Thinking of others

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Anyone else think of someone else when having sex with their partner?

I don't do it often but sometimes i do and it gives me super intense orgasms
 
when u r in a lustless marriage or relationship
thinking of others
is all that keeps sex going
or did
for me
 
Have a great sex life with my wife just sometimes a thought of another turns me on, I'd never actually stray.
 
I do all the time, especially when I decide I've had enough pumping away and I want to cum fairly quickly, just bring to mind some exciting event from my past.
 
So honestly: I don't think I ever have. Maybe very occasionally...

But when I'm masturbating, I rarely think of my wife and usually think of others.
 
For many years I've frequently imagined I was another man as I'm having sex with my wifey. And I know damn well she thinks of other men too! But I love that!!
 
Often think of an old girlfriend. My wife and the GF are built rather similarly so I can close my eyes and imagine I am fucking the GF
 
Frankly, I think it's only natural. In fact, I envy couples that can openly bring the concept of sex others into their roleplay to heighten the erotic energy. If they are really committed and don't want to share for real, perhaps some good role play involving another couple they actually know or a scene where they hook up with another couple on a cruise ship or similar fantasy could add some spice. I'd like this and suggested it to my wife, but she gets upset even bringing it up.
 
Frankly, I think it's only natural. In fact, I envy couples that can openly bring the concept of sex others into their roleplay to heighten the erotic energy. If they are really committed and don't want to share for real, perhaps some good role play involving another couple they actually know or a scene where they hook up with another couple on a cruise ship or similar fantasy could add some spice. I'd like this and suggested it to my wife, but she gets upset even bringing it up.

I like my wife to tell me about other guys she has fucked while we fuck. Sometimes she has told me that after she has "confessed" in that way she closes her eyes and imagines that I am the other lover
 
On occasion my wife has told me about men in her past and I love hearing about it. On the other hand, she hates hearing about or even mentioning women I've bee with so I keep my mouth shut. She's by no means a prude and is into some fairly kinky stuff, but she is very insecure about thinking of me attracted to or thinking about other women. It seems that men can find erotic pleasure in the thought or sight of their wives having sex with other men (assuming that they don't want to run off with the other guy) but women are afraid that any involvement with their man and another woman could well having him more attracted to her. That concept might even make an interesting discussion thread.
 
On occasion my wife has told me about men in her past and I love hearing about it. On the other hand, she hates hearing about or even mentioning women I've bee with so I keep my mouth shut. She's by no means a prude and is into some fairly kinky stuff, but she is very insecure about thinking of me attracted to or thinking about other women. It seems that men can find erotic pleasure in the thought or sight of their wives having sex with other men (assuming that they don't want to run off with the other guy) but women are afraid that any involvement with their man and another woman could well having him more attracted to her. That concept might even make an interesting discussion thread.

I think this is true to some extent. I have certainly had relationships where she wanted other lovers but didn't like me having them. This isn't for me, but everyone is different. A possible compromise is that the woman finds lovers for her man, which I have seen work
 
So honestly: I don't think I ever have. Maybe very occasionally...

But when I'm masturbating, I rarely think of my wife and usually think of others.

This is me. I never think of anyone else when my wife and I are making love.
I almost never think of my wife when I masturbate.
 
Having a friend with benefits is, for me, a perfect time for closing my eyes and imagining someone else. Recently, a fwb suddenly pinned my wrists above my head and flat against the mattress while I was thinking about being in a non-consensual encounter. Oh my...that made it deliciously real.
 
I like being "used", nameless and faceless...if her mind is with someone else, that's just perfect.
 
On occasion my wife has told me about men in her past and I love hearing about it. On the other hand, she hates hearing about or even mentioning women I've bee with so I keep my mouth shut. She's by no means a prude and is into some fairly kinky stuff, but she is very insecure about thinking of me attracted to or thinking about other women. It seems that men can find erotic pleasure in the thought or sight of their wives having sex with other men (assuming that they don't want to run off with the other guy) but women are afraid that any involvement with their man and another woman could well having him more attracted to her. That concept might even make an interesting discussion thread.

This is my wife to a T. My wife would ballistic if I had sex with another woman. Even though we're a hotwife couple.
 
Oh yeah often

About my girl with other

Or about my friend with their girls or other combinaison :) i have great imagination when come to fantasyland
 
Definitely ...

My wife and I often talk about who we want to fuck (or who we want to see the other person fucking) when we have sex. It's hot!
 
Never.

My husband likes me to talk about other guys, and even though I do that often, I do it because I am focused on providing my husband with what turns him on. And besides, every lover is so different, I don't think I could think about someone else if I tried.

On the other hand, when the sex is not-so-good, I have found myself thinking about the next things I need to get done in my job.
 
Yes I do,and more than once. However,I often wonder if any woman has thought of me during sex.
 
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