Me ex wife her new husband and my current wife

[Samisstout]

I will give some back ground I met this woman when I was younger . We rushed in and had a baby and decided to get married. It didn’t work out . We divorced and and decided to coparent . We have a had a good relationship raisin my son . I met another woman and she met a man . We both got remarrried .

Well the trouble or my suspicions started about 6 months ago . My ex’s husband picks up my son sometimes when I’m not home. I noticed my wife at different school events or my sons sporting events talks to him more than before. I noticed he finds little ways to touch her. At first I thought I was in my own head but one day I came early from work and his car was there . I parked around the corner and went around back and through and open window I could hear them talking . He kept insisting they should have sex and she kept telling him she wanted to but couldn’t cheat on me . She told him they should both tell me what’s going on. He didn’t want to . Then she asked him to leave before I got home . I heard some kissing noises and a few minutes later a door open and shut .

I went back to my car when the cost was clear and parked. I went in and acted as if nothing had happened . I kissed my wife and decided I wanted to see how excited she was . I started kissing her more and grabbing her breasts. I reached her pants and her pussy was very wet . I jokingly asked what had her so horny . She just laughed .

My question is what should I do ? I’ve always wanted to share her with another man but this guy fucked my ex and now wants my new wife ?

 

[liqueur]

I will give some back ground I met this woman when I was younger . We rushed in and had a baby and decided to get married. It didn’t work out . We divorced and and decided to coparent . We have a had a good relationship raisin my son . I met another woman and she met a man . We both got remarrried .

Well the trouble or my suspicions started about 6 months ago . My ex’s husband picks up my son sometimes when I’m not home. I noticed my wife at different school events or my sons sporting events talks to him more than before. I noticed he finds little ways to touch her. At first I thought I was in my own head but one day I came early from work and his car was there . I parked around the corner and went around back and through and open window I could hear them talking . He kept insisting they should have sex and she kept telling him she wanted to but couldn’t cheat on me . She told him they should both tell me what’s going on. He didn’t want to . Then she asked him to leave before I got home . I heard some kissing noises and a few minutes later a door open and shut .

I went back to my car when the cost was clear and parked. I went in and acted as if nothing had happened . I kissed my wife and decided I wanted to see how excited she was . I started kissing her more and grabbing her breasts. I reached her pants and her pussy was very wet . I jokingly asked what had her so horny . She just laughed .

My question is what should I do ? I’ve always wanted to share her with another man but this guy fucked my ex and now wants my new wife ?

Hard to say what you "should" do. What do you want to do? Are you into being cuckolded? Not into it? Were you aroused when you saw how aroused she was?

It sounds like his relationship with your former wife began after you and she parted ways, so I can't see how that aspect has any bearing here.

 

[klippert]

the more you act like noting is happening...the more your anxieties will cause you to do something stupid.
to me this dude is piece of shit, and to close to home...do shit where you eat. If you're light in the masculinity, and willing to be a cuck...then degrade yourself.


tell her you where there....she's slipped a little..you heard her say, she didn't want to cheat..that tells me she has a conscience. Discus you fantasy & Fetish. but NOT with that dude...

that dude just seem the home wrecker type...if he kept pushing her and pushing her..

 

[screwher]

This is potentially a dangerous situation. Fooling around, in every sense of the word, with this guy is going to spell trouble. If your ex finds out it could end up straining the great relationship you have with her that's proving beneficial for parenting your offspring together.

If you like the idea of your wife having sex with other men, go for it. Trust me, if that's something you're into then there's no bigger thrill of knowing at the moment another guy is enjoying her. Tell her what you heard/know. Then tell her your desires of sharing her. Just not with him.

 

[policywank]

Your wife having sex with another man is a different matter than deceit. And even she does have sex with another man you both need to be careful who it is (and this guy sounds like a piece of shit), especially where your son is concerned. I’d be inclined to confront her with what you know and consider telling your ex-wife.

I’m all for an open marriage or hot wife situation but that demands trust and honesty and clarity among adults. If you are open to your wife having sex with other men you need to be open with one another. You should want her to be with guys that are suitable for her. And you need to have confidence in her that she can be trusted to make good judgments - not fucking him isn’t good enough if she is kissing him and carrying on with whatever is “going on”. And if she feels you deserve to know then she needs to have the strength to tell you regardless of what he thinks. Based upon what you wrote I would say don’t delude yourself that she is in control here - she didn’t completely give in but that isn’t the same as taking control and doing the right thing.

 

[Justfantasies]

I will give some back ground I met this woman when I was younger . We rushed in and had a baby and decided to get married. It didn’t work out . We divorced and and decided to coparent . We have a had a good relationship raisin my son . I met another woman and she met a man . We both got remarrried .

Well the trouble or my suspicions started about 6 months ago . My ex’s husband picks up my son sometimes when I’m not home. I noticed my wife at different school events or my sons sporting events talks to him more than before. I noticed he finds little ways to touch her. At first I thought I was in my own head but one day I came early from work and his car was there . I parked around the corner and went around back and through and open window I could hear them talking . He kept insisting they should have sex and she kept telling him she wanted to but couldn’t cheat on me . She told him they should both tell me what’s going on. He didn’t want to . Then she asked him to leave before I got home . I heard some kissing noises and a few minutes later a door open and shut .

I went back to my car when the cost was clear and parked. I went in and acted as if nothing had happened . I kissed my wife and decided I wanted to see how excited she was . I started kissing her more and grabbing her breasts. I reached her pants and her pussy was very wet . I jokingly asked what had her so horny . She just laughed .

My question is what should I do ? I’ve always wanted to share her with another man but this guy fucked my ex and now wants my new wife ?

Given the history it sounds like there are a lot of mutual attractions and the potential for a lot of jealousies too. And you can't quite be sure that the husband doesn't want to fuck your wife, just because it's a cool thing to do, or because of some deep seated machismo. Very hard to work through all of this.

On the other hand, there is some potential here for a delightful polyamorous relationship if everyone is at least tacitly honest -- that is everyone sort of knows what is going on. Hard to arrange, but may well be worth the try

 

[Justfantasies]

YI’m all for an open marriage or hot wife situation but that demands trust and honesty and clarity among adults.

Amen. In this particular case, the the "honesty and the clarity" will not be easy to achieve. And the motivations of the husband are not obvious.

 

[tmmmbrrr]

Do what you want, but if I had that going on in real life I sure wouldn't be looking for help from Lit. Seriously.

 

[jomar]

Based on the replies here, Lit is actually a pretty good place for advice on these such things. Folks here can sift the wheat from the chaff.

 

[ChrissyCD64]

The four of you should all hook up for a swapping session. Since you have all had sex with each others spouse, why not be out in the open about it?

 

[rawthoughts]

I hope this helps

1. Decide what you want. 2. Be honest with your wife about your desires. 3. Confront your wife about the situation. Speak truth and love. 4. Find out if the ex likes men who stray. (Simply because that situation could directly affect your co parent relationship and your child. 5. Confront him with your wife there so he knows where you both stand one way or the other.

 

[JonathanBair]

First I would say. Be open and honest with your wife. You two are a team so never hide anything from each other.

Second, I would ask to meet your ex with her guy and your wife. Let them know you and your wife don't approve of his advances on your wife.

Third. IF you and you wife do wish to bring a guy in. Make sure you both like him or no action for him. Make sure you don't have your ex's guy be the second man for your wife to fool around with.

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

My hubby would have come in the door and punched his lights out.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

the more you act like noting is happening...the more your anxieties will cause you to do something stupid.
to me this dude is piece of shit, and to close to home...do shit where you eat. If you're light in the masculinity, and willing to be a cuck...then degrade yourself.


tell her you where there....she's slipped a little..you heard her say, she didn't want to cheat..that tells me she has a conscience. Discus you fantasy & Fetish. but NOT with that dude...

that dude just seem the home wrecker type...if he kept pushing her and pushing her..

Listen--, this guy who ever he is, this guy is going to fuck your wife. I know the mind and the urgent need of this boy's drive. There is only one way he is going to stop pursuing your wife and that is when he has fucked her AND he will make sure you know he has done it.

 

[Justfantasies]

Listen--, this guy who ever he is, this guy is going to fuck your wife. I know the mind and the urgent need of this boy's drive. There is only one way he is going to stop pursuing your wife and that is when he has fucked her AND he will make sure you know he has done it.

amen to all that

 

[hpycpl]

protect the innocent

No matter how you decide to handle this your number one consideration should be for your son. The actions that take place are going to have an effect on him.

As for this guy, He doesn't seem like someone I would want my son growing up with....

Good luck!

 

[jaF0]

My hubby would have come in the door and punched his lights out.

Yeah, that solves everything. Shoot'em up, beat'em up, kill'em up.



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OP, you've fucked his wife, right? Turn about is fair play, no?

Seriously, get your gang funk on and have a foursome.

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

Yeah, that solves everything. Shoot'em up, beat'em up, kill'em up.

So you'd walk in with his hands all over your wife... AND TALKED???

Tells me all I need to know about you.

 

[colddiesel]

Simple. Send an anonymous note to the ex-wife telling her that her new man is shagging her ex husband's new wife. That way she ( the ex will do the confrontation).
Husband will get to keep his new wife and mebbe get a chance of 'comforting' his ex.

And no drama for husband.

Then again it might not work.

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

Simple. Send an anonymous note to the ex-wife telling her that her new man is shagging her ex husband's new wife. That way she ( the ex will do the confrontation).
Husband will get to keep his new wife and mebbe get a chance of 'comforting' his ex.

And no drama for husband.

Then again it might not work.

A planted seed takes root and grows.

 

[jaF0]

So you'd walk in with his hands all over your wife... AND TALKED???

Tells me all I need to know about you.

" Loving the hotwife lifestyle "

Sounds to me like you'd rather he simply join in.

 

[JRaven]

My husband and I swing, so it's pretty common for us to have sex with other people.

However, this guy is a sleaze. Tell your wife what you heard. And, thank her for telling the sleaze ball 'no'. Have her back, stand up for her!

Jenny

 

[LuciousLadyMary]

" Loving the hotwife lifestyle "

Sounds to me like you'd rather he simply join in.

To close to home. In fact, Hubby wouldn't have to mess him up. By the time I kneed and then kicked the gonads, something tells me he wouldn't be picking up the kid anymore.