When you're talking purely about sex, aren't most people really bisexual?

[Astroman72]

Maybe I'm wrong, and I guess all of us can fall into that trap; our own sexual desires are so powerful and seem so natural, it's hard for us to imagine that other people have completely different desires.

Now I can see not being attracted to the same sex romantically, and I can see people not engaging in same-sex acts for a variety of reasons--cultural, social, ethical, personal, etc. But to really be repulsed by either a penis or vagina? I don't get that. Even if you're a totally straight guy, how do you hate cocks? There's no way you can hate your own. And the same for women--how can you love your own pussy and be repulsed by others?

I'm sure there are exceptions, but I would have to think that in their secret desires, on a purely physical level, the vast majority of the population would enjoy gay sex.

Any thoughts?

 

[ElectraRex]

Sex isn't purely about genitals. In fact that's only a small part of it. I think these forums will definitely make you think everyone is bisexual but in reality that's not true. There are kinds of asexual people and people who just aren't into one gender or the other if you even subscribe to the binary, and not everyone does.

 

[FL30]

Maybe I'm wrong, and I guess all of us can fall into that trap; our own sexual desires are so powerful and seem so natural, it's hard for us to imagine that other people have completely different desires.

Now I can see not being attracted to the same sex romantically, and I can see people not engaging in same-sex acts for a variety of reasons--cultural, social, ethical, personal, etc. But to really be repulsed by either a penis or vagina? I don't get that. Even if you're a totally straight guy, how do you hate cocks? There's no way you can hate your own. And the same for women--how can you love your own pussy and be repulsed by others?

I'm sure there are exceptions, but I would have to think that in their secret desires, on a purely physical level, the vast majority of the population would enjoy gay sex.

Any thoughts?

You're not repulsed by your own because it is YOURS.

That by no way means that you won't be repulsed by someone else's.

bad theory all around!

 

[TallOne]

Anyone could be physically stimulated by anything without necessarily having knowledge of what that thing is. The nerve endings don't really care. But you have to be in the right head space to really enjoy it, and who/what it takes to get there varies from person to person.

Also there are plenty of people who are not particularly fond of their own genitals.

 

[deucie]

You're not repulsed by your own because it is YOURS.

That by no way means that you won't be repulsed by someone else's.

bad theory all around!

I agree. Totally bad theory all around. And even though I´m bi I think the great majority of the world isn´t.

 

[none2_none2]

At some level, I do believe that more are bisexual than would ever admit. However, I cannot fathom never being romantically attracted to their same sex. People (regardless of gender) run the gamut between masculine and feminine, so why would one's gender alone exclude them from being lovable?

As to the physical, cocks never did anything to me. It isn't about "hating" them. I hate that I grow nasal hairs easily, but that doesn't mean I hate my nose. I just don't appreciate that genetic aspect of my hairs there. Unlike most men, I have a very broad/thick neck, but I do not have a protruding adam's apple. I don't care for adam's apples, but that doesn't mean I turned down men who had prominent ones. I just accept the fact that it cums with the territory.

As to my own cock: I wish it were bigger. I wish I could get hard like I used to. I think it looks best when it is inside someone than just out on display. I never understood the joy of staring at baskets, or nude men just jacking. On the other hand, have a hot man playing with his hole, and I start squirming.

Back a tad bit on romance. I don't want my thread to be about me, but I have to add something here.. I haven't been on here in a while. I was in the hospital for 5 weeks and almost died during the 8 days that they had to chemically introduce coma until I could breath without intubation. My guy was with me every day. He only went home to sleep and take care of our animals. While this was going on, his mother was fighting a bad bout with chemo. Still he chose to stay with me. When I finally came to, there were times when talking about how he almost lost me, and he would start to cry. While I may be a sexual top and am not effeminate, my man has me beat on the masculinity scale in every way. Yet he was reduced to tears when he thought of loosing me. I don't dislike myself, but I never thought someone else (especially another male) would ever hold me that close in his heart. I realized that my guy is nothing short of my guardian angel. There is no way I could not love this man both romantically, emotionally, spiritually, etc... My heart aches just thinking what my bout with this pathogen put him through.

Again, I added this personal stuff not to gather sympathy, but to explain the depth of the human heart. A heart is no sex organ, but the place where we discover just how much it is capable of loving. I'm fortunate that I have had this wonderful angel as my partner for about 18 years. Some people never find that level of love in a lifetime. I will be his one and only until the day I die. Nothing can replace loving and being loved by another human heart.

 

[yukonnights]

I've often thought that the real test of 'same-sex-attraction' (and ultimately having sex with another person of the same gender) would be for two people to be stranded on a deserted island with only that one other person. No hope of ever leaving. How many would remain celibate I wonder? My opinion is that most people would become more flexible in their preference for a person to have human contact with... which would imply that most people could engage in same-gender sex. But alas, that's just a theory that can never be proven.

 

[DiscoveringUtopia]

I'm sure there are exceptions, but I would have to think that in their secret desires, on a purely physical level, the vast majority of the population would enjoy gay sex.

Any thoughts?

Given the right situation, I think the majority would try the same sex. The real question to me would be how many would put themselves in that situation.

 

[Sunnyade]

Given the right situation, I think the majority would try the same sex. The real question to me would be how many would put themselves in that situation.

In the same way that people would be repulsed by some sexual acts, I think there are some people who would not indulge in gay/bi sex. Just not in some people's mindset.

 

[Hitchiker69]

I've always thought that bisexuals have freed themselves of society's rules and limitations, so they can enjoy sex with whoever wants to enjoy it with them. I think most people would enjoy same sex intimacy if it were more widely accepted. I can't understand why two consenting adults shouldn't be able to enjoy sex any way they want.

I know that, as a versatile Bi man, I've enjoyed men in every way I ever wanted to. My only regret is that I didn't start earlier and enjoy more men.

I've seen a lot of change in society's acceptance of gays over the last several decades. Look how far we've come since the Stonewall riot. Now we have gay rights and gay marriage. Many young women today seem to want to at least experiment with lesbianism, it's seen as cool or daring. I hope young men will eventually go that way too.
One of my favorite fantasies is to live near a university, and have access to a lot of horny young men who want to get sucked by an older man, (me) and fuck him too.

Maybe the ancient Greeks had it right. Young guys are for fucking, and can be trained to give the best head.

 

[DiscoveringUtopia]

I've always thought that bisexuals have freed themselves of society's rules and limitations, so they can enjoy sex with whoever wants to enjoy it with them. I think most people would enjoy same sex intimacy if it were more widely accepted. I've seen a lot of change in society's acceptance of gays over the last several decades. Look how far we've come since the Stonewall riot. Now we have gay rights and gay marriage. Many young women today seem to want to at least experiment with lesbianism, it's seen as cool or daring. I hope young men will eventually go that way too.
One of my favorite fantasies is to live near a university, and have access to a lot of horny young men who want to get sucked by an older man, (me) and fuck him too

I live near a University and back in the Craiglist days had several meetings with young men that wanted just that. Received some unexpected ass time from a BBC one evening that satisfied that curiosity! But the others just wanted or needed some oral attention that I was happy to provide.

 

[jackbird]

bi

Don't know what the big deal is. Being bi is so great. I love both male and female bodies such a turn on. Truthfully don't understand being gay. I think both bodies are so beautiful

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Don't know what the big deal is. Being bi is so great. I love both male and female bodies such a turn on. Truthfully don't understand being gay. I think both bodies are so beautiful

I agree. It’s about what makes me feel good.