Advice to most of the males out there who wanna spend time with women on the forum

[Jonx178]

Let me start off by saying that this is by no means directed to every man on here. Just the majority. I think that if you want to enjoy a woman’s company the first step is to not bring up sex right away. I know this is a sex site but most women even if they are looking for some type of help getting off will be turned away by a man who immediately brings it up in conversation. Think about it this way. If you are dating a woman or even just getting to know one is that what you first talk about? No! You get to know the woman they get to know you. You spend time together. And once you are both comfortable with each other then the woman will decide whether or not you are worthy of having sex with her. Ask men men are by no means in the driver seat here guys. So don’t act like it. What the world would let you know whether she wants to take the conversation to the next level. I don’t know why men seem to think that just because they are online they can abandon their common decency. Treat women like they are meant to be treated and you will be rewarded in kind. I don’t know why guys seem to have trouble grasping this simple concept. Treat people the way you would like to be treated. It is very simple and yet seems to be one of the hardest things for people to do. OK this is my little rant thank you to anyone who stuck with me to the end. Hopefully this will help some of the ladies find decent human beings. Most of us men were taught to treat women better than they are being treated online. So this should be fairly simple. Hope y’all have a great evening or whatever it is where you live. Take care everyone!

 

[UgliestSon]

Dude you are way wrong. Just tell you are down to fuck right up front. Also if you tell them you are drunk AF it seems to score you extra points. Glad I could be of help. Peace out!

 

[Jonx178]

Dude you are way wrong. Just tell you are down to fuck right up front. Also if you tell them you are drunk AF it seems to score you extra points. Glad I could be of help. Peace out!

I never claimed to be an expert or anything this is just an observation from conversations I’ve had with women. Different strokes and all.

 

[lovetorp]

thank you for this!!!!

 

[Knitting1]

Wise words -especially treat people as you would like to be treated.

 

[Jonx178]

This is something that I’ve felt strongly about for a long time. People who use the Internet think that just because they met someone on here is OK to treat people differently then you would treat them in real life. Just because you can escape by closing a program does it mean that gives you the right to treat other people in a lesser manner that you would someone who you walk up to on the street. I don’t know when everyone became so jaded in their thinking it became common place for a man to PM a woman and say things they would never say to a woman they just met in person. Just because there is a lack of a slap by a woman doesn’t give a guy the right to act like a moron. I’m just saying we all know it happens and accept it as the norm. What ever happened to treating a woman with respect and treasuring them? Just because this is a sex site doesn’t excuse men from giving women the common decency that they are afforded in real life. That’s all I’m try to say.

 

[lovetporoleplay1]

This is something that I’ve felt strongly about for a long time. People who use the Internet think that just because they met someone on here is OK to treat people differently then you would treat them in real life. Just because you can escape by closing a program does it mean that gives you the right to treat other people in a lesser manner that you would someone who you walk up to on the street. I don’t know when everyone became so jaded in their thinking it became common place for a man to PM a woman and say things they would never say to a woman they just met in person. Just because there is a lack of a slap by a woman doesn’t give a guy the right to act like a moron. I’m just saying we all know it happens and accept it as the norm. What ever happened to treating a woman with respect and treasuring them? Just because this is a sex site doesn’t excuse men from giving women the common decency that they are afforded in real life. That’s all I’m try to say.

Well said. I agree wholeheartedly Jon.

 

[blulilacgrl]

Treat people the way you would like to be treated. It is very simple and yet seems to be one of the hardest things for people to do. /SIZE]

Except they are treating women how they want to be treated. Want my thoughts (too late!)? A majority of the men coming here are not coming here for relationships. A large portion of the men already have relationships. They aren't looking for another one. They are coming here to get off. So yeah. For them it's a time thing. They don't have time to waste talking to a woman who isn't gonna immediately engage in cybering and all that.

Think of it like fishing. You have a good percentage of men who are weekend fisherman. They come, drop their pole in the Lit waters and pray for a bite. When they get, they reel the fish in, have fun, and throw it back. Lol. Maybe I'm jaded but after 10 years of being on this site, that's the best way I can think to explain it.

And before you say "not all men!". Yeah, there are a few stand up guys who are about more than that. But I would say they are the minority.

 

[321jsjs123]

fact of the matter is that while the guys can click the X button and leave the program or forum, so can the women. respect and honesty. invest the time and effort. you'll be surprised what you might find...

 

[Tigra1984]

Lit is like a rainbow. There is a color or “nitch” for everyone. Take your paint brush and explore but don’t judge or hate on others for the picture they are painting.

 

[SassySheDevil]

This is something that I’ve felt strongly about for a long time. People who use the Internet think that just because they met someone on here is OK to treat people differently then you would treat them in real life. Just because you can escape by closing a program does it mean that gives you the right to treat other people in a lesser manner that you would someone who you walk up to on the street. I don’t know when everyone became so jaded in their thinking it became common place for a man to PM a woman and say things they would never say to a woman they just met in person. Just because there is a lack of a slap by a woman doesn’t give a guy the right to act like a moron. I’m just saying we all know it happens and accept it as the norm. What ever happened to treating a woman with respect and treasuring them? Just because this is a sex site doesn’t excuse men from giving women the common decency that they are afforded in real life. That’s all I’m try to say.

Except they are treating women how they want to be treated. Want my thoughts (too late!)? A majority of the men coming here are not coming here for relationships. A large portion of the men already have relationships. They aren't looking for another one. They are coming here to get off. So yeah. For them it's a time thing. They don't have time to waste talking to a woman who isn't gonna immediately engage in cybering and all that.

Think of it like fishing. You have a good percentage of men who are weekend fisherman. They come, drop their pole in the Lit waters and pray for a bite. When they get, they reel the fish in, have fun, and throw it back. Lol. Maybe I'm jaded but after 10 years of being on this site, that's the best way I can think to explain it.

And before you say "not all men!". Yeah, there are a few stand up guys who are about more than that. But I would say they are the minority.

Both very true. Both very well said.

 

[glBock]

Bringing the subject of sex into a Lit conversation

OP, I can't help thinking of your post #1 any other way than as a piece of propaganda for yourself. No wonder you chose a much too large typeface for it also. My suspicion is you have as little to offer to a woman you meet here as the rest of the men you condemn, except you pretend you are an expert in common courtesy.

In conversations on Lit, erotica and sex plays a larger role than in the "letters to the editor" section of the Christian Science Monitor. Now I am not a man who only thinks of enticing one another's libidos, when I search for a woman; my various ads attest to that. But I am also not one who believes a long courting period needs to take place here.

And since 95%(+) of all Litsters – men AND women – come here for sex among other reasons, the subject will be raised sooner or later. At least by people who mentioned this subjects in their ads specifically, or in many of their posts.

So I cannot stand listening to "better than thou" posts here, be they be written by ladies bragging about everything they do right all the time, or be they contain a lot of moralistic advice.

 

[LemonLimeBitters]

Hi OP,

I would argue that most people here treat others how they'd like to treat others in real life except that they cannot. I would argue that the men who treat women with disrespect here would also feel the same way in real life, but most will hide behind a mask and don't show it for fear of consequences and judgements.

I would also argue that the anonymity offered by the internet has a dual and contradictory effect on the users. It either makes people bolder and speak their minds or it allows people to create a facade/persona that is far from the truth.

This website operates much on a needs basis. While some look for "ongoing relationships", others are after a quick relief (if they can find any).

So while I appreciate your sentiments, your advice will most likely (almost certainly) fall on deaf ears because I believe those men already know.

Good luck to you.

cheers.

 

[Chris_Michael]

If you follow the OPs advice, you're actually accomplishing two goals - you're treating women like human beings, and you're also standing out from the rest of the guys who drool over every single woman.

If there is one thing I'd add to the advice... Don't tell every woman the same exact thing. Don't go to the AmPics and post in every single thread down the line. Women notice that shit.

Be subtle. When I act desperate, which I'll admit I do at times when I'm lonely, I get NOTHING. Not to sound arrogant, but when I'm carefree and living my best life, women are the ones PMing me.

Just my $0.02.

 

[Chris_Michael]

OP, I can't help thinking of your post #1 any other way than as a piece of propaganda for yourself. No wonder you chose a much too large typeface for it also. My suspicion is you have as little to offer to a woman you meet here as the rest of the men you condemn, except you pretend you are an expert in common courtesy.

In conversations on Lit, erotica and sex plays a larger role than in the "letters to the editor" section of the Christian Science Monitor. Now I am not a man who only thinks of enticing one another's libidos, when I search for a woman; my various ads attest to that. But I am also not one who believes a long courting period needs to take place here.

And since 95%(+) of all Litsters – men AND women – come here for sex among other reasons, the subject will be raised sooner or later. At least by people who mentioned this subjects in their ads specifically, or in many of their posts.

So I cannot stand listening to "better than thou" posts here, be they be written by ladies bragging about everything they do right all the time, or be they contain a lot of moralistic advice.

Well, if that's his hustle then let him do it. I don't see what's wrong with it. He might get women PMing him that would never have noticed him before.

 

[Drpepwer]

OP, I can't help thinking of your post #1 any other way than as a piece of propaganda for yourself. No wonder you chose a much too large typeface for it also. My suspicion is you have as little to offer to a woman you meet here as the rest of the men you condemn, except you pretend you are an expert in common courtesy.

In conversations on Lit, erotica and sex plays a larger role than in the "letters to the editor" section of the Christian Science Monitor. Now I am not a man who only thinks of enticing one another's libidos, when I search for a woman; my various ads attest to that. But I am also not one who believes a long courting period needs to take place here.

And since 95%(+) of all Litsters – men AND women – come here for sex among other reasons, the subject will be raised sooner or later. At least by people who mentioned this subjects in their ads specifically, or in many of their posts.

So I cannot stand listening to "better than thou" posts here, be they be written by ladies bragging about everything they do right all the time, or be they contain a lot of moralistic advice.

While you may be right, OP probably had positive intent behind his post. It all comes down to starting a conversation off understand what each other want. If you’re looking for a quick get off then you look for those, if you’re looking to make a connection with someone then yeah, you’re going to take your time. This is a forum, let the man vent and do exactly what we are doing, conversating about it.

 

[glBock]

Well, if that's his hustle then let him do it. I don't see what's wrong with it. He might get women PMing him that would never have noticed him before.

I am letting him do it, Chris, I just stated that I don't like his post #1. Including its over-sized typeface.

 

[dannyb57]

OP, I can't help thinking of your post #1 any other way than as a piece of propaganda for yourself. No wonder you chose a much too large typeface for it also. My suspicion is you have as little to offer to a woman you meet here as the rest of the men you condemn, except you pretend you are an expert in common courtesy.

In conversations on Lit, erotica and sex plays a larger role than in the "letters to the editor" section of the Christian Science Monitor. Now I am not a man who only thinks of enticing one another's libidos, when I search for a woman; my various ads attest to that. But I am also not one who believes a long courting period needs to take place here.

And since 95%(+) of all Litsters – men AND women – come here for sex among other reasons, the subject will be raised sooner or later. At least by people who mentioned this subjects in their ads specifically, or in many of their posts.

So I cannot stand listening to "better than thou" posts here, be they be written by ladies bragging about everything they do right all the time, or be they contain a lot of moralistic advice.

Well Said...

 

[SassySheDevil]

I am letting him do it, Chris, I just stated that I don't like his post #1. Including its over-sized typeface.

So it's okay for you to offer advice, but not him. Because his text bothers you?
And please don't forget how many people don't like your posts.

 

[Midwest50Guy]

Be subtle. When I act desperate, which I'll admit I do at times when I'm lonely, I get NOTHING. Not to sound arrogant, but when I'm carefree and living my best life, women are the ones PMing me.

Just my $0.02.

This nailed it, not only here, but the entire online world.

Some guys here need to realize that they are the prize here and stop tripping over themselves 24/7 to talk to anybody who is classified as a female (since there are guys pretending to be girls here).

When you do that, things just take care of themselves.

 

[glBock]

So it's okay for you to offer advice, but not him. Because his text bothers you?
And please don't forget how many people don't like your posts.

Sassy, you should read more carefully before you speak.

And one has nothing to do with the other. Plus I am not writing posts in oder to be liked.

 

[Jonx178]

Honestly I am sorry about the typeface. That was of a mistake and I didn’t mean to do it on purpose. Secondly this is just been something that I have felt strongly about for a long time. And it is not a just about lit is also about the Internet in general is how people treat other people on it because of the anonymity of it all. Through conversations that I have had with other people I just felt like saying something. I realize that people are going to do what they want to do regardless of what I say. I just felt like someone had to say it. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect. Most people were raised with this drilled into us. Well at least I was I can’t speak for everyone. I just feel like we would all be better off if we took the time they gave each other the common decency that we all deserve. This was not about me in anyway shape or form I just felt like someone had to say something. I know that for the most part people here are decent human beings. What I was trying to get across was that if men treated the women of lit with the same respect they treated women that they would treat them in real life then maybe they would have more luck. That’s all I was trying to get across.

 

[glBock]

I apologize

I apoloize for mis-interpreting your intentions.

Good luck with persusading people to do better!

 

[Chris_Michael]

I am letting him do it, Chris, I just stated that I don't like his post #1. Including its over-sized typeface.

So, are you taking a practical stance or a moral/ethical stance?

 

[Dribble]

Motives for being here...are different for different people. We are not sitting around a fire singing kumbaya. People need to worry less about what others do and more about what they do.