The drug that is literotica

[Sarahduk]

I first came to literotica quite a few years ago I was missing something in my marriage and I found that reading the stories on the website helped to fill that gap in my life. I then became involved in this forum and reading messages and responding to them before moving onto exchanging private messages with certain people on here. Over the years I found it becomes quite addictive but eventually becomes overwhelming for me And my only way of dealing with that is to take a break. Some of these breaks have been short others have been quite lengthy.

Wonder if other people find this a bit like a drug when you become addicted and the only way to break the addiction is to go cold turkey as it were. The situation that I am in Being in a very vanilla marriage within a husband much older than myself he has a rapidly decreasing sex drive is hugely difficult frustrating and challenging. I feel I am missing out on so much but only in this one part of our relationship. And whilst coming here is a bit like scratching an itch but eventually the itch comes back again.

I love my husband so very much and I could never ever be unfaithful to him, I know that, so my life now in the physical aspects of it anyway is like riding a rollercoaster of emotions and feelings. I’m just wondering to myself am I right to come here? is it actually helping me? or should I leave forever? I only wish I knew the answer.

Sarah
xx

 

[SophieUK]

Interesting post Sarah... I can relate to a lot of this (apart from the loving husband bit but..) ... Lit is strangely addictive ... I come and go, cold turkey sometime... but get drawn back in by my good friends (ok, perverts, but I like to think we’re friends !) and the mental stimulation and diversion from ‘normal’ life ...
I wish I had an answer

 

[von_Bismarck]

Depends on what you're doing here, I would think. Are you forming romantic, emotional attachments that your husband doesn't know about? Lots of folks would consider that cheating. Are you merely having frank and friendly conversations with online acquaintances? Lots of other folks would consider that fine. Different folks have different lines for what they consider cheating. Being addicted is another matter, and if it's a genuine addition, that's worth rectifying.

For my part, if you're only passively enjoying erotic stories, that's your own damn business, and you should do what pleases you. Done healthfully, porn is a great way to experience in your own mind what you wouldn't want to experience in objective reality.

 

[Matthew Craig]

I find it insane that not only are men chasing the women of the forum, dykes everywhere are going all out to get a piece too. Must be nice to be at the apex of the sex pyramid.

 

[silver gurl]

I have been here for years. I actually met my husband in a round about way, from Lit.

I do not answer any sexual PMs.

I am here for the friends I have made over the years, discussions and free entertainment. Nothing that would affect my marriage. I really don't think of Lit as a sexual place anymore.

 

[Matthew Craig]

I have been here for years. I actually met my husband in a round about way, from Lit.

lol, you went online shopping for a loyal beta shmuck (man slave.) And never gave him the decency to leave after you found "love."

 

[von_Bismarck]

I do not answer any sexual PMs.

I guess that explains why my requests to cyber were never answered.

 

[cleaver]

I have been here for years. I actually met my husband in a round about way, from Lit.

I do not answer any sexual PMs.

I am here for the friends I have made over the years, discussions and free entertainment. Nothing that would affect my marriage. I really don't think of Lit as a sexual place anymore.

this. this comes with experience...

and yes as well, sarah...
it easily becomes addictive.

were there a frank admission - an honest roll call
of all the lives that have been effected by participation here
i'd be very curious to see the tally
positive v negative.

the initial draw for most, no doubt... lay more towards the... taboo
naughty stories - kinky fantasies...
and eventually - through chat and posts -
potential personal exposure of varying sorts...

i'd posit that first forays here...
even entire careers here
have been secreted from those in meat-world closest to the traveler...

the instances of reality hammering into fantasyland
is part of the... (to a great extend burrowed now) record.
relationships - liaisons - couplings - marriages
made... and lost - through participation here.

certainly the instances of interpersonal turmoils on the site
careening into one's outside personal life...
are consumed gleefully within as legendary drama
as they destroy individual's meat worlds.

certainly it has made the depths of porn - all kinds of porn
more easily accessible to many.
it has offered kink to even the most offbeat kinky
it has demystified... perhaps desensitized... many
to what had been - to them - taboo.

yeah. even the intercourse...
the "vibrant" discourse intercourse
is and demonstrably can be addictive.

just count the heads of the long-termers
who continue to make
hyper active participation here
a major part of their day.

to many, a "good" fight
even with well worn dialog v well worn adversaries
is verbal sex.

it is/ can be addictive.

you seem to have found this place to fill personal voids.
welcome to the club.

just remember that for the most part
(and you know this - for you have come and gone for ...reasons)
that it doesn't patch the voids... until you allow it to do so
and then,
the results may not be anything that you actually sought.

lit will not solve your home issues.
it is a fickle and vapory side piece
that can and will have angry fangs
should you delve too deeply without perspective.

if it is worth it,
and you indeed wish your mate to connect more with your needs...
i'd suggest that the energies spent on diversion here
could be better spent
by addressing directly the issues there.

perhaps even by sharing your excitements
over the addictive qualities you can both discover together here.

 

[Ann_Tagonist]

I first came to literotica quite a few years ago I was missing something in my marriage and I found that reading the stories on the website helped to fill that gap in my life. I then became involved in this forum and reading messages and responding to them before moving onto exchanging private messages with certain people on here. Over the years I found it becomes quite addictive but eventually becomes overwhelming for me And my only way of dealing with that is to take a break. Some of these breaks have been short others have been quite lengthy.

Wonder if other people find this a bit like a drug when you become addicted and the only way to break the addiction is to go cold turkey as it were. The situation that I am in Being in a very vanilla marriage within a husband much older than myself he has a rapidly decreasing sex drive is hugely difficult frustrating and challenging. I feel I am missing out on so much but only in this one part of our relationship. And whilst coming here is a bit like scratching an itch but eventually the itch comes back again.

I love my husband so very much and I could never ever be unfaithful to him, I know that, so my life now in the physical aspects of it anyway is like riding a rollercoaster of emotions and feelings. I’m just wondering to myself am I right to come here? is it actually helping me? or should I leave forever? I only wish I knew the answer.

Sarah
xx

Luke is looking for a new girlfriend.

 

[Hal9000_]

Switch to talking about politics every day.

Your desires will dry up quickly.

 

[oggbashan]

My addiction is posting stories because I get far more reaction on Literotica than anywhere else.

 

[silver gurl]

lol, you went online shopping for a loyal beta shmuck (man slave.) And never gave him the decency to leave after you found "love."

I have no idea what you are even talking about.

I guess that explains why my requests to cyber were never answered.

 

[juttjaw]

Ask yourself honestly, if my SO were to find out, would I be OK sharing my PMs with them unedited? If you answer yes, then you can justify being here in your own brain. If you answer no, you'll probably find the same justifications. Being unhappy with the sex in your life cannot be the only problem in your marriage. There are other issues such as, intimacy, mental and physical attraction, being ignored, not paying attention to the other. It may be a host of issues that don't directly relate to "sex". I suggest looking in other places for the missing parts in your relationship. Be honest with yourself. Remember, tough questions may lead to tough answers. Then again, you may not want to be getting marital advice from random strangers online. Good luck!

 

[jaF0]

Today, 02:35 PM #1
Sarahduk

Today, 02:40 PM #2
SophieUK


Interesting indeed.

 

[RoryN]

lol, you went online shopping for a loyal beta shmuck

^^^^
Everyone knows "beta schmucks" are the only ones who use this verbiage & post like this. Just like Tom Leykis, trying to convince the world he's an "alpha male".

 

[Matthew Craig]

^^^^
Everyone knows "beta schmucks" are the only ones who use this verbiage & post like this. Just like Tom Leykis, trying to convince the world he's an "alpha male".

lmfao @ you appropriating White Knighting.

 

[Aquagal]

The crack, be it a literary drug or buttocks of choice is now saggy and dried up.

Days of yore and actual ass handlings evolved into declaring the coup du jour of “I handed him his ass!”.

Give me your word salads, wit and humor and I will seek out what you have to say.

 

[Matthew Craig]

Give me your word salads, wit and humor and I will seek out what you have to say.

Has anyone really been far even as decided to use even go want to do look more like?

 

[Aquagal]

Has anyone really been far even as decided to use even go want to do look more like?

See, I had to read that three times to get it.

 

[pink]

It's not sexual here anymore.

 

[Ann_Tagonist]

It's not sexual here anymore.

Not since KRC anyway.

 

[Ann_Tagonist]

The only drug been passed around here is Geritol.

 

[heathergives]

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[Saint Peter]

I can get banned anytime!

 

[silver gurl]

I can get banned anytime!

Reported.