Bisexual and Married Woman

[eroticaries]

Hi All! I’m new to this group and I’ve been reading stories and chats for quite some time. Feeling a little lonely in my particular situation and wondering if anyone can relate.

I’m married to a man I love very much. We waited until we were married to have sex, so while I’ve always had bi-curious interests, I never gave myself the chance to explore that. We’ve been married for about a decade. I came out to my husband about two years ago, and he was very supportive. I was able to have sex with another woman while he was present. That arrangement confirmed that I’m definitely bisexual...leaning more toward a stronger interest in women. I’m attracted to my husband and a few select men, but I really love women. I’ve been in therapy to be more open with myself about my sexuality and how that affects our marriage.

The situation with the first woman I was with didn’t work out. I miss her a lot. I’m struggling because I miss being with a woman. Sometimes the yearning makes me so incredibly sad (and aroused lol). It leads to frustration. And I feel guilty because I feel like I’m telling my husband that he’s not enough for me, but men and women feel very different. I enjoy both. I feel a bit selfish and so I don’t talk about it with anyone but my therapist very often. I really wish I had the chance to be with women on my own when I was younger, but that’s a moot point now.

He’s open to be being with a couple of my friends on my own because of the trust we have there, but they’re not that comfortable with the idea (one is single, another is married, both bisexual). The attraction is mutual but they think we’re too close/ sex would make things awkward. Feeling a little rejected...I’m not very experienced and they are, and I sense that that’s part of the issue for them. They both have extensive sexual histories, and mine consists of my husband and my first experiences with another woman.

I think my fear is that I’ll never be with a woman again; that thought makes me sad. Should I be sad about that? Isn’t that selfish given I have a supportive and loving husband? Not sure what else to say; I feel like I’m rambling now. Just feeling alone in my particular situation and was wondering if anyone could relate. I appreciate you listening.

 

[Iris_66]

Thank you for sharing such an honest post, it is never easy to open up and talk about these things x

A lot of your situation mirrors part of mine, so you aren't 'the only one'

My wife told me about 18 months ago that she was attracted to women, and always had been but had never taken it any further

It was at the time that I told her that while I am 100% hetero, I love wearing women's underwear. This is not my thread, not the time for my story, but it gives a little context here

Over the last 18 months, my wife has moved from 'I fancy trying sex with a woman once' to being more and more woman focussed in her sexual desires. It has reached the point where she rarely touches my cock, we never have penetrative sex, she tells me when she fancies women when we are out and she is planning sex with a woman

That said, we still have plenty bedtime fun, it's just she likes to pretend I am a girl, I get to dress up and make us both come

Why bother you with all this? Just to say that it seems your husband is with you on this journey and is supporting you in your next steps. You have friends who share your likes and who you are talking to. With all that support, you WILL find another lady, either for a relationship, or just for some hot sex. As your confidence grows, it will become easier. So please don't be down, get out there (even with your husband) and have fun

Hi All! I’m new to this group and I’ve been reading stories and chats for quite some time. Feeling a little lonely in my particular situation and wondering if anyone can relate.

I’m married to a man I love very much. We waited until we were married to have sex, so while I’ve always had bi-curious interests, I never gave myself the chance to explore that. We’ve been married for about a decade. I came out to my husband about two years ago, and he was very supportive. I was able to have sex with another woman while he was present. That arrangement confirmed that I’m definitely bisexual...leaning more toward a stronger interest in women. I’m attracted to my husband and a few select men, but I really love women. I’ve been in therapy to be more open with myself about my sexuality and how that affects our marriage.

The situation with the first woman I was with didn’t work out. I miss her a lot. I’m struggling because I miss being with a woman. Sometimes the yearning makes me so incredibly sad (and aroused lol). It leads to frustration. And I feel guilty because I feel like I’m telling my husband that he’s not enough for me, but men and women feel very different. I enjoy both. I feel a bit selfish and so I don’t talk about it with anyone but my therapist very often. I really wish I had the chance to be with women on my own when I was younger, but that’s a moot point now.

He’s open to be being with a couple of my friends on my own because of the trust we have there, but they’re not that comfortable with the idea (one is single, another is married, both bisexual). The attraction is mutual but they think we’re too close/ sex would make things awkward. Feeling a little rejected...I’m not very experienced and they are, and I sense that that’s part of the issue for them. They both have extensive sexual histories, and mine consists of my husband and my first experiences with another woman.

I think my fear is that I’ll never be with a woman again; that thought makes me sad. Should I be sad about that? Isn’t that selfish given I have a supportive and loving husband? Not sure what else to say; I feel like I’m rambling now. Just feeling alone in my particular situation and was wondering if anyone could relate. I appreciate you listening.

 

[eroticaries]

Thank you for sharing such an honest post, it is never easy to open up and talk about these things x

A lot of your situation mirrors part of mine, so you aren't 'the only one'

My wife told me about 18 months ago that she was attracted to women, and always had been but had never taken it any further

It was at the time that I told her that while I am 100% hetero, I love wearing women's underwear. This is not my thread, not the time for my story, but it gives a little context here

Over the last 18 months, my wife has moved from 'I fancy trying sex with a woman once' to being more and more woman focussed in her sexual desires. It has reached the point where she rarely touches my cock, we never have penetrative sex, she tells me when she fancies women when we are out and she is planning sex with a woman

That said, we still have plenty bedtime fun, it's just she likes to pretend I am a girl, I get to dress up and make us both come

Why bother you with all this? Just to say that it seems your husband is with you on this journey and is supporting you in your next steps. You have friends who share your likes and who you are talking to. With all that support, you WILL find another lady, either for a relationship, or just for some hot sex. As your confidence grows, it will become easier. So please don't be down, get out there (even with your husband) and have fun

I love how open and supportive you two are of each other. You’re right; my husband is super-supportive and I know how fortunate I am. I guess I’m not sure how to find someone I’m attracted to and trust. Might try a few different ways and see what happens, being open.

 

[Iris_66]

Our kids are away on a school trip, so we are planning a night out to a lesbian bar in the next city and an overnight hotel

I'm sure a few of the ladies on the forums will have other ideas - that thread would be useful for my wife too

I love how open and supportive you two are of each other. You’re right; my husband is super-supportive and I know how fortunate I am. I guess I’m not sure how to find someone I’m attracted to and trust. Might try a few different ways and see what happens, being open.

 

[JuiceyFruit]

Hi All! I’m new to this group and I’ve been reading stories and chats for quite some time. Feeling a little lonely in my particular situation and wondering if anyone can relate.

I’m married to a man I love very much. We waited until we were married to have sex, so while I’ve always had bi-curious interests, I never gave myself the chance to explore that. We’ve been married for about a decade. I came out to my husband about two years ago, and he was very supportive. I was able to have sex with another woman while he was present. That arrangement confirmed that I’m definitely bisexual...leaning more toward a stronger interest in women. I’m attracted to my husband and a few select men, but I really love women. I’ve been in therapy to be more open with myself about my sexuality and how that affects our marriage.

The situation with the first woman I was with didn’t work out. I miss her a lot. I’m struggling because I miss being with a woman. Sometimes the yearning makes me so incredibly sad (and aroused lol). It leads to frustration. And I feel guilty because I feel like I’m telling my husband that he’s not enough for me, but men and women feel very different. I enjoy both. I feel a bit selfish and so I don’t talk about it with anyone but my therapist very often. I really wish I had the chance to be with women on my own when I was younger, but that’s a moot point now.

He’s open to be being with a couple of my friends on my own because of the trust we have there, but they’re not that comfortable with the idea (one is single, another is married, both bisexual). The attraction is mutual but they think we’re too close/ sex would make things awkward. Feeling a little rejected...I’m not very experienced and they are, and I sense that that’s part of the issue for them. They both have extensive sexual histories, and mine consists of my husband and my first experiences with another woman.

I think my fear is that I’ll never be with a woman again; that thought makes me sad. Should I be sad about that? Isn’t that selfish given I have a supportive and loving husband? Not sure what else to say; I feel like I’m rambling now. Just feeling alone in my particular situation and was wondering if anyone could relate. I appreciate you listening.

I’m married but really have a thing for women. Sex with him is ok but with women...wow. I’ve tried to get him into a threesome but no luck, I’d probably just ignore him tbh.
I do go to strip clubs durning the day when not many men are there. I’ve checked out lesbian clubs but it wasn’t my thing.

I think a lot of women want a close relationship with others but it’s hard.

 

[angela78fla]

I’m bisexual and WAS married and he knew I was bi from the beginning. We had an open relationship based on honesty which was great until he wasn’t honest for the 2nd time. So my advice it just to be honest with each other and you should have many happy years together

 

[Iris_66]

I completely agree that scary and difficult as those conversations can appear, they are the bedrock of making these types of relationships work

Often times concealment and dishonesty come from fear and fear of rejection

Good communication and trust are the antidote to these

I’m bisexual and WAS married and he knew I was bi from the beginning. We had an open relationship based on honesty which was great until he wasn’t honest for the 2nd time. So my advice it just to be honest with each other and you should have many happy years together