Am I Cuck?

[I_am_done]

If I am thinking about my girl getting fucked by other men,is it a symptoms of me becoming cuck? Although I get excited as much as I think about it. Is there anyone else how I am feeling? And anyone interested to make it happen virtually if not physically?

 

[Justfantasies]

If I am thinking about my girl getting fucked by other men,is it a symptoms of me becoming cuck? Although I get excited as much as I think about it. Is there anyone else how I am feeling? And anyone interested to make it happen virtually if not physically?

All depends what you mean by cuck. I have felt that way about almost all my girlfriends and wives since my earliest dating days. And mostly I have gotten what I want. If you would like to chat more about this or if you would like me to chat to "your girl" PM me.

 

[Nezhul]

It all depends on whether or not you would be OK with experiencing it in reality. Think about it - if your girl approached you today about sleeping with another man - would you enjoy it? Would you be excited or terrified and upset?

Thing is, fantasy and reality sometimes tread different roads. I have A LOT of fantasies that turn me on immensely in my head, but I would never want to actually experiencing them. For example, it turns me on to think of being locked into chastity by a beautiful mistress and then teased relentlessly every day. It's hot, in my head. But I would never ever really want to experience that IRL. The most I'm ever willing to commit to is a couple of days chaste on a one-time rare-ever-happens basis. Not to mention, I'm actually dominant, and I'd be giving up a hell of a ton of my different fantasies if I really got to leave that one.

Concerning cuckolds there's also a matter of HER desires. I don't really have a reference point in my own fantasies, but even if something turned me on, but I knew it would not turn HER on - then I wouldn't want it in reality. Even if thoughts and fantasies turn me on.

So yeah, simply fantasizing doesn't really mean you're into certain fetish. It's when you start thinking about actually asking your SO to participate, thinking of best ways to put it, etc. - that's when you can say you are truly into that fetish.

 

[DiscoveringUtopia]

If I am thinking about my girl getting fucked by other men,is it a symptoms of me becoming cuck? Although I get excited as much as I think about it. Is there anyone else how I am feeling? And anyone interested to make it happen virtually if not physically?

My wife and I recently took the leap from fantasy to reality. It was an amazing high for me to be there, feel and see it happen. But it was an interesting journey for us between the two. If you or your lady would like to chat about it, PM either of us.

 

[Snowbunnie12]

Try it you both just may like it!

 

[jkillfeather]

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[PapaRomantic]

Try it you both just may like it!

On the other side, you may find that you hate it, and you can't unfuck somebody.

Please be more careful than this if you decide to explore it.

 

[liqueur]

If I am thinking about my girl getting fucked by other men,is it a symptoms of me becoming cuck? Although I get excited as much as I think about it. Is there anyone else how I am feeling? And anyone interested to make it happen virtually if not physically?

My dictionary defines cuckold as "the husband of an unfaithful wife." The operative word here is "unfaithful." More on that in a minute, but first this: the truth is that since Chaucer's time forward, the idea of humiliation was implicit in being a cuckold. Also the notion that she did what she did openly and without concern for him. In Medieval times it was not uncommon for a cuckold to be publicly humiliated by his neighbors.

As a modern fetish, as often as not the husband is both willing and eager—but the "unwilling" aspect, as well as the humiliation, continues to be played out as a sort of fantasy.

Going back to that dictionary term "unfaithful"— if the husband is willing, then technically it's impossible for her to be unfaithful. The old term for this was "wittol." But in the modern fetish world, if neither the "unwilling" part, nor the humiliation, are being played out as a fantasy, then the situation is usually described as a "hot wife" scenario.

There's a lot of confusion between these terms and some people use them interchangeably, but as I see it (and looking at the origins of the terms) this is the difference. To those of us who love humiliation, it's an important difference.

 

[screwher]

If I am thinking about my girl getting fucked by other men,is it a symptoms of me becoming cuck? Although I get excited as much as I think about it. Is there anyone else how I am feeling? And anyone interested to make it happen virtually if not physically?

Thinking about it. Fantasizing about it. Masturbating with the visions in your head. Imagining you're another man when you're screwing your wife. These are all the first steps to developing a cuckold or hotwife relationship.

 

[screwher]

My dictionary defines cuckold as "the husband of an unfaithful wife." The operative word here is "unfaithful." More on that in a minute, but first this: the truth is that since Chaucer's time forward, the idea of humiliation was implicit in being a cuckold. Also the notion that she did what she did openly and without concern for him. In Medieval times it was not uncommon for a cuckold to be publicly humiliated by his neighbors.

As a modern fetish, as often as not the husband is both willing and eager—but the "unwilling" aspect, as well as the humiliation, continues to be played out as a sort of fantasy.

Going back to that dictionary term "unfaithful"— if the husband is willing, then technically it's impossible for her to be unfaithful. The old term for this was "wittol." But in the modern fetish world, if neither the "unwilling" part, nor the humiliation, are being played out as a fantasy, then the situation is usually described as a "hot wife" scenario.

There's a lot of confusion between these terms and some people use them interchangeably, but as I see it (and looking at the origins of the terms) this is the difference. To those of us who love humiliation, it's an important difference.

I agree these terms are interchangeable and I don't put much stock in them. I call myself a cuckold because my wife has sex with other men. But it's with my approval. There is no humiliation or degradation in our activities. There's NO way I could go for that. If I'm going to turn my wife over to another man (even for my pleasure as well) then I'm going to damn well be respected. But to ach their own.

I also refer to our marriage as a hotwife relationship. Some will (and have) argue that my wife isn't "hotwife" but having affairs with my approval. That's probably the closest to what we have but it's just easier to say "hotwife".

 

[I_am_done]

after reading all the comments and getting to know few details about cuckhold I still have a question and that is
If i am thinking about it and feeling about it and want to make it happen and would love it but she doesnt have a clue about it so does that make me cuck as in to become cuck one's wife has to do it first in front of him and then if one enjoys then he is turned cuck isn't?

 

[screwher]

after reading all the comments and getting to know few details about cuckhold I still have a question and that is
If i am thinking about it and feeling about it and want to make it happen and would love it but she doesnt have a clue about it so does that make me cuck as in to become cuck one's wife has to do it first in front of him and then if one enjoys then he is turned cuck isn't?

I feel that in order to attain the cuckold status, the wife actually has to have some sexual activity with another man. I would include blowjobs and pussy licking. It doesn't have to be in front of him either. Throughout our marriage, a total of four other men have screwed my wife numerous times. I have yet to be in the room when it happens.

 

[Nezhul]

I think that to become a cuck - your wife has to do that. Cuckold is a binary state to me, that distinguished between if something has happened or not. It's like a Virgin status. Can you lose your virginity before sleeping with another person? I don't think so, even if you masturbate every day or break hymen (in case of women).

That said, even if you aren't technically a Cuckold - you can say that you have a cuckold fetish, or a cuckold fantasy.

It's like... let's take chastity for example. Can you say that one is a keyholder if they only fantasize about keeping their partner chaste? No, I don't think so. But they have a chastity fetish, definitely.
Same with Cuckold, I think.

One last thought - does it really matter what labels you put onto yourself? In all honesty, one can have his wife sleeping with others and NOT consider himself a cuckold. There's such thing as open relationship. I once read a real-life story about a guy who chose to go to army for 4 years, and they agreed with his girlfriend that instead of calling this cheating - she can sleep with other people while they are apart, and so can he. They would keep their relationship long-distance and get back together afterwards, if both are still interested.
Can you say he's a cuck? No, not really. He simply understood and took care of his beloved, giving her freedom instead of making her boil in her sexual needs and frustration for 4 years.

In the end of the day, those labels really are meaningless. They are just words to describe yourself. What's important - is what activities you engage in, and how you feel about them.

Good luck!

 

[I_am_done]

I feel that in order to attain the cuckold status, the wife actually has to have some sexual activity with another man. I would include blowjobs and pussy licking. It doesn't have to be in front of him either. Throughout our marriage, a total of four other men have screwed my wife numerous times. I have yet to be in the room when it happens.

can it be like if she has done it before me like i know 2 men she has been with ? If not then how can i find out if she is going around because I got this feeling only after she told about her ex's and new guy in the office.

 

[I_am_done]

I think that to become a cuck - your wife has to do that. Cuckold is a binary state to me, that distinguished between if something has happened or not. It's like a Virgin status. Can you lose your virginity before sleeping with another person? I don't think so, even if you masturbate every day or break hymen (in case of women).

That said, even if you aren't technically a Cuckold - you can say that you have a cuckold fetish, or a cuckold fantasy.

It's like... let's take chastity for example. Can you say that one is a keyholder if they only fantasize about keeping their partner chaste? No, I don't think so. But they have a chastity fetish, definitely.
Same with Cuckold, I think.

One last thought - does it really matter what labels you put onto yourself? In all honesty, one can have his wife sleeping with others and NOT consider himself a cuckold. There's such thing as open relationship. I once read a real-life story about a guy who chose to go to army for 4 years, and they agreed with his girlfriend that instead of calling this cheating - she can sleep with other people while they are apart, and so can he. They would keep their relationship long-distance and get back together afterwards, if both are still interested.
Can you say he's a cuck? No, not really. He simply understood and took care of his beloved, giving her freedom instead of making her boil in her sexual needs and frustration for 4 years.

In the end of the day, those labels really are meaningless. They are just words to describe yourself. What's important - is what activities you engage in, and how you feel about them.

Good luck!

I agree with you that its just a word but i read somewhere that cucks are when you are not able to give sexual pleasure to your partner and they go and enjoy outside and they do it in front of you to make you feel what he can do you cant...but still wants to be in the relationship.

 

[tjernst]

Cuck

I shared my late wife many times and never considered myself a cuck. We did it to please each other. She always said half the fun for her was seeing how proud and excited I got seeing her in action. I loved seeing her enjoy her sexuality to the max.

 

[I_am_done]

I shared my late wife many times and never considered myself a cuck. We did it to please each other. She always said half the fun for her was seeing how proud and excited I got seeing her in action. I loved seeing her enjoy her sexuality to the max.

who introduced this among both of you?

 

[tjernst]

Who’s idea

It was my idea, telling her that if she liked one cock giving her pleasure she would burst having two.

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

If I'm going to turn my wife over to another man (even for my pleasure as well) then I'm going to damn well be respected. But to ach their own.

I totally agree. I got up, got dressed and we left the room when a lover disrespected my husband. Another time, we left a get to know each other meeting when he got all bravado and started talking shit. Even stuck him with the check!

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

I agree with you that its just a word but i read somewhere that cucks are when you are not able to give sexual pleasure to your partner and they go and enjoy outside and they do it in front of you to make you feel what he can do you cant...but still wants to be in the relationship.

That implies that the wife is then the humiliater. As Screwher said, to each their own but that's not what drives me to do this. As my hubby is holding me and can feel the thrusts into my body, I can close my eyes and my mind melds the two of them together. It is like the cock that has fucked me thousands of times is in me once again. My lover at that time ceases to exist.

 

[KDLeon]

I think the term cuckold is often meant to mean more than the clinical definition of the term. Certainly the wife is unfaithful and in so doing humiliates the husband. That humiliation often involves the husband being denied sexual access to the wife and is also forced to become sexually involved with the other male, prepping the man for his wife. Sorry of this comment repeats the point made by someone else. I didn't read all of the responses.

So if you desire to be a cuckold it would often include the desire to be forced to service the other male.

 

[ardeeo]

I Like your comments. your husband is a lucky guy

 

[cuckoldbill]

can it be like if she has done it before me like i know 2 men she has been with ? If not then how can i find out if she is going around because I got this feeling only after she told about her ex's and new guy in the office.

No , in my opinion a cuckold is someone who allows/encourages his wife, gf to have sex with other men. He is fully involved with her activities. He may be there to watch or she could be with him on her own. She has sex with other men and he is fully ok with it.
If the hubby isn't aware of what she's doing that's just cheating

 

[Cause66]

Do you also fantasise about other women?

In which case you could just end up a swinger.

As others have said, it's all down to context

 

[liqueur]

I agree these terms are interchangeable. . .

I hope you're not agreeing with me, because I'm arguing the opposite: I don't believe the terms should be used interchangeably, and I think it only leads to confusion when people do. Historically and practically, they mean different things.

Some will (and have) argue that my wife isn't "hotwife" but having affairs with my approval.

To me, this is the very definition of a "hotwife" relationship. Again, it sounds to me as if those people who are objecting are confusing "hotwife" and "cuckold."