your clients are happy, and that's all that matters, not what some quazi-stranger on a first date thinks. Embrace it. Be passionate. Be confident.

I just can't stand the thought of somebody giving up on art, especially art that exists in a community to provide a service, no matter if people think it's lame or not, just because some outside force wants them to change. It bothers me.

Also, this is a genuine question- is glamour photography creepy? I didn't know that. When I think of glamour shots I think of those things that church groups do all the time, like in my area people use them for the covers of their gospel albulms pretty frequently. Like their self-published gospel albulms that they sell at the foyer of churches. Maybe it's a cost thing because they do tend to be on the lower end cost-wise, like another poster said, about on the same level as a school picture.

I honestly think that even that is too expensive. $200 for a picture package is fucking expensive.

I unironically love Glamour shots. I'm not gonna lie. They're huge in redneck culture, so part of it also might be the culture? I have glamour shots. I even got two background because the tacky 80s one I wanted made me disappear because I wanted the one with the neon shapes on a black background, but my hair and clothes were black so I was like... had a floating head thing going on. So they gave me a red sequened Micheal Jackson jacket for that one but my hair still wouldn't work so I got this cloudy purple.

 

[lovetoread]

this dude doesnt have a hobby, it was nothing more than a line to see if he could get to the sexytimes faster

 

[notfeasance]

this dude doesnt have a hobby, it was nothing more than a line to see if he could get to the sexytimes faster

Is that the Voice of Experience? (I can see photog/predators targeting you when you were younger.)

 

[Saint Peter]

That 'click' is a mini-guillotine

https://www.ebay.co.uk/i/311179501402?chn=ps&norover=1&mkevt=1&mkrid=710-134428-41853-0&mkcid=2&itemid=311179501402&targetid=594652104640&device=c&adtype=pla&googleloc=1006741&poi=&campaignid=1700604133&adgroupid=68042089162&rlsatarget=pla-594652104640&abcId=1140496&merchantid=7201484&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIqrn29ea04wIVBp3VCh0kEQUrEAQYBSABEgJFYfD_BwE

Off with his head!

 

[CandiCame]

this dude doesnt have a hobby, it was nothing more than a line to see if he could get to the sexytimes faster

If that's true glamour shots were a weird way to go.

Like I don't get the logic behind that. They're known to be kind of lame. That'd be like me riding up all, "You ladies wanna see my D&D figurines? Want me to woo you with my encyclopedic knowledge of Hyrulian History? I know all three timelines, baby, and I have a plethora of fan theories about where BOTW fits in based on several different factors that could technically put it on either branch. Also, I think the new trailer is clearly indicative of the prophecy set forth in the manual of Zelda 3, but not the English manual because it was translated wonky, I mean the Japanese manual that I found a much better translation of through this fansite that I'm part of. No? Well I got these vintage Magic cards from the late early 2000s. I've got a black and red deck that honestly still stacks up but it's not tournament legal anymore, but it's got a shitton of rats. See what you have to do is just keep laying them down. Individually they're not much, but as a swarm-"

Like if it was boudoir photography I could see that, but glamour photography is like... like I said, what comes to mind is like high school kids and church people. It's not sexy in any way. It's playing dress-up.