Should I get Involved

[UK_Jill45]

I put on another thread saying I had confided in my sister about me and hubby swinging. Since then she has asked questions about it and asked for some details on what we have done. Speaking to her today she started talking about how she wished she could do the same.

She confessed to me that her and her husband had very little sex life. Then she dropped a bombshell on me asking if I knew somebody she could have a casual relationship with.
I was shocked that she wants a discreet affair with someone. I said I would think about it but I'm not sure I should encourage her in this, I wish I hadn't said anything to her.

If she is going to do this though I would feel better if it was with someone I know is trustworthy, not sure what to decide to do.

 

[jaF0]

Keep it in the family.

Swap husbands with her.

 

[SamMalone12]

I put on another thread saying I had confided in my sister about me and hubby swinging. Since then she has asked questions about it and asked for some details on what we have done. Speaking to her today she started talking about how she wished she could do the same.

She confessed to me that her and her husband had very little sex life. Then she dropped a bombshell on me asking if I knew somebody she could have a casual relationship with.
I was shocked that she wants a discreet affair with someone. I said I would think about it but I'm not sure I should encourage her in this, I wish I hadn't said anything to her.

If she is going to do this though I would feel better if it was with someone I know is trustworthy, not sure what to decide to do.

what do you think you should do?

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

first

My first inclination in such situations is to be helpful. That, to me, would suggest that you nominate someone if you know. Is it possible she is hinting, without saying, that she'd like a turn with your husband? Some wold be forthright an some would beat around the bush, so to speak.

 

[ChrissyCD64]

Keep it in the family.

Swap husbands with her.

I totally agree with this response. Keep it in the family for sure.

 

[SamMalone12]

I totally agree with this response. Keep it in the family for sure.

question is will her husband agree

 

[WhO2]

My first inclination in such situations is to be helpful. That, to me, would suggest that you nominate someone if you know. Is it possible she is hinting, without saying, that she'd like a turn with your husband? Some wold be forthright an some would beat around the bush, so to speak.

I read this earlier, wanted to comment, but then decided to mind my own business. Then I read it again and saw a reply that I totally agree with so decided to at least agree with nfrrdscnnr1. No one should have to go without sex but there are so many risks (health, marital, safety... ) with "looking for strange". If you and your husband have a strong enough relationship that swinging is part of your lives, maybe the 2 of them could experiment so she could safely get her physical needs met (and it might be fulfilling to you to see 2 people you love so much enjoying being together).

 

[tallladiesman]

question is will her husband agree

A threesome with two sisters?
Who is gonna turn that down

 

[ChrissyCD64]

question is will her husband agree

Who wouldn't? No one that I know and all my friends, male and female, are bi!

 

[tallladiesman]

Who wouldn't? No one that I know and all my friends, male and female, are bi!

You sound like you have a fun circle of friends

 

[Konflikt99]

Agree

Keep it in the family.

Swap husbands with her.

I agree here, I bet the fact that she knows you two swing has her fantasizing about fucking your husband. Would you be open to sharing him with her?

 

[UK_Jill45]

Just to clear some things up, her husband is not involved in this, I have no intention of having a 3some with my hubby and sister. As for hubby and her, he hasn't expressed any interest in getting involved with her. It's her desire to find sex somewhere else and I have come to conclusion that it would be probably safer to point her in the direction of someone that I know. Saying that though, if her husband finds out it could come back to haunt me big time.

 

[Ade_]

Perhaps take her along to one of your swinging sessions but without the pressure of her having to take part, but to simply see how it works and what goes on. This way if she's comfortable with it all, she may want to take things further in that moment or at a later time with another man there.

 

[UK_Jill45]

Perhaps take her along to one of your swinging sessions but without the pressure of her having to take part, but to simply see how it works and what goes on. This way if she's comfortable with it all, she may want to take things further in that moment or at a later time with another man there.

Kind of what I was thinking but I don't really want to be there with her.

 

[Ade_]

Kind of what I was thinking but I don't really want to be there with her.

I think for the very first time you may have to as she would be too nervous to go on her own. Perhaps make a rule, if anything were to happen it wouldn't be when you are together though in the same room for example.

 

[Konflikt99]

Just to clear some things up, her husband is not involved in this, I have no intention of having a 3some with my hubby and sister. As for hubby and her, he hasn't expressed any interest in getting involved with her. It's her desire to find sex somewhere else and I have come to conclusion that it would be probably safer to point her in the direction of someone that I know. Saying that though, if her husband finds out it could come back to haunt me big time.

So say he does express interest in her once he finds out about her desires. Would you be open to it?

 

[UK_Jill45]

So say he does express interest in her once he finds out about her desires. Would you be open to it?

My husband knows about what is going on but he hasn't said anything about it apart from saying be careful how I handle it.

 

[Konflikt99]

I wish

My husband knows about what is going on but he hasn't said anything about it apart from saying be careful how I handle it.

Well if I was your husband this would be turning me way on. My mind would be racing with possibilities

 

[twister947]

I wouldn't touch this. No way.

 

[scooter66]

Just to clear some things up, her husband is not involved in this, I have no intention of having a 3some with my hubby and sister. As for hubby and her, he hasn't expressed any interest in getting involved with her. It's her desire to find sex somewhere else and I have come to conclusion that it would be probably safer to point her in the direction of someone that I know. Saying that though, if her husband finds out it could come back to haunt me big time.

In my opinion I think your instincts here are spot on. If your sister wants to find sex outside her marriage she should do so on her own. No need for you to get involved in the deception.

 

[Nezhul]

I would talk to her about my concerns, but wouldn't press.
I would give her the information she wants, but would not get into her and her husband's relationship. Let THEM handle it. Sometimes free relationship is a legit solution to unsatisfying marriage.
Sometimes people even split up and divorce. But it's not your place to meddle.

If your sister is thinking about finding an affair - she will. With or without you. All you can do here is talk to her (without pushing), and also ensure that she has the best experience.

Again, I think that whom to sleep with is HER business. How to handle her marriage is her business also.

 

[dz2681]

A threesome with two sisters?
Who is gonna turn that down

I know I wouldn’t

 

[bobb_sledd]

My husband knows about what is going on but he hasn't said anything about it apart from saying be careful how I handle it.

Would you approve of your husband taking care of her needs? Not a threesome, just them.

 

[sinkingsoundly]

In 2003 I had a threesome with two sisters and at the time I had no clue. Didn’t find out until about a week later.

 

[Nezhul]

Despite what other people say, I would NOT recommend involving your sister and your husband. Such things should be kept separate. Problem here, is that in swinging with strangers you can always disengage from them and break all ties. But if you involve your sister in your sex lives - it's too easy to get entangled with no option of distancing, or to hurt each other's feelings, and you don't want that.

No. If she wants to threesome with you - politely decline. But you can recommend to her some of your friends.

Also, people here are saying "Who would refuse a threesome with two sisters?".
If it's a college girlfriend and we are fooling around - maybe I would agree.
If it's my wife - I would DEFINITELY refuse. Especially if I know she has problems in her own relationship.
There're so many things that could go wrong there, that it simply isn't worth it.
I mean, it could work in an erotic story. But not in real life.
Unless a unicorn flies over pooping rainbow everywhere - something WILL go wrong, and there will be tears and grudges to deal with.

Also if I'm simply not attracted to that sister - I would easily refuse as well. Realistically, I'm only attracted to about 40% of women before I talk to them, and even to a lesser percentage after. So chances that I will not be wanting to have sex with her sister are quite high.