no demand from women here for soul-tickling and mind-fondling?

[glBock]

(Mindfondler, I hope it's OK with you if I make use of a good wording of yours)​

I find the vast majority of ads from women here indicative of a frightening deterioration of women's needs and desires, quite frankly. Nobody seems to want what I find most comfortable to offer you. Everywhere I read platitudes like "talk dirty with me", or "come excite my pussy, and you better do it immediately" in this way or that.

Hasn't any of you ladies discovered yet that sophistication word-wise leads to better results – for your own lust as well, not only mine, I mean, than plumpness? Or that you possess a much more sensitive sexual organ located between your ears, relative to that overhyped one between your legs?

And is really not a single one of you ladies interested any more in what I mention in my header line? The way I see it, bringing our minds and our souls into play, maybe our hearts eventually, should lead to much more rewarding sex. Even if sex is our primary aim.

If you should be interested in more than just sex, that header line takes on a priority of its own.

Where, do I ask, have all the good old-fashioned ladies gone, who still crave much more than talking dirty or in-out penetration of her pussy?
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[Blase]

It's getting rather frightening lately, isn't it?

Granted that better than half of those ineloquent, over-eager posters are male, their declared gender notwithstanding.

 

[superdupersupras]

just a hunch

Probably because people have intellectually fulfilling lives. We spend time interacting regularly having conversations. If you're looking for companionship, you might consider trying a dating site. Plus, I don't know any woman who wants to have someone explaining to them how personal connections work. Or anyone who wants their "mind fondled."

 

[Babylon_Ishtar]

Probably because people have intellectually fulfilling lives. We spend time interacting regularly having conversations. If you're looking for companionship, you might consider trying a dating site. Plus, I don't know any woman who wants to have someone explaining to them how personal connections work. Or anyone who wants their "mind fondled."

I couldn't have phrasd it any better than you have.

 

[jeninifer]

I feel as though society has, generally, lost a lot of its intellectual communication. It isn’t just on sexually based forums, but also in business and life.

We also have a generation of people that are used to instant gratification. So, they are to-the-point about what they want, how they want it, and when they want it. It is of no fault to them, but rather a result of the changes in technology, convenience, and parenting.

Finally, I’ll say that many of those ads are because those are the ones that men respond to. Most men aren’t here to get to know someone or commiserate about general banalities. They’re here for a single reason, so they are most apt to respond to what will get them from point a to point be as quickly as possible.

 

[glBock]

Probably because people have intellectually fulfilling lives. We spend time interacting regularly having conversations. If you're looking for companionship, you might consider trying a dating site. Plus, I don't know any woman who wants to have someone explaining to them how personal connections work. Or anyone who wants their "mind fondled."

Superdupras, if you don't know this, and fail to understand that, all the more power to you. There's no need for excessive understanding anyway, for anyone calling herself "super-what-you-may-call-it".

For me it is quite sufficient that ONE woman understand me.

 

[Blase]

Finally, I’ll say that many of those ads are because those are the ones that men respond to. Most men aren’t here to get to know someone or commiserate about general banalities. They’re here for a single reason, so they are most apt to respond to what will get them from point a to point be as quickly as possible.

I find it hard to agree with this. A good personal ad is much more than a declaration of your availability - unless all that you are asking of a potential partner is that they be available too. However, the vast majority of people are looking for something more than a pulse, and so a good personal ad is meant to serve as a pre-qualifier.

I mean, seriously, "the (ads) that men respond to"?! Try to write an ad that men will not respond to, as long as it's from a woman seeking a man! A woman could say, "I'm a nuclear physicist with two doctorates: Messages from respondents who are not at least working toward a master's degree will be summarily deleted and their senders blocked", and she'd still get a bunch of PMs along the lines of, "Tony, 7 inch cock dwn 2 fuk <3."

I'm not saying the situation is hopeless, but it is greatly challenging: Anything that you can do to screen out some of the chaff in advance is worth doing.

For males, of course, Lit is not nearly the kind of "target-rich environment" that it is for you ladies, but the principle is still the same. If someone reads an ad I've written and decides immediately that I am not someone they'd be interested in, the ad has done half of its job.

 

[glBock]

I find it hard to agree with this. A good personal ad is much more than a declaration of your availability - unless all that you are asking of a potential partner is that they be available too. However, the vast majority of people are looking for something more than a pulse, and so a good personal ad is meant to serve as a pre-qualifier.

I mean, seriously, "the (ads) that men respond to"?! Try to write an ad that men will not respond to, as long as it's from a woman seeking a man! A woman could say, "I'm a nuclear physicist with two doctorates: Messages from respondents who are not at least working toward a master's degree will be summarily deleted and their senders blocked", and she'd still get a bunch of PMs along the lines of, "Tony, 7 inch cock dwn 2 fuk <3."

I'm not saying the situation is hopeless, but it is greatly challenging: Anything that you can do to screen out some of the chaff in advance is worth doing.

For males, of course, Lit is not nearly the kind of "target-rich environment" that it is for you ladies, but the principle is still the same. If someone reads an ad I've written and decides immediately that I am not someone they'd be interested in, the ad has done half of its job.

Blase and Jeninifer, I do not see a big discrepancy between what the two of you are writing. I am sure the three of us are not typical Litsters. We know what good personal ads are, but Jen was talking about more typical ads here, I am sure.

Why don't we just simply enjoy our ability to communicate better than the average Litster, so I claim? And hope for the best regarding future connections resulting out of that.
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[glBock]

some musings on this ad, and on two kinds of respondents to it

I don't know for sure why I went back to perusing this older post of mine just now. I suppose one reason is that I finally ran into a woman who DOES enjoy mind fondling a lot, and soul tickling as well.

So much for your asinine comments, Supra-whatyoumycallit, and the Ishtar of Babylon.

But fortunately there have been two other – altogether different – commenters to my ad, Blasé and jenifer. Both of you have tried to understand what I was saying, and each of you has added a word or two that I found worth reading. Thank you again.

So when I tally up the five of us, it looks like the intellectual ones were in the majority, actually. Who would have thought of that???

Maybe there is hope for the future of mankind, after all? Anyway, you can wish me luck, if you like, with my future mind fondling activities with one particular lady.

 

[Littletoo]

I don't know for sure why I went back to perusing this older post of mine just now. I suppose one reason is that I finally ran into a woman who DOES enjoy mind fondling a lot, and soul tickling as well.

So much for your asinine comments, Supra-whatyoumycallit, and the Ishtar of Babylon.

But fortunately there have been two other – altogether different – commenters to my ad, Blasé and jenifer. Both of you have tried to understand what I was saying, and each of you has added a word or two that I found worth reading. Thank you again.

So when I tally up the five of us, it looks like the intellectual ones were in the majority, actually. Who would have thought of that???

Maybe there is hope for the future of mankind, after all? Anyway, you can wish me luck, if you like, with my future mind fondling activities with one particular lady.

I DO wish you luck!

Love,

Jamie

 

[glBock]

I DO wish you luck!

Love,

Jamie

That was real sweet of you. A lot of luck for yourself also.

 

[wordgarden]

For word-wise: "haven't any of you" would be correct. And yes, some of us do appreciate that the most sensitive sex organ is the brain, and well-crafted words arouse it.

 

[Littletoo]

For word-wise: "haven't any of you" would be correct. And yes, some of us do appreciate that the most sensitive sex organ is the brain, and well-crafted words arouse it.

There's a word for those of us whose brains are aroused by well-crafted words. We are Literosexuals. There are more Literosexuals here than I first thought.

But, not always enough to go around.

(sigh)

Love,

Jamie

 

[formertroll]

Bumping this because the conversation is interesting

 

[Alison99]

Check my profile, maybe I am the one

 

[applebottomwife]

Thesis

I read a comment somewhere else the other day. A man was recalling finding love letters (and just plain communication) from his grandparents. They wrote each other for months before seeing each other. You have to organize your thoughts and choose your words carefully when each letter takes time to arrive. The ability to express yourself becomes so important. The man then reflected that these days right out-of-the-gate a dude will send his dick pic as his communication offering. I don't know what other women on here do. Do any send out tit pics as a hello?

 

[filt]

If a breast shot is a female alternative to the much maligned dick pic, I’ve not seen one. I am typically aghast at Lit, it is usually home of the self absorbed and self focused to which the term ‘mutual’ is an alien concept.

I only return because there is an ever dwindling number of fine people who surprise you and are capable of capturing your imagination and making a good connection with.

 

[glBock]

thanks but no thanks

Check my profile, maybe I am the one

Just in case you addressed your suggestion to me: no need any more for that. My princess and I made up again in the mean time, thankfully!!!

And we are living on Cloud Nine again. If you like, you can wish us luck for permanence.

Thanks for your offer, anyway.

 

[Butterflygurl1]

Just in case you addressed your suggestion to me: no need any more for that. My princess and I made up again in the mean time, thankfully!!!

And we are living on Cloud Nine again. If you like, you can wish us luck for permanence.

Thanks for your offer, anyway.

Best of luck

 

[Jada59]

Bumping this because the conversation is interesting

Maybe to you. It isn't to me or probably most of the women here. Just check out his other posts.

 

[Jada59]

I read a comment somewhere else the other day. A man was recalling finding love letters (and just plain communication) from his grandparents. They wrote each other for months before seeing each other. You have to organize your thoughts and choose your words carefully when each letter takes time to arrive. The ability to express yourself becomes so important. The man then reflected that these days right out-of-the-gate a dude will send his dick pic as his communication offering. I don't know what other women on here do. Do any send out tit pics as a hello?

I was listening to a Youtube thing earlier today and the guy said the same thing about letters. When we write a letter, we have to think through what we are saying. They are different than texting because texting is done so quickly.

As for the tit pics. Not something I would ever do.

 

[formertroll]

Maybe to you. It isn't to me or probably most of the women here. Just check out his other posts.

Shit another one??