Social Experiment - Ladies, Send a PM to a Random Man on Lit for a Change

[Chris_Michael]

Stop what?

I apologized to you personally via PM and it continued

Yes, I believe my kindness and forgiveness was somehow mistaken for tolerance of your behavior. The way you act was funny at first, but you have gone far and beyond what is acceptable, to the point of what would be considered straight up harassment.

You will literally kill my thread. Gracie has already expressed that she no longer wants to post with you here, and that is upsetting to me. Seeing Gracie post here makes me happy. I love seeing her interact with everybody, and I don't want her to feel uncomfortable here.

I realize that I cannot force you to do anything. However, I'm just asking you to please stop. No person deserves the type of attention you give them. Whether it's a sincere attempt at finding friendship or if you're just trolling, it's beginning to become very unfunny. And I am not going to tolerate this.

So, you can either treat people with respect or you can sit here stubbornly trying to prove the point that nobody can do anything to you.

I don't mind you posting here. I welcome it. But when it's bothering other people, especially Gracie, then it bothers me. And I'm just asking you to stop.

 

[magicmikeaustin]

Yes, I believe my kindness and forgiveness was somehow mistaken for tolerance of your behavior. The way you act was funny at first, but you have gone far and beyond what is acceptable, to the point of what would be considered straight up harassment.

You will literally kill my thread. Gracie has already expressed that she no longer wants to post with you here, and that is upsetting to me. Seeing Gracie post here makes me happy. I love seeing her interact with everybody, and I don't want her to feel uncomfortable here.

I realize that I cannot force you to do anything. However, I'm just asking you to please stop. No person deserves the type of attention you give them. Whether it's a sincere attempt at finding friendship or if you're just trolling, it's beginning to become very unfunny. And I am not going to tolerate this.

So, you can either treat people with respect or you can sit here stubbornly trying to prove the point that nobody can do anything to you.

I don't mind you posting here. I welcome it. But when it's bothering other people, especially Gracie, then it bothers me. And I'm just asking you to stop.

“Tolerate” what you want

If Gracie has an issue with me she can contact me directly

I contacted you directly to apologize. You accepted and I continued to be berated

So fuck off

 

[Chris_Michael]

“Tolerate” what you want

If Gracie has an issue with me she can contact me directly

I contacted you directly to apologize. You accepted and I continued to be berated

So fuck off

Well, it sucks that you feel that way.

It's really disappointing. To think I embraced you and joked with you in this very thread. And now you return the favor by making it your mission to make everybody's experience as miserable as possible.

I cannot possibly imagine what you gain by doing this...

 

[magicmikeaustin]

Well, it sucks that you feel that way.

It's really disappointing. To think I embraced you and joked with you in this very thread. And now you return the favor by making it your mission to make everybody's experience as miserable as possible.

I cannot possibly imagine what you gain by doing this...

I have nothing to gain

Read the thread and tell me exactly what I did to harm anyone

If I did and you can prove it I will retract and apologize

You keep trying to put me at fault and I will not accept that

 

[Froya]

Mike, I'm going to ask you this, because I'm genuinely curious. Which post or posts of Gracie's did you feel was encouragement for you to continue pursuing her, even if you feel you were doing it in a joking or playful manner?

From my viewpoint, I can see clues that she wasn't having a good time with your posts.

As you said yourself, these things are perception, and I'd like to know what your perception of her few responses and then lack of response is. Because something is obviously being lost in translation here.

 

[Wetsider]

Actually im going to bed. I just wanted to see who had the biggest dick.

Not me... I'm "a good size."

 

[Froya]

Not me... I'm "a good size."

If I didn't know better, I'd swear you were trying to arouse me.

 

[Chris_Michael]

I have nothing to gain

Read the thread and tell me exactly what I did to harm anyone

If I did and you can prove it I will retract and apologize

You keep trying to put me at fault and I will not accept that

Gracie has mentioned to me that you have PMed her after she had already expressed concern about your behavior. However, I cannot prove that you actually did that.

I don't have proof that you've done any harm to anyone. But you're obviously creating a toxic environment for everybody here by constantly continuing to fight with people on the thread.

What? Do you think we have some agenda to kick you out of the thread? Do you think we just don't like you?

Why would I have any reason to challenge you on this for any reason other than I'm simply trying to solve a problem that is existing in this thread? I never said I wanted you out of the thread. I never said I didn't want to see you participating.

I simply don't understand why it's so difficult to chill out and stop creating uncomfortable environments for people here. Because you're killing the thread. And that fucking sucks.

 

[Wetsider]

If I didn't know better, I'd swear you were trying to arouse me.

*Shakes head and chuckles*

 

[magicmikeaustin]

Mike, I'm going to ask you this, because I'm genuinely curious. Which post or posts of Gracie's did you feel was encouragement for you to continue pursuing her, even if you feel you were doing it in a joking or playful manner?

From my viewpoint, I can see clues that she wasn't having a good time with your posts.

As you said yourself, these things are perception, and I'd like to know what your perception of her few responses and then lack of response is. Because something is obviously being lost in translation here.

I understand, but since Gracie and I have exchanged pm. prior to this exchange, it is not up to you Chris or anyone else to police anything between Gracie and myself

I will not go into details but if Gracie does not want contact with me
SHE can tell me leave her alone. Block me or any number of other options just like you and Chris can

Nite.

 

[magicmikeaustin]

Gracie has mentioned to me that you have PMed her after she had already expressed concern about your behavior. However, I cannot prove that you actually did that.

I don't have proof that you've done any harm to anyone. But you're obviously creating a toxic environment for everybody here by constantly continuing to fight with people on the thread.

What? Do you think we have some agenda to kick you out of the thread? Do you think we just don't like you?

Why would I have any reason to challenge you on this for any reason other than I'm simply trying to solve a problem that is existing in this thread? I never said I wanted you out of the thread. I never said I didn't want to see you participating.

I simply don't understand why it's so difficult to chill out and stop creating uncomfortable environments for people here. Because you're killing the thread. And that fucking sucks.

I am not the one fucking around with anybody

How can you not see that.

YOU are creating a toxic environment

I have done nothing but post in a porn thread

 

[Froya]

I understand, but since Gracie and I have exchanged pm. prior to this exchange, it is not up to you Chris or anyone else to police anything between Gracie and myself

I will not go into details but if Gracie does not want contact with me
SHE can tell me leave her alone. Block me or any number of other options just like you and Chris can

Nite.

All I can do is respond to what I see publicly, which is exactly what I did. You can call that policing if you want, but interactions here, in this thread aren't just between two people, in automatically involves everyone who reads it. You seem outspoken, so I will take the chance in assuming that if you saw something that you perceived to be bothering, harassing, or upsetting someone else, you'd probably speak up about it. That is what happened here.

I sincerely hope that whatever transpired between you and Gracie via PM makes her feel comfortable returning to this thread again.

 

[Chris_Michael]

So, it would be one thing if it were JUST Gracie who has mentioned you. It hasn't been JUST Gracie. I can think of 3 different women who have all had different experiences with you, and they all have the same problem with you.

Now, I can't do anything about that. I don't care to.

However, you bring this highly combative behavior to this thread and continuously fight every single individual until you run them off. The Gladiator, for instance. He just showed up, and you just started going off ridiculously. You essentially challenged him, to which he responded that he refused to put his "virtual dukes up."

That's the type of behavior that will drive people out of this thread.

I feel like calling you a troll either 1. makes you angrier and makes you want to argue more passionately, or 2. makes you realize that you've succeeded and that you really want to continue trolling. So, it's lose-lose. But I want to acknowledge that I realize it's a real possibility because I'm not naive.

In the end, I guess the question really comes down to what you want from this. What do you gain by doing this? Why does this help you? And finally, is it really that important to you that you must take on every single discussion in such a combative manner as if the entire world is out to get you.

 

[Chris_Michael]

All I can do is respond to what I see publicly, which is exactly what I did. You can call that policing if you want, but interactions here, in this thread aren't just between two people, in automatically involves everyone who reads it. You seem outspoken, so I will take the chance in assuming that if you saw something that you perceived to be bothering, harassing, or upsetting someone else, you'd probably speak up about it. That is what happened here.

I sincerely hope that whatever transpired between you and Gracie via PM makes her feel comfortable returning to this thread again.

Oh I'm sure she will return. She just fell asleep. That's why she hasn't been posting.

She's just an example. I'm just trying to settle this constant fighting that's happening right now.

 

[Froya]

Oh I'm sure she will return. She just fell asleep. That's why she hasn't been posting.

She's just an example. I'm just trying to settle this constant fighting that's happening right now.

Oh good. One of your posts had me a bit worried she'd been put off. As for me, I'm done engaging in this particular event, and will look for bluer skies here tomorrow.

 

[Wetsider]

Oh good. One of your posts had me a bit worried she'd been put off. As for me, I'm done engaging in this particular event, and will look for bluer skies here tomorrow.

Gracie is a peach, Hope when she sees this she knows that lots of nice folk have her back (virtually) if she's ever uncomfortable.

 

[RDM97756]

Good morning Y'all. I just wanted to say Hi before a very long emotional day begins, sorry i was not here yesterday sounds like the begining was fun atleast.

Hope you can enjoy your football today. Go 9ERS!

 

[Gracie13]

*peaks in* Can I come out of hiding now?

 

[The_gladiator]

“Tolerate” what you want

If Gracie has an issue with me she can contact me directly

I contacted you directly to apologize. You accepted and I continued to be berated

So fuck off

Can we vote this dude off the island? Seriously it's like talking to a wall

 

[Gracie13]

Can we vote this dude off the island? Seriously it's like talking to a wall

We’re on an island?! Why the heck am I in here listening to this then?! Gimme the sun!

 

[RDM97756]

We’re on an island?! Why the heck am I in here listening to this then?! Gimme the sun!

I want palm trees

 

[The_gladiator]

If you accuse me of something be prepared to prove it

Point of order I asked you a bloody question not accusing you I asked if that's what you were insinuating. Is this where it went wrong? You can't read? So you took it as an accusation and went all asshat on me? I asked if that's what you were insinuating and teased you about kissing and telling, you could have said no that's not what I meant and haha by the way you're not funny.

I'm sensing that you may be lacking basic reading comprehension skills, or maybe social skills, judging from the other posts I've witnessed both.

If I thought you were just trolling I'd say well played, the problem is I think that you aren't and might genuinely not realize how much you rub people the wrong way.

 

[The_gladiator]

We’re on an island?! Why the heck am I in here listening to this then?! Gimme the sun!

Hahaha. Well played.

 

[The_gladiator]

Actually im going to bed. I just wanted to see who had the biggest dick.

Lol, this made my morning...

 

[RDM97756]

Actually im going to bed. I just wanted to see who had the biggest dick.

Pretty sure this is covered in a thread not too far from here called "nice Cocks"... :-D