If you have been raped

[sircumvent]

If you have been raped how long do you wait before you notify the authorities?

30 minutes....1 day..1 week...1 month....1 year....30 years?

 

[Luk]

If you have been raped how long do you wait before you notify the authorities?

30 minutes....1 day..1 week...1 month....1 year....30 years?

Probably until you feel comfortable. Maybe never. Maybe only to torpedo a rapist's ascent to SCOTUS. Or, maybe you shouldn't fucking worry about it unless you plan on raping someone again.

 

[nowisthetime]

Stupid troll on Iggy. Rightie boys club is hella bold this week.


Click!

You wonder what kind of gutter rats raised these heathens...

 

[Que]

Probably until you feel comfortable. Maybe never. Maybe only to torpedo a rapist's ascent to SCOTUS. Or, maybe you shouldn't fucking worry about it unless you plan on raping someone again.

Ok, that was a pretty good rejoinder. The truth is always a better dig.

 

[Ann_Tagonist]

For a minute I thought this was a magnetron thread.

 

[dolf]

You're an arsehole.

I haven't notified anyone, 20+ years later. For the first 5 I couldn't even admit it to myself. I don't have evidence, I don't have witnesses, I don't remember the date or what he wore or who was in the house, I stand zero chance of getting any sort of justice, so why would I put myself through it? Why would I put myself out there to be called an attention seeking bitch, a bitter ex? Why would I open myself up to public dissection of my sex life, career, general value as a human being? Nothing would happen to him, nobody would believe me over Mr Perfect.

Life is hard enough. I'm still dealing with the effects.

But I might come forward. If I found out that someone else reported him, I'd feel guilty for not stepping up and backing up her experience of what he's capable of. I'd need a reason to say something, a reason worth fucking up my life and sanity for.

Oh, and you're an arsehole. Did I mention that?

 

[dolf]

Just when you think the GB can’t sink any lower.

I've never thought that. There's always room to go lower.

 

[ElectraRex]

If you have been raped how long do you wait before you notify the authorities?

30 minutes....1 day..1 week...1 month....1 year....30 years?

Find someone very strong to punch some sense into you.

 

[Not Normal]

If you have been raped how long do you wait before you notify the authorities?

30 minutes....1 day..1 week...1 month....1 year....30 years?

FUCK OFF, ASSHOLE


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[where_is_RUTH]

(( irony alert, I also think you're an arse hole ))

If you have been raped how long do you wait before you notify the authorities?

30 minutes....1 day..1 week...1 month....1 year....30 years?

As long as you marry her, who cares? You cannot rape your wife can you!

 

[Que]

As long as you marry her, who cares? You cannot rape your wife can you!

That's pretty bad, too. Also: not irony.

To the OP:

Ford did not do a damned thing wrong, although the Democrats and their lapdog media did just to sully a man for no actual difference because a difference of opinion on a decision already modified by subsequent decisions and unlikely to change much at all regardless of who sits in the bench.

 

[Jada59]

Depends on the circumstances. In some cases, never. Why?

I can't say that I've ever been raped but someone did try to do it. I won't give all of the specifics. It was a relative who was eventually found to be mentally ill, spent a great deal of time in jail and is now essentially a vegetable in a nursing home. He's in another state so I know I am safe from him.

But in a nutshell, he locked me in his bedroom, told me that he had soundproofed the room so if I screamed, nobody would hear me.

A physical fight wound up taking place as he tried to force himself on me. He was bigger and stronger than me but I managed to get away. I could not get the locked door open so I began pounding on it and screaming. I did not know for sure if he really had soundproofed the room but the door looked normal.

And sure enough, other relatives soon appeared at the door. They told me to stop screaming. He let me out but only because they told him to.

I then tried to leave. We were in another state and I had no intention of staying there after that. I was supposed to sleep in the room next to his. Nope. These people were wealthy. The house was huge. I was given a room downstairs and I assure you I did not sleep. At night, I shut myself in there and pushed every bit of furniture in front of the door as I had no way to lock it.

And what happened to him? Nothing. He kept putting his hands all over me. In my crotch, up my shirt, wherever he wanted to right in front of the other relatives. They laughed and nicknamed him, "The Hands". This was not at all funny to me. I got blamed for his poor behavior. As in... You must have done something to have caused it. And... The attempted rape was not believed. I was told I was lying and/or making a mountain out of a molehill. To make matters worse, they took pictures of him with his hands on me. Him leering and me looking pissed off.

I got fed up. On our last day there, he followed me to the car and tried to help me put the luggage in the car trunk. He made the mistake of resting his hands on the edge of the trunk opening. I grabbed the trunk and tried to slam it on his hands. I think maybe I took off the tip of a fingernail or two but no real damage to him. Of course I got yelled at by the other relatives for trying to hurt him.

Fast forward to many years later. He began emailing me the most horrible things. Spelling out to me crimes he wanted commit or had committed, including rape and serious bodily harm. He nearly killed a woman. And he tortured his wife. I'm sure what I know of what he did was only the tip of the iceberg. He was in jail more often than not. But the jail was crowded and they were all to happy to let him out when his bail was paid. And it was always paid because his parents were very wealthy.

Anyhoo... After all that was said and done, the family stopped bring up the story of me being locked in his room. They never admitted that I was right or even might be right. They just wouldn't talk about it. So... When you have something like that happen to you and no one believes what you say, you tend to give up.

Also... In the area where I live, LE is a joke. I had 5 restraining orders for my ex, those had to come about for various reasons that I won't get into here. But... LE told me I was on my own. They couldn't protect me.

Please note that I am not making light of anyone's situation. It's just that in my case, it was just plain disappointing and frustrating.

 

[LupusDei]

She went on a date to a country club, looking forward to fool around with the guy, fully defined sex was open option, but wasn't promised. It wasn't their first date, but they haven't had sex yet. Turned out, the guy wanted it even before dances, got and delivered, a little coercion may have taken place, but still all fun and hot.

At the dances they met two other guys, his friends. The girl was hot, dressed to impress, and friendly teasing was going on. She's very confident, outgoing, and can be frank, even brass when drunk. And the guys tried to get her drunk. Friends tagged along to the primary dates house after, and there was some play, but it went wrong soon and she decided 3+1 is not how she planned that night. Boys didn't take 'no' at that point anymore.

So, few very intense moments nobody can coherently describe after, she put on some guy's pants and went on twenty mile jog home barefoot through the night. She arrived in the morning sober and calm, and not in the worst mood, at least visibility.

Meanwhile her date's car was used to rush one of the guys to hospital where he arrived unconscious due to several broken bones and massive blood loss. He stayed there for like two months. Repeat surgery was necessary, I did hear. His cover story was that he had been hit by speeding car on a dark road.

The date himself had concussion, multiple bruises including black eye, open bites and tear wounds that require stitches. He even tried to apologise, blaming his friends. Third guy was left relatively unhurt, but went missing two days later. Rumour was, he had been involved in shady deals, so that may even be not connected directly.

No legal action followed. Well, that was in place and times you better would deal with local mob than with police, less problems and better service.

Ok, the girl wasn't a bimbo. Six feet 170 ponds of pure muscles, ex gimnast, dancer, and have passing familiarity with martial arts. Also she can drink as a lumberjack, and even know how to throw an ax. By the way, she's teaching grammar. Yes, you don't want to mess with her, but that's not written on the package.

However, for a little while after she made exposing her muscular shoulders a new fashion statement.

Now, if some of those guys resurfaced in some public position...

 

[despete]

Why would I put myself out there to be called an attention seeking bitch, a bitter ex?

ExSex isn’t rape!

 

[dolf]

ExSex isn’t rape!

You're trying far too hard now. To truly make an impact, trolling can't be done in the style of a small dog chasing cars noisily. You aren't going to upset anyone going at it like this.

 

[despete]

Thanks, Butters.

 

[someoneyouknow]

Let's rape you and find out.

All those white male Catholic priests raping boys seemed to have made so those kids didn't talk about it for decades, so maybe that's the answer.

 

[IG_88]

Most of 'em never talk. A good rapist knows that and builds his game plan with that in mind but never relying on it of course. Always that one that's gonna go crying to the cops and then it's a huge hassle.
Usually good to simply threaten them and family, that shuts 'em up until the statute of limitations is over but you gotta make sure you're in the right state. A lot of states don't have a statute of limitations on rape. Red states usually which I find interesting.
Anyway, just gotta have a good game plan.

Also, the OP is a douchenozzle.

 

[dolf]

Also, the OP is a douchenozzle.

You're growing on me.

 

[where_is_RUTH]

If you have been raped how long do you wait before you notify the authorities?

30 minutes....1 day..1 week...1 month....1 year....30 years?

Yeah, And, Also, Did You See What She Was Wearing! Gagging/Asking for It She Was.

 

[Bookishleigh]

I've never thought that. There's always room to go lower.

Same. I mean it’s pretty close to the bottom now - every thread devolves into an alt hunt or penis-measuring contest. It’s hard to have an actual conversation or just have fun. But I think it’s like that actually in the U.S. right now. So much anger on both sides.

As to the OP, ideally one (because men can be raped also) would report it right away to preserve physical evidence. However, it normally becomes a he said/she said situation. Rape is one of the worst crimes a person can endure, partially because it is so hard to prosecute. Some places you can report it, but if the police or prosecutor doesn’t believe you, no charges will be filed.

I highly recommend Jon Krakauer’s book, “Missoula: Rape and the Justice System in a college town.” If books aren’t your thing, Netflix’s “Audie & Daisy.” You will see it’s not always a problem of reporting. It’s also a problem within a broken system.

 

[Ramone45]

So let me ask you this. Are we at the point where we have to establish a new category and standard when it comes to women reporting sexual assault? Should the standard be that if a woman makes the claim that she had been sexually assaulted to any extent, at any point in her life, that claim is considered the truth, based solely upon the CLAIM, and whoever she names as her attacker is considered guilty until proven innocent?
That's essentially where we are, is it not?
Does that make sense? Is society willing to accept the potential consequences?

 

[Bookishleigh]

So let me ask you this. Are we at the point where we have to establish a new category and standard when it comes to women reporting sexual assault? Should the standard be that if a woman makes the claim that she had been sexually assaulted to any extent, at any point in her life, that claim is considered the truth, based solely upon the CLAIM, and whoever she names as her attacker is considered guilty until proven innocent?
That's essentially where we are, is it not?
Does that make sense? Is society willing to accept the potential consequences?

If a person, male or female, tells me they have been
sexually assaulted then, yes, I’m going to believe them. It’s a shitty thing to make up avoid someone with lasting repercussions for both parties.

As for Mr. Kavanaugh. despite what people want to say, this isn’t about guilt or innocence. This is a job interview (albeit unconventional), and your past is factored in. Most high love government officials endure a background check. You sometimes have to pass a drug screen. Our local police department requires a polygraph.

So yeah...I’m fine with holding someone who will have a lifetime position of power accountable. Drug test him, take the polygraph, and do what it takes.

 

[zipman]

So let me ask you this. Are we at the point where we have to establish a new category and standard when it comes to women reporting sexual assault? Should the standard be that if a woman makes the claim that she had been sexually assaulted to any extent, at any point in her life, that claim is considered the truth, based solely upon the CLAIM, and whoever she names as her attacker is considered guilty until proven innocent?
That's essentially where we are, is it not?
Does that make sense? Is society willing to accept the potential consequences?

No that isn't where we are at.

Are you really this stupid?

Oh, and the OP is a moron.

 

[schism666]

No that isn't where we are at.

Are you really this stupid?

Oh, and the OP is a moron.

they sound like the same person.