Crying during and after an orgasm..

[Scareltt]

Anyone want to help me unpack this one?

Last night, my husband and I were playing together and with my Womanizer on my clit and my husband fingering me I came. Right before my orgasm washed over me I was overwhelmed by the sudden urge to cry and I did. I cried long and had.

To my husbands credit he just held me until I fell asleep..

Has this happen to any other 40 something women?
Does it hit you often?
Or do I need to be taking a deeper look inside myself, and my lifestyle choices...

 

[DeluxAuto]

Not sure I can help. The women usually cry after ~I~ orgasm. *shrugs*

 

[Maeven_quinn]

Not sure I can help. The women usually cry after ~I~ orgasm. *shrugs*

ba-dum, ching!

 

[Scareltt]

Humor works..

Not sure I can help. The women usually cry after ~I~ orgasm. *shrugs*

The cure for just about anything..

 

[TheOlderGuy]

Anyone want to help me unpack this one?

Last night, my husband and I were playing together and with my Womanizer on my clit and my husband fingering me I came. Right before my orgasm washed over me I was overwhelmed by the sudden urge to cry and I did. I cried long and had.

To my husbands credit he just held me until I fell asleep..

Has this happen to any other 40 something women?
Does it hit you often?
Or do I need to be taking a deeper look inside myself, and my lifestyle choices...

Sounds like you ARE taking a deeper look. Embrace what you see.

This happened with my wife when we were first together, in her early forties. We had sex constantly, and sometimes when she was riding me, tears would fall on my face. Startling sometimes. She assured me silently that they were good tears, and they never got in the way of our pleasure. Maybe even added a flavor or two. Express yourself in all the ways that having sex with someone offers.

And be thankful your man seems to get it. The changes get much edgier.

 

[TheOlderGuy]

Oh, and, in full disclosure, during one of those teary sessions we made a baby who's about to turn eighteen . . .

 

[pantalaimonlyra]

I'm not 40 something, but I'll often cry or laugh during/ after an orgasm. Whelming up of emotions, and, depending on how I'm fucked, an overwhelming sensitivity. But I just really, really enjoy it too. I need that release as much as the physical.

 

[EmpressJosephine]

Anyone want to help me unpack this one?

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Has this happen to any other 40 something women?
Does it hit you often?
Or do I need to be taking a deeper look inside myself, and my lifestyle choices...

Orgasms leave me with heightened emotions, but usually it's a giddy joy. While these emotions can become quite overwhelming, I don't think I've ever actually cried.

I have known women who often do cry after orgasm, though. They explain that, like me, their emotions overwhelm them. So, their tears have nothing to do with sadness, just emotional release.

As for the "40 something" aspect, I have seen this reaction in 20 something lovers as well as middle-aged ones.

Now I'm curious: How do you think this relates to your "lifestyle choices"?

 

[coati]

Interesting. Orgasm can affect people so deeply. Here is something that happened in one of my relationships that may not even be related, but it points out how complicated orgasm can be

I went with a woman for several years who had never experienced an orgasm. She inferred it was related to being sexually abused as a child. She was a very sexual person and we were deeply in love, but when orgasm seemed to be approaching, she clenched up and could go no further.

She once emphatically told me, "If I ever do orgasm, you don't want to be around for that!" She would say no more about the topic, and was very guarded about the abuse she had suffered as a child.

We split up for other reasons, but I always remained in love with her. I guess it might demonstrate that lack of orgasm is not a barrier to love.

Anyway, I tend to cry at the happy parts of movies, or when long-sought justice is finally achieved. Perhaps your crying experience falls into that category?

 

[nowisthetime]

Maybe I'm just weird, I usually get pleasure seeing HIM have an orgasm. I think I'm more of a pleaser. I'm fine with not having an orgasm.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

Only you can say for sure if it means anything more, but I'm with the simply orgasmic reaction squad here.

I've cried a few times during some O's. Not real waterworks or anything, just some beading up around the edges after the fact because that first to last blast after cresting the summit was like

https://i0.wp.com/media2.giphy.com/media/xT9DPz0PhxgyrzLg7S/giphy.gif

and I gotta let that glow settle in.

 

[shelly2inme]

It happens...

I have had that happen to me three times in my life.

First time. I was 20 years old. On my second date with the guy that is now my husband. I knew he was my soulmate from our first date. No sex on the first date but on the second date I let him fuck me with no condom. I felt so bonded to him afterward and I felt like I had found the other half of myself. I came really hard several times but it was not the orgasms that made me cry. It was the feeling of oneness with him that I felt. I did not know it at the time but I got PG from that first time with him. We got married shortly after.


Second time. 16 years later. After we decided to explore the 'shared wife' concept and I fucked a guy that I work with. The sex was great but again, it was not the orgasms that caused me to cry. The guy thought I was crying because I felt guilty but that was not it and I explained that my husband knew I was going to fuck him. The crying was caused from an overwhelming feeling of excitement because I knew that my husband and I had just entered a really amazing new aspect to our sex life.

Third time was the following weekend. My husband and the guy from work gave me my first double penetration. It had been a fantasy of mine for a long time. Anal and vaginal at the same. When it was over I cried. This time is was because of the orgasms. Totally off the chart and I was not expecting it to feel so amazing. I knew I was addicted to being DP and the excitement was too much for my emotions.

I know this is hard for guys to understand but female emotions can be very intense and sex is very intense. So, it happens.

 

[AngusBridie]

I've never made a woman cry before, thats probably says alot ...

 

[Notcastor]

Anyone want to help me unpack this one?

Last night, my husband and I were playing together and with my Womanizer on my clit and my husband fingering me I came. Right before my orgasm washed over me I was overwhelmed by the sudden urge to cry and I did. I cried long and had.

To my husbands credit he just held me until I fell asleep..

Has this happen to any other 40 something women?
Does it hit you often?
Or do I need to be taking a deeper look inside myself, and my lifestyle choices...

You're married to Luk?

 

[KimGordon67]

Anyone want to help me unpack this one?

Last night, my husband and I were playing together and with my Womanizer on my clit and my husband fingering me I came. Right before my orgasm washed over me I was overwhelmed by the sudden urge to cry and I did. I cried long and had.

To my husbands credit he just held me until I fell asleep..

Has this happen to any other 40 something women?
Does it hit you often?
Or do I need to be taking a deeper look inside myself, and my lifestyle choices...

I think this is entirely 'normal' (whatever that means) - I've had it happen at various points in my life, usually with people I've had a particularly strong emotional connection with, but once or twice when I was just in an emotionally fragile state. (I sometimes use sex as a comfort when I'm feeling emotionally fragile - unhealthy? Probably. Oh well.)

It's happened a lot in my current relationship because we have quite a strong power/control dynamic, and that's clearly bringing up a lot of 'stuff', and it's also just quite emotionally intense in and of itself.

Personally, I think it's a good thing - it's usually an indicator that you're fairly invested and involved in the sex and/or the person you're having the sex with, and I like that. But then, I have emotional reactions to a lot of things, and cry fairly readily.

 

[Scareltt]

Wow... such an outpouring..

Thank you all for the, wonderful advice, kind messages, and some humor.

It’s helpful, and I appreciate it.

 

[Saint Peter]

I always cry at weddings.

 

[pointless]

try orgasmic migraines if you don't like crying. actually, don't because i know i've cried from migraines before. so maybe try them if you're big fan of screaming in agony instead of feeling that nice, warm rush of endorphins overtaking your brain.

 

[FGB]

I have had the FWB do that several times as well as a number of other rather emotional women.

freaked me out the first time I encountered.

Strong emotions escape at the most unexpected times.

 

[twister947]

try orgasmic migraines if you don't like crying. actually, don't because i know i've cried from migraines before. so maybe try them if you're big fan of screaming in agony instead of feeling that nice, warm rush of endorphins overtaking your brain.

I had that once. Also one episode of transient global amnesia. No fun, at all. Strange things happen.

I should add, I'm a male.

 

[Ann_Tagonist]

Could be just the emotional outlay of witnessing a man actually finishing a job he started.

 

[Januari]

try orgasmic migraines if you don't like crying. actually, don't because i know i've cried from migraines before. so maybe try them if you're big fan of screaming in agony instead of feeling that nice, warm rush of endorphins overtaking your brain.

I've cried from migraines and I've gotten a migraine from crying. Never a migraine from sex. That would be awful.

No help on the crying and orgasm thing, sorry. I tend to just get sleepy.

 

[Scareltt]

Thanks for the laughs...

I've cried from migraines and I've gotten a migraine from crying. Never a migraine from sex. That would be awful.

No help on the crying and orgasm thing, sorry. I tend to just get sleepy.

Like I said.. sometimes it’s humor

 

[Nicegirl111]

Anyone want to help me unpack this one?

Last night, my husband and I were playing together and with my Womanizer on my clit and my husband fingering me I came. Right before my orgasm washed over me I was overwhelmed by the sudden urge to cry and I did. I cried long and had.

To my husbands credit he just held me until I fell asleep..

Has this happen to any other 40 something women?
Does it hit you often?
Or do I need to be taking a deeper look inside myself, and my lifestyle choices...

Maybe just happy and content AND a really good Orgasm,,,,, are bodies are different as we age.....and I can say that as I am 53 years old...... relax and enjoy and hats off to the hubby!!!!

 

[Rollinbones]

Just last week i had the most intense solo orgasm of my whole fifty years. Tears were streaming down my face as i came.

That was most likely due to the pepper spray.
I'm not wanking in the frozen food aisle ever again.