Paul_Chance
The Watcher
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What to do if you're suddenly single at 40....
First, take a deep breath, send the kid to school, and pound screwdrivers until they get home. Then convince them frozen pizza is ambrosia and they should eat it for every meal, and yes, yes then can have to remote and watch whatever they want. (Okay, I might have questionable parenting skills, but I accept that about myself.)
I'm 58 and let me just say this - the dating market is hotter, if anything, then it was when I was younger. Why? By the time most people get to their forties they're figured out what they want in life and relationships and have no qualms about getting it. That means, that if you're only interested in something casual, or something one-night-stand, the percentage of folks in your age range who are going to say yes - bone you - and then get on with their lives, maybe with you on speed dial for a booty call, it much higher than it was when you were young.
The great thing about being this age is the levels of BS you have to try and cut through to have a good time is next to nil. (Oh, there are still the disgruntled romantics out there, but most of them have become cynical realists, which is a good thing.
You'll find that variations on the "let's fuck" line have a better than average chance of success and the age range they'll work on is larger. You may not have had any "game" when you were younger - but the rules of the game change with age - and you'll find you've got excellent game by just being straight up and straight forward.
I tell my friends that people decide whether or not they want to fuck you in the first couple minutes of meeting you. All you have to do is get out of your own way. (Hahaha - and that is damn tough for a lot of people to do.)
First, take a deep breath, send the kid to school, and pound screwdrivers until they get home. Then convince them frozen pizza is ambrosia and they should eat it for every meal, and yes, yes then can have to remote and watch whatever they want. (Okay, I might have questionable parenting skills, but I accept that about myself.)
I'm 58 and let me just say this - the dating market is hotter, if anything, then it was when I was younger. Why? By the time most people get to their forties they're figured out what they want in life and relationships and have no qualms about getting it. That means, that if you're only interested in something casual, or something one-night-stand, the percentage of folks in your age range who are going to say yes - bone you - and then get on with their lives, maybe with you on speed dial for a booty call, it much higher than it was when you were young.
The great thing about being this age is the levels of BS you have to try and cut through to have a good time is next to nil. (Oh, there are still the disgruntled romantics out there, but most of them have become cynical realists, which is a good thing.
You'll find that variations on the "let's fuck" line have a better than average chance of success and the age range they'll work on is larger. You may not have had any "game" when you were younger - but the rules of the game change with age - and you'll find you've got excellent game by just being straight up and straight forward.
I tell my friends that people decide whether or not they want to fuck you in the first couple minutes of meeting you. All you have to do is get out of your own way. (Hahaha - and that is damn tough for a lot of people to do.)