Do people really connect here in lit?

[jcED8723]

Hello

I have been a long time member. Lately I have been wondering if people do really connect around here. And I don’t mean to meet in person. Just to chit chat on a daily basis. There are tons of members in this site but it seems most are just here wondering alone. I know men to women ratio its not even but still.

Do you guys/girls have connected? Share your thoughts

 

[spawnofdavey]

Yes, though it has only happened very occasionally. I've made a couple of these connections in the time I've been here (10 years on and off.)

 

[one_love]

My thoughts

Hello

I have been a long time member. Lately I have been wondering if people do really connect around here. And I don’t mean to meet in person. Just to chit chat on a daily basis. There are tons of members in this site but it seems most are just here wondering alone. I know men to women ratio its not even but still.

Do you guys/girls have connected? Share your thoughts

I would love for someone more articulate then I to do a study on online relationships...what it takes to make it and why so many fail.

In my expierence (10+ years like the fella above me) more then 2 people looking for the same thing,... there has to be a certain ability to commmnicate though text and words that tranceneds the wants and desires you’re looking for.

Making matters worse for a site like literotica the ratio of men to women is...well...slightly skewed. Forcing my male brethren to “stand out” and at times be someone they arnt to garner the attention they desire.

I’ll tell you this friend... from expierence. If you’re looking to connect on lit...be yourself, and pack your patience...it’s going to be a long ride.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I have met many from Lit. I love meeting new people. I am married though, so I am not looking for sexual hook ups and my husband knows of my meetings. I've flown to meet most of them. I still talk to most of them on some level.

I think it's always possible. It just depends on what you want from Lit. Some come here for those connections. Some don't. Some don't want it to be personal.

My best friend is here on Lit and he will be coming out this summer to watch my son get married.

 

[Midwest50Guy]

it does happen here but it goes along with the ghosting and other assorted bs that you find online.

best to not look for anything and just let it surprise you if it happens. That way, there is no disappointment.

 

[AndrosD]

Yes, I connected many years ago when I was early 30's with a college gal in her early 20's. Was so incredibly erotic for both of us. We had a bit of a fling for a few months. I'm not one to message people, she messaged me glad she did! Was not something either of us planned or were looking for.

 

[Spider1]

Met a great woman here and had a fun and mutually-rewarding relationship for about a year. It does happen.

 

[Januari]

I have two or three people that I talk to outside of here, on a friendly level. But for the most part I'm just here to blow off steam since trolling the comment sections of news articles can just be infuriating.

 

[ashesatwork]

most definitely happens.

but along with it tends to come some real heartbreak.

 

[Midwest50Guy]

most definitely happens.

but along with it tends to come some real heartbreak.

Drama also. I run it to more of it here than anywhere else. I wonder why that is.

 

[ashesatwork]

Drama also. I run it to more of it here than anywhere else. I wonder why that is.

ive never been apart of drama that im aware of.

but i sure have been burned.

i have no idea why i come back.

 

[Midwest50Guy]

ive never been apart of drama that im aware of.

but i sure have been burned.

i have no idea why i come back.

Boring in ohio i guess.

 

[Januari]

ive never been apart of drama that im aware of.

but i sure have been burned.

i have no idea why i come back.

Word threads. Every damn time.

 

[ashesatwork]

Word threads. Every damn time.

truth

 

[SquidProQuo]

I'm a woman and have been on Lit for years. I've befriended a few guys over time. Once another woman really wanted to talk to me and get to know me but then she thought I was too submissive to be a good match for her. I admit I come here to the forums hoping for a real sense of community, but maybe I will just never fit in anywhere.

 

[Poetdontknowit]

It is possible

It is possible to connect with someone here. While many don't go beyond a few PM exchanges, I have met a couple of very pleasant people here. One person, let's call her Scarlett, was an exceptional lady. We chatted every night for many months. It wasn't a sexual thing. Just didn't go there, but we got to know each other as real people, not an online persona masked behind a clever nickname. So, possible. But I do think rare.

 

[LostGirlTink]

Yes. I’ve met some of my very best friends here, as well as the man I’m head over heels for.
It happens

 

[Jada59]

Of course! I have met some Lit people IRL. Not a sex thing. We just met. I have a lot of friends here and some really special ones at that. This is a good place!

 

[KimGordon67]

Absolutely. I had a year long relationship with someone I met through here. (Long distance phone/online only, but definitely a relationship.) I've made other connections of various sorts with various people.

 

[Semler]

I've been lucky enough to meet a great Aussie girl that shares my fetish and we text each other all the time. If were were somewhat closer to each other I would bet it would develop into a real relationship.

 

[DDBustyBrit]

Yes, I have made some good friends here both male and female.

I have also found love here and it continues to just get better after many months We have both been around here for years (this is not my first profile ) and we have had other ‘interactions’. This is finally ‘the real deal’ for us both, we are settled as a couple and couldn’t be happier!

So yes it’s all possible, but there’s definitely some luck involved and connecting with the right person just at the right time. Patience is definitely a virtue here!

Good luck

 

[Pawleys16]

Still looking here for that special relationship on Lit. Has happened in the past on other communication systems but the field does narrow as my age increases.

 

[glBock]

anecdotal experiences

hello OP, when I first read the headline of your thread, I was hoping that some discussions would ensue on the subject of connections, Bu no such luck; every contributor here simply supplied anecdotal evidence of his/her own experiences. Which said in sum total: YES indeed, a contact site like the Lit Personals can indeed establish contacts, and some of those contacts turn into connections.

Nothing surprising about that, I would say.

Instead I had been interested in reading a word here or there about how different people define "connections". Enough that two people can get each other off? More than on 10 different occasions? Or are deeper verbal exchanges required also, in order to connect? To which degree of depth, to rightfully call the whole thing a connection?

Or – god forbid – connections capable of compensating for serious voids in peoples' lives. To what extent does that work? How long can it last?

And what about longevity in general? Two months? Half a year? Forever? How about exchange fatigue or relationship boredom? What kind of bonds are needed to avoid the latter?

Of course a simple initial question like yours can never uncover any of these matters. I wonder what kind of research would be needed to shed some light on any of this?

 

[JamesRTickit]

My offer

I have four good friends from Lit who I have never met but I know a huge amount about their real world lives.

I think my two earliest friends have been around for three years at least.

I have made lots of other friends, make and female, with whom I have shared a part of them that needed covering.

 

[FelicityJohns]

I have four good friends from Lit who I have never met but I know a huge amount about their real world lives.

I think my two earliest friends have been around for three years at least.

I have made lots of other friends, make and female, with whom I have shared a part of them that needed covering.

Ive made several life connections in these hallways. What makes a connection? A willingness to reach out and open up and guess what??! It's rarely about sex. But the kicker is, it takes two people interested enough to work at it, because it ain't some fekkin magical fairy spark. It's a commitnent. Even 'only online.'

If you're honest about yourself, it doesn't get more real or in your face than online. The weak of heart need not apply.