Switch switch

[Tflynnresponse]

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[oneblueye]

hey...

Not sure where or how or why, but I seem to be able to switch from a submissive, crossdressing bisexual to wanting to dominate a submissive person, female mostly (but also male sometimes) to greatly enjoying more standard plain vanilla sex with a woman, almost on a moment’s notice...almost like turning on a switch. Anyone else have those fluctuations in wants and needs? And/or have an explanation for them?

yes AB-SO-FUCKN-LUTELY!!!
Welcome to the SEXUAL OPPOTUNISTS CLUB...
I didn't know we were engaged in a membership drive but welcome, welcome, welcome.
I'm an Orgasmic Technician first class, from the metro Detroit area.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Absolutely.

Given the right frame of mind (and maybe a few drinks), I think I could be in pretty much any sexual situation and enjoy it. From straight, vanilla sex with my wife, to whatever the opposite of that is.

 

[Teecee15]

Not sure where or how or why, but I seem to be able to switch from a submissive, crossdressing bisexual to wanting to dominate a submissive person, female mostly (but also male sometimes) to greatly enjoying more standard plain vanilla sex with a woman, almost on a moment’s notice...almost like turning on a switch. Anyone else have those fluctuations in wants and needs? And/or have an explanation for them?

I completely agree..but unfortunately have no way to explain..sorry!

 

[magicalmoments]

Yes I can switch. The motivation for me has been about an opportunity to have sex with someone new, especially a woman. I'll be whoever she wants me to be at least up until the point where I shoot my load.

 

[Tcs1956]

YES!!! I love to switch! I can fuck or eat pusdy, suck cock or get ducked up my ass! Whatever my wife wants...I’m ready willing and able.
Is that what you mean by “Switch”?

 

[susurrus]

Given the chance, I could take either role. I love being able to give orders and expect them to be carried out, and I'd love to be told to do dirty, naughty things, too.

 

[liqueur]

Not sure where or how or why, but I seem to be able to switch from a submissive, crossdressing bisexual to wanting to dominate a submissive person, female mostly (but also male sometimes) to greatly enjoying more standard plain vanilla sex with a woman, almost on a moment’s notice...almost like turning on a switch. Anyone else have those fluctuations in wants and needs? And/or have an explanation for them?

Even though I'm soundly on the submissive end of the spectrum, I can switch under the right circumstances.

 

[midlifecrisispanties]

Not sure where or how or why, but I seem to be able to switch from a submissive, crossdressing bisexual to wanting to dominate a submissive person, female mostly (but also male sometimes) to greatly enjoying more standard plain vanilla sex with a woman, almost on a moment’s notice...almost like turning on a switch. Anyone else have those fluctuations in wants and needs? And/or have an explanation for them?

I understand this completely. I believe I am the true definition of "Switch. " I was originally a Dominant. I was trained by a mean little goth girl in the 80s. She taught me to give sessions of various types of BDSM. I was actually rather good at it. I don't practice some of it anymore. Long story short, my wife, who was originally my submissive, is now my Dominant. Over the course of the last 5 years, she has had stroke, heart attack, and neuropathy. These have left her wit zero sex drive. She knows, however, that my libido remains intense. So, we have a new arrangement. However, I believe that she is the only one I want to actually dominate me. I retain my skills at Dominance and a few of my old toys. She has even given me permission to play if that is what I need to do. But, for now, I keep any such experimentation online. But, I've thought about her offer a lot.

 

[sub2femdom]

I've done both dom and sub, although when I try to switch during a session, it just doesn't work.

For instance, my former pet was interested in learning to dom, so after a session, I tried to switch with her, and it just got awkward. Neither of us could escape our existing frame of mind and re-enter in a different mode.

I could easily go to a party as a CD submissive one night, and the next I could show up with a pet on a leash and put on a show. For me, it's all about the frame of mind and mental preparation prior to the event/session, but once in session, I can't switch

 

[midlifecrisispanties]

I've done both dom and sub, although when I try to switch during a session, it just doesn't work.

For instance, my former pet was interested in learning to dom, so after a session, I tried to switch with her, and it just got awkward. Neither of us could escape our existing frame of mind and re-enter in a different mode.

I could easily go to a party as a CD submissive one night, and the next I could show up with a pet on a leash and put on a show. For me, it's all about the frame of mind and mental preparation prior to the event/session, but once in session, I can't switch

I get that too. Mid-session doesn't really work. Perameters of each experience have to be laid out ahead of time and stuck to. And I find that outside of online fantasy play, it us next to impossible to switch roles with the same person. Unless they fully understand that possibility.

 

[liqueur]

I've done both dom and sub, although when I try to switch during a session, it just doesn't work.

I can't even imagine switching mid-session. It boggles my mind.

 

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[htester]

I'm glad to see this post as it's something I thought about recently. According to the BDSM quiz, I am 59% switch. But, honestly, I prefer being a sub. Sometimes midstream if there's something I don't enjoy or appreciate, I will flip and directly say no. I used to think I was 100% vanilla, but a Dom told me I was something else and he was right. Because the dating scene is so hectic, I enjoy having a male partner tell me how to service myself and him in deliciously explicit terms. In real life, I don't need it as much but for self-masturbatory sessions or online, if someone doesn't call me a slut or tell me how to fuck myself, I can't fully cum. So, I've stopped fighting. I think we're just different things at different times in our lives. Sometimes we need different things sexually. I've accepted I'm both, but that I truly prefer the delicious eroticism of submission.

 

[stargame]

Not sure where or how or why, but I seem to be able to switch from a submissive, crossdressing bisexual to wanting to dominate a submissive person, female mostly (but also male sometimes) to greatly enjoying more standard plain vanilla sex with a woman, almost on a moment’s notice...almost like turning on a switch. Anyone else have those fluctuations in wants and needs? And/or have an explanation for them?

Hey, love the one you're with

 

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[Jennygurlluvs2play]

Not sure where or how or why, but I seem to be able to switch from a submissive, crossdressing bisexual to wanting to dominate a submissive person, female mostly (but also male sometimes) to greatly enjoying more standard plain vanilla sex with a woman, almost on a moment’s notice...almost like turning on a switch. Anyone else have those fluctuations in wants and needs? And/or have an explanation for them?

This describes me completely minus the domination of another man. That person has to be effeminate or it just doesn't do it for me. Another crosser-dresser or trans. person for sure! Call me a kinky, hetero-flexible switch who as describes can turn on a dime! Glad to know I'm not alone in having obtained this meta knowledge!

 

[ReaperW]

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