This was in my news feed this morning.. I wanted to get some other peoples thoughts.

[Scareltt]

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/opening-up-marriage_l_5c954238e4b0a6329e1670d0

Had anyone read it before?

Has anyone brought a 3rd into an established relationship?

Why does the media always focus on male & two female partners? Is it because it’s much more attractive to talk about that? I feel like a female, male, male relationship is more realistic. Or maybe more common. I doubt that this guy could satisfy both partners on a regular basis...

Lots to unpack..

 

[runsilent]

I have been in a mmf relationship. It was fun but not serious. We didn't have kids to explain it to. Prolly wouldn't have happened if kids were involved. It's just a too big an issue to explain to a child. He was never considered a relationship partner. Just fun sexual adventures.

 

[twister947]

I've thought about mfm a lot, even polyandry. I've concluded that sex is the easy part. Like Brexit...it sounded so easy when it was just an idea. The devil is,indeed, in the details.

 

[straitupcurious]

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/opening-up-marriage_l_5c954238e4b0a6329e1670d0

Had anyone read it before?

Has anyone brought a 3rd into an established relationship?

Why does the media always focus on male & two female partners? Is it because it’s much more attractive to talk about that? I feel like a female, male, male relationship is more realistic. Or maybe more common. I doubt that this guy could satisfy both partners on a regular basis...

Let to unpack..

I think mff is very attractive vut as a male I'd love to be in a mmf relationship as well. I think there's nothing wrong with consenting adults opening up their options for safe clean sex.

 

[SamMalone12]

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/opening-up-marriage_l_5c954238e4b0a6329e1670d0

Had anyone read it before?

Has anyone brought a 3rd into an established relationship?

Why does the media always focus on male & two female partners? Is it because it’s much more attractive to talk about that? I feel like a female, male, male relationship is more realistic. Or maybe more common. I doubt that this guy could satisfy both partners on a regular basis...

Let to unpack..

We're in a MFM relationship and love it

 

[runsilent]

I can't do justice to the lustful look on her face while she was sucking cock while being pounded from behind. It's an image burned into my brain.

 

[jakelc]

We tried it once, it was something that came about as a result of a series of threesomes and led to us having a mff relationship. It was fantastic sexually and emotionally. Our only hiccup came when we had a conversation about her wanting to get pregnant. We didn’t want kids and she had her heart set on becoming a mother. The relationship didn’t end badly, she just wanted something we didn’t and it became a stumbling block we couldn’t get past. She met another guy and after a short relationship became pregnant, they now have two kids together but are no longer an item. She still comes over to see us and we enjoy a sexual relationship with her and a very strong friendship. We will always love her, we just had different roads to take. If things had been different I have no doubt we would have had a solids and happy three way relationship until this day. My wife and I have often spoken about if we would have another partner, it didn’t matter whether it was male or female and neither of us would have second thoughts about trying again with right person if it came about, it’s not something we are actively seeking though.

 

[KimGordon67]

We tried it once, it was something that came about as a result of a series of threesomes and led to us having a mff relationship. It was fantastic sexually and emotionally. Our only hiccup came when we had a conversation about her wanting to get pregnant. We didn’t want kids and she had her heart set on becoming a mother. The relationship didn’t end badly, she just wanted something we didn’t and it became a stumbling block we couldn’t get past. She met another guy and after a short relationship became pregnant, they now have two kids together but are no longer an item. She still comes over to see us and we enjoy a sexual relationship with her and a very strong friendship. We will always love her, we just had different roads to take. If things had been different I have no doubt we would have had a solids and happy three way relationship until this day. My wife and I have often spoken about if we would have another partner, it didn’t matter whether it was male or female and neither of us would have second thoughts about trying again with right person if it came about, it’s not something we are actively seeking though.

That's a lovely story.

 

[Jada59]

I really don't know but suspect that most people who are in such a relationship might not be totally open about it.

I had a female roommate some years back. She had been living with her BF but he kicked her out and moved hid brother in. They were still BF and GF which I did find to be strange. Eventually she discovered that he was having a relationship with an older woman across the street so she broke up with him.

While she was living with me, she had a female friend from another state who came to stay with us a times. I didn't think too much of it until she asked me if I thought it was weird that they were sleeping together. She did have a King sized water bed and we didn't have a spare bed. I actually hadn't thought anything of it until she brought it up and then, yes. I thought it was weird. I didn't tell her that though.

After that, when the friend came to visit, they would spend the night at the BF's house. I did assume then that maybe the three of them were having sex. Guess I'll never know.

 

[Scareltt]

Really?

We're in a MFM relationship and love it

Tell us/me more...

 

[Scareltt]

Okay..

I think mff is very attractive vut as a male I'd love to be in a mmf relationship as well. I think there's nothing wrong with consenting adults opening up their options for safe clean sex.

What about an mmf interests you?

 

[DarkSimian]

As part of a mfm polyamorous relationship with 2 other Litsters, it does have it's pluses and minuses. The biggest minus being the distance, and scheduling time together. But we've made it work for almost 3 yrs...

 

[jakelc]

That's a lovely story.

Thank you, for all three of us it was sad that it ended but glad we remained friends. We both still very much love our friend but her life took her in another direction. When she moved out it was strange because we’d gotten used to having that extra person around, someone else to talk to, to love and of course sexually. Michelle was the first person we had ever thought of having more than a sexual relationship with, much more in fact to the point of being a third in our marriage. We’ve had sexual partners who have become very good, very close friends but none who we would invite in to live and love with us in our marriage.

 

[Earthly1]

I would only partake in a MMF relationship if I knew my dick was bigger or the same size as the other guy, lol.

 

[sultrysandy]

I would only partake in a MMF relationship if I knew my dick was bigger or the same size as the other guy, lol.

Does a guy that goes into a thread named “for Lesbians and Bisexual Women”, posts slandering a member that participates, make the guy one?

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[liqueur]

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/opening-up-marriage_l_5c954238e4b0a6329e1670d0
Had anyone read it before?

I breezed through it. There's nothing new about polyamory. The word itself goes back to the late 70s / early 80s, long before it was a fad in the mainstream media. But the practice goes back way before that—probably into the beginning of human prehistory. It's only talking about it that's new(ish)

Has anyone brought a 3rd into an established relationship?

in cases when I've tried, it hasn't worked out well. The others involved just weren't open to sharing, even when they thought they were. But I know of plenty of cases where it has worked, and I applaud them.

Why does the media always focus on male & two female partners?

Because god forbid the mainstream media talk about anything that might hint at the possibility of male/male sex!

I feel like a female, male, male relationship is more realistic. Or maybe more common. I doubt that this guy could satisfy both partners on a regular basis...

One of the most enduring fantasies in western culture is the idea of a man having two women in his bed (and of course, satisfying them both completely). Pretty adolescent stuff—but we do live in an adolescent culture. I'm sure you're right that in real life, MFM or MMF (or MmF!) relationships are more common.

What I said about the media taboo against talking about MMF was only slightly tongue-in-cheek, but there's another, deeper reason, that goes to the very core of human culture. It's patriarchy, I don't mean that in the common usage of the term, I mean in the male need to ensure that "his" woman is carrying not just his name, but his genetic line forward. Theorists who've examined this seem to believe this concern came into existence when people began to connect sex with child-bearing—i.e. very recently in human evolution—but if you look at the behavior of so many other species ranging from sea lions to buffalo to chickens, you see the same thing. So in my mind, it's at the heart of evolution itself.

Sorry for the digression. Thinking out loud, so to speak.

 

[Scareltt]

Great reply

I breezed through it. There's nothing new about polyamory. The word itself goes back to the late 70s / early 80s, long before it was a fad in the mainstream media. But the practice goes back way before that—probably into the beginning of human prehistory. It's only talking about it that's new(ish)

in cases when I've tried, it hasn't worked out well. The others involved just weren't open to sharing, even when they thought they were. But I know of plenty of cases where it has worked, and I applaud them.

Because god forbid the mainstream media talk about anything that might hint at the possibility of male/male sex!

One of the most enduring fantasies in western culture is the idea of a man having two women in his bed (and of course, satisfying them both completely). Pretty adolescent stuff—but we do live in an adolescent culture. I'm sure you're right that in real life, MFM or MMF (or MmF!) relationships are more common.

What I said about the media taboo against talking about MMF was only slightly tongue-in-cheek, but there's another, deeper reason, that goes to the very core of human culture. It's patriarchy, I don't mean that in the common usage of the term, I mean in the male need to ensure that "his" woman is carrying not just his name, but his genetic line forward. Theorists who've examined this seem to believe this concern came into existence when people began to connect sex with child-bearing—i.e. very recently in human evolution—but if you look at the behavior of so many other species ranging from sea lions to buffalo to chickens, you see the same thing. So in my mind, it's at the heart of evolution itself.

Sorry for the digression. Thinking out loud, so to speak.

Thank you, for that thoughtful reply. Nothing wrong with typing/thinking out loud.

 

[docoral]

sharing

Thank you, for that thoughtful reply. Nothing wrong with typing/thinking out loud.

This subject is so complex there are books written on it. Having a third partner for sexual pleasure is probably the more successful version of an open marriage. You play and when everybody is happy someone leaves. I believe in a polygamous relationship ( illegal ) are culturally bonded to each other ( married ) so we're not talking about polygamy. So the other option is a communal relationship where all partners share in all the responsibilities and pleasures, 3 minds, 3 distinct personalities ect. This is so complex my brain just exploded.

 

[Scareltt]

I see what you’re saying..

This subject is so complex there are books written on it. Having a third partner for sexual pleasure is probably the more successful version of an open marriage. You play and when everybody is happy someone leaves. I believe in a polygamous relationship ( illegal ) are culturally bonded to each other ( married ) so we're not talking about polygamy. So the other option is a communal relationship where all partners share in all the responsibilities and pleasures, 3 minds, 3 distinct personalities ect. This is so complex my brain just exploded.

I’ll admit an extra set of a lot of things would be helpful. Whether it’s a point of view, option, hands, an extra paycheck any and all of that would be welcome.

Husbands: how many of you would be willing to share your wife with another man for an extra set of hands around the house. How about an extra paycheck. Imagine what an extra income could do for the whole family?

Wives: how would you feel about a lover you could be totally uninhibited with whatever you wanted. What if that lover lived with you. Not only was he there for sex, but also to be a part of the family? Helping wherever and however it’s needed?

 

[liqueur]

Husbands: how many of you would be willing to share your wife with another man for an extra set of hands around the house. How about an extra paycheck. Imagine what an extra income could do for the whole family?

I'd welcome it, not only for the hands and the paycheck but also for a cock to suck when my wife wasn't in the mood.

 

[docoral]

sharing

I’ll admit an extra set of a lot of things would be helpful. Whether it’s a point of view, option, hands, an extra paycheck any and all of that would be welcome.

Husbands: how many of you would be willing to share your wife with another man for an extra set of hands around the house. How about an extra paycheck. Imagine what an extra income could do for the whole family?

Wives: how would you feel about a lover you could be totally uninhibited with whatever you wanted. What if that lover lived with you. Not only was he there for sex, but also to be a part of the family? Helping wherever and however it’s needed?

Sharing, for the sake of pleasure and sexual fulfilment, I find very alluring. A communal relationship is far too complicated. It's hard enough for two people to get along, when you add a third it just becomes a struggle in loyalties, attention, responsibilities ect. No relationships balance out equally. With two people it could be 60/40 70/30, not sure how that equates in a threesome especially when it comes to raising children or financial responsibilities. I guess that's why marriage works best with only two people and that's a crapshoot.

 

[twister947]

I’ll admit an extra set of a lot of things would be helpful. Whether it’s a point of view, option, hands, an extra paycheck any and all of that would be welcome.

Husbands: how many of you would be willing to share your wife with another man for an extra set of hands around the house. How about an extra paycheck. Imagine what an extra income could do for the whole family?

Wives: how would you feel about a lover you could be totally uninhibited with whatever you wanted. What if that lover lived with you. Not only was he there for sex, but also to be a part of the family? Helping wherever and however it’s needed?

Sure, assuming we were all compatible in all of the ways such things are measured. And that paycheck would be key: I'm not up for another dependent. Speaking of which, I wonder how this hypothetical lashup would file?

 

[Scareltt]

An accounting question..

Sure, assuming we were all compatible in all of the ways such things are measured. And that paycheck would be key: I'm not up for another dependent. Speaking of which, I wonder how this hypothetical lashup would file?

That’s a good question.. almost too many variables. However I’m sure our government would impose a tax. The Triple Income Household/Lifestyle. Maybe if the government saw they could bring in a lot more money they would make Polyamory a status like married, or single.

Did we just solve the deficit?

 

[savmitch1038]

Capable of More

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/opening-up-marriage_l_5c954238e4b0a6329e1670d0

Had anyone read it before?

Has anyone brought a 3rd into an established relationship?

Why does the media always focus on male & two female partners? Is it because it’s much more attractive to talk about that? I feel like a female, male, male relationship is more realistic. Or maybe more common. I doubt that this guy could satisfy both partners on a regular basis...

Lots to unpack..

I agree that a woman is far more capable of pleasing multiple men, more so than a man is capable of pleasing two women. I would much prefer a threesome with another guy and a woman. I think that a mmf or a mfm would be much more fun and fulfilling!

 

[Scareltt]

I like your line of thinking!

I agree that a woman is far more capable of pleasing multiple men, more so than a man is capable of pleasing two women. I would much prefer a threesome with another guy and a woman. I think that a mmf or a mfm would be much more fun and fulfilling!

Tell me more