Kinky People

[one_love]

I know you're out there.

I'm just so curious to know just how many of us are out there hiding in a vanilla world with a secret most people wouldn't understand. How many people do we come across in our daily lives that live for those cathartic moments of kinky fuckery. I am out there, very type A, confident and gracious in all my public interactions. What would the teller at the credit union say if she knew I was going tie my wife up tonight and not cum until she cries? Could she be doing the same thing tonight? Do you think the lady standing in front of me at the grocery store, quiet and reserved, comes out of the bathroom ready to peg her lover until his prostate milks precum in volume, and he begs her to let him cum? Is that husband and wife behind me in target going to go home and play a CNC scene she's been wanting to do all day?

I'm sure just a small fraction of us have time for munches and involvement in the BDSM Community leaving the VAST majority of us to hide in plain sight. The point is I know you are out there. I just wish I could see you better. If every fucking wrangler driver has to wave to another, why cant we have our own little thing. I know there are day collars and some anklets have hidden meaning, but wouldn't it be fun if we had an identifier?

Imagine if the vail was lifted and you could magically see what goes on behind closed doors of our kinky brethren. I'd like to think there are more of us out there than one would think. No doubt there would be some shockers you didn't even see coming. I'm looking at you church piano lady, and you kendergarten teacher! Suffice to say the though crosses my mind all the time.

I know you're out there, I just wish I could see you better.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

There’s potential for a great story there. And, as any great fiction may become reality, this certainly could be a game-changer. Think Google Glass plus facial recognition plus the right software to screen and sift from social media plus enough crunch power to make it all work.

Hot blonde in front of me? Nope, saving herself for marriage.
Buff dude over there? Eeew! He really likes that? Just ick!
But that guy’s GF says he’s the most romantic guy in the world.
How about that one? Could be... oh, yeah! Just dumped her boyfriend and has been researching bondage online!
Him! OMG! Eight inch tongue and can breath through his ears!
And that one likes to be spanked and has a history of one night stands.

Continual feed for all those in view, filtered as you wish. It’s probably almost possible now. Not sure if I find the idea exciting or repulsive. Probably the latter.

 

[Lascivity]

Handkerchief code used to be a thing. Only in certain circles, but it strikes me as a great idea. Subtle, effective, variable. Perhaps one day it'll make a comeback, who knows.

It's certainly true though that there are a lot more kinky people than the number that get involved in the scene. Scene peeps are just the tip of the iceberg. For every person who goes to munches and parties there are probably another dozen who don't.

 

[AlwaysFara]

This needs to be a Netflix series.

 

[KamaKamaSutra]

I've seen a few clubs use tokens that if you suspected someone you could kinda flash it or hold it in a hand full of change.

 

[PaxNurgle]

I've always been closeted. As a male with submissive/kink tendencies, and living as I do in an area where there isn't much of a "Scene," I've always felt that was the safest policy. I don't want to creep anyone out, so...

 

[HornyHal]

I've seen a few clubs use tokens that if you suspected someone you could kinda flash it or hold it in a hand full of change.

I’ve always thought there should be an everyday looking thing but seen by the right person would signal to them that they are on the same page. Or even a phrase or handshake of some sort that would let them know and if they weren’t I would go over their head and dismissed forgotten easily.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I've seen a few clubs use tokens that if you suspected someone you could kinda flash it or hold it in a hand full of change.

I don’t go to clubs.

 

[AfterDusk]

Oh oh we could all do a “wink wink nudge nudge say no more say no more”!

 

[Jada59]

Oh oh we could all do a “wink wink nudge nudge say no more say no more”!

Love it!

 

[surrenderedfaith]

I guess I kinda think we do? I mean... https://www.etsy.com/market/bdsm_emblem
It exists. It is clearly what it is for people in the know. My own necklace I created the artwork for, incorporating the triskele on purpose for exactly that reason.
But I've worn the same on a bracelet, anklet, earrings, and at one point had it drawn on a binder cover.

It IS a great story on here... one of my top 2 favorites:
Secret Smiles and Three Little Words

That **is** the beginning to it.

I'd definitely be the shocker. Considering I'm in a profession that would be highly against it, and I'm hijabi Muslim. Whoops

 

[one_love]

Let your freak flag fly.

All your responses have made this a fun little thread. I thank you all.

Surrenderedfaith... holy moly! I didn’t even know there was such a symbol. Now I want one. What does everyone else think? Should we try to make sharing our kinky ways with others more prevalent? I’ve never seen anyone wear that symbol before though now I will be quite aware and looking for it.

 

[RodgerShagnastly]

Guess I have a built in kink detector.

 

[Pocketshaver]

stupid and redundant.

BDSM is so damn mainstream these days its like flavored coffee.


ANYONE who thinks its some secret little world is a fucking moron. Just look at the amount of places selling this shit, if they sell so much they have a huge market.

huge market means its common

 

[one_love]

Not a place for negativity

stupid and redundant.

BDSM is so damn mainstream these days its like flavored coffee.


ANYONE who thinks its some secret little world is a fucking moron. Just look at the amount of places selling this shit, if they sell so much they have a huge market.

huge market means its common

I for one disagree and don’t appreciate your attitude on the subject. I’m sure I’m not alone in this. Your use of the word mainstream is highly relative as well. And just assuming it is gaining in popularity. That’s a a GOOD thing. It means the stigma is lifting, and people are becoming more educated as to the many positive things a BDSM lifestyle can offer.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I for one disagree and don’t appreciate your attitude on the subject. I’m sure I’m not alone in this. Your use of the word mainstream is highly relative as well. And just assuming it is gaining in popularity. That’s a a GOOD thing. It means the stigma is lifting, and people are becoming more educated as to the many positive things a BDSM lifestyle can offer.

I agree with you completely. And while it’s becoming more popular and comfortable of a topic, there is still a stigma for much of BDSM. I am optimistic, even if it did take things like 50 Shades to make it more publicly acceptable.

 

[PaxNurgle]

I have felt this stigma many times and that is why I remain secretive about it. It is easier in a larger and more progressive American city like Portland or San Francisco for kink to be accepted than it is in the interior Midwestern US region or especially, in the South. Also it seems like there is a double standard in place, it is okay for women to be submissive in a BDSM role, but far less acceptable for a male to be submissive in a kink/submissive role. Just from what I've observed. I like the idea of wearing some kind of identifying symbol, but where I live, there would be a chance it could backfire; someone less sympathetic to BDSM or male submission might see it and think "Creep!"

 

[surrenderedfaith]

I agree with you completely. And while it’s becoming more popular and comfortable of a topic, there is still a stigma for much of BDSM. I am optimistic, even if it did take things like 50 Shades to make it more publicly acceptable.

As always: topleasehim, spot on.♡

One_love: sorry it took so long to get back ♡ I'm thrilled to have been of help! I've never had anyone comment on my necklace, but it could happen. I wonder how many people just recognize it and * secretly smile*

Hint: one bell on an anklet has a hidden meaning as well, especially if the bell is on one large o ring it's a slave symbol.

Lastly: TSR numbers and barcodes: https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&sou...FjACegQIBRAB&usg=AOvVaw0-Yh1Y5NhskZohaqa-I78B

And now you know
Ps. One_love if you'd like me to alter the BDSM symbol slightly to personalize it then show you how to have it made into a bracelet or keychain for you, I will gladly do. Then see if you get any * secret smiles*

**** hugs***

 

[Threadbare42]

This is a very interesting discussion. In informal social situations these days I will tend to throw in a joke or reference here and there hinting at my kinky side to gauge the response. Being in the younger generation I think we're more open-minded with stuff like this anyway but of course it depends what social group you are with which you have to keep in mind. I'd kind of like to live in a world where people feel more free to express their sexuality in general

 

[Blase]

This is a very interesting discussion. In informal social situations these days I will tend to throw in a joke or reference here and there hinting at my kinky side to gauge the response. Being in the younger generation I think we're more open-minded with stuff like this anyway but of course it depends what social group you are with which you have to keep in mind. I'd kind of like to live in a world where people feel more free to express their sexuality in general

I once had a female Litizen ask me what I got out of the site. When I said something like, "It's a place where I can be honest about certain things", she followed up by asking why I felt I couldn't be open about my sexuality in real life. I told her that here in New England, sexuality is considered very much a private matter: None of my family or friends knows much at all about my private life, or shows any sign of wanting to.

 

[one_love]

This is a very interesting discussion. In informal social situations these days I will tend to throw in a joke or reference here and there hinting at my kinky side to gauge the response. Being in the younger generation I think we're more open-minded with stuff like this anyway but of course it depends what social group you are with which you have to keep in mind. I'd kind of like to live in a world where people feel more free to express their sexuality in general

I do the very same thing. And I also agree the younger generations are helping to lift the stigma. Look at Pot and Tattoos, could you ever have imagined pot would be so wide spread legalized as fast as it was? The conversation can go a bit deeper than that too. We need to make sure we're properly educating our kids about sex. And yes, different sexual cultures. As a society were much too accepting of scenes of violence, then we are scenes of love and sex. But I simply couldn't agree more with your last sentence.

 

[LauraWilling]

I have a triskelion anklet and a necklace I wear at times. Of course I don't wear both at the same time.

 

[Threadbare42]

I have a triskelion anklet and a necklace I wear at times. Of course I don't wear both at the same time.

I'm kind of tempted to get something like that now. You've got to be careful though because I found apparently similar variations of the symbol are used elsewhere and have cultural and religious significance, so that can cause confusion. There is a page about it here:

http://emblemproject.sagcs.net/Is.html

 

[htester]

I love lit because of the open sexuality; But, I've had surprising conversations with lit folk.

I do agree with Pocket Shaver. Tinder, contemporary chick flick novels (which are straight up erotica nowadays), and TV have made a lot of what I see on lit pretty commonplace.

Perhaps I've been lucky my female/male friends are pretty honest with each other. In comparison to some of my friends/past acquaintances, I'm still considered slightly more conservative

Maybe if I didn't reside in my current bohemian area (which includes a feminist sex shop), didn't have such open conversations with friends, and weren't as obsessively plugged into pop culture, I might feel isolated. But, I've also been lucky to have candid conversations with my physician and others. I never received any 'ohmigosh, you slut,' pushback.

So, thanks for jumpstarting the convo, OneLove. I love being sexually submissive, but, luckily, I'm not all that unique. And, some of what I've read on lit basically equaled foreplay in many of my former relationships

 

[one_love]

I love lit because of the open sexuality; But, I've had surprising conversations with lit folk.

I do agree with Pocket Shaver. Tinder, contemporary chick flick novels (which are straight up erotica nowadays), and TV have made a lot of what I see on lit pretty commonplace.

Perhaps I've been lucky my female/male friends are pretty honest with each other. In comparison to some of my friends/past acquaintances, I'm still considered slightly more conservative

Maybe if I didn't reside in my current bohemian area (which includes a feminist sex shop), didn't have such open conversations with friends, and weren't as obsessively plugged into pop culture, I might feel isolated. But, I've also been lucky to have candid conversations with my physician and others. I never received any 'ohmigosh, you slut,' pushback.

So, thanks for jumpstarting the convo, OneLove. I love being sexually submissive, but, luckily, I'm not all that unique. And, some of what I've read on lit basically equaled foreplay in many of my former relationships

Thank you for kind words and your story. I have to think many reading it (myself included) are a bit jelly. I could use a little bohemian in my life that’s for sure. My one stoplight town definitely does not have a sex shop of any kind *laugh/cry’s to himself*. That being said I was born without shame so I would have the conversation with anybody. I just need more anybody’s