Things to do

[Peaches4him]

So the husband and I are fairly new to BDSM. Having a lot of fun playing and trying things out, but dang it it’s hard to keep it going through out a busy day of work, and to come up with new and original “ task” to try and keep me on edge.

What are some of your go to items for dominance while you are both at work?

I get it everyone may not play 24:7 or have stuff going all the time, but we enjoys it thus far. Can only have so many bathroom pictures and such. What is something you like or have thought about

 

[SissySalina]

Butt plugs are always fun to play with. You can now get some that the other person can control with the phone.
Or even been wa balls.

 

[seela]

So the husband and I are fairly new to BDSM. Having a lot of fun playing and trying things out, but dang it it’s hard to keep it going through out a busy day of work, and to come up with new and original “ task” to try and keep me on edge.

What are some of your go to items for dominance while you are both at work?

I get it everyone may not play 24:7 or have stuff going all the time, but we enjoys it thus far. Can only have so many bathroom pictures and such. What is something you like or have thought about

I'm not sure what you're trying to do is possible in the long run. I mean, keeping active play going all day, every day is a tall order even if you work from home, but if you work outside your home it's even more difficult. I prefer things that are a little bit lower maintenance I guess, routines.

I've done things like having to wear a certain color every day or every Tuesday or whatever. My color was red, and I could wear it anywhere on my body as longs as it was there every day. It could be nailpolish, underwear, a blouse or a scarf... Anything. It wasn't too restricting and that's why it was possible to keep it going for a long time, but at the same time it was reminder of the dynamic during the day even if it isn't anything racy. It also took some planning on my part every day, which to me reinforced the dynamic.

Maybe let him choose what you wear. Or wear skimpy lingerie under your regular work clothes, lots of people seem to like that.

Send a short text to your husband every day describing how an item at your work place could be incorporated in play. Like, if you work in an office there will be pens around, or computer cords. How could those be used? Do one item a day and you can keep this going for a long time.

Incorporate some of those everyday items in your play at home. Then when you use it at work, you'll remember all the fun times you had

Bring yourself or have your husband bring you really close to an orgasm in the morning before getting dressed and then head to work. Maybe sneak another edging session during your lunch break if it's possible. It's not for everybody, but I like it.

As always, remember to keep it cool, especially so if you do things at work. Other people have not consented to be part of your play, so they shouldn't been objected to your shenanigans.

 

[Iris_66]

Whoever is Dom could send a sms with a command, say put your butt plug in now, go to the restroom/lock your door and edge twice, take off your underwear etc

They could give a list of challenges to be completed during the day, 'accidentally' expose yourself to ..., flirt with ..., put on nipple clamps under a fine blouse/shirt and the sub emails back as they complete each challenge

Punishment (whatever that equals for you) when they get home for uncompleted challenges, bonus rewards for extra compliance / imagination

So the husband and I are fairly new to BDSM. Having a lot of fun playing and trying things out, but dang it it’s hard to keep it going through out a busy day of work, and to come up with new and original “ task” to try and keep me on edge.

What are some of your go to items for dominance while you are both at work?

I get it everyone may not play 24:7 or have stuff going all the time, but we enjoys it thus far. Can only have so many bathroom pictures and such. What is something you like or have thought about

 

[seela]

They could give a list of challenges to be completed during the day, 'accidentally' expose yourself to ..., flirt with ..., put on nipple clamps under a fine blouse/shirt and the sub emails back as they complete each challenge

Definitely no "accidentally" exposing yourself to anybody who has not given consent! Not only is it a shitty move to the person you expose yourself to, but it could also end up getting you sued and fired.

I'd say the the challenges should be for the sub and not involve others at all. Especially at work. So, fun in fantasy, in reality not so much.

 

[Iris_66]

Sorry if I caused offense, not my intention

Was trying to be non prescriptive, as I didn't know the dynamics of the Ds relationship

In my mind, that one was in the locker room of the gym, playing on the homo-erotic push point. No other gym user, straight or not, would give a second glance or take offence to someone towelling off uninhibitedly, but to someone who is naturally bashful, it could press buttons

Obviously, flashing in the high street, or mall can cause offense, is wrong and will lead to problems

Definitely no "accidentally" exposing yourself to anybody who has not given consent! Not only is it a shitty move to the person you expose yourself to, but it could also end up getting you sued and fired.

I'd say the the challenges should be for the sub and not involve others at all. Especially at work. So, fun in fantasy, in reality not so much.

 

[Lascivity]

If you have spare time at work, I'm a big fan of homework. It can be writing lines, or writing an essay to a theme (preferably a humiliating one), or any other task the results of which can be evidenced and judged.

It's not as direct as other forms of play, but it makes for a good pretext for punishment further down the road.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

In one sense, it’s easier with/for women. Stimulating devices are easier to hide.

A scenario: the assumption is that you have Zoom or Skype or equivalent at work. Second assumption is your having a phone-or-app-controllable vibrator/butt plug. Dom calls, the couple set up a video link, dom remotely turns on vibrator. Dom gets to watch the sub being stimulated at their normal work station, possibly with the clear order not to cum. Being watched adds a whole new dimension.

Is that possible with a male sub? Of course, but something like a remotely-controlled Fleshlight is essentially impossible in an office or shop. Butt plug vibe, of course, but it’s not the same.

Hmm. That’s not bad. I think I’ll do a story on that.

 

[Snowbunnie12]

Chat with strangers at his command.... sexting at his command... dress in what he wants you to wear when he wants you to. Mine loves this snap crotch body shaper with no panties. Little more perminent get a piercing for him I can go in and and and on of subtle tasks that would be enjoyable to you both. Out to dinner and hubby tells me to go take my panties off in the lady’s room and hand them to him across the table, I wore a skirt he liked that was just a weeeee bit short and now he knows I’m concerned lol. It can be fun, not flashing anybody but gives me goose bumps and keeps me in edge.

 

[Ropebunny]

As someone that that manages a workplace, I really bloody hope that anyone considering this kind of play keeps the the hell to themselves, and also keeps it to break periods. That’s not your time your using, it’s your employers. Quick easy tasks like a pinch to skin on the underside of the arm every hour would be fine but I certainly don’t need Julie from accounts fucking around inserting a butt plug at her desk, with her colleagues looking on in horror when there’s three reports she should be working on...