Social Experiment - Ladies, Send a PM to a Random Man on Lit for a Change

[pikmin1388]

I must admit that it would be fun to get together and have some real life fun. I gather that some have done that actually.

I have met two listers in real life one was for more than coffee

 

[pikmin1388]

Morning everyone! At least it's morning here.

Nightshift work strikes again. Went out of town for my wife's birthday, just and overnight.

I slept for a few hours, and now here I am ordering breakfast by myself at 4:30 in the morning at an all night dinner.

Thought I'd pop in and say hello. Pretty intense conversation the last little while.

I agree with most of what's been in discussion, we are all to some degree searching.

Morning how you ? Wow thats an early start
Yes I went on lit to find something , I found it mostly but now my search has changed as has my circumstances

 

[Wetsider]

Morning! Enjoy your increadably early breakfast. It is good to know we are all not searching alone...

Yeah... Found some things I was hoping to find here, some things I didn't. Met a couple really neat people here, and not just on a sexual level. Really friendly, nice people.

 

[Wetsider]

Morning how you ? Wow thats an early start
Yes I went on lit to find something , I found it mostly but now my search has changed as has my circumstances

I'm pretty good. Tonight is going to be a bugger unless I get a nap this afternoon, but that's the risk of shift work.

Anything fun going on this weekend for you? I've got band rehearsal later today, but that's the sum of my plans later.

 

[Ins_spacetime87]

Glad you all found in some way what you were looking for. I too have had a few very satisfying expiriences on here, but as you said, Pikmin, the thinhs one searches for may change... I have not yet been able to satisfy my latest endeavour

 

[pikmin1388]

I'm pretty good. Tonight is going to be a bugger unless I get a nap this afternoon, but that's the risk of shift work.

Anything fun going on this weekend for you? I've got band rehearsal later today, but that's the sum of my plans later.

I hope you get a nap in sleep is vital
My plans are doing chores thats it

 

[pikmin1388]

Glad you all found in some way what you were looking for. I too have had a few very satisfying expiriences on here, but as you said, Pikmin, the thinhs one searches for may change... I have not yet been able to satisfy my latest endeavour

So what's your latest endeavour?

 

[Ins_spacetime87]

So what's your latest endeavour?

Find someone who is genuinly interested in exploring the possibilities of an online long term D/s relationship... I am putting the bar pretty high on this one, I realise...

 

[Wetsider]

I hope you get a nap in sleep is vital
My plans are doing chores thats it

Less than thrilling, but a necessary evil so as not to live in squalor!

 

[pikmin1388]

Find someone who is genuinly interested in exploring the possibilities of an online long term D/s relationship... I am putting the bar pretty high on this one, I realise...

What kind of ds relationship? I'm on fetlife and go to events met up with a few doms too

 

[Ins_spacetime87]

What kind of ds relationship? I'm on fetlife and go to events met up with a few doms too

Well, I have mostly submissive tendencies. Even when I am in a not explicitly D/s relationship, online or otherwise I tend to take the more serving role. Though I have played a more dominant role in a few RP's as well... Often being dominant in play also allowes you to be caring and serving, I have found. Some people identfy as a switch, have not yet put much thought into that possibility. But as of yet I am still not very expirienced.

 

[Froya]

Damn... I missed so much with the little bit of sleeping I've been doing. Such good conversation.

And welcome to the new folks who have posted!

Lit has been an interesting experience for me, too. I did find something I was looking for, and so very much more that I never would have expected or foreseen. Amazing, really, how much one little decision, like logging on at a website and saying hello to an interesting stranger, can turn your whole world upside down.

We all have our own stuff to wade through, and sometimes the effort to move forward is harder than others. Y'all keep being good to each other. My sappy ass is going to try a little nap before I'm forced from my bed.

 

[pikmin1388]

Well, I have mostly submissive tendencies. Even when I am in a not explicitly D/s relationship, online or otherwise I tend to take the more serving role. Though I have played a more dominant role in a few RP's as well... Often being dominant in play also allowes you to be caring and serving, I have found. Some people identfy as a switch, have not yet put much thought into that possibility. But as of yet I am still not very expirienced.

I have 2 online subs ,iim a swtich though , not tried it in real life though , my experience is very limited too but I know I'm a caring domme more into control I'm not sadistic, unless you cross me that is lol

 

[Ins_spacetime87]

I have 2 online subs ,iim a swtich though , not tried it in real life though , my experience is very limited too but I know I'm a caring domme more into control I'm not sadistic, unless you cross me that is lol

That is very beautifull! I have had two converations with online Dommes who were very kind and caring an managed to press the right buttons with me. I like to think I also managed to do so for them... both unfortunately not lasted very long.

 

[pikmin1388]

That is very beautifull! I have had two converations with online Dommes who were very kind and caring an managed to press the right buttons with me. I like to think I also managed to do so for them... both unfortunately not lasted very long.

Beautiful? Mm not sure it's very rare I get to chat to them
Maybe we can chat see where it leads, it might be a learning curve for both of us

 

[Ins_spacetime87]

Beautiful? Mm not sure it's very rare I get to chat to them
Maybe we can chat see where it leads, it might be a learning curve for both of us

Would absoluteltly love that.

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

Hey Chris Michael...take a step back for one second and read through this thread. Because its become something special and necessary. Something I have tried for many years to do here, you did by accident. That's pretty goddamned awesome.

I know that you can hear things like this numerous times and never let it sink in, but I firmly believe, as someone who has ALL of your diagnoses, that hearing it over and over as often as possible, can do nothing but help.

To share my own story:

I am 35. I was 25 when I lost my virginity, and Literotica was why and how it happened. I met someone who lived relatively close. The problem was, she was married and her husband was angry and violent, and she lied to us both. Events eventually became such that I have come to believe she was trying to get pregnant to save her marriage. She eventually did, by someone else entirely. Took her 3 affairs to do it, but last I heard, they were a happy little family.

I was not in love with her. I loved another girl I met when I was 21. I met her online too, at another sex site. But we never got together in person. I loved her like people talk about in movies. Wrote songs and recorded them for her...poems...I loved her like a young boy loves. Pure and overwhelming.

But one day about 7 years later, she told me the truth. She never loved me back. I was "like an old comfortable pair of jeans that lived on the floor of her closet".

I still would have loved her, talked to her. She broke all ties and disappeared. Sometimes, 8 years later, I still look for her. Send messages to the old emails and stuff, knowing shes not reading them. I know none of it was real, but it was the best thing I ever felt. Maybe the first good thing I ever felt.

I met another woman from Lit. Moved in with her and at first it was great. But I was not what she was looking for. We still live together, though she doesn't like me much. Not that I blame her, I survive on her kindness. My issues make it hard to hold down a job without specific requirements.

For years I've been here and though mostly people outright ignore my posts, sometimes a connection is made. Far more often than in real life where people and women treat me like a troll. That is why I come back to Lit, as painful and full of conflict as its been for me.

 

[BootieKittie]

Hey Chris Michael...take a step back for one second and read through this thread. Because its become something special and necessary. Something I have tried for many years to do here, you did by accident. That's pretty goddamned awesome.

I know that you can hear things like this numerous times and never let it sink in, but I firmly believe, as someone who has ALL of your diagnoses, that hearing it over and over as often as possible, can do nothing but help.

To share my own story:

I am 35. I was 25 when I lost my virginity, and Literotica was why and how it happened. I met someone who lived relatively close. The problem was, she was married and her husband was angry and violent, and she lied to us both. Events eventually became such that I have come to believe she was trying to get pregnant to save her marriage. She eventually did, by someone else entirely. Took her 3 affairs to do it, but last I heard, they were a happy little family.

I was not in love with her. I loved another girl I met when I was 21. I met her online too, at another sex site. But we never got together in person. I loved her like people talk about in movies. Wrote songs and recorded them for her...poems...I loved her like a young boy loves. Pure and overwhelming.

But one day about 7 years later, she told me the truth. She never loved me back. I was "like an old comfortable pair of jeans that lived on the floor of her closet".

I still would have loved her, talked to her. She broke all ties and disappeared. Sometimes, 8 years later, I still look for her. Send messages to the old emails and stuff, knowing shes not reading them. I know none of it was real, but it was the best thing I ever felt. Maybe the first good thing I ever felt.

I met another woman from Lit. Moved in with her and at first it was great. But I was not what she was looking for. We still live together, though she doesn't like me much. Not that I blame her, I survive on her kindness. My issues make it hard to hold down a job without specific requirements.

For years I've been here and though mostly people outright ignore my posts, sometimes a connection is made. Far more often than in real life where people and women treat me like a troll. That is why I come back to Lit, as painful and full of conflict as its been for me.

I think you're brave and take risks in ways i dare not.

 

[Ins_spacetime87]

Hey Chris Michael...take a step back for one second and read through this thread. Because its become something special and necessary. Something I have tried for many years to do here, you did by accident. That's pretty goddamned awesome.

I know that you can hear things like this numerous times and never let it sink in, but I firmly believe, as someone who has ALL of your diagnoses, that hearing it over and over as often as possible, can do nothing but help.

To share my own story:

I am 35. I was 25 when I lost my virginity, and Literotica was why and how it happened. I met someone who lived relatively close. The problem was, she was married and her husband was angry and violent, and she lied to us both. Events eventually became such that I have come to believe she was trying to get pregnant to save her marriage. She eventually did, by someone else entirely. Took her 3 affairs to do it, but last I heard, they were a happy little family.

I was not in love with her. I loved another girl I met when I was 21. I met her online too, at another sex site. But we never got together in person. I loved her like people talk about in movies. Wrote songs and recorded them for her...poems...I loved her like a young boy loves. Pure and overwhelming.

But one day about 7 years later, she told me the truth. She never loved me back. I was "like an old comfortable pair of jeans that lived on the floor of her closet".

I still would have loved her, talked to her. She broke all ties and disappeared. Sometimes, 8 years later, I still look for her. Send messages to the old emails and stuff, knowing shes not reading them. I know none of it was real, but it was the best thing I ever felt. Maybe the first good thing I ever felt.

I met another woman from Lit. Moved in with her and at first it was great. But I was not what she was looking for. We still live together, though she doesn't like me much. Not that I blame her, I survive on her kindness. My issues make it hard to hold down a job without specific requirements.

For years I've been here and though mostly people outright ignore my posts, sometimes a connection is made. Far more often than in real life where people and women treat me like a troll. That is why I come back to Lit, as painful and full of conflict as its been for me.

I admire your bravery, but em not entirely sure if this story makes me happy or sad...

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

I think you're brave and take risks in ways i dare not.

I'm not sure about that. I am extremely cautious and do not trust very easily or very soon. These experiences have left their stain, I admit.

I admire your bravery, but em not entirely sure if this story makes me happy or sad...

Well, it is a true story. I'm not sure true stories have to be one or the other. I guess what I was trying to say in my disjointed way is that, though Lit might be screwed up, it can also bring good things to your life.

I'm just like the rest of you. Lonely and horny and in need of someone who wants to touch me, body and heart.

 

[pikmin1388]

I'm not sure about that. I am extremely cautious and do not trust very easily or very soon. These experiences have left their stain, I admit.



Well, it is a true story. I'm not sure true stories have to be one or the other. I guess what I was trying to say in my disjointed way is that, though Lit might be screwed up, it can also bring good things to your life.

I'm just like the rest of you. Lonely and horny and in need of someone who wants to touch me, body and heart.

Thanks for sharing
I've made some good friends on here had odd one that messed me around , but that's life don't think I'd be doing some of the things I do without knowledge and encouragement from a few lit guys
I totally get the lonely horny and wanting to be touched part it's exactly how I feel

 

[Chris_Michael]

Hey Chris Michael...take a step back for one second and read through this thread. Because its become something special and necessary. Something I have tried for many years to do here, you did by accident. That's pretty goddamned awesome.

The success of the thread? lmao I asked friends to carry it. I didn’t do anything. They’re women and they attracted the attention of guys. Then, it just started to maintain itself. It definitely had nothing to do with me.

And as far as my ultimate goal goes, which was to meet ONE woman... I failed that horribly. I met one woman for one week and then it came crashing down. The really sad thing is that I was so desperate that I thought I loved her.

I’m back to square 1. And it fucking blows.

“Well Chris, try leaving your house.”

I’d rather stay single.

“Then it’s your own fault.”

So?

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

The success of the thread? lmao I asked friends to carry it. I didn’t do anything. They’re women and they attracted the attention of guys. Then, it just started to maintain itself. It definitely had nothing to do with me.

And as far as my ultimate goal goes, which was to meet ONE woman... I failed that horribly. I met one woman for one week and then it came crashing down. The really sad thing is that I was so desperate that I thought I loved her.

I’m back to square 1. And it fucking blows.

“Well Chris, try leaving your house.”

I’d rather stay single.

“Then it’s your own fault.”

So?

You got people talking man. REALLY talking about real and deep and personal shit. That's a fucking miracle on this website.

 

[pikmin1388]

The success of the thread? lmao I asked friends to carry it. I didn’t do anything. They’re women and they attracted the attention of guys. Then, it just started to maintain itself. It definitely had nothing to do with me.

And as far as my ultimate goal goes, which was to meet ONE woman... I failed that horribly. I met one woman for one week and then it came crashing down. The really sad thing is that I was so desperate that I thought I loved her.

I’m back to square 1. And it fucking blows.

“Well Chris, try leaving your house.”

I’d rather stay single.

“Then it’s your own fault.”

So?

Do you the know the reason I joined this thread ? It was you purely and simply ,I read your posts and thought this guy is fun , and we've spoken to elsewhere so I know you're a friendly nice guy who made me laugh
It's very easy to get carried away on here when you seem to really click with someone you chat alot it grows intense and fast then you think wow I really like them , then they disappear, I had it happen recently on here guy was talking about meeting romantic stuff the lot then he ghosts me
You never failed you met a lady online it wss not meant to be
Yes you do need to do something in real life for some thing to happen , I go to stuff as much as I can , stuff will happen might not all be good though
Ps so when are you dating me? And where are we going ?

 

[Ins_spacetime87]

Do you the know the reason I joined this thread ? It was you purely and simply ,I read your posts and thought this guy is fun , and we've spoken to elsewhere so I know you're a friendly nice guy who made me laugh
It's very easy to get carried away on here when you seem to really click with someone you chat alot it grows intense and fast then you think wow I really like them , then they disappear, I had it happen recently on here guy was talking about meeting romantic stuff the lot then he ghosts me
You never failed you met a lady online it wss not meant to be
Yes you do need to do something in real life for some thing to happen , I go to stuff as much as I can , stuff will happen might not all be good though
Ps so when are you dating me? And where are we going ?

These are some wise words folks! Better heed them!

Love
-St