Perhaps this is the most difficult subject to talk about on a thread in the Personals forum on Lit. Why is that? Because according to my hypothesis, many Litsters gathering there do not have the faintest idea, what responsiveness is and how it manifests itself. Difficult, I supose, when today's living environment offers ever fewer examples for truly responsive conversations.
To my way of thinking, responsiveness is the ability of a person to actually keep his/her mouth shut for a moment, in order to listen to what another human being is saying. And a deeply responsive person then actually develops and expresses some understanding with what another one said just now. Listening and understanding; two traits that have gone out of fashion lately, and more so since the loudmouth in the WH began his public twittering.
Responsiveness is needed to allow human progress, I feel, because that comes from genuine interactions between diverse people. And for that they need to listen to each other.
Many Litsters, so is my experience, have not the faintest idea about these simple concepts. I ran into one woman lately, who claimed she enjoyed intellectual conversations, but when I asked her, which subjects she enjoyed most to delve into, she faded away. And so did a second confessed "intellectual", when I asked her to tone down her talking a bit, so she'd have an opportunity for listening.
So responsiveness is indeed a touchy subject to talk about here. What I like to do instead is find a woman, who has experienced responsive conversations, who has come to like them, and who yearns for more of them. I am sure I do not possess a monopoly on responsiveness; instead there must be plenty of humans here who enjoy that also.
In case you read my ad up to here, and liked what you read, and maybe turned curious about the fellow who wrote the ad (curiosity BTW, is a prerequisite for responsiveness) I suggest you look at my signature post. You'll find out for sure that I am more or less an open book, as far as understanding me goes. And who knows, if you like what you read there, perhaps you might like to repond to my ad?
To my way of thinking, responsiveness is the ability of a person to actually keep his/her mouth shut for a moment, in order to listen to what another human being is saying. And a deeply responsive person then actually develops and expresses some understanding with what another one said just now. Listening and understanding; two traits that have gone out of fashion lately, and more so since the loudmouth in the WH began his public twittering.
Responsiveness is needed to allow human progress, I feel, because that comes from genuine interactions between diverse people. And for that they need to listen to each other.
Many Litsters, so is my experience, have not the faintest idea about these simple concepts. I ran into one woman lately, who claimed she enjoyed intellectual conversations, but when I asked her, which subjects she enjoyed most to delve into, she faded away. And so did a second confessed "intellectual", when I asked her to tone down her talking a bit, so she'd have an opportunity for listening.
So responsiveness is indeed a touchy subject to talk about here. What I like to do instead is find a woman, who has experienced responsive conversations, who has come to like them, and who yearns for more of them. I am sure I do not possess a monopoly on responsiveness; instead there must be plenty of humans here who enjoy that also.
In case you read my ad up to here, and liked what you read, and maybe turned curious about the fellow who wrote the ad (curiosity BTW, is a prerequisite for responsiveness) I suggest you look at my signature post. You'll find out for sure that I am more or less an open book, as far as understanding me goes. And who knows, if you like what you read there, perhaps you might like to repond to my ad?
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