Ever Been Ghosted?

[Disturbingimage]

a long time ago on a site far far away......

I posted an ad. it was one of those times where you just felt comfortable enough to be yourself and throw out a few pics. I was kind of swallow in it, talking about wanting an "above average woman". never thought I'd get a serious reply....then i did.
A woman that messaged me with a few pics was gorgeous. Like Damn! Super model type, not nude or sexual pic just wow! I was like no way your real, so when she asked to call i was like um ok...
Call came from a Restricted number so figured it was an escort or something. It was a very soft spoken woman how never once asked for any kind of money. She was very persistent on me letti g her buy stuff for me.
We talked for 5 hrs that day, 3 different time. She told me everything i ever wanted to hear. sexually and non sexually. she said she was gonna buy a house near me and we could live together. she said she got off on being with "less attractive" guys cause they were always in Aww of her looks and knew they would not do better. I was like whatever your fucking hot.
So we set up a date, one in which i had to promise to fuck her at her hotel after, which i did promise.
Date day show up and she's a no show. no reply from and email no call back. never again ever heard from her.
Just happened to remember her name was Angela, so was curious has anyone else ever had that happen.
Is that a prank college women pull? get a guy going then Ghost them?

 

[LadyJS]

I've been ghosted more than once, though not quite like you were. That was a little much I have to admit.

I've had guys on here that I thought where we were getting along well, and then they drop off the face of the earth. It upset me, but I've gotten over it and gave up trying to figure out their reasons. Perhaps they got scared, or maybe they had a wife when they said that they didn't. Or maybe they were just assholes who get off on fucking with the feelings of others.

Probably a reason why I've become such a cynic as I've gotten older.

 

[Midwest50Guy]

a lot of girls here have ghosting down to an art form. and it is so accepted for reasons I will never understand. I don't get it but will never accept it. hard to respect anybody who takes the easy way out and just disappear when times get tough or bored or whatever.

 

[pumperguy191]

yep, more than once unfortunately

 

[KimGordon67]

Yep ... met a guy on a dating site, had a bit of pretty good phone sex, finally got it together to meet for a coffee to see how we felt about each other in person, really good date, massively hot snog when he walked me back to my car, a couple of messages afterwards to say he really wanted to get me into bed next time ... and then poof. Disappeared, didn't answer any messages at all ... obviously still on the dating site we met on, but just totally non-responsive.
Super annoying ... I would have been fine with 'actually, I'm just not that into you' or 'the whole situation is too complicated' (because it was a bit complicated), but just disappearing means you spend a while thinking they're just busy or something.

It's happened online a few times too, but I sort of expect it in that context more.

 

[Chris_Michael]

First of all, there's one rule to follow when it comes to hot women on the internet.

If it sounds too good to be true.... it definitely is.

Secondly, here you go.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W8P5ewPk9fM

 

[pumperguy191]

First of all, there's one rule to follow when it comes to hot women on the internet.

If it sounds too good to be true.... it definitely is.

Secondly, here you go.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W8P5ewPk9fM

ain't that the truth, geesh

 

[SassySheDevil]

First of all, there's one rule to follow when it comes to hot women on the internet.

If it sounds too good to be true.... it definitely is.

Secondly, here you go.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W8P5ewPk9fM

Yes. That's you.

 

[Chris_Michael]

Yes. That's you.

NO Thiiiiiiiiiiiiis is me.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pf9W6yB9MJE

lol

 

[SassySheDevil]

NO Thiiiiiiiiiiiiis is me.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pf9W6yB9MJE

lol

also true.

 

[Nightfall72]

I have been ghosted twice, before this site, and 3 times while on this site. Now not to the extent you described but its like come on. You could at least say 'I changed my mind'.

 

[KarenB59]

Guys do it. Girls do it. Sucks either way.

 

[Midwest50Guy]

Guys do it. Girls do it. Sucks either way.

yup. I was ghosted after a date with a girl here in real life.

She spent the night so it was a great date.

I just don't get it. .

 

[MaBelle3120]

Thats not even a prank, thats just messed up.

When people do that, its probably for one of two reasons.....
one, it really is too good to be true, and they're catfishing you so they can't show up without exposing themselves as fake, or...

two, they just wanted the ego boost and attention and once they've gotten their fix, they are done with you and moving on to the next victim

 

[Pocketshaver]

its part of the whole liberal educational system and its "instant gratification" of no winners or losers and participation trophies.

most ghosters ive enocurntered were actually rather unappealing in the way that, if you hung a steak on their neck, the family dog would continue a 3 day starvation period.

 

[Nightfall72]

its part of the whole liberal educational system and its "instant gratification" of no winners or losers and participation trophies.

most ghosters ive enocurntered were actually rather unappealing in the way that, if you hung a steak on their neck, the family dog would continue a 3 day starvation period.

You mean either physically or mentally I presume?

 

[GoldRogue]

I was ghosted once in the middle of a role play and thought wtf! But that experience pales besides the ones above. I am glad that the poster has gotten it off his chest and knows that its not an isolated experience. Unfortunately hiding behind a keyboard is a plague on modern society and not just sites like this one.

 

[jaF0]

so was curious has anyone else ever had that happen.
Is that a prank college women pull? get a guy going then Ghost them?

A. It was a guy using pictures grabbed from somewhere.
B. She was there then ran and puked having seen a disturbing image.
C. She died.

 

[jaF0]

I have been ghosted twice, before this site, and 3 times while on this site.

Maybe they were intentionally punishing you for stretching the board with your insanely long signature section.

 

[Lone_Wanderer]

Thats not even a prank, thats just messed up.

When people do that, its probably for one of two reasons.....
one, it really is too good to be true, and they're catfishing you so they can't show up without exposing themselves as fake, or...

two, they just wanted the ego boost and attention and once they've gotten their fix, they are done with you and moving on to the next victim

As someone who has been recently ghosted, both are equally plausible scenarios.

In my case, I think it might have been #2, because we had developed a relationship, finally got to a moment of intimacy (phone sex), then she disappeared. I don't even know where she is anymore.

It tore me up, but then I heard a line in the Lit chat rooms, "Don't take Lit too seriously." Unfortunate, but sadly true. Changed my outlook.

 

[Tigra1984]

Unfortunately ghosting is a common thing in today’s society and it should not be acceptable. I am sure men do it just as often as women and for just as many reasons. No matter the reason it is hurtful and disrespectful. Have the common decency to at least tell the person this isn’t going to work out. This is just a reflection upon society and the lack of empathy we have for our fellow man. While being anyoumous online allows us the freedom to show sides of ourselves we would usually hide it also prevents us from seeing how much you hurt the other person because, you don’t have to face them and feel guilty for what you have done. Online is a double edged sword of freedom which is both good and bad. I am sorry that happened to everyone; it was a painful learning experience.

 

[HampshireBoy]

I think that there are rare occasions where there is a genuine reason, but it is not a nice thing to have happen.

I once met someone through a dating site, we seemed to click and spoke on the phone several times. We then arranged to meet, she gave me her address saying meet her there and we could go for a walk and a drink in her local park. All seemed very genuine, until I arrived and found out there was no number 32 in that road (which was the address she gave me). She never answered the phone again, I can only assume she was sat nearby either laughing or deciding she didn't like the look of me.

On the other hand, I was once in long roleplay with a lady (plus exchanging fantasies) when she just suddenly stopped responding. After a few messages I gave up then about 4 months later for some reason I sent her a "hope you are ok message" and got a response. Her mum was very ill and she was focused on that.

 

[Chris_Michael]

its part of the whole liberal educational system and its "instant gratification" of no winners or losers and participation trophies.

most ghosters ive enocurntered were actually rather unappealing in the way that, if you hung a steak on their neck, the family dog would continue a 3 day starvation period.

Maybe those people ghosted you because you make something political in your very first sentence to them...

(Edit: Unless you were using the other definition of the word “liberal,” which I highly doubt you were.)

 

[RubyThursday]

I've been ghosted more than once, though not quite like you were. That was a little much I have to admit.

I've had guys on here that I thought where we were getting along well, and then they drop off the face of the earth. It upset me, but I've gotten over it and gave up trying to figure out their reasons. Perhaps they got scared, or maybe they had a wife when they said that they didn't. Or maybe they were just assholes who get off on fucking with the feelings of others.

Probably a reason why I've become such a cynic as I've gotten older.

I could have written this word for word. Won't get fooled again.

 

[Replicant2018]

Ghosted

I could have written this word for word. Won't get fooled again.

Agree with every word also. Been ghosted on Lit also.